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jnowosielski · December 2014

@katydid2014 thanks! I am going to find this, print it out and keep it in my back pocket for future use.

cafecreme · December 2014

babys2014 said:

We finished the nursery this weekend and guise it's so cute!! It definitely makes it seem more real!

I still need to pack my "go" bag or "scat" bag as DH calls it..choosing going home outfits is proving to be difficult..we still don't have names for the boys either..there are names we like but nothing we love so far.

Christmas week! I work until Wednesday, then I'm off to enjoy the festivities!

Pictures!! Squee! :x

kcbizme · December 2014

I am stressed out! I love the holiday season but I HATE the holidays. There's too much damn stress. Too much expectation from other people. I love giving people gifts but I hate the expectation associated with it. I don't expect anything from anyone.

Add to that the expenses of buying stuff for baby and I'm on the ledge. We bought our stroller and car seat system last week and when I told my mom she said they were going to buy it for us and to stop buying stuff. I told her we got it $40 off and we had to make a decision right then and we decided it was worth it. It's a necessity. We can't leave the hospital without a car seat and I'm not waiting until the baby shower to see if someone else gets it for us. Sorry, my kid, my responsibility. If she wants to reimburse us for it, that's fine. I told her I don't expect anyone to buy us anything.

jnowosielski · December 2014

Darbie914 Ha mean! How dare you! I am pretty bitchy now, so hopefully MIL will not do the same things to me as she does to H's cousin - but I'm not counting on it.

I've already had conversations with H about how I will react to these things. He is on board with putting her in her place.

peeppeeppeep · December 2014

FFC - I haven't taken a single bump pic. I think there are some holiday party pics around of me where you might be able to see my bump, though. Whenever I think of it I'm in my pajamas. I like my pregnant body just fine. In fact, I'm pretty cute pregnant if I do say so myself, but I'm lazy and I don't want to put on real pants. I should get at least of couple of pictures in to show our daughter someday, however.

bmstee03 · December 2014

I don't let my 4.5 year old around people I don't want touching/hugging him. New baby will be the same. I do have a very valid excuse. DS has cystic fibrosis. Smokers don't get to touch him. Sick people don't get to touch him. Etc. most everyone we know knows the drill and takes great precaution to help us keep him healthy.

mommyofkaylin · December 2014

Darbie914 said:

jnowosielski said:

@luvsponies ugh I've only taken 11 out of 29 weeks. I'm terrible.

@katydid2014 I've been more concerned with when my kid is older and I am trying to discipline them. We were out to eat about a month ago with my MIL and H's family. One of the kids was running around like a manaic and his mom was trying to get him to stop. My MIL started encouraging it and running around with him. When the mom put her foot down, my MIL picked him up and kept saying "Sorry mommy said no" every time he wanted to be put back down.

I will lose my shit when this happens to me

LOL my mom told me that I was mean to DD when I wouldn't let her have a second doughnut. Um, sorry, she had one and still had a breakfast sandwich that she was eating. No way in hell she's getting another fucking doughnut.

As I've gotten older, I am embracing my ability to bring out my inner bitch. I will wear that badge proudly.

Something similar happened to me a few months ago. We were waiting to be seated at a restuarant and my DD was getting very antsy. It had been a really long day. My MIL started encouraging her to throw a tantrum by saying "let's see a (ourlastname) fit. Come on, let's see it." So now my DD is in full blown tantrum mode and my MIL then says "oh, boowah, no body cares." I was so angry that I made us leave the restaurant.

bmstee03 · December 2014

I am also in the no bump photo clan. I don't have any from my first pregnancy either. I do make an effort to be represented in a fair amount of photos in our lives. When my father passed away we had decades of no photos of him because he was behind the camera. I want DS to have some images to remind him of me someday. A little morbid, yes but I wish I had at least one photo with my dad when I wasn't a newborn.

CarterWA · December 2014

Well it definitely doesn't feel like Christmas here, not an inch of snow and it just keeps raining

normally we have at least a foot of snow by now. I hope everyone's weeks goes great and has a wonderful Christmas!

ngolimento · December 2014

In regards to who can hold our baby, I am incredibly torn over the in-law situation.

My MIL and FIL live for having a grandkid. It's been their world for a long time. My DH is their only kid who will be producing children, and this will be their first grandchild. They were crying when they learned I was pregnant.

However, they are heavy long term smokers (40+ years). They swore to quit when they found out about the pregnancy, but the best they've managed is to cut back to a pack a day. They are doing better about not smoking in the house, but their clothes are still covered in it. We are trying to meet them halfway by buying them e-cigarettes this Xmas, but I am really torn.

