@happymamax2 That is such a tragedy. I'm so sorry for your loss. That makes me so sad that he was trying to take care of himself and it happened anyway. T&P to you and your family.
@drudolph11 If that had be me in your situation, I probably would have said something to her. That is 100% inappropriate and she should have kept her opinions to herself. She's supposed to inform you about the hospital, not force her opinions about NICU babies down your throat.
@jcar2 awe thank you so much. That was really really thoughtful for you to post. And surprisingly the person giving the tour was the head nurse or charge nurse or something, it seemed as though she was in charge of something or maybe she was just someone in scrubs that appeared as though she belonged there. But yea im sorry you had that experience. I mean we know that it has to happen and have had this whole time to prepare and accept it while you had no clue. I will Def talk to you after we talk to the doctor about some things that he might not be able to answer. Thanks!
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I think I want to set up the nursery this weekend. Does any one know where I can order pictures printed on a canvas so it pops more? I have two $20 gift cards to shutterfly, would they be able to do it?
My sister just informed me that my friend sent out a Facebook message about putting together a sprinkle/diaper party for me. I guess she was asking for addresses for my / my dhs family.
My sil said she wasn't going to come because showers are for FTMs thankfully, but now I'm worried they think I was behind this. So now I have some messages to send out/explaining to do.
And I have to tell my friend to stop. I just don't like being in this position.
Did your friend bring it up to you before or is this the first you're hearing of it?
Add me to the list of shitty sleeping. I wake up constantly and can't get comfortable enough to fall back asleep. I'm hoping to just relax tonight and maybe wrap some Xmas gifts. I don't have enough energy to do much of anything else around the house.
I feel like I'm getting sick. I woke up at 10:30 and fell back asleep at 11:30 until 2. Woke up, drank some water and now I feel really hot and weak. Ugh. I have my glucose test in the morning and hospital tour tomorrow night, literally my only plans all week! I can't get sick right now! Ahhh
Anyone still wearing their beband and reg jeans? I attempted today and well....I'm not sure....I'm running out of mat jeans and keep wearing the same ones. I will say I'm impressed my thighs didn't blow up like they did with R so that's good! But i really need to bite the bullet and shell out some dough.
I don't even wear jeans lol. I've been wearing yoga leggings and long sweaters and shirts haha
@jennypm ya we have an apt to meet with the neonatologist there at the hospital here in a few weeks and we're told that we will get to tour the NICU then. Plus we can take another tour of the whole unit so that he can see it as well. I feel real good about it because we have a brand new hospital that was just built 2 years ago to replace the decrepit old one we had here where i live and was told by the OBs in my office that they have a level 2 NICU (whatever that means, i have to find out if that is significant to my situation) and that it is state of the art. That it is one of the best around, which does make me feel good except that i live in a semi rural area and don't really have many other hospitals around so I'm not sure what they ate comparing it to lol on the other hand I only live about an hour and a half from Baltimore which has 2 major hospitals. It's just a lot to process and take in cuz no one wants to see there baby hooked up to any wires or have to look at them through glass so I'm hoping meeting with the doctor will help answer a lot and help me to feel a little better and that she does well when she comes out.
Eta: what i was told though was that i will get to breast feed right away. Since my milk will contain the medication that i am on there is a decent chance that that is all that she will need. After the beast feeding they will assess her apgar scores and if they are fine then she won't have to be taken. So i suppose i will hope for the best but prepare for the worst.
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Anyone still wearing their beband and reg jeans? I attempted today and well....I'm not sure....I'm running out of mat jeans and keep wearing the same ones. I will say I'm impressed my thighs didn't blow up like they did with R so that's good! But i really need to bite the bullet and shell out some dough.
I don't even wear jeans lol. I've been wearing yoga leggings and long sweaters and shirts haha
I'm still wearing 3 pairs of non-maternity pants without the band and with long shirts to cover the fact that they don't button. I have 2 pairs of maternity khaki pants and one pair of maternity jeans. I need more clothes and can't justify spending the money.
last night he tells me "wow! you are getting rounder and rounder everyday! My beautiful round wife"
it may have offended some ladies, but he was just so cute about it and I couldn't help but laugh.
a couple weekends ago, he came home late after having a few to many with his cousin (who lives the next street over so IDC because he wasn't driving) he crawls into bed with me, snuggles up, rubs my belly, tells me how much he loves me and that I am his "beautiful baby holder"
again, I just laughed because it was just silly drunkenness! LOL
@almeyer2013 I'm really sorry to hear about your grandpa. It's never easy to play the waiting game. ((hugs))
@happymamax2 I'm happy that you feel comfortable enough to talk about him and the circumstances during this difficult time. Sharing your thoughts and feelings will definitely help you through the grieving process. I think about you and your family often. ((Hugs))!
