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  • MitoRachelMitoRachel member
    I'm not sure you showing a lot has anything to do with you being plus size. I was a size 8 when I got pregnant with my first and had to deal with a lot of the same comments that you are getting. People are just stupid. Looking back at pictures I see this beautiful bump that was being carried high and in front. At the time, thanks to peoples comments, I just felt fat. 
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  • kamomo1kamomo1 member
    I'm sorry you have had this happen. Sending hugs. After being overweight since a child, I finally lost weight, but now anyone commenting on my weight besides my midwife or husband upsets me. I feel people don't understand that every pregnancy is different, and people like to compare people. I did have a co worker in my first trimester tell me my face was getting too round. I just looked at her wide eyed and went back work. People are so rude.

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  • specialsn0wflakespecialsn0wflake member
    MitoRachel said:

    I'm not sure you showing a lot has anything to do with you being plus size. I was a size 8 when I got pregnant with my first and had to deal with a lot of the same comments that you are getting. People are just stupid. Looking back at pictures I see this beautiful bump that was being carried high and in front. At the time, thanks to peoples comments, I just felt fat. 

    What she said ^. Plus size or not, people have no filter when it comes to pregnant women. I also had someone ask if I was sure it's not twins and I'd only gained maybe 4lbs at the time. According to BMI I'm overweight, but my doctor says I'm perfectly healthy, just short and curvy.
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  • fourthtimesacharmfourthtimesacharm member
    Big hugs to you, people are dicks and they don't even realize it. A couple of weeks ago my elderly neighbor dropped by for a visit. When she went to leave she said "Geeze, you're starting to fill out!" I said "Yep, my belly is getting bigger." Then I looked over to see her indicating her hips and butt with her arms. Um, this was an unplanned, UNIVITED visit and I was wearing my husband's thick bathrobe over my pj's.
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  • LMurphy207LMurphy207 member
    OP, I'm sorry people are such ass hats. I wasn't a small girl when I started and I've gotten the wow you're really showing comments to and it does hurt. I'm not afraid of telling people to fuck off so now everyone just thinks I'm being mean because I'm pregnant. No, I'm not being mean I'm responding to you being an ass.

    Anyway, please don't hide your bump. Show that baby off mamma. You're working so hard at growing that little person you should be proud.
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  • hillbillywifehillbillywife member
    Sorry that people are so rude. I agree that you should be proud of your bump! Your body is doing an incredibly amazing thing and you have every right to be so proud of your changing shape!
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  • taahirataahira member
    In the last couple of weeks I've really popped. So I've had a few comments. I just blow it off with, "yup I have a healthy boy in there" which makes people smile and changes there focus on my current size.
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  • angelfish628angelfish628 member
    Tell them to shut the fuck up! People are dumb and ignorant, please don't let them get to you. You are beautiful, pregnant or not.
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  • jessicahanes36jessicahanes36 member
    frownyface said:

    One of our substitute teachers said, and I quote, "oh, my!!!!!! Just look at how fat you're getting!!!!!!!" while grabbing my belly last pregnancy. She's lucky she didn't draw back a bloody stump.

    Some people, dude. I might have gained 65 pounds that I'll admit to, but I looked FIERCE.

    Don't let it get to you. They don't know they're being ass holes, and I'm sure you look amazing. Your body is doing magical things, and you're doing great!

    what a bitch. what was your reaction when she said that!?!
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  • littlemissluclittlemissluc member
    edited December 2014
    Yeah, people can be extremely rude. This is my first pregnancy and in the beginning I was very shocked to this 'people lose their filters to pregnant women' but it is so true. And I honestly can't seem to understand that. Why would you wan't to call a person who is doing the most amazing thing a human body can possibly do fat or ugly or any other negative thing? That is beyond rude. Plus suze or not, we should all be aware of how beautiful we are and how incredible our bodies are and just ignore the comments of people who are rude to us. As long as your loved ones see you as beautifiul and as long as you see yourself that way, it is all good. Try to ignore all of that, they are so not worth your tears.
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  • nomesynomesy member
    I'm showing mega , but because I was fat before people I haven't told have said nothing about my size !!! It's great I'm keeping this thing a secret amongst those who need to know for as long as I can !! Ran into an old friend today and we just spoke about how it's been a crap year she didn't even notice ... Makes me think I eat too much chocolate but meh!! I love my bump.
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  • bmblebeabmblebea member
    People totally suck. Sorry they are making you feel bad :( between people making comments on what pregnant ladies eat, to their size- to my husbands cousin who rubbed my belly over enthusiastically without permission the other day- why do people think they have a right to our bodies??! Drives me nuts!
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  • JaneShopsJaneShops member
    mellinfam said:

    I just have to say ladies, you are all so nice. Im glad im not the only one eho deals with this and some of your responses are pretty funny. Thanks for helping me feel better!

    Glad you're feeling better, & encouraged. Just focus on yourself, & understand your body is changing to grow a happy healthy baby.

    Happy pregnancy!
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  • redneckmomma25redneckmomma25 member
    I am plus size as well size 18/20 on top. I'm barely showing. I try and accentuate my bump and place a hand on top so people may realize I am pregnant. I really haven't had any obnoxious comments but I don't work so less interaction with people.

    I have told people I was pregnant and their next step is to look at my belly. Then I awkwardly say no I'm not showing yet.