On one hand, I want to put my foot down and say they can't hold DD with their filthy cigarette coated clothes, and that DD can't ever visit their house. On the other, I would look like a huge bitch, and trigger the biggest family war the world has ever seen. I don't really know what to do at this point, there has to be some sort if middle ground I haven't thought of.

peeppeeppeep · December 2014

Peledreamsofrain said:

In regards to who can hold our baby, I am incredibly torn over the in-law situation. My MIL and FIL live for having a grandkid. It's been their world for a long time. My DH is their only kid who will be producing children, and this will be their first grandchild. They were crying when they learned I was pregnant. However, they are heavy long term smokers (40+ years). They swore to quit when they found out about the pregnancy, but the best they've managed is to cut back to a pack a day. They are doing better about not smoking in the house, but their clothes are still covered in it. We are trying to meet them halfway by buying them e-cigarettes this Xmas, but I am really torn. On one hand, I want to put my foot down and say they can't hold DD with their filthy cigarette coated clothes, and that DD can't ever visit their house. On the other, I would look like a huge bitch, and trigger the biggest family war the world has ever seen. I don't really know what to do at this point, there has to be some sort if middle ground I haven't thought of.

That's really tough. How does DH feel about the smoke and your baby - are you on the same page, and can he be honest with his parents?

My mom quit smoking cigarettes at the beginning of this year but she still smokes e-cigarettes. I still don't want her smoking the e-cigs around the baby but the change in the way her clothes and her house smells is amazing. I'll be fine bringing the baby over now as long as my mom respects my wishes not to smoke her e-cigs in the same room with the baby.

We have a somewhat different problem - my ILs who live 6 blocks away have major mold/mildew issues in their house. You can smell it immediately when you walk in, and if you stay there for more than five minutes it gets into your clothes and hair. You can even taste it. Super gross. I definitely don't want our baby there at all in the first months of her life, and possibly never - certainly not for extended amounts of time or overnight. It's a health hazard. It's their first grandchild, too. They have some awareness of the problem and have said that they want to get their place cleaned up for the baby, but I think it's going to take extensive cleaning and rehab, and they don't quite get that, even though both DH and his brother have told them so. But if it doesn't get fully resolved, DH is going to tell them that they have to come to our place to see the baby. DH is not confrontational but I got him to see that the house isn't safe for our daughter and that he needed to be the one to have that discussion with them.

nannabee21 · December 2014

kcbizme said:
I am stressed out! I love the holiday season but I HATE the holidays. There's too much damn stress. Too much expectation from other people. I love giving people gifts but I hate the expectation associated with it. I don't expect anything from anyone.

Add to that the expenses of buying stuff for baby and I'm on the ledge. We bought our stroller and car seat system last week and when I told my mom she said they were going to buy it for us and to stop buying stuff. I told her we got it $40 off and we had to make a decision right then and we decided it was worth it. It's a necessity. We can't leave the hospital without a car seat and I'm not waiting until the baby shower to see if someone else gets it for us. Sorry, my kid, my responsibility. If she wants to reimburse us for it, that's fine. I told her I don't expect anyone to buy us anything.

Oh my gosh my MIL did this to me last night. I went ahead and bought our travel system off amazon. Chicco discontinued the color and nowhere had any more besides Amazon, and they only had 15 left! So I snatched it up since I in no way expect anyone to buy us a $350 gift at the shower. I mentioned it to her and she snootily said "you're not gonna have anything left on your registry for your shower if you keep buying stuff". I wanted to punch her. I wasn't losing out on what I wanted just to wait and see if someone got it, not to mention the color would have been sold out by then. STFU.

janda426 · December 2014

@kcbizme‌ I hate that.. When both my mom and MIL get on me for buying big ticket items. First of all, my mom can't afford ANYthing for the baby and second my MIL already got us our big gift, the crib and mattress. So I know neither of them will be buying any of these big ticket items we're getting so WTF do they care?

I know it sounds bad but I'm trying to gauge by what we received at my bridal shower for what I can not expect for my baby shower. All I mean by this is no one bought us anything that cost X amount of dollars so I figure we should just go ahead and buy whatever we need for that amount. Like our stroller cost $740 and I'm sure as shit no one would've bought it for us, which is obviously fine cause it's an absurd amount of money, so who cares that we got it??

