Race conversations are hard for me. I always have to remember not to be offended. Most of the time the other person's opinion isn't a direct attack on me. I also have to remember that most people don't experience much outside of their own bubble. A lot of time their bubble doesn't look like mine.
It's like how I imagine parenting is. There are certain things that I don't see or understand because I'm not a parent. I can read parenting forums, books, and talk to my friends who are parents all day long but I still won't really "get it". That's not my reality so I don't know your (The general your) struggle. I can judge all I want to but I don't know your lyfe.
There are some people who are straight up racist just like there are some people who simply hate kids but I think a lot of shitty opinions come from a place of ignorance rather than hate. At least that's what I'm choosing to believe. I'm really just rambling.
In all seriousness though, you just blew my mind. I didn't know you weren't a parent...I want to know you more better now (yes, I said "more better"). Is it rude of me to be asked to be let into your bubble, friend?
In all seriousness though, you just blew my mind. I didn't know you weren't a parent...I want to know you more better now (yes, I said "more better"). Is it rude of me to be asked to be let into your bubble, friend?
@LJGS1010 You are completely right. There is never an excuse to be willfully ignorant. I do know a lot of people who truly didn't believe that they were being ignorant because there was that little diversity in their bubble. It doesn't occur to some people to seek those things out because they don't come in to or affect their bubble.
It would be an amazing thing if everyone did though. Like Foxy said that's why it's so important to at least read these conversations on TB. Being aware doesn't just affect you and your bubble but your child's as well. If we can talk about it like this I think the next generation will be in a pretty good place.
@fitmama418 Nope no kids. If things go our way we'll be doing IVF next year. You can get into my bubble anytime
One of the reasons I love our bmb is the diversity of topics we cover and opinions shared- I find our group to be informative and always interesting- even when just discussing the fluff. I don't often participate in the hot discussions because I'm usually reading them an hour or two after they occur when I feel like I'm late to the game and can't truly be part of the give and take they usually require. N'13 Don't go changin!
@tjhine you should do whatever you feel comfortable doing about Santa. Perhaps your pastor (priest, reverend, whatever name he/she goes by) can give you some insight on how to incorporate Santa and God together for T?
So, speaking of fluff: My UO- I hate cilantro. Seriously hate it, won't eat it, it ruins my food. Therefore, I won't eat at chipotle because they only make rice with it mixed in. Wtf is that about anyway?
Hell yes, cilantro is awesome. I'm not that picky about food. Which is not to say I'm overweight from eating too much cilantro and lettuce, there just isn't much I turn down. American cheese though, because gross.
@mamasoup030 I make a knock off version of Chipotle's rice.
@Sing2phins My favorite seafood restaurant has a blackened salmon Alfredo with cilantro cream sauce and it's to die for. When you eventually find yourself visiting in SoCal we will do lunch!
I like discussing current events, it gets me out of my hole. Unfortunately, staying abreast of current events is not my forte anymore (I can barely keep up on the weather), so I don't often participate. That said, I also usually use my internet time as my down time, so even if I am informed, I may not respond cause I don't want to get worked up.
My UO? Seeing Sinny in the anywhere chair made me want one! @cagoldi J/K. But, if Sinny likes it, that makes it cool, right?
@mrscatfarmer13 I suppose that's a possibility, actually, I think she has mentioned she has a truck so maybe it doesn't have a backseat. I'm seriously alarmed by this.
Ooh I have a UO. It probably won't cause a stir but I'll throw it down. I despise those booties that are on trend this year. Like hate them immensely and think they look fugly and should die in a big fire. I don't know why I have such a strong opinion about them but I do.
No exceptions to this one either. Like I hate baby bows but have seen a few babies look cute with them. But these ankle booties absolutely not! Rant over.
Depends. Like the black ones I wear with black knit tights with a sweater dress and belted waist, so in that case, no. The hot pink pair, I think the open toe helps a little.
I know it's completely unsafe, but how awesome would it be to be able to safely have our LOs in the front seat with us? Think of all the times you could rescue that toy or paci.
If it was safe I'd boot DH to the back seat and have peach be my co pilot. ( :
Am I a bad mom for not sitting with LO when DH drives? I mean, I did for the ride home the hospital and all, but since then? But he usually does ok with car rides.
No way! I kind of feel like a bad wife for always sitting in back. I just did when he was really young to offer a bottle or keep him calm, and I still like it now that he can feed himself or sip from his cup. We hold hands, we make silly faces. It's just time I enjoy spending with him. Unless he's screaming, in which case I wind up thinking, fuck this. Over it. Until we get in the car as a family the next time and I get into the back seat again.
I only sit in the back if it's a long drive (3+ hours) and she is awake. Otherwise - she's better behaved with her mirror and bunny. My friend sat in the back because she said her daughter couldn't tolerate it, I made fun of her, she tried not sitting back there for 2 weeks, now her little girl is happy either way.
Re: U to the O
Same @fitmama814... DD coffee is not that great...I've tried it a couple of times but it's jsut so...bleh...
Love you@LJGS1010
Life began when I saw your face
I.J.C. born 11.3.13
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Life began when I saw your face
I.J.C. born 11.3.13
It's like how I imagine parenting is. There are certain things that I don't see or understand because I'm not a parent. I can read parenting forums, books, and talk to my friends who are parents all day long but I still won't really "get it". That's not my reality so I don't know your (The general your) struggle. I can judge all I want to but I don't know your lyfe.
There are some people who are straight up racist just like there are some people who simply hate kids but I think a lot of shitty opinions come from a place of ignorance rather than hate. At least that's what I'm choosing to believe. I'm really just rambling.
/DearN13Diary
@guiltypleasures...(((HUGS)))
In all seriousness though, you just blew my mind. I didn't know you weren't a parent...I want to know you more better now (yes, I said "more better"). Is it rude of me to be asked to be let into your bubble, friend?
#LOLFITMAMA
#LOLFITMAMA
It would be an amazing thing if everyone did though. Like Foxy said that's why it's so important to at least read these conversations on TB. Being aware doesn't just affect you and your bubble but your child's as well. If we can talk about it like this I think the next generation will be in a pretty good place.
@fitmama418 Nope no kids. If things go our way we'll be doing IVF next year. You can get into my bubble anytime
#LOLFITMAMA
#LOLFITMAMA
@tjhine you should do whatever you feel comfortable doing about Santa. Perhaps your pastor (priest, reverend, whatever name he/she goes by) can give you some insight on how to incorporate Santa and God together for T?
So, speaking of fluff: My UO- I hate cilantro. Seriously hate it, won't eat it, it ruins my food. Therefore, I won't eat at chipotle because they only make rice with it mixed in. Wtf is that about anyway?
Was there a reason I was banned?
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! NO MORE RSV!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Life began when I saw your face
I.J.C. born 11.3.13
@mamasoup030 I make a knock off version of Chipotle's rice.
@Sing2phins My favorite seafood restaurant has a blackened salmon Alfredo with cilantro cream sauce and it's to die for. When you eventually find yourself visiting in SoCal we will do lunch!
Swear to God friending people from this board is going to give me fucking heart failure. This is stressful.
And yes, I already commented on the photo.
Not! Peppermint Oreos here I come
No. It's a pic attributed to her with a comment about what the baby is chewing on at the time, which appears to be a small squeegee or something.
Same here... my friends make fun of me for it.. but whatevs... I'd rather be back there in case the binky gets lost or something
Life began when I saw your face
I.J.C. born 11.3.13
Team front seat over hurr.