UO's and Random's?

willy_gert · November 2014

I mean it is Thursday right?

hmp1 · November 2014

Gosh darn-it, I am striking out all over the place for Christmas. First, my top pick for a teepee is no longer in stock on Amazon. I found it at another seller for $25 more plus I have to pay shipping. I really wanted 5 sides because it will be in the corner and everywhere else seems to have 4 sides. Then, JCrew stopped selling the Teepee boxers I was going to get for their stocking during the black friday sale. Now, I waited too long to order from Cotton On and the tent is no longer half price. It was only going to be $14 with my coupon so totally worth it. Now, not so much.

On a plus side, JCrew did stock a few Christmas boxers which I have been waiting for since they loaded their Christmas pjs.

melody921 · November 2014

I'm surprised how many people still think of items as boy or girl specific, especially when it comes to what's appropriate for boys. If my son wants to wear his Abby Cadabby costume while he plays with My Little Ponies, I have no problem with that. He's 4 for goodness sake. And FWIW, if he wants to wear sparkly shoes when he's 16, who am I to tell him that's not OK?

But I feel like that's often seen as more strange than if DD wants to wear a construction hat and pound something. It makes me a little sad when I think about what might happen when my kids hit kindergarten or third grade or sixth. When will the world learn to shut up and just let kids be?

MrsKipper · November 2014

I have deemed today "get your crap together" day. I have let the house and the dishes and the laundry and anything else you can think of go in the past few days and it is a DISASTER! Seriously, how can a house get this messy in under a week??? It's really mind boggling!

DH went to see Interstellar this weekend and has been eager to talk about it with me, so he sent me to see it last night by myself while he stayed here with the kids. It was so good for me to just sit in a dark theater by myself and not think about anything (even though the movie does require quite a bit of thinking). It was a good movie, too, so that helped!

PenelopePond · November 2014

@melody921 =D>

watercolor5 · November 2014

I think predatory VA mortgage lenders are almost criminal in their misleadingness and persistence. I'm so sick of receiving mail that has things like "SECOND AND FINAL NOTICE!" stamped on them officially, or hand addressed envelopes, or envelopes made to look like they are coming from the VA itself or our actual lender.

All of which are just attempts to have us refinance our excellent mortgage rate to one that would be worse for us in the long-run, just because lenders know that the VA will back our loans if we fail to repay them. I hate how many companies prey on military and veterans in general, but these really do try everything they can to be misleading.

watercolor5 · November 2014

hmp1 said:

Gosh darn-it, I am striking out all over the place for Christmas. First, my top pick for a teepee is no longer in stock on Amazon. I found it at another seller for $25 more plus I have to pay shipping. I really wanted 5 sides because it will be in the corner and everywhere else seems to have 4 sides. Then, JCrew stopped selling the Teepee boxers I was going to get for their stocking during the black friday sale. Now, I waited too long to order from Cotton On and the tent is no longer half price. It was only going to be $14 with my coupon so totally worth it. Now, not so much.

On a plus side, JCrew did stock a few Christmas boxers which I have been waiting for since they loaded their Christmas pjs.

It's so stressful trying to wait long enough to christmas shop to take advantage of major sales, yet not so long that everything you want is out of stock!

melody921 · November 2014

loislayn said:

melody921 said:

I'm surprised how many people still think of items as boy or girl specific, especially when it comes to what's appropriate for boys. If my son wants to wear his Abby Cadabby costume while he plays with My Little Ponies, I have no problem with that. He's 4 for goodness sake. And FWIW, if he wants to wear sparkly shoes when he's 16, who am I to tell him that's not OK?

But I feel like that's often seen as more strange than if DD wants to wear a construction hat and pound something. It makes me a little sad when I think about what might happen when my kids hit kindergarten or third grade or sixth. When will the world learn to shut up and just let kids be?

My aunt was surprised and a little outraged I put matchbox cars and a track on Nora's christmas list. SHE LOVES CARS AND RACE TRACKS. And she refuses to buy them for her because god knows we need another fucking dolly in our house. I've given away 6 NIP dolls already.

I would blame it on a generational thing, bc MIL and her husband have definitely been shocked at times. But then I hear people our own age make comments and I think it's just ignorance. As long as my kids are playing nicely, and it's age appropriate, they can play with whatever they choose.