People always need something to bitch about, I'm convinced

LadySnowblood · December 2014

I just found out that I passed my glucose test! I am going to eat a giant M&M cookie to celebrate. <:-P

starsailorr26 · December 2014

I caught DD's cold and feel pretty miserable. I only came in to work because I have an OB appointment this afternoon and will leave work early. I'm going to ask if there's anything I can take because my throat hurts so much. I still have to get DH a Christmas gift but thankfully he's getting gift cards.

cafecreme · December 2014

Carmar3 said:

So my kids were dropped on my door step this morning, because "I can't keep them today, and don't know what to do with DS." Ummm thanks. DS is home with H, and I took DD to school. Sadly, I have to return them to him at 8:00 am tomorrow due to court orders. I have a call into my atty, and I was late to work. Also got a letter in the mail that DS isn't covered under his Tricare insurance (he's reserves), aren't they sending military to Afghanistan and Liberia? Where can I put my XH on that list.
We are a reserve family, and have tricare . I'm pretty certain your XH is required to cover his minor children under his plan. Here's the contact # if you wanted to do some digging. (877) 988-9378 I found the best way to approach a tricky question with them is tell them you have a "general question" and avoid things like my son or my ex... Good luck . My random? I wound up in L&D last night. DH and I had an overnight sitter for our 2 LO's and we were supposed to have a romantic night. I killed those plans. From about 2pm on I was getting these weird waves of tingling sensations all over, flush, warm and dizzy. Finally at 10 last night I'd had enough.... Apparently all is well with baby and myself... They had no real answer? BP was normal, HR was good for is both... Who knows. Fingers crossed that doesn't happen again. Wonder if my anemia had something to do wih it ??
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Oh no! Hopefully it was just a freak thing.

kcbizme · December 2014

We just had our secret santa gift exchange and lunch at my boss's house. The food was delicious and it was a lot of fun! I got some B&BW stuff in a smell I'm not particularly fond of, however my mom loves that smell so I am seriously thinking about re-gifting it to her because I know she'll like it. I'm not going to use it so it might as well go to a good home, right?

chelc32188 · December 2014

My parents aren't so bad with making comments about what we are buying, but my best friend (also hosting the shower) is. We were shopping last week and I saw some organizational things for his room and she was like"You've got to quit buying everything for this baby. You already have a bunch of clothes, furniture, and travel system. There's going to be no reason to have a shower at this rate." I kind of blew off her comment because I in NO WAY expect people I know to feel obligated to purchase ANYTHING if they don't want to. And there are a few things that are pricey that I feel certain I want, and would hate to have ALL this stuff left to purchase the MONTH before the baby is born. Anything we get at the shower is going to be SO helpful and we will be grateful for any gifts, but I am the one who got pregnant, and am not expecting or hoping that everyone else I know will pay for the stuff I want for my son.

janda426 · December 2014

@kcbizme‌ B&BW has an amazing exchange policy- bring it in and say it was a gift and you can exchange it for whatever smell you like. I used to work there and did it all the time for customers

mommyofkaylin · December 2014

I just had my 30 week appt today. I met with an OB to discuss vbac risks, success rates, etc. and now I'm not sure how I feel. Basically she said she wants me to be in labor by 38,39 weeks. I was 2 weeks late with my DD. She also doesn't want the baby getting very big (DD was 8 lbs, 12 oz). She said even in the best possible circumstances, my vbac success rate is closer to 50%, due to failure to progress with my DD. It sounds like I'll get a 3rd tri u/s to check baby's size around 37 weeks, or so, but I feel like crying. I know it's not a guarantee, but I just want to be able to try. I want to go into labor on my own.

kcbizme · December 2014

janda426 said:

@kcbizme‌ B&BW has an amazing exchange policy- bring it in and say it was a gift and you can exchange it for whatever smell you like. I used to work there and did it all the time for customers

I haven't gotten my mom's gift yet, so I was thinking I could use it and maybe add a couple things to it and be done.

FrecklesInside · December 2014

katydid2014 said:

Does it give anyone else anxiety to think about letting particular people hold your new baby? People you don't really like that much but they are family so it's pretty much expected that they would take a turn holding baby. I feel like I'm going to be a super protective mom and I also fully expect others to criticize me for it (not my husband but other family members will because they already make fun of me as it is). I just want to do things the way I want to do them and not have others criticize me or make light of it.

If I don't want my kid rolling around on my mom's floor because of the massive amount of dog hair then so be it. That is my choice for my child. And if I want the big ass dog to be put up when I come over because of fear of being knocked over or tripping with a baby in my arms (this dog literally walks RIGHT under your feet and she is like 50lbs) then that's what is going to happen if you want my baby at your house. It's not my fault that your dog isn't disciplined at all.

