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For those of you so new that you don't know the routine, this is a check-in for newer members of the TTCAL Board. Please feel free to use this space to ask those "newbie" questions that feel intimidating to ask on the main board and I will try my best to get you an answer.
**Please don't feel that you have to provide individual feedback to all of the posters ahead of you. Many do and it's great, but it's most definitely not required to be a part of this check-in. I'd just hate to think people might feel intimidated and not post because of this. All posts and responses are welcomed!**
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Finally, if you haven't done so, please post your introduction on the main board including your story.
***If you do not see your name, it’s because you didn’t check in last week, just join in this week and I’ll add you!***
Weekly Update: How are you doing? Post an update including any news, thoughts, or questions - let me know how things are going for you! If you don’t see your name, it’s only because you didn’t check in last week. Feel free to join in this week!
Individual Updates:
@negritosmami—The tree! Must see pics!!!
@LDubHawksFan—How’s the TWW going?
@powerofbacon— How was the hematologist appointment?
@Cheetara2—Didn’t see you check in this week. I hope you’re well!
@Pickles4Prez—Missed you in the check in last week. I hope you're ok
@mkfish31-How are you this week?
@ctk181—How was your vacation?
@king26—How was your vegas party? Are you still in the tww, or has AF shown up?
@nikiswimr—Looks like AF will show any day!
@Mcsarah1104—How are you feeling this week? Also, is that you in your profile pic?
@Flyoffeve—Your chart is crazy! Are you temping at the same time every day? I know my first chart was kinda weird too. How are you feeling this week?
@mustlovedogs63— I’m happy to hear your betas are dropping. Slowly, but still dropping. When do you go back for another draw?
@kyliehopeful—I noticed you updated your siggy. Do you mind me asking what your AMH levels are? I have low amh (.58), but normal FSH at 7.5. I always like talking to other people who are (sort of) in the same boat as I am.
@breaker0506—Missed your check in last week. How are you?
@ChanelA—How’s charting treating you?
@incir —You didn’t check in last week. Anything new going on this week?
@lycih —Any news on the “first sex post o tta” front?
@reginaphilangee—How are you healing up after your fall?
@apgjt413—Any more sexy time? How are you feeling?
@scubadiva30—What’s new this week?
@annabananabom—Are you officially in the TWW?
@gloria1804—How are you this week? I mean to ask you last week, are your betas back to negative?
@off2thefunnyfarm—How are you this week?
@mrsjac1210—Did you get your beta results yet?
@mellymel15—What’s new with you this week?
@mrsoscarfelix—How are you liking charting? How long are your LP’s usually?
@crazycupcake52—Have you O’ed yet this cycle? It’s your first cycle back TTC right? How are you feeling?
@wellybug—How are you feeling this week? FX for a good follow up appointment today! Also, can you note in your siggy that you were previously scott336? Most people might not know who you are
@jordangoodnight—Anything new with you this week?
QOTW -
How do you feel about snow? We live in Ohio, and yesterday I woke up to about 3 inches and it kept on coming down all day (total of 4.5 inches)! But, it totally made me feel like decorating, so I can't complain too much. Andplusalso, we get some amazing pictures like these
Re: ~~TTCAL Newbie Check in 11/18/14~~
@rslh10, thanks for the tag. How are you this week?
I'm doing okay. I've been having good days and bad. I'm cautiously excited about my appointment today. I really just want to get back to some kind of normal and start trying to move on from this experience. I've been sticking with my temping and started taking OPK's. Newbie question: I know that a faint line is considered negative. But does a faint line mean that I might get a positive soon?
Also, FYI, I changed my screen name. I was previously Scout336. My avatar and siggy are all still the same. I haven't been Scout336 for very long, so I'm not going to add a note to my siggy.
QOTW: I love the idea of snow but I live in Texas so I've only seen real snow a handful of times. As fun and pretty as it looks, I'm kinda glad I don't have to live in it.
So far so good with the charting! Sometimes I get a little confused since I am new to it but everyone has been so helpful
QOTW: In general I dislike snow. I like snow for the holdiays Christmas Eve- New Year's Day and then I'm over it. I'm in chicago and last year we got hit bad!! I'm really hoping it's not like that this year. What I really hate more than a thing is the how cold it got yesterday (20F plus the wind ) and is supposed to be today! Burrrrr!
Married 9/13/14
Me: 24 / DH: 24
BFP#1 10/15/14 - EDD 6/19/2014 - MC 10/23/14
BFP #2: 12/18/14 - EDD: 8/31/15 - MC 1/4/14 5w6d
**Currently Benched until TBD**
My Chart
@rslh10 Thanks for the check-in.