Pokedot · November 2014

I totally agree @melody921. DS doesn't have any dolls and I want to change that. I think once I'm KU with #2 we'll get him one. He has all the "boy" toys right now but adores playing with his kitchen. Who am I to tell him pink is for girls or that barbies can't be played with by boys. Hell my brother played barbies with me all the time. GI Joe was the hunky Ken! Haha.

I snapped on DH last night. I've kind of been short with him but it wasn't on purpose. He had the WHOLE day to himself yesterday. I asked him to run errands for me. I work unil 4:30 then I always go home or pick up DS from DC. I have no time to myself to get things done. He has the balls to say "You're being awfully snippy with me today." After he huffed and puffed about running errands on his day off. Dude, I never get alone time and I'm the one responsible for making sure everything is done for vacation next weekend. So yes I will be snippy! Men can be so dumb.

I think he knew he was in the wrong when he came and brought me coffee at work this morning.

willy_gert · November 2014

I have to take DH to the surgeon today. I'm happy that his infection is gone and we can move forward, but I am also flustered as all get out, because I could totally see this surgeon being like, "Hey let's do surgery tomorrow!" Um, that isn't an easy thing for me as I am supposed to be doing a staff meeting tomorrow and several other things, plus I have to find someone to help with Luci.

Oh, and y'all know how I was so excited to see my dad for my birthday, well that has changed too. Now they are getting in the day after my birthday because my step mom wants to leisurely shop on Friday and then she wants a whole day at the casino in Oklahoma. I'm not going to lie, I may have ugly cried about this.

Hyaline · November 2014

While I don't like limiting what's "OK" for kids based on gender, I also don't see the need to make sure DD's toys are "equally representative" or anything. She likes more traditional girl stuff than she does traditional boy stuff; so yes, she has more dolls and tea set kinds of stuff because that's what she likes. She does like trucks and trains, so she has a train and a truck sticker set. But I'm not worried I'm raising a gender stereotyped drone because she prefers her baby doll and her princess Little People, lol.

melody921 · November 2014

Hyaline said:

While I don't like limiting what's "OK" for kids based on gender, I also don't see the need to make sure DD's toys are "equally representative" or anything. She likes more traditional girl stuff than she does traditional boy stuff; so yes, she has more dolls and tea set kinds of stuff because that's what she likes. She does like trucks and trains, so she has a train and a truck sticker set. But I'm not worried I'm raising a gender stereotyped drone because she prefers her baby doll and her princess Little People, lol.

Yeah, I think it's equally weird to push tractors if she'd rather have a doll. I think the best practice is to let the kids decide what they like.

smb+jab · November 2014

I think some people will always stick to gender stereotypes, however i don't think its should apply to little kids and what they want to play with.

FIL will be horrified to when he finds out we are buying DS a kitchen for Christmas, as he has on more than one occasion stated they are for girls. but the kid loves pretend cooking, and some of the best chefs are male so I don't get this opinion!

hmp1 · November 2014

I mean, if you ask the question stating your kids will love the "girly" toy, you deserve the response to not genderize toys. But if you make the decision to buy your boy a "boy" toy he will love instead of a "girl" toy he will love, no cares from me at all. If he is crying on the floor that all he wanted was the Elsa doll and you bought him a tool set, you probably made the wrong choice. But if he asked for an Elsa doll and a tool set and you went with the tool set, who cares.

This is coming from the girl that put both her boys in girl jeans this morning. I buy what I want until they revolt into the only sports wear age.

BeebopandBuddy · November 2014

I buy my kids things that I think they will play with and smile about. Period. Ethan wanted to wear a tiara and carry a purse to walk Maya in to school today. He looked right at me and said "Mommy, I'm beautiful." That's what I want.

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melody921 · November 2014

I made the mistake of jumping on Amazon for a minute to look at Christmas toys. And 20 minutes later, my wish list of possibilities for the kids is ridiculous. There's something to be said for not being aware of what's even out there.

watercolor5 · November 2014

I think it's weird to think of kitchens as girl toys and cars as boy toys in the first place. I fully expect my daughters to grow up and learn to drive, or my son (if I ever have one) to be able to make himself a meal. Both are life skills for everyone.

hmp1 · November 2014

DH is annoying me about the Christmas list. I asked him twice when I was putting the list together if he had anything in mind he wanted to get the kids so I can add it to the list. He said, no you can get them what you want. I showed him the list and he even bought a couple things off of it for me. Fast forward to last week when he sends me an email with a link to Rokenbok sets, this would be a cool gift to add on to the list (these are over $100 which equates to the big gift). And then last night when he said "We should probably sync up our lists for the boys." Why do you have a list??? Where did this come from???