    It's hard. I'm sorry you are going through this. Just know that what your body is doing now is miraculous. You are creating life. It's hard to ignore remarks that hurt you. Say something. Don't say something. Try and let it not affect you.
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  • scarneaescarneae member
    I'm very sorry this is happening to you. My FIL is a complete idiot and ass with no filter also and when we first told them I was pregnant he said "I just ask R (my husband) last weekend if you had gained weight" everyone was shocked and I had maybe gained 5lbs. Fast forward the next week he says "so you never answered my question about your weight game" I literally just said "f*ck you" and walked away. He came up later and apologized as he doesn't realize what a jackass he is. So that is my suggestion, just tell them to shut up because if you don't some people don't realize how rude they are being.
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  • be888be888 member
    People are assholes. Everyone has an opinion, on how big/small pregnant women/babies should be. People think that it is an acceptable topic of conversation to have. I think sometimes they are just looking for something to say. In the next couple of months there will be posts from women complaining that they were told they are too small to be due any day, about babies being huge or too small. My rule of thumb is when it is a stranger, I fake smile/bitch face.

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  • HZ2012HZ2012 member
    When I was 6 months with Ds1 my VERY overweight cousin said to me "wow, you got big" (in a not nice or cute way) - I had only gained 10 lbs at that point. I wanted to sock her in the face and ask what her excuse was. This time around I WILL say it should she say something rude.

    Don't let people get to you - they're not worth it.
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  • ShadeauxeShadeauxe member
    You could say, "Oh is it unsolicited comments about how other people look day? Should I tell you what I think about YOU now?".
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  • knitfastdiewarmknitfastdiewarm member
    I'm sorry you have had this happen. I have had a shitty comment made and I was too flustered to respond at the time. People can be such assholes.
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  • littlewest1littlewest1 member
    For some reason society thinks it's ok to comment on a woman's size during pregnancy.  Whether she's too big or too small or is pale or she has a double chin.  Unfortunately it's something we just have to deal with (even though it sucks).  I am sorry you feel bad.  Try not to take it personally, people are just really unaware of how hurtful it can be sometimes.

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  • twinklepitstwinklepits member
    edited December 2014
    mellinfam said:

    I never post on here, but i needed to blow some steem.

    I was plus size prior to concieving and im very self concious of my body. Im 24 weeks right now and people keep saying im due any day. When i say i have four months left their jaw drops and they go on about twins or anything they can to justify my size. I feel like i have to tell people i was fat before i got pregnant. I always get in my car and cry after. My question is how the heck do i get people to shut up? Im too nice to be rude back but idk. Anyone else have this issue? How do you handle the comments?

    This happened to me twice now.

    The first time, I was at my in laws for Thanksgiving. My husband's aunt commented that my bump had gotten bigger since I'd last seen her (which was true)... and then my MIL hollers across the room "Oh, well she was really on the large side to begin with!" In front of husband's ENTIRE FAMILY. Then, when she saw my face get ragey, she back peddled and said "oh, it was probably the meds the fertility doctor put you on that made you so bloated." Which was still hurtful and opened up a whole new can of worms, because the rest of the family didn't know we had struggled to conceive.

    The second time was last week. I was visiting my mom at her job. A customer walked up, and after he was done talking to her, he turned to me and said "holy shit, you're gonna pop any day now, huh!?" I gave him a nasty look and told him I had 3.5 months left. His response was that I must have TRIPLETS in there. NOT TWINS, TRIPLETS. Fucking asshole. I told him it was just one, but thanks for making me feel like shit about myself.

    I also cried.

    I hate people.

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    Married: May 18, 2013
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  • DPandMBDPandMB member
    twinklepits said:
    I never post on here, but i needed to blow some steem. I was plus size prior to concieving and im very self concious of my body. Im 24 weeks right now and people keep saying im due any day. When i say i have four months left their jaw drops and they go on about twins or anything they can to justify my size. I feel like i have to tell people i was fat before i got pregnant. I always get in my car and cry after. My question is how the heck do i get people to shut up? Im too nice to be rude back but idk. Anyone else have this issue? How do you handle the comments?
    This happened to me twice now. The first time, I was at my in laws for Thanksgiving. My husband's aunt commented that my bump had gotten bigger since I'd last seen her (which was true)... and then my MIL hollers across the room "Oh, well she was really on the large side to begin with!" In front of husband's ENTIRE FAMILY. Then, when she saw my face get ragey, she back peddled and said "oh, it was probably the meds the fertility doctor put you on that made you so bloated." Which was still hurtful and opened up a whole new can of worms, because the rest of the family didn't know we had struggled to conceive. The second time was last week. I was visiting my mom at her job. A customer walked up, and after he was done talking to her, he turned to me and said "holy shit, you're gonna pop any day now, huh!?" I gave him a nasty look and told him I had 3.5 months left. His response was that I must have TRIPLETS in there. NOT TWINS, TRIPLETS. Fucking asshole. I told him it was just one, but thanks for making me feel like shit about myself. I also cried. I hate people. Edit for spelling.
     
     
    That sounds horrible. I am so sorry. Props to you though for not punching them. :)




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  • jc_twomamasjc_twomamas member
    Just stopping by to say I'm sorry people have said hurtful things...they're total assholes. PP's have said it best so I don't have much to add. Just a creepy internet hug and some strength to have a quick, make them shut up, remark if it happens again. You're growing a baby, and that's fricken amazing!!!
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  • ScarletOflahertyScarletOflaherty member
    My husband was actually shocked at the comments we got from total strangers last time. I'm a bit overweight but not huge by any means(size 10), but when I am pregnant it's ALL out front, I look like I'm smuggling a watermelon under my shirt. But the things total strngers would say to me! "OMG, you are HUGE!!"

    I've decided this being my last pregnancy I'm pulling no punches and telling anyone who is that rude to me exactly how I feel about their appearance. I have no idea when it became acceptable or funny to say things to pregnant women you wouldn't to anyone else, but this shit has to stop.
    Due with #5 April 22, 2015. It's a girl!!!!! 

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