I'm actually kind of glad about our move that will put us half the country away from both of our families. I like the idea of being kind of isolated with the ability to do whatever we want with raising our child without a lot of outsider suggestions. It will just be the three of us for the most part and I'm really looking forward to our little family life in the middle of nowhere Oklahoma.

Having a kiddo, you just automatically put them first. I don't have a good relationship with my ILs so I would always wear E when we saw them when she was young. People would ask and I'd say they needed to wait. And when I did let someone hold her, if I felt it had been long enough/wanted her back for myself/needed to feed her or change her etc. I took her back - no arguing about it. As for dirty floor and dangerous dogs - yep, BTDT too. My parents' house is a mess and they have a little dog that will nip. They visit E here for the most part. Is what it is.

It doesn't make you a bitch, it makes you a mom who does what she thinks is best for her kid.

bmstee03 · December 2014

mommyofkaylin said:

I just had my 30 week appt today. I met with an OB to discuss vbac risks, success rates, etc. and now I'm not sure how I feel. Basically she said she wants me to be in labor by 38,39 weeks. I was 2 weeks late with my DD. She also doesn't want the baby getting very big (DD was 8 lbs, 12 oz). She said even in the best possible circumstances, my vbac success rate is closer to 50%, due to failure to progress with my DD. It sounds like I'll get a 3rd tri u/s to check baby's size around 37 weeks, or so, but I feel like crying. I know it's not a guarantee, but I just want to be able to try. I want to go into labor on my own.

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I had a similar talk with my ob recently. I have to go into labor on my own before I hit 39 weeks or its a no go for a VBAC. She said if I was dilated by the 39 week mark she would try to break my water and see if she could get things going, but not to count on it. I have pregnancy induced hypertension so the 39 weeks is a firm date that we can't go past or the risks to baby increase way too much for anyone to be comfortable.

janda426 · December 2014

kcbizme said:

janda426 said:

@kcbizme‌ B&BW has an amazing exchange policy- bring it in and say it was a gift and you can exchange it for whatever smell you like. I used to work there and did it all the time for customers

I haven't gotten my mom's gift yet, so I was thinking I could use it and maybe add a couple things to it and be done.

--end quote--

Well in that case it works perfect! And now you know for the future

FrecklesInside · December 2014

Peledreamsofrain said:

In regards to who can hold our baby, I am incredibly torn over the in-law situation. My MIL and FIL live for having a grandkid. It's been their world for a long time. My DH is their only kid who will be producing children, and this will be their first grandchild. They were crying when they learned I was pregnant. However, they are heavy long term smokers (40+ years). They swore to quit when they found out about the pregnancy, but the best they've managed is to cut back to a pack a day. They are doing better about not smoking in the house, but their clothes are still covered in it. We are trying to meet them halfway by buying them e-cigarettes this Xmas, but I am really torn. On one hand, I want to put my foot down and say they can't hold DD with their filthy cigarette coated clothes, and that DD can't ever visit their house. On the other, I would look like a huge bitch, and trigger the biggest family war the world has ever seen. I don't really know what to do at this point, there has to be some sort if middle ground I haven't thought of.

Being a health concern for your child, this would be non-negotiable for me. It sucks, yes, but it is what it is. They wouldn't be allowed to hold my kid and my kid wouldn't be allowed to go to their house.

janda426 · December 2014

saltyfins said:
@katydid2014‌ I know what you mean. I'm dreading the conversation with husband's brother regarding his kids non-vaxed not being allowed around my newborn.

Ugh that sucks. Why can't people just vaccinate their damn kids

FrecklesInside · December 2014

So, I still have a bit of shopping to do. This would not be me normally, BUT we were stretched too thin for money and we had to wait until next check comes in tomorrow to finish some of the things we need to purchase. Stressful because of finances and stressful because it is last minute. I hate doing things last minute! Ugh!

janda426 · December 2014

katydid2014 said:

janda426 said:

saltyfins said:
@katydid2014‌ I know what you mean. I'm dreading the conversation with husband's brother regarding his kids non-vaxed not being allowed around my newborn.
Ugh that sucks. Why can't people just vaccinate their damn kids

I agree. If they chose not to vax then they should be fully prepared to deal with others decisions to not have their kids near theirs. Should be a pretty straight forward convo and he should understand.

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Unfortunately many of them feel that "it's their choice and only affects them" and get offended when you bring up logic. They also seem to forget kids aren't born with vaccines and even kids who WILL be vaccinated are at risk being around them while they're little- that's when you get the "well if your kid is protected by vaccines then my kid shouldn't be a threat"

janda426 · December 2014

FrecklesInside said:
So, I still have a bit of shopping to do. This would not be me normally, BUT we were stretched too thin for money and we had to wait until next check comes in tomorrow to finish some of the things we need to purchase. Stressful because of finances and stressful because it is last minute. I hate doing things last minute! Ugh!