Yeah, this chart is all over the place. I am temping when I wake up, during the week that is 5:15 and on the weekend it was 6:00. Is that too much variation for the weekend days?
I hope it is just silly because of this being the first cycle. First AF was really odd and unlike any I have ever had. We'll see what the next few months bring. We were benched for three cycles, so it looks like February when we can try again. I am ok with that. It gives me time to get used to this and my cycles obviously need time to regulate if this chart is any indication.
QOTW: How do you feel about snow?
I like seeing the pictures! I have lived in Florida all my life, so I can count on one hand how many times I have actually experienced snow. Those times were in Germany and it was beautiful and fun. But, I do not want to go outside today and it is 52 degrees!
Me: 31 DH: 36
Dated Since ‘02, Married in ‘06
BFP#1 05/16/06, EDD01/16/07, MC 06/12/06 at 8 weeks
BFP #2 08/14/14, EDD 04/22/15, MC 09/17/14 at 9 weeks
My Chart
@rslh10, I feel like it was about half or a little less as dark as the control line. I took one a few days ago and the test line was totally white, but this one was definitely visible. This is my first cycle since my MC, first time temping, first time doing OPK's...so I'm really trying not to get all hopeful and stuff.
@reginaphilangee, I'm so sorry your DH unloaded on you. I can't imagine how hard that is. I'm glad you're healing well and I hope next month will be better.
(BFP -- not mine-- mentioned)
Ummm, we still haven't had sex yet. We've had family in town, practically non-stop so it just hasn't happened. Gah.
Otherwise, I think AF will be showing up the week of t-giving, so I better get "on it"
My coworker/friend told me she's pregnant, like the morning she got a positive test, and since I've "done this before" she's been barraging me with tons of questions. I'm super happy for her, but it's starting to get old (and it's only been a few days)
As for snow: If it's going to be cold, I'd rather there be snow, too.
::The sudden disappointment of a hope leaves a scar that even the ultimate fullfillment of that hope cannot fully erase:: Thomas Hardy
QOTW: Snow please! All my Facebook friends are enjoying snow and we had a freak storm that raised the temp after sunset to 73, now we are back down to the high 30s...
Me:21 Hubs:23
Married 5/19/12
BFP#1: 6/6/12 EDD: 2/8/13 DS: 2/11/13
BFP#2: 8/18/14 EDD: 4/25/15 MC: 5wks 5days
Holding out hope our firefly will light up our world again!
January TTCAL Siggy Challenge
Me:21 Hubs:23
Married 5/19/12
BFP#1: 6/6/12 EDD: 2/8/13 DS: 2/11/13
BFP#2: 8/18/14 EDD: 4/25/15 MC: 5wks 5days
Holding out hope our firefly will light up our world again!
January TTCAL Siggy Challenge
@wellybug I'm in Oklahoma and we had a couple of inches of snow this week and everyone went nuts. Like abandoning cars on the side of the road Armageddon style nuts. It was pretty though
@MrsOscarFelix I love Chicago but hate it in the winter, I'm sure you are freezing! GL with temping, I always feel less stressed about TTC if I know what my body is doing.
@flyoffeve my cycle is also all over the place post loss.
@reginaphilangee I hope you have a speedy recovery. Sorry the medical stuff has been a strain on you and YH.
@LDubHawksFan good luck at your RE appt on 12/3! Sorry about the BFN
@mustlovedogs63 I'm so sorry all this crap is still going on on your Bday. Hope your beta is down today. I said this over on May but can you talk you Dr into an ultrasound to see what's going on?
@firefly143 welcome! GL this cycle. Getting healthy sounds like a good plan.
@lycih I'm sorry about your coworker bugging you and being insensitive.
@incir glad your body is getting back to normal.
@scubadiva30 sorry shopping for baby things was hard. I totally get that. I've been avoiding those stores like the plague but I picked up an angel tree family for Christmas so looks like I'm going to have to get over it.
@PowerOfBacon I hope your cycles get more regular soon so you can burn the bench! I'm glad you like your new hematologist.
QOTW: I love snow especially if it means skiing! We had a coupe of inches this week and the Goldens had a blast. Seriously happiest dogs alive
@rslh10 - Thanks for the check in! How are you doing? Feeling any better about your procedure on Thurs now that you have some info on what to expect?
