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JFinn1347
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having every symptom under the sun EXCEPT a positive test?
JFinn1347
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Not sure how all to start this other than to just get into it. My last period started on 10/15, and while we aren't ttc, my guy and I haven't really been careful. Oh, and I'm 28. I started having symptoms about 3 weeks ago (11/2), first sore boobs, feeling a little off, and then fatigue (nothing I thought about as weird). Then I started noticing that I was having to go to the bathroom every 2 hours or less and that certain smells (mint, matches, and cigarettes specifically) were stronger and bothering my stomach. Weird, but not too weird, and as there was no pain or discomfort or weird smell with the urine I brushed it off. Then the nausea kicked in about 4 days after the soreness in my boobs. Since then, the nausea has gotten worse but comes and goes, usually around 10am and again at 6pm, my boobs are still killing me (I either have to wear a supportive bra or nothing at all, and either way they still hurt), the fatigue is so bad most days I feel like I haven't slept in days,and I feel like I'm practically living in the bathroom. Other symptoms have also made their appearance: food cravings and aversions (craving fruity sweets like Strawberry jam, acai juice, as well as milk, aversions to nuts, mayo, and some deli meats), my lower back hurts (some days worse than others), my hips feel loose or in slight pain, I've been having mild cramps that range from feeling like little flutters to bad gas to a weird pinching/pulling sensation (usually centered around the middle of my lower abdomen), and my all time favorite of mood swings (nothing like crying for 2 hours straight cause he sounded like he was having too pleasant of a dream or biting your best friend's head off because she dared to tell me to take a hot shower and relax). I have also suddenly started gaining weight out of nowhere (~2lbs/week), and none of my clothes fit aside from some sweatpants I just bought because my own jeans (and even his) were too tight/uncomfortable to wear for more than an hour. I'm sure I'm forgetting about something in this list of symptoms, I've been forgetting a lot of things lately (even what I'm saying mid sentence).
Well, just before my next period was due (a week late now), I had some really weird spotting that lasted 2 days. It was light, pretty much only when I peed, the wrong color and consistency, and (sorry if tmi) even kinda smelled off. My period is never late and never anything approaching light. This has lead me to check on my CP, which is high (I almost couldn't find it), very soft, and felt like it was closed.
Based on all of my symptoms and the timing of everything, my best friend, who is an experienced midwife, is convinced that I'm pregnant. The problem is, every single hpt and even the blood test I took on Monday has come out negative. I feel like I'm going crazy. My body is telling me that something is going on, all of the symptoms seem to point towards pregnancy, but all the tests say no.
I know that it's not stress, as I have IBS and all my BMs are normal and none of my stress started until well after the symptoms. I know it's not a UTI or BI or other damage to my UT as aside from frequency urination is also completely normal. Nothing has changed in my diet or day to day routine. Aside from some scary and very serious possible conditions (cyst or even cancer), I can't think of anything else that this could be.
Anyone else have any ideas of what is going on? Or experienced this same thing (or know someone who has) and ended up being pregnant?
I have an appointment on Monday for yet another test and an assessment (depending on the test). I'm just so tired of feeling like I'm crazy or feeling like I'm being treated as if I'm crazy...
Well, just before my next period was due (a week late now), I had some really weird spotting that lasted 2 days. It was light, pretty much only when I peed, the wrong color and consistency, and (sorry if tmi) even kinda smelled off. My period is never late and never anything approaching light. This has lead me to check on my CP, which is high (I almost couldn't find it), very soft, and felt like it was closed.
Based on all of my symptoms and the timing of everything, my best friend, who is an experienced midwife, is convinced that I'm pregnant. The problem is, every single hpt and even the blood test I took on Monday has come out negative. I feel like I'm going crazy. My body is telling me that something is going on, all of the symptoms seem to point towards pregnancy, but all the tests say no.
I know that it's not stress, as I have IBS and all my BMs are normal and none of my stress started until well after the symptoms. I know it's not a UTI or BI or other damage to my UT as aside from frequency urination is also completely normal. Nothing has changed in my diet or day to day routine. Aside from some scary and very serious possible conditions (cyst or even cancer), I can't think of anything else that this could be.
Anyone else have any ideas of what is going on? Or experienced this same thing (or know someone who has) and ended up being pregnant?
I have an appointment on Monday for yet another test and an assessment (depending on the test). I'm just so tired of feeling like I'm crazy or feeling like I'm being treated as if I'm crazy...
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Re: having every symptom under the sun EXCEPT a positive test?
hahaha. nope.
Aside from the blood test, all other tests I've taken have been at home. The reason I am getting tested again on Monday is that when I called the clinic for a pelvic exam (to try to see if it is something else) THEY insisted on running another pregnancy test.