Us too. H gets paid tomorrow so we can finish some last minute gifts. It sucks

BitsyBelle84 · December 2014

@chilibeansm0m We found my son will not nap in his new twin bed, but if I turn off the lights and sit in a chair near him and ignore him he will nap on the couch. Took a few weeks for us to figure that out. Sorry I don't have any better advice for you. I hope you find something that works, no naptime sucks.

lynndavid6912 · December 2014

chilibeansm0m said:
Guys I'm going to lose my marbles. Ever since vaycay R has decided no naps. And if she does its an hour after I originally laid down and she has destroyed her room. How the F am I supposed to get her to nap in the toddler bed? I've tried ignoring it and tried to go super nanny and just put her back in bed but that'll just kill me and frustrate me more I know. She is cranky. I am cranky and cannot drink enough caffiene to keep alive. Thank goodness I slept last night.

I have nothing to help, but I can relate! DD does this for stretches occasionally, but she's still in her crib and has never figured out she can climb out. We're getting ready to transition to a full sized bed and I am dreading the entire process. Nothing but hugs for you, lady! I think your only shot is to keep consistent about it being a rest time. We have a clock for DD that changes colors depending on sleep/wake. My fingers are crossed it helps us with the transition.

lynndavid6912 · December 2014

chilibeansm0m said:
I've been thinking about those clocks. More for in the morning when she wakes at 530am and I'm like noooooo it's dark, it's too early! Do those help with that? @lynndavid6912‌

Yes!!! That's originally why we got ours. DD has always been an early riser and it got to the point where 5:30 was sleeping in. Um, no thank you! We got it in the spring and over the summer she was consistently sleeping until after 6:30. Sometimes on weekends now, she'll go until almost 7. During the week, if she doesn't wake up by 6:15 or so we have to wake her, but the clock is set to change at 6:00. We got the "tot clock" and it is the best $50 I've ever spent. We use the nap time function as well and have played around with the time out function. It has white noise and music, but the white noise is tied to the clock, so it stops at whatever time you set for "wake"- I never wanted to risk waking her if she was "sleeping in".

janda426 · December 2014

Between pregnancy and nursing school I've become the biggest hypochondriac. I've had this non painful tightness in the side of my calf for a few days and I'm convinced I have a blood clot.

Also I just sat the strainer in a bowl of soapy dish water by accident. I then poured the noodles into nasty dish water. I'm gonna cry. I'm fucking hungry. I'm sending H to wawa when he gets back from his run

jnowosielski · December 2014

Aw'ing my dog. ..

It only took 2 hours in line. So. Tired.

Eta Didn't work on mobile. I'll aw again tomorrow.

janda426 · December 2014

@RQuinlin‌ I said fuck it and sat on the couch all mopey until H came back from his run. I told him what happened and he said "wawa?" I loves him.

So I just stuffed my face with a chicken strip sandwich with provolone cheese, bacon and ranch. Fuck you, soapy dish noodles! I win.

jnowosielski · December 2014

Chunkymonkeylvr said:
I have never been to a wawa or really heard of it but on the bump.

You haven't truly lived.

ruemorgan · December 2014

I dont have much of a random but I had today off and went to the outlets. I finally convinced DH I needed another Vera Bradley bag(hehehe) and went with the Grand Traveler. I mean, we ARE going to disney world and GA for 2 weeks in july with a baby, so we'll have more luggage, right? And I got little Star Wars plushies for LO. I think my themeless nursery is slowly becoming Star Wars themed. Picture attached because im that excited :P

ruemorgan · December 2014

@babys2014‌ yes, be sure to share a picture of the nursery tomorrow!!! Id love to have a thread where we can share our nursery photos but I dont think enough people are done yet. I know im sure as hell not!

@Carmar3‌ so glad to hear baby js okay and it ended up going away, but I hate when the drs cant give you a reason. Hopefully it doesnt return!

@mommyofkaylin‌ Aww, I really hope it works out or you atleast get the chance to try!

janda426 · December 2014

Chunkymonkeylvr said:
I have never been to a wawa or really heard of it but on the bump.

Having a convenience store that's clean, makes awesome food and has cheap gas is awesome. Almost makes living in NJ worth it. But then I remember the property taxes...

Jlr025 · December 2014

I passed my 3 hour glucose tolerance test!!! Thanks to everyone for the good luck!

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