Circumcision

nayaelizondo · December 2014

have you guys thought about it?

jgrace82 · December 2014

Yes. I've thought about it. I know what I'd do but I know that it is an individual decision. I'm sure this will be a heated topic at some point.

nayaelizondo · December 2014

I'm just looking for opinions. My husband and I don't agree on what we should do. Just trying to get some perspective

caymarks · December 2014

My DH and I were in agreement with both our boys but I would lean more towards it's DH's decision if we would have disagreed. He knows what all that involves and lives with the decision daily. He ultimately would make that decision.

TeresaWE · December 2014

3timemom said:
We already have 1 boy and we will make the same choice if this baby happens to be another boy. It's a personal choice and maybe you should just wait until you know you have to make a decision.

This. I was just typing a similar response.

MisSmartyPants · December 2014

My DH and I don't agree on the topic either. I am not sure how to persuade him. On that of everything else, the rest of my family sides with my DH.

c-elizabethf · December 2014

Dh and I both agree on what we would want if it was a boy. But I agree with pp that there is no point in fighting about it right now especially if it's a girl. When the time comes and you find out its a boy then both of you should sit down and look at both sides and make a decision.

kellmoria · December 2014

Put the countdown clock on this thread, it's gonna blow up!! I leave circumcision up to DH.

ChristyM87 · December 2014

I don't think any one of your child's medical decisions should be left exclusively to one parent. That being said my husband and I are agreed that we don't know what we want to do, but we know this is a decision we have to make together

wineandcake · December 2014

After DH had to be circumcised at 3yrs and several of his cousins around the same age, we made the decision to circumcise our son. He was done at 6wks and I am very confident we made the right choice. The doctor performing the circumcision mentioned that he would have needed it done in the future because he had the same problem DH and his cousins had (I can't remember the name of it off the top of my head). If DH didn't have issues as a young child, we probably wouldn't have done it because it isn't medically necessary for most. I'm glad we did because it was the least traumatic route for DS. If this one is a boy, he will be circumcised for the exact same reasons. We're team green so it looks like its about time to put the 500$ aside for it

MCH77 · December 2014

We did not with DS. If we have another son we won't again.

DH and I did not agree. But DH did a ton of research and had a strong case.

I agree with PP, there are pros and cons to both. You just have to decide what works best for your family.

ChristyM87 · December 2014

wineandcake said:
After DH had to be circumcised at 3yrs and several of his cousins around the same age, we made the decision to circumcise our son. He was done at 6wks and I am very confident we made the right choice. The doctor performing the circumcision mentioned that he would have needed it done in the future because he had the same problem DH and his cousins had (I can't remember the name of it off the top of my head). If DH didn't have issues as a young child, we probably wouldn't have done it because it isn't medically necessary for most. I'm glad we did because it was the least traumatic route for DS. If this one is a boy, he will be circumcised for the exact same reasons. We're team green so it looks like its about time to put the 500$ aside for it

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Wait it is $500 for a circumcision? ??!!! I had no idea it would cost so much

wineandcake · December 2014

ChristyM87 said:

wineandcake said:
After DH had to be circumcised at 3yrs and several of his cousins around the same age, we made the decision to circumcise our son. He was done at 6wks and I am very confident we made the right choice. The doctor performing the circumcision mentioned that he would have needed it done in the future because he had the same problem DH and his cousins had (I can't remember the name of it off the top of my head). If DH didn't have issues as a young child, we probably wouldn't have done it because it isn't medically necessary for most. I'm glad we did because it was the least traumatic route for DS. If this one is a boy, he will be circumcised for the exact same reasons. We're team green so it looks like its about time to put the 500$ aside for it
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Wait it is $500 for a circumcision? ??!!! I had no idea it would cost so much

It might be different in your area. I'm in Canada and part is paid to the hospital because it is preformed there, and the other to the doctor performing it. There is one pediatrician in the town I'm delivering at who does them. It's pricey, but he needed it done so obviously we paid it.

mernuuh · December 2014

Sorry but what does team green mean

ChristyM87 · December 2014

mernuuh said:
Sorry but what does team green mean

That you aren't finding out the sex until the baby is born

Jennym2b · December 2014

My fiance is very adamant that we get it done. It's not an issue for me to get it done as I grew up under the persuasion by family that you just do it. But I agree it is personal and family background plays a huge part.

JerseyML · December 2014

If its a boy, we will have it circumcised.

If its a girl, we are going to have her ears pierced as early as humanly possible.

I'm such a terrible soon to be mother.

qtjo5 · December 2014

I never realized this was such a heated topic! First time mom here and it never crossed my mind not to.. Idk? I thought it was more normal to do it than not. Looks like me and hubby need to have a talk and I need to read a book or two on this!

chelsea13elyse · December 2014

We circumsized DS. If we have another boy we will circumsize him as well. With my last pregnancy we had talked about it once briefly and when the time came in the hospital when DS was born I had completely forgotten what DHs stance on the issue was. They did it at maybe 2 or 3 days old. I figured he wanted our boys circumsized so I just went ahead with it (DH had run home to pick up some things). Luckily it is what he would have wanted anyway. I was terrified that it would be such a cruel painful thing but it was really quick and DS didn't seem to be in pain afterwards so we will definitely do it again.

bosco213 · December 2014

I'm having a girl so we don't need to have this discussion!

If it was a boy I would leave it up to DH unless I felt strongly about it either way (I don't). He knows what it's like to live with a penis so I feel he's better qualified to make the decision.

mnj05 · December 2014

We did with DS and will again if we have another boy. We had already decided to have it done but when the pedi came in to do it, she wouldn't because of an issue and sent us to a urologist. We ended up having to wait until just after a year old because DS had to be completely put under but he would've had so many issues as an older child if we didn't get it done. We wouldn't have even known had we not made the decision ahead of time.