BeebopandBuddy · November 2014

hmp1 said:

DH is annoying me about the Christmas list. I asked him twice when I was putting the list together if he had anything in mind he wanted to get the kids so I can add it to the list. He said, no you can get them what you want. I showed him the list and he even bought a couple things off of it for me. Fast forward to last week when he sends me an email with a link to Rokenbok sets, this would be a cool gift to add on to the list (these are over $100 which equates to the big gift). And then last night when he said "We should probably sync up our lists for the boys." Why do you have a list??? Where did this come from???

I would kill my DH. I made a list last week and laid it on the kitchen counter. Half the stuff is already bought. Beyond suggesting that we add one more gift for each kid, he had no opinion whatsoever.

watercolor5 · November 2014

loislayn said:

watercolor5 said:

I think it's weird to think of kitchens as girl toys and cars as boy toys in the first place. I fully expect my daughters to grow up and learn to drive, or my son (if I ever have one) to be able to make himself a meal. Both are life skills for everyone.

Well yeah, but my son wouldn't necessarily need a doll to learn how to burp a baby.

Right- he won't be scarred if he never plays with a doll. But, he'd need an actual baby to practice on to learn to burp a baby, so I think boys should be able to babysit.

BPer · November 2014

So the job that I was interviewing for that I was all "Oh I probably don't even want it", I now really want.

The job description was incredibly misleading, and also my SIL who works over in admissions was like "I think they do like data entry."

Nope. It's supervising 15 people responsible for all aspects of admissions operations and implementing a new CRM. My interview was yesterday, and I feel it went well, and will now cry if I don't get the job. I need to get out of this office.

PenelopePond · November 2014

This stuff with Bill Cosby makes me sad. Don't get me wrong, if he's guilty he should be punished. I feel like he's being punished right now.

tyrannasaurusjess · November 2014

hmp1 said:

DH is annoying me about the Christmas list. I asked him twice when I was putting the list together if he had anything in mind he wanted to get the kids so I can add it to the list. He said, no you can get them what you want. I showed him the list and he even bought a couple things off of it for me. Fast forward to last week when he sends me an email with a link to Rokenbok sets, this would be a cool gift to add on to the list (these are over $100 which equates to the big gift). And then last night when he said "We should probably sync up our lists for the boys." Why do you have a list??? Where did this come from???

I get annoyed with H when I ask about what he thinks we should get the kids and his response is "I don't know" or "I don't care..whatever you think". Then last night he suggested something and I felt flustered and annoyed because I already had everything all worked out and that messes up the budget! He's damned if he does, and damned if he doesn't.

Hyaline · November 2014

PenelopePond said:

This stuff with Bill Cosby makes me sad. Don't get me wrong, if he's guilty he should be punished. I feel like he's being punished right now.

I hate how the media tries and convicts people before there are even charges on the table. I think it's actually incredibly disrespectful to victims of sexual assault that all it takes is someone going public with a claim or "claim" and the person they accuse is treated as guilty. Many victims had to go through hell to get their assailants punished, but if a famous person has a finger pointed at them? Media frenzy, whether the claims are substantiated or not.

jenndub · November 2014

Emma asked for a tool belt for her 6th birthday. I got her this rad tool belt with a bunch of tools and a hard hat and safety goggles. She took all of the tools out of the belt and filled it with Chapstick and lipgloss. But she wore the hat and goggles.

watercolor5 · November 2014

jenndub said:

Emma asked for a tool belt for her 6th birthday. I got her this rad tool belt with a bunch of tools and a hard hat and safety goggles. She took all of the tools out of the belt and filled it with Chapstick and lipgloss. But she wore the hat and goggles.

Do they make these for 2 year-olds? Sophia would love it!

PenelopePond · November 2014

loislayn said:

PenelopePond said:

This stuff with Bill Cosby makes me sad. Don't get me wrong, if he's guilty he should be punished. I feel like he's being punished right now.

I feel like he's 100% guilty.

Honestly, I think so too. I can see famous people general taking advantage of their fame and doing things like that.

It's sad because I don't want him to be guilty, but that won't change the truth (if we ever hear it).

danabsd · November 2014

Have we discussed the Duggar anti-gay thing?

Although I don't agree with them I am not at all surprised. I don't know why people are.
They are so deeply religious they don't dance. What would make anyone think they would be pro gay rights?

