I AM FUMING....RANT ALERT

ohkay · December 2014

Girl, you need to get it together. Another child in the family is nothing to be upset about.

BarefootContessa · December 2014

With my last pregnancy, my SIL and I were due four weeks apart. It ended up being awesome. We got to lay around like walruses in the IL's pool all summer and complain. Now the boys are five weeks apart and good buds. It's awesome!

Bodoni · December 2014

Maybe next time you have a meltdown over something incredibly childish you should write out your feelings in a notebook instead of turning to a bunch of internet strangers.

PrairieGirl45 · December 2014

shellplus1 said:
Ok....so I want to see a few things straight...I don't have an issue with pregnant women perse...I want to apologise to the women that have and are experiencing loss for what may seem a very insensitive post.
But please let me just say a few things to kind of explain the way I am feeling.

My whole life my younger sister has always been the pretty funny successful one who things have always gone right for...so yes I am kind of jealous of her...although happy that she is doing well for herself...BUT everything in life with her is a competition and she doesn't take too kindly to life not revolving around her..so when things rent going her way she tends to make a show to bring the attention to back to her....myself and my oh have had a pretty tough time recently and it's been great for us to share some good news with our families. This is another classic example of my sister not having attention on her unfortunately and as lovely as it will be for our babies....at the moment I can't help but feel a little upset.

So I'm sorry ladies...call me what you will but I've had to deal with her tantrums and attention seeking a long time and this has just pushed me over the edge!!

If this is actually how you feel you need to get yourself help. She's pregnant. You think she got pregnant on demand to spite you? Lmao that's ridiculous. Get over yourself. You're always going to be miserable if you're this negative of a person.

cecilespies · December 2014

@shellplus1‌ I understand where you're coming from, nobody here knows your relationship with your sister. The same happened to me, at first I was annoyed but quickly got over it after realising my baby has a friend now

catahoulatte · December 2014

If your sister got pregnant to spite you, she's got bigger problems so I'd feel sorry for her. Odds are she didn't, so roll with it. You are going to have a niece or nephew. I love my nieces, they are so much fun.

DS was born 6 weeks after my cousin's son and 3 weeks after my brother and SIL's daughter. I hope they didn't ever think this shit about me. We certainly didn't plan our pregnancy to coincide with anyone else's. And now the cousins love each other SO MUCH. That's the focus here. I suggest you get over it.

dllnlrn · December 2014

I also am just overwhelmed by the sadness I feel over the amount of losses we have had on this board... And I don't even know these people. You should consider yourself so lucky. And also, I appreciate that you have taken into consideration our responses. I'm sure it can be hard to
Take criticism.

dschmitt518 · December 2014

My younger brother and his girlfriend are due with their first in February. They were terrified to tell me because they a) knew how bad I wanted a kid, b) had been seeing specialists and c) theirs was an oopsie. I had to apologize profusely to them because I broke down in tears. I was so excited for them but also so broken for myself. My brother and his girlfriend were one of the first that we told about this pregnancy and they couldn't be more excited to have their little boy have a cousin that will be 5-6 months younger. Truly, look at it as a blessing. Be honest, not bitchy, with your feelings. Its alright to feel them, as long as they don't come from a malicious place.

I hope that you do take into consideration what others have told you on this board and try to find a happy spot for your sister and the life that she is now generating.

sschwege · December 2014

OP: I just wanted to say, I really like what you said in your most recent post. You demonstrated a lot of maturity in your follow-up post and I commend you for that. Take what people have said, reflect on it and then move on. I've been flamed on here a few times over the years, I learned from it and moved on! It really is a great place with a great group of girls

ashleymulanax · December 2014

There is part of me that understands a bit of this. Sister rivalry can be pretty strong, especially if this isn't the first time you feel like she has tried to steal your thunder. That being said, you should try to be happy for her. When I told my sis I was pregnant, she asked me if I would be upset if she got pregnant soon. Maybe it is because I have taken so long to get pregnant and then suffered a loss, but I appreciate just how difficult it can be to have a baby. I told her that I would be thrilled for her to have a baby whenever they could. And, as many have pointed out, a cousin so close in age is such a cool and fun thing to have.

mernuuh · December 2014

You're just trying to vent on here and everyone is being bitches to you. Ignore them, yes, they have valid points but it could be said in a nicer way. You're just trying to vent and I understand. Just wanted to let you know that someone out here took the time to read what you said and doesn't think you're being a complete bitch.

ifwisheswerefishes · December 2014

Your second follow-up post showed a lot of maturity, taking our flaming like a champ. My opinion on your original posts has not changed -- however, I am going to echo what someone else said and suggest that you find someone to talk to about this. This sounds like a really big deal in your life and you might want to pursue some counseling.

althacker · December 2014

ahsile10 said:

kristhegirl said:

My favorite adage is that feelings are honest - you're allowed to feel however you want, even if it isn't right or fair.

That being said, I'm going to go out on a limb here and say your sister didn't get knocked up on purpose to fuck with you, and your baby will have a cousin really close in age - that's pretty fun.

It's hard to remember what a blink of an eye pregnancy is, versus the rest of life. I'd say for your own mental health and relationship with your sister, this is not a hill worth dying on and it would be better to take a deep breath, scream into a pillow, cry at the unfairness of life and timing, and then get over it and hope like hell your sister doesn't have a chemical pregnancy or some other tragedy since she made the announcement so early. You can be in this together!

