Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
sparkymcgeee
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I guess yes, everybody is sleeping or else in hectic situations :P
I don't want to jinx it but LO STTN once again, this makes it the longest occurrence with 3 nights in a row since January.. I bet he will be up all night tonight just to shut me up! But I don't care as tomorrow I don't work!
I have a terrible cold and am considering either cancelling class or showing a film. Meanwhile A is awake again. I tried to cisleep but he was tossing so much I got exasperated and put him back in the crib. Cue angry desperate cries. He's sleeping in my arms now but I am considering the crib transfer.
I had an exhausting night. DS woke at 10:30 and was up every 1/2 hour until midnight. He kept calling me to cover him and then he peed and finally went to sleep. DD just woke and luckily went back to sleep quickly.
Henry slept until 5:30 so I'll take it.
I'll admit to not making it through spam yesterday (I got behind and it was really long).
I arm knit a cute infinity scarf over the weekend and wore it to school. I'm so excited that everyone wants one and I can make a little money for Christmas.
@theuntaggablek Hope you feel better soon
I am she feels better soon @sparkymcgeee
Once again the weather network loses my trust. Snow they say. Squalls they say. Be prepared they say. Once again we have nothing. Now I will be bitterly dissapointed if this trend doesn't continue.
<:-P @maryannespier Wahoo Giles!!
G slept 7-455!
Oh and I'm sure you all care, but my hair no longer smells of bacon. It now smells like Burt's Bee's mango.
Hey girls!
@sparkymcgee poor sweet Eliza!!
All 3 STTN again, YAHOO!!!!! I didn't through for some reason so that's frustrating but I still feel so much more human. Today I picked up a longer shift at work to try to bring in more $$$. DH and I are really tightening the budget and are noticing some positive changes so we're going to keep on working on it!
Morning ladies! I'm up early ish out of habit I guess. There was a 16 month old adorable little girl on our flight and it kept making me miss Ariana. Whenever I meet someone with a baby born in July 13 I can't help but wonder if they ever were a bumpie...
Anywho, hope you all have a wonderful day!
@maryannespier P is the same way. He just sleeps in footed pjs (fleece since it's colder). I figure if he gets cold, he will let me know.
P decided last night was party time and didn't go to sleep until 11:30. I hope we don't repeat this tonight.
so sorry for the sick mamas and babies @sparkymcgeee, @untaggablek, @lizabethann06 !!!
@sparkymcgeee I hope Eliza is feeling better soon!
@econmama you're rocking it!
@lancomechica that's ridiculous. I can't stand unorganized or late people
Good morning ladies! We had two wake ups last night but she easily went back to sleep! Thank goodness!! My airplane neck pillow is definitely helping in the MOTN.
@sparkymcgeee Hugs! Hope she is feeling better soon!
That makes 5 boy cousins and 1 girl. She's so outnumbered!
@simone711 heading anywhere fun?
Jadzia was up until 2am. Hoping she stays asleep for a few more hours so I can take a nap.
@sparkymcgeee FX that Eliza gets better soon! Poor pumpkin
And yay for all the good sleepers last night!
Today will be a good day. Today will be a good day. Today will be a good day. Today will be a good day... [-O<
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
I know I have a 15 month old I can pretty much dress as I like, so this will perhaps not be as easy next year. But I am paranoid about keeping LO warm. Who the hell sends their kid out in this weather without gloves/hats to a daycare that is famous for playing outside as much as possible?
I swear if I have to look at another spreadsheet I am going to cry! I am at Brittney level!!
Jk.
My charm and funnies have worn off at this place...
Happy birthday @Silv3rlining!
Insomnia can suck it. I woke up at 2 to pee, then couldn't get back to sleep until about 5. DS was up at 6:30. I'm one sleepy mama today. (:|
She also ate some dirt from a plant today.