PenelopePond · November 2014

Robin Williams suicide still makes me so sad. Ethan's favorite movie is Aladdin, so we watch it pretty regularly. And the new Night at the Museum will be hard to watch now.

MrsKipper · November 2014

PenelopePond said:
Robin Williams suicide still makes me so sad. Ethan's favorite movie is Aladdin, so we watch it pretty regularly. And the new Night at the Museum will be hard to watch now.

Is he going to be in it at all?

PenelopePond · November 2014

MrsKipper said:

Robin Williams suicide still makes me so sad. Ethan's favorite movie is Aladdin, so we watch it pretty regularly. And the new Night at the Museum will be hard to watch now.
Is he going to be in it at all?

Yep. He's in the previews.

BeebopandBuddy · November 2014

I get so annoyed with people who get mad at people like The Duggars or even Kirk Cameron. I disagree with them wholeheartedly and I think they sound ignorant, but since when is it wrong to have an opinion? Just because it isn't a popular one doesn't mean they shouldn't be allowed to express themselves. I roll my eyes as hard as the next guy, but I don't think they should have to shut up about what they believe.

MrsKipper · November 2014

I've been wondering how long it would take for people to get up in arms about that part of the Duggars' beliefs. I knew they wouldn't be able to go too much longer without someone making a ruckus. I'm sure most of the people signing the petition don't even watch the show (which is maybe why they're so surprised by their beliefs) so why bother getting it cancelled?? I will be so mad if they do end up getting cancelled.

Hyaline · November 2014

PenelopePond said:

loislayn said:

PenelopePond said:

This stuff with Bill Cosby makes me sad. Don't get me wrong, if he's guilty he should be punished. I feel like he's being punished right now.

I feel like he's 100% guilty.

Honestly, I think so too. I can see famous people general taking advantage of their fame and doing things like that.

It's sad because I don't want him to be guilty, but that won't change the truth (if we ever hear it).

I don't think he's guilty or not guilty...I, um, kind of prefer some sort of due process of law before deciding, personally. I know, I'm crazy. But he-said-she-said? Not enough to force me into a snap decision on guilt.

Holly_1007 · November 2014

Colby sleeps with a naked baby doll in his crib. He can't sleep without it. I hope he is a great daddy some day

willy_gert · November 2014

Y'all, I am just going to put this here to make myself feel better...

We went to the surgeon today and DH has to wait another 6 weeks to have surgery. So, right at Christmas, then it will be another 3 to 4 weeks after that before his central line will be removed. He can't work because the risk of infection is too high because of the central line. I don't know what to do at all. He is getting more and more depressed everyday, he is being a total jerk to me because he is depressed and you know there is the whole money piece. I don't know what to do at all.

Anybody want to tell me what to do? Happy Holidays for the willy_gert's..... :-S<:-P

Flamingemu · November 2014

@willy_gert I am sorry he has to wait so long. Did they say why? Is there a hobby or something your DH can do to occupy his mind & time while he is home? Maybe that would help lessen the work-related depression a bit.

willy_gert · November 2014

@flamingemu, not really, his hobby was his job and he doesn't know what to do without it....

By the way, I am really sorry for what my cats are doing to your team!

pharmer78 · November 2014

willy_gert said:

Y'all, I am just going to put this here to make myself feel better...

We went to the surgeon today and DH has to wait another 6 weeks to have surgery. So, right at Christmas, then it will be another 3 to 4 weeks after that before his central line will be removed. He can't work because the risk of infection is too high because of the central line. I don't know what to do at all. He is getting more and more depressed everyday, he is being a total jerk to me because he is depressed and you know there is the whole money piece. I don't know what to do at all.

Anybody want to tell me what to do? Happy Holidays for the willy_gert's..... :-S<:-P

Have you started any kind of counselling or is that on the back burner for now? I'm sorry...I doubt the timing for the surgery will ever be great, but the holidays are definitely not the ideal time to be low on paychecks. My only advice would be to stick to a strict budget, remember that Luci will be happy with whatever she gets at this age, and enjoy all the fun seasonal things you can about the holidays, like driving around looking at Christmas lights, baking cookies together, etc...

CdnFarmGirl08 · November 2014

If I didn't know better I'd think my house was ransacked. Came home from being gone from 7am-9:30pm and couldn't believe the disaster every room was in. And then remembered my husband was home for the morning with N before dropping him off at his parents for the rest of the day.

Who knew 2 boys could create such a mess?!?!?

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