@kristhegirl, thank you.

Agree! You cant control your feelings! If i were you, i would call up my bestie, have a good cry and get all my feelings out! I know it must suck to feel that way, but it will all work out. Do something nice for yourself and get back on happy baby track! Hope you start to feel better and you and your sister can enjoy your experience together.

mrssnyder83 · December 2014

Lmao are you serious lady? Me & my sister are 20 weeks apart & I couldn't be anymore excited about it! Get the hell over yourself & move on..

JuneBug0611 · December 2014

Late to this one... I was the one who "stole my sister's thunder," announcing about a month after she did. We were about 4-5 weeks apart in our pregnancies. She was so happy for me -- she knew I had been trying for over a year. And just so happened to finally be successful right after her. I was so excited to share that with her. Sadly my sister had a miscarriage a few weeks ago. I am so sad for her, and so sad that now my pregnancy may be hard for her instead of a happy thing to enjoy together.

Wishing you and your sister H&H pregnancies and that this experience brings you closer and heals some old wounds.

mrswarren1221 · December 2014

Ok so not gonna lie this post just made me sad. I just realized nobody else is pregnant with me! The first time my best friend was and then the second time my sister in law was. My best friend is adopting and my brother is snipped. No possibility this time! Be happy it's so much fun!

mascrs · December 2014

Wow. There are a lot of hypocrites on this board. There is no shame in you feeling that way. Yes, you should feel happy for your sister, but we are human, and you're also allowed to feel upset. I know multiple sets of sisters who have experienced this, and they feel the exact same way as you do now. Do not let people bring you down on here. Many people aren't honest enough to admit that they, too, would not be stoked if they were in your shoes.

I will say, however, that 10w and 4w is very close. If your sister knew you were pregnant at 4w, she would have had to have gotten pregnant immediately after finding out which isn't extremely likely. Regardless, it's understandable how you're feeling.

picklesandwich · December 2014

Let me tell you how it feels from the other side of this:

My sister announced her pregnancy at 4 week, I was nearly 6'weeks and no one knew I was pregnant yet. So we we finally announced our pregnancy my sister actually had the nerve to tell me that I was stealing her thunder!

(we had been trying for our third baby for a year with a loss the month before)

She went on to say that no on will be excited for her baby since I'm further along than her. And no one will help her because they'll all be too busy helping me with all my kids.
It was so hurtful. I felt awful for something I was completely out of control of, all the while I had been so excited that I was pregnant at the same time as my sister!! I was thrilled!

So I really hope you can get over these feelings and move on. Realize that this is such a blessing, and don't ever tell her you feel this way.

Cfabretti2 · December 2014

Im glad im not ur sister lol. When my sister was 4mos pregnant i got pregnant had a miscarriage and a month later got pregnant again. My sister was happy both times. And we had such a bond being pregnant together. My daughter and her son being only 4mos apart are like brother and sister. Their bond is so close. And now My cousin is 5mos and im 8wks. And i never did it on purpose it jst happen each time.

charlie+7 · December 2014

My sister in law announced she was 5 weeks pregnant last week. While we have decided to wait and tell at 13 weeks as it's my first. I was so happy because they'd been trying, but felt guilty because we weren't trying. I was then unsure how to feel. Then I realised it was awesome. Less focus on me from an OTT mother in law and the babies will be 8 weeks apart. That's going to be so nice for them growing up

ftrina7143 · December 2014

As of right now I am the only one pregnant in both of our familes, although when we told his sister at week 6 she announced that she just recently took a test the day before thinking she was, however it came back negative. So for a second I thought I was going to have to share our bundle of joy news with her and her husband as well and I will not lie, for a second I was a little sad, but then so happy she wasn't! Later that day I felt guilty for feeling that way! Reason being because my thunder couldn't have been stolen, but rather it would have been shared! Yes, I am only human so the feeling of being upset couldn't have been avoided, but knowing that I could have had someone to complain with, bond with, and go shopping with made the "stealing of thunder" that less petty.

My advice to you darling is this, don't let the feeling of being pissed off get in the way of this amazing and sometimes crappy feeling of being pregnant! Also, this is family we are talking about, yes they can be a pain in our asses but they are the only ones that truly have our backs! And knowing that there will be 2 cousins the same in age is an awesome feeling! Focus on that, they will be instant bff's!

mrsg27 · December 2014

I get that you and your sister have that competitive spirit bwtn you and I get that you wanted the spotlight a little longer before your sister got the limelight back, but you two are adults. This is the time to reconcile differences and embrace the fact that you two (no matter how competitive you two may be) have a familial bond and you both need to support each other in this wonderful time in your lives. As the only grandchild for 8yrs before the next cousin was born, I got really lonely being the only kid in my family. Be happy and grateful that your baby will have a friend in his/her cousin. And be grateful that you and your sister will be in this together.

shaleeny88 · December 2014

I think it depends on the relationship you've had with your sister when growing up. If you was distant then you'd be jealous.

Me and my sister are very close so if I found out she's now pregnant I'd be happy.

No matter how you feel now, you'll help each other baby sit one day when one of you is busy etc.

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