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edited December 2014 in Cloth Diapering
Are you the type of parent you thought you would be? For example, you thought you'd be the permissive parent and turned out to be the disciplinarian, or you thought you'd never let your baby sleep in your bed and they never ended up spending the night anywhere else. Or did you have your parenting style figured out before baby even got here and it worked for you? "My pre-baby and post-baby parenting philosophy was....
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NCDR 55 votes

Exactly the same as how I imagined it to be.
7% 4 votes
Mostly the same, I only had to adjust my views on one or two things.
54% 30 votes
About half what I imagined and half completely different.
25% 14 votes
Pretty much entirely the opposite of what I expected, besides a few things like my love for CDs.
1% 1 vote
A joke! I can't believe I ever fooled myself into thinking I had any clue about parenting before my kid was born!
10% 6 votes
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  • sarenu1sarenu1 member
    I freaked out the first day we brought E home.

    I was completely clueless.
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  • Into+the+KittyInto+the+Kitty member
    I really just knew how I wanted to parent a newborn (CD, EBF, babywearing, BLW, bedsharing, gentle parenting) and it worked out extremely well for us on literally every front (and so far is working again with R). It's A being this age now that leaves me feeling totally unprepared! None of the methods I thought we'd use for discipline seem to be working at all, and I feel very WTF about it all.
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  • sarenu1sarenu1 member
    Into+the+Kitty said:

    I really just knew how I wanted to parent a newborn (CD, EBF, babywearing, BLW, bedsharing, gentle parenting) and it worked out extremely well for us on literally every front (and so far is working again with R). It's A being this age now that leaves me feeling totally unprepared! None of the methods I thought we'd use for discipline seem to be working at all, and I feel very WTF about it all.

    I think that's just toddlers. E just frustrates me. And I saw it with my sister and nephew at that age.
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  • CLLDLLCLLDLL member
    edited December 2014
    sarenu1 said:
    I really just knew how I wanted to parent a newborn (CD, EBF, babywearing, BLW, bedsharing, gentle parenting) and it worked out extremely well for us on literally every front (and so far is working again with R). It's A being this age now that leaves me feeling totally unprepared! None of the methods I thought we'd use for discipline seem to be working at all, and I feel very WTF about it all.
    I think that's just toddlers. E just frustrates me. And I saw it with my sister and nephew at that age.
    This.  Except I'm feeling that toddler WTF again with a 9 year old.  One minute I'm so proud of how grown-up he's getting.  The next I'm pulling my hair out because for some reason he can't remember that the rules are no jumping on the couch and we sit at the table while we eat.  He should remember right.  We have a rules list posted.  We've talked about them.  It used to work. :(

    I voted pretty much entirely opposite.  I feel so bad about all the parenting style judging I did in my pre-baby days, but come the think of it I also feel bad about some of the judging I did in between my two kids.  I think after the first kid you think you know all the tricks.  Then the second kid comes along and those tricks don't always work.  I was shocked when G didn't like to bed-share and have his back patted at night.  He likes his own space and a good rub over a pat.  
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  • abby8279abby8279 member
    ITK, I totally get what you are saying.  It's the older one that kind of paves the way.  Luckily I have my older sister who has older girls who can give me parenting/discipline advice.  I feel like I can parent babies better than her though.  I am like the freakin baby whisperer.
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  • km_mdkm_md member
    I had a pretty good idea going in and I've stuck to it. But I'm aware that I've only been a parent for less than a year so things could change lol


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  • freezorburnfreezorburn member
    I think I was pretty un-prepared for many of the hour-to-hour realities of caring for a newborn/infant, but for the most part as DS has moved solidly into toddlerhood, I think our parenting philosophy hasn't changed much from before.
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  • nanabanana06nanabanana06
    I wish I was more of the parent I thought I'd be. Instead I find myself not being as kind, gentle, and caring as I wished. I can't always do the things I wanted to do as well, like make my kid cute bento boxes and pinterest level parties. I wanted so much to be that kind, gentle, fun mom. Being a mom did turn me into more of a hippie though, which I find odd.
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