LadyAnnibal · December 2014

If I have a boy, my son will be keeping his penis cozy.

ahsile10 · December 2014

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hjhmomma · December 2014

As others have said there is no right or wrong decision here. It's personal. However, since you asked for opinions, if we have a boy he will be circumsized. I can only echo others in saying you and DH need to talk about it and load up on research. Make the choice that seems best for you.

anfranklin2 · December 2014

I've seen grown men have to get circumcisions, and that has totally turned me off of my anti circumcision stance. If we have a boy, it will be circumcised to save it from a possibility of a more traumatic surgery down the road.

I definitely see the points for being against it, but after seeing it on grown men and teens, I feel better about agreeing with H on doing it.

thiscoffeechick · December 2014

If we have a boy, we will have it done. I understand why it is controversial but it is the right decision for our baby.

ChelcLynn123 · December 2014

My boyfriend and I have discussed this, even before we found out we were pregnant. We both agree on circumsision if it's a boy. He is a doctor and I'm a nurse so we are both very informed on the pros and cons, but the big decision maker was the fact that he was not circumsised as a baby and grew up so self conscious when having to shower after sports. He was circumsised as an adult while he was in med school and said it was the worst experience of his life. He wishes his parents would have just done it when he was a baby so he couldn't remember.

lizzypoo96 · December 2014

Super immature here, but all I can think of is the Sex and the City episode... "I don't want some woman calling my son a "shar-pei" in 30 years."

READY4TWO · December 2014

We had it done with DS and we will do it again if we have another boy

FSUNole31 · December 2014

We did with my son and if a boy will again.

gingerneer · December 2014

I've always leaned "pro", but for years I figured that if and when I had a boy someday, I'd let the father change my mind. Fortunately my husband and I agree, so that decision is made.

0ashley · December 2014

DS1 is circumsized and if we have a second boy, he would be too.

CDC just published recommendations that the benefits outweigh the risks, in favor of circumcising earlier this month. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/12/02/circumcision-benefits_n_6255460.html

kate5all · December 2014

DH is pro-circ. I don't feel too strongly either way, but I want us to do the research and take our time deciding together.

My SIL is an "intactivist" and is, weirdly, pushing on me pretty hard to be anti-circ (even though we won't know baby's sex for at a few months).

The hardest part is trying to find straight facts about it. There are a lot of highly biased, inflammatory articles out there!

draeray · December 2014

junedear67 said:
DH is not so he doesn't see it as necessary. I saw a couple cases of phimosis (when the foreskin can't be retracted) when I worked in a peds office and those poor boys were miserable. I've also seen several circs performed and they're not as traumatic as one would think. Most of the babies I saw didn't even cry and they didn't seem to be in much pain afterwards. So I'm sort of leaning for it. So DH and I will discuss further and come to a decision we're both ok with. But I agree, it's a personal choice and there's nothing wrong with either one.

My husband went with our son to get circumcised at 2 days old . He didn't cry or have any issues afterwards and the process was quick.

If this is a boy, he will be done too.

looneyru · December 2014

If this baby is a boy, he will absolutely be circumcised. Partially religious reasons and personal choice. DH is circumcised.

kayandtony4 · January 2015

Yeah...

Marlee8 · January 2015

qtjo5 said:
I never realized this was such a heated topic! First time mom here and it never crossed my mind not to.. Idk? I thought it was more normal to do it than not. Looks like me and hubby need to have a talk and I need to read a book or two on this!

With my first I had no idea it was a thing to think about either!!! My husband is done (TMI??? Lol) so I just assumed we would with our son. But after my midwife told me to do my own research I decided I did not want it done and then the convincing began.
Hubby was easier to convince with the research I presented him. It was our parents who couldn't understand why we wouldn't do it. They may still not fully get it after I've had two boys and gotten neither of them circumcised.
Anyway, it's your own choice. Do your research and educated yourself on the pros and cons of both.

The end decision for me was that they can always do it later if they want. They can't ever un-do it.

Marlee8 · January 2015

Also - I think it was more common to do it back when our hubby's were born. Nowadays (where I live at least) it seems to be more common not to get it done. So I don't think my boys will be self-conscious about not having theirs done.

inLOVEalready715 · January 2015

i guess i missed this thread the first time around...but holy crap $500 for a circumcision in the hospital...whoa. I know its like $750ish to have a mohel do a bris at home (in ny), I always just thought insurance covered it in the hospital. Something to maybe look into in the future. if we have a boy we are getting one, DH is jewish and circumcised, so it is just works for us with traditions and looking like daddy. all the men in our families are cut...however I don't think there is anything wrong or dirty with uncut, you do it or you don't, no big deal.

wineandcake · January 2015

inLOVEalready715 said:
i guess i missed this thread the first time around...but holy crap $500 for a circumcision in the hospital...whoa. I know its like $750ish to have a mohel do a bris at home (in ny), I always just thought insurance covered it in the hospital. Something to maybe look into in the future. if we have a boy we are getting one, DH is jewish and circumcised, so it is just works for us with traditions and looking like daddy. all the men in our families are cut...however I don't think there is anything wrong or dirty with uncut, you do it or you don't, no big deal.

The 500$ is in Canada, may be cheaper in other areas of Canada. I'm in Northern Ontario and in our district only one pediatrician does it so he can charge whatever. It isn't a necessary procedure so OHIP doesn't cover it and insurance won't either.

JosyElena · January 2015

We had it done at the hospital with my son before we were discharged and it was covered by insurance. Fiancé and I talked about it and we'll do the same this time if it's another boy. Just easier on the kid/guy in the long run now i believe.

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