I posted this in the appt thread but I've been released from house jail! I have to be very cautious, and can't use stairs but OMG I can go outside again! YAY!
I just left the post office to send some packages, including my secret santa socks, and turn out onto the road since there was a gap for me to make a right turn into. Well right after I pull out onto the main road some asshole red truck comes flying up behind me, purposely speeding up like he's going to run right into me just to be a douchebag. Luckily I needed to make a right turn anyways so I could get "out of the way" as I proceeded to flick said douchbag off. When I got home I started bawling because I am already so protective over this little girl inside me and am glad that I didn't get hit by that asshole. *sigh*
Does anyone have good ideas on protein packed food I can eat tomorrow before my glucose test? They said nothing overly sugary but I'd rather just be on the safe side and avoid carbs or sugar. I know I will pass out and likely throw up if I have nothing in my belly besides that drink. My appt isn't til 11 am.
Does anyone have good ideas on protein packed food I can eat tomorrow before my glucose test? They said nothing overly sugary but I'd rather just be on the safe side and avoid carbs or sugar. I know I will pass out and likely throw up if I have nothing in my belly besides that drink. My appt isn't til 11 am.
Cottage cheese! Just had some today (the low fat kind) and it's delicious and pure protein!
And hey ladies! Just a drive by to wish everyone well.
Does anyone have good ideas on protein packed food I can eat tomorrow before my glucose test? They said nothing overly sugary but I'd rather just be on the safe side and avoid carbs or sugar. I know I will pass out and likely throw up if I have nothing in my belly besides that drink. My appt isn't til 11 am.
I had scrambled eggs with ham and cheese before mine.
@happymamax2 - I'm so sorry that you are all going through this my thoughts go out to your family and you grieve and heal.
@drudolph11 - that's very inconsiderate of that person giving the tour, I second the writing a letter to the hospital.
My random thought for the day is- how can I simultaneously feel "full" in the belly area, have heartburn and also be having hunger pains all at once? Talk about mixed messages, body!
Guys guys guys! I was just at subway and for the first time someone flat out asked if it was a boy or a girl. No awkward conversation trying to figure out if I was pregnant! Wow hoo! Im probably way more excited than I should be, but im tired of people thinking I ate too many christmas cookies.
And I looked into the canvas photos are shutter fly and Wal-Mart, if anyone is interested its WAY WAY WAY cheaper at Wal-Mart.
@happymamax2 I've been thinking about you and your family also. I hope you can find peace soon. I know it's easier said than done but try not too dwell on the what ifs (I've been there)
Anyone still wearing their beband and reg jeans? I attempted today and well....I'm not sure....I'm running out of mat jeans and keep wearing the same ones. I will say I'm impressed my thighs didn't blow up like they did with R so that's good! But i really need to bite the bullet and shell out some dough.
Ha! I can't even remember when I stopped wearing regular clothes. Which is weird because I'm the same size in maternity. I think my belly is just huge.
I also just caught up. Lots of hugs to you @happymamax2 . I think what hurts me about your situation is that I'm sure you feel soooo much empathy for your sister. I am not close to my sisters husband but if anything ever happened to him, I would be so upset that my sister has to go through all of that pain. I'm so sorry! Hope y'all can still manage to pull together and be there for each other through the holiday season.
My MIL decided to invite every woman who was a plus one at our wedding to my shower because "it is proper to invite those associated with your wedding party. Sorry if that upsets you."
So I now look really fucking gift grabby because I'm not friends with any of them. I'm about to cry from anger. She went behind both mine and my moms backs to invite these people that weren't on anyone's guest list.
One of the girls boyfriends called H and asked if he should come down with his girlfriend (they don't even live in this state!!!) clearly she felt uncomfortable with the invite. I'm so fucking mortified. I can't believe her.