@wellybug - GL with your appointment. In my experience with OPKs a faint second line does not really mean anything. I always have a faint second line. They tend to get darker before I get a true positive and then goes back to a faint line. I usually O around CD 13-14 but I start OPKs at CD9 and then line them up on a paper towel (kind of like what @rslh10 suggested) so that I can compare them as I go.
@MrsOscarFelix - I'm glad you started charting. It will get easier as you go! It really helps me because it makes me feel like I have some idea of what is happening with my body! GL! BTW, I'm in Chicago too!
@flyoffeve - My cycles have been pretty weird since my loss as well. I was super regular before and now...not so much. I hope it all sorts itself out soon!
@reginaphilangee - I'm sorry your husband took his frustrations out on you. I think the pressure of TTC is really hard on a relationship. I think it is great that he has agreed to talk to someone, that will definitely help!
@PowerofBacon- I hope your doc is able to give you some answers. FX that you can burn the bench soon!
@TashaCN - I hope AF shows up soon for you! I completely understand how you felt buying baby stuff. I go out of my way at Target or stores like it to avoid the baby section. It is rough. ((Hugs))
@mustlovedogs63 - So many hugs. I'm so sorry you are still going through this, especially on your birthday. I hope it ends for you soon. Happy birthday, I hope you are able to find a way to enjoy it!
@incir - Hope you had a great vacation! GL at your appointment. I hope your midwife is able to give you a good answer.
@lycih - I'm sorry about your co-worker. Hope you and your H find time to HIO.
@firefly143 - Welcome to the check-in! I hope your H is able to get home soon!
@LDubHawksFan - Sorry about the BFN ((hugs)). GL at your RE appointment!
AFM, had an amazing vacation in Southern California last week! We had such a great time and we are now seriously trying to figure out a way to move out there. Not sure if it will ever happen but for now it is our dream. Coming back to cold, snowy Chicago has been no fun. It is god damn 14 degrees today! UGH! Anyway, now I'm just waiting to O but I'm not feeling very hopeful about this cycle because once again my H and I are working opposite schedules this week and will have like no time together to DTD. It is so frustrating. I told my H that I should O this week so we should HIO as much as possible but he hates the pressure of TTC and sometimes it causes problems with actually getting the job done. Combine that with the fact that we only have maybe an hour a day together and I just don't know how much sex we will actually get in before I O. Since yesterday I've just been feeling really frustrated and hopeless about TTC and I just want to give up (and this is only my second TTC cycle since my loss!). Anyway, sorry for my rant. Hugs to all of you ladies. Hope you all have a good week!
QOTW -Me and snow do not get along. I hate the cold and the snow that comes with it. That is a HUGE part of why we want to go to move to a warmer climate. My H and I both hate winter! It's already snowing here and I'm NOT ready!
@ctk181, thank you. I told myself this morning that a faint positive =\= a positive. But I'm still questioning it. I need to keep my head straight. Glad you had a good vacation!
DH is in the military. I'm using OPKS. I did an intro the other night. What is a siggy? How do I add it? Joining this board has been very positive for me.
Me:21 Hubs:23
Married 5/19/12
BFP#1: 6/6/12 EDD: 2/8/13 DS: 2/11/13
BFP#2: 8/18/14 EDD: 4/25/15 MC: 5wks 5days
Holding out hope our firefly will light up our world again!
January TTCAL Siggy Challenge
Howdy y'all, I am new to the board, so I hope its ok that I jump in here. I guess things are going ok. I am on CD5 of my 2nd cycle post MC. I am doing a bit better now, but when AF showed up a few days ago, I was really bummed out. I know that I shouldn't have had my hopes up since it was our first cycle trying since the MC, but I felt like our timing was good, so who knows. Oh well, here is to hoping for the next cycle.
@agpjt413 - It sucks waiting for CD1 post MC. It took me 10 weeks between my MC and AF to finally arrive. Hang in there, and hopefully yours comes sooner than that.
QOTW - I like visiting places with snow for vacation (like snowboarding), but as a native Texan, I can't even imagine living in it every day! I don't think I would be a fan of shoveling snow!
Me:30 - DH:30 - Married 26.Apr.2008
Start TTC 14.May.2014
BFP:23.Jun.14 - ED:14.Mar.14 - MMC found 29.Jul.14 - NMC:8.Aug.14
CD1 AL:15.Oct.14
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/4f355e
QOTW- I hate snow. I live in Maryland but totally hate it. This morning it was 14 degrees with windchill of -1 and it was miserable.
@flyoffeve I always say if you are within an hour when temping you should be ok. My temps were crazy this month too. I think it might be because my body is still regulating itself.