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Into+the+Kitty

Are you the type of parent you thought you would be? For example, you thought you'd be the permissive parent and turned out to be the disciplinarian, or you thought you'd never let your baby sleep in your bed and they never ended up spending the night anywhere else. Or did you have your parenting style figured out before baby even got here and it worked for you? "My pre-baby and post-baby parenting philosophy was....

sarenu1

I freaked out the first day we brought E home.

I was completely clueless.

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TJ1979

I was a fool pre kids.

Into+the+Kitty

I really just knew how I wanted to parent a newborn (CD, EBF, babywearing, BLW, bedsharing, gentle parenting) and it worked out extremely well for us on literally every front (and so far is working again with R). It's A being this age now that leaves me feeling totally unprepared! None of the methods I thought we'd use for discipline seem to be working at all, and I feel very WTF about it all.

sarenu1

Into+the+Kitty said:

I really just knew how I wanted to parent a newborn (CD, EBF, babywearing, BLW, bedsharing, gentle parenting) and it worked out extremely well for us on literally every front (and so far is working again with R). It's A being this age now that leaves me feeling totally unprepared! None of the methods I thought we'd use for discipline seem to be working at all, and I feel very WTF about it all.

I think that's just toddlers. E just frustrates me. And I saw it with my sister and nephew at that age.

CLLDLL

sarenu1 said:

I really just knew how I wanted to parent a newborn (CD, EBF, babywearing, BLW, bedsharing, gentle parenting) and it worked out extremely well for us on literally every front (and so far is working again with R). It's A being this age now that leaves me feeling totally unprepared! None of the methods I thought we'd use for discipline seem to be working at all, and I feel very WTF about it all.

I think that's just toddlers. E just frustrates me. And I saw it with my sister and nephew at that age.

This.  Except I'm feeling that toddler WTF again with a 9 year old.  One minute I'm so proud of how grown-up he's getting.  The next I'm pulling my hair out because for some reason he can't remember that the rules are no jumping on the couch and we sit at the table while we eat.  He should remember right.  We have a rules list posted.  We've talked about them.  It used to work.

I voted pretty much entirely opposite.  I feel so bad about all the parenting style judging I did in my pre-baby days, but come the think of it I also feel bad about some of the judging I did in between my two kids.  I think after the first kid you think you know all the tricks.  Then the second kid comes along and those tricks don't always work.  I was shocked when G didn't like to bed-share and have his back patted at night.  He likes his own space and a good rub over a pat.  

abby8279

ITK, I totally get what you are saying.  It's the older one that kind of paves the way.  Luckily I have my older sister who has older girls who can give me parenting/discipline advice.  I feel like I can parent babies better than her though.  I am like the freakin baby whisperer.

km_md

I had a pretty good idea going in and I've stuck to it. But I'm aware that I've only been a parent for less than a year so things could change lol

DecafGrandeMocha

I thought after being an aunt for 14 years/pediatric nurse/Sunday School teacher/camp counselor that I knew how I'd want to parent. I voted 50/50 because it is so different when it's your own...advice that used to bug me but now makes sense! I'm pleasantly surprised how my relationship with my own craysian (crazy Asian) mom has improved when I thought she'd be the biggest battle. Also, MH and I were adamant against co-sleeping but now keeping L in our bed after her early morning feed is something we look forward to daily

freezorburn

I think I was pretty un-prepared for many of the hour-to-hour realities of caring for a newborn/infant, but for the most part as DS has moved solidly into toddlerhood, I think our parenting philosophy hasn't changed much from before.

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Mandmeesh

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stringy813 said:

I was honestly asking but without any specifics yet lol. I just wanted the magical answer :-)

Magical answer for parenting? Oh, I have that. Ready?

Booze and chocolate.

You're welcome.

And coffee

nanabanana06

I wish I was more of the parent I thought I'd be. Instead I find myself not being as kind, gentle, and caring as I wished. I can't always do the things I wanted to do as well, like make my kid cute bento boxes and pinterest level parties. I wanted so much to be that kind, gentle, fun mom. Being a mom did turn me into more of a hippie though, which I find odd.