Anyone still wearing their beband and reg jeans? I attempted today and well....I'm not sure....I'm running out of mat jeans and keep wearing the same ones. I will say I'm impressed my thighs didn't blow up like they did with R so that's good! But i really need to bite the bullet and shell out some dough.
Oh god no! I wore a pair of non-maternity work pants last week with the band and it was horrible! I couldn't wait to get home and rip those puppys off!
Guys guys guys! I was just at subway and for the first time someone flat out asked if it was a boy or a girl. No awkward conversation trying to figure out if I was pregnant! Wow hoo! Im probably way more excited than I should be, but im tired of people thinking I ate too many christmas cookies.
And I looked into the canvas photos are shutter fly and Wal-Mart, if anyone is interested its WAY WAY WAY cheaper at Wal-Mart.
Have you tried Adorama? The quality is amazing, and the prices are great. H uses them for a lot of photog stuff and turned me on to them a few years ago.
Never heard of them before, thanks for the suggestion. They seem like theyre in the same price range as Wal-Mart , but better quality. I'll have to get on a computer to compare them better. Thank you so much!
My MIL decided to invite every woman who was a plus one at our wedding to my shower because "it is proper to invite those associated with your wedding party. Sorry if that upsets you."
So I now look really fucking gift grabby because I'm not friends with any of them. I'm about to cry from anger. She went behind both mine and my moms backs to invite these people that weren't on anyone's guest list.
One of the girls boyfriends called H and asked if he should come down with his girlfriend (they don't even live in this state!!!) clearly she felt uncomfortable with the invite. I'm so fucking mortified. I can't believe her.
Ugh, so sorry This is a nightmare of mine! My mom mentioned a second shower...and I told her no and why I didn't want one/couldn't possibly have one and she gave me this look and said we will see...to which I then looked at her, shook my head and said, I'm serious, it is tacky, NO. I hope, hope, hope she takes me seriously...or I will be SO mortified.
@AleWife he's so pissed off he's going to her house to talk to her tomorrow, not even going to bother just calling. I'm in tears (probably also just emotional) because I tried so hard to avoid inviting anyone who would feel uncomfortable or obligated to come. I didn't invite anyone from out of state cause I know it's unrealistic to ask people to come so far for a 2 hour party.
She's called me twice to go over the guest list and kept referring back to my wedding list saying "what about so and so?" To which Id say either: they were only invited as a plus one, they aren't my friend, they moved, or they broke up with their SO. We aren't tied to our fucking wedding party for life. This is my son. These people won't be invited to his birthday parties so I sure as shit didn't want them invited to my shower. I straight up told her this and at the time she "agreed."
I'm not even excited for my shower now. Between my absolute fury towards my MIL and having no idea who is going to be there and feeling awkward, I'm just upset. Hence H being so fucking angry.
@janda426 I'd be pissed. You should "cancel it" due to stress or some other pregnancy thing, and simply reschedule with the people you care about and never tell MIL about the actual occurrence.
I know that's shady as shit but with people that purposely ignore your wishes, there's not much you can do other than put them in their place and hope they listen. Or maybe that's just my MIL. Not trying to project or anything but that just makes me so mad for you.
@janda426 I'd be pissed. You should "cancel it" due to stress or some other pregnancy thing, and simply reschedule with the people you care about and never tell MIL about the actual occurrence.
I know that's shady as shit but with people that purposely ignore your wishes, there's not much you can do other than put them in their place and hope they listen. Or maybe that's just my MIL. Not trying to project or anything but that just makes me so mad for you.
The only thing is my mom is planning like the ENTIRE thing and has already made the deposit for the room and sent the invites, got the cake ordered, bought prizes for games etc and canceling it would only affect her.
The kick in the ass is usually I'm VERY close with my MIL like sometimes even closer than with my own mom. She's always been a little "my way or the highway" but it's never really affected us. I did text her after H friend called (in hindsight I should've had H do it but it seemed to make sense at the time since I'm the one who JUST told her over the phone not to invite this woman) and asked if __ was invited because I was so confused. When she ended her shitty response back to me with "Sorry if that upsets you." I just didn't answer. Obviously she isn't sorry since she knew my wishes and blatantly disregarded them. She told me her and my mom made this decision but my mom has no clue what I'm talking about and would never do that.