As for comments about my midwife friend:
She just had another friend go in for a pelvic exam for the same reasons I wanted to. Turns out that the woman was 3 months pregnant, despite getting negative hpts and blood tests. My friend also didn't get a positive blood test until 8 weeks, and never got a positive hpt. So, it's one of those I know it happens, but how rare is it?
In regards to it being too soon for symptoms when I started feeling them:
According to every ovulation calculator I've double checked on to see if conception was possible, I most likely ovulated on 10/29, roughly 5 days before symptoms started (and yes, my guy and I did have sex that night). For some women symptoms can start from the moment of conception (as they did for my mother) when progesterone (the hormone that causes the symptoms) start to increase and some women never get them, so comparing mine to yours isn't necessarily obvious fact.
As for the psychological possibilities:
I am far from ttc. Until the nausea kicked in for no reason, I didn't even think about the possibility, and that only because of combining it with the having to pee every other hour. Completely honest, I don't want to be pregnant, I am far from where I want to be in life when I have kids, but if I am I will gladly accept the gift given to me. My biggest fear is what else could be going on with my body that these symptoms point towards aside from pregnancy.
Other little notes:
I have not been on any birth control in a year, so that is not the cause either.
Trolls please kindly go elsewhere. I, and I'm sure many other women, am here seeking advice and help during a potentially emotional and trying time. Sarcasm and snide remarks are not helpful in any way, shape, or form. Save it for youtube and article links through Facebook.
I was hoping to get a little more help here than "well if the test says no, then no" (believe me, I went with that at first, but when the symptoms didn't go away I tried researching other possibilities and pregnancy kept coming back up as pretty much the only match for all of my symptoms), for example "I/someone I know went through the same thing and it turned out to be ____", because believe it or not, I did research into the different possibilities. Despite the tests, there is the small possibility that I am pregnant, so I thought I would see if anyone else on here went through something like this and when they were able to find out for certain as the clinic that did my blood test says I just have to "wait and see". My problem is, if it is something else, waiting could hurt me, and if it's not something else and I act like it's nothing because the test says so, it could lead to me harming the baby in some way (ie smoking, having a drink, taking some medication, etc).
This might be a good link for those who are saying that if the almighty blood test says no than the answer is no as they are never wrong. There's also other pages out there that say similar things. There are also old forums where women are talking about experiencing this and never getting a positive result. I just wanted to start a new thread to see if anyone more current was available to talk to about it, or if anyone else had other ideas based on their experiences.
Again,on symptoms, the one thing that every site agrees on is "every pregnancy (not just every woman) is different". Which is why I'm discounting the timing of symptoms others have compared to mine as evidence one way or the other. My mother had symptoms a week after conceiving me (and she knows exactly when that was as there was only one opportunity for it that month). I also have a family friend who had different timings and experiences of symptoms in all 5 of her pregnancies, ranging from just after conception to 8 weeks along, pregnancy symptoms from hell to almost none at all.
@jfinn1347 : I am currently on CD94 (that's 94 days since my last period). I've had all kinds of symptoms that I could relate to pregnancy. I am breast feeding my 15 month old still. All my HPT are negative as is my bloodwork that was run at my yearly physical.
So, the tests don't lie & all you
Can do is wait. If you are pregnant you should eventually turn a test. If you are not, like me, you could have something else going on. You could have ovulated later or not at all.
Bodies are weird & confusing. No one is trolling you & I do side eye a midwife that says anything without a positive HPT.
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I know, from experience, that wondering can be worrisome.
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Op... Negative means not pregnant at this time. And if you are pregnant enough for that laundry list of symptoms you would be pregnant enough to turn a test.
Also, is anyone else surprised that babycenter didn't blow glitter and unicorn farts up OP's ass?
And as far as this guy goes, he knows what's going on, and he's definitely more excited about the possibility of me being pregnant than I am.
And you can wait for my responses as long as you like, won't change when I respond. I only respond when on wifi, and I tend to have a bit more of a life than to wait around on messaging boards all day. Especially considering that only about 3 or so of the responses have been anywhere near helpful (for examples giving alternatives for what else could be going on).
The alternatives are: no ovulation, or hormonal imbalance. We cannot diagnose you based on the information you provide. It would be guesses but we can definitely tell you that you aren't pregnant. How do we know? The tests say so. Because science.
Thank you for the passive-aggressive swipe at how some of us on here spend our time. We are all busy people, doing important things. We just take time to play on message boards. Your time is not more important than anyone else's. With an attitude like that, why do you think anyone would want to help you?
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@JFinn1347 you can do all this research (term used loosely) on how you could be pregnant because of x, y and z but you can't research how your body actually works?
Maybe try babycentre again, BS flies a little farther there.
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