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lupineaura
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Please, tell me about the joys.
lupineaura
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Hi everyone,
First of all I've really been enjoying this board. It's helped me a lot ever since I saw those two little blips on the ultrasound.
Like a lot of mothers expecting twins I've been doing a lot of research, reading, and when I can, talking to people with twin experience.
Overall, the results of my efforts have been kind of disheartening. I keep hearing about how I will get no sleep, how expensive it will be, how hard the pregnancy will be, how crazy my life will become, and basically, how incredibly difficult the