H is taking a sick day tomorrow to come with me to my appt anyway so he said I can't be mad, we have ben and Jerry's in the freezer and we're gonna stay up and watch movies together. God I love him.
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@drudolph11 If that had be me in your situation, I probably would have said something to her. That is 100% inappropriate and she should have kept her opinions to herself. She's supposed to inform you about the hospital, not force her opinions about NICU babies down your throat.
@almeyer2013 T&P to you and your family.
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@jennypm Sorry you're having a rough time. Sounds like you have a lot going on plus hormones...ugh.
@RQuinlin Hope you feel better soon.
Add me to the list of shitty sleeping. I wake up constantly and can't get comfortable enough to fall back asleep. I'm hoping to just relax tonight and maybe wrap some Xmas gifts. I don't have enough energy to do much of anything else around the house.
Eta: what i was told though was that i will get to breast feed right away. Since my milk will contain the medication that i am on there is a decent chance that that is all that she will need. After the beast feeding they will assess her apgar scores and if they are fine then she won't have to be taken. So i suppose i will hope for the best but prepare for the worst.
oh my lovely H. I love him so much.
last night he tells me "wow! you are getting rounder and rounder everyday! My beautiful round wife"
it may have offended some ladies, but he was just so cute about it and I couldn't help but laugh.
a couple weekends ago, he came home late after having a few to many with his cousin (who lives the next street over so IDC because he wasn't driving) he crawls into bed with me, snuggles up, rubs my belly, tells me how much he loves me and that I am his "beautiful baby holder"
again, I just laughed because it was just silly drunkenness! LOL
boys will be boys
Married the love of my life: 5-17-14
BFP:6-27-14
EDD:3-11-15
Step Mom to Z: 4-11-06
IT'S A BOY!!!!!!
M'15 January Animals Being Jerks Challenge
And hey ladies! Just a drive by to wish everyone well.
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And I looked into the canvas photos are shutter fly and Wal-Mart, if anyone is interested its WAY WAY WAY cheaper at Wal-Mart.
So I now look really fucking gift grabby because I'm not friends with any of them. I'm about to cry from anger. She went behind both mine and my moms backs to invite these people that weren't on anyone's guest list.
One of the girls boyfriends called H and asked if he should come down with his girlfriend (they don't even live in this state!!!) clearly she felt uncomfortable with the invite. I'm so fucking mortified. I can't believe her.
Oh god no! I wore a pair of non-maternity work pants last week with the band and it was horrible! I couldn't wait to get home and rip those puppys off!
I'm done with non-maternity pants!
Married the love of my life: 5-17-14
BFP:6-27-14
EDD:3-11-15
Step Mom to Z: 4-11-06
IT'S A BOY!!!!!!
She's called me twice to go over the guest list and kept referring back to my wedding list saying "what about so and so?" To which Id say either: they were only invited as a plus one, they aren't my friend, they moved, or they broke up with their SO. We aren't tied to our fucking wedding party for life. This is my son. These people won't be invited to his birthday parties so I sure as shit didn't want them invited to my shower. I straight up told her this and at the time she "agreed."
I'm not even excited for my shower now. Between my absolute fury towards my MIL and having no idea who is going to be there and feeling awkward, I'm just upset. Hence H being so fucking angry.
I know that's shady as shit but with people that purposely ignore your wishes, there's not much you can do other than put them in their place and hope they listen. Or maybe that's just my MIL. Not trying to project or anything but that just makes me so mad for you.
The kick in the ass is usually I'm VERY close with my MIL like sometimes even closer than with my own mom. She's always been a little "my way or the highway" but it's never really affected us. I did text her after H friend called (in hindsight I should've had H do it but it seemed to make sense at the time since I'm the one who JUST told her over the phone not to invite this woman) and asked if __ was invited because I was so confused. When she ended her shitty response back to me with "Sorry if that upsets you." I just didn't answer. Obviously she isn't sorry since she knew my wishes and blatantly disregarded them. She told me her and my mom made this decision but my mom has no clue what I'm talking about and would never do that.
H is taking a sick day tomorrow to come with me to my appt anyway so he said I can't be mad, we have ben and Jerry's in the freezer and we're gonna stay up and watch movies together. God I love him.
Hopefully your H will at least make your feelings known in hopes that it will prevent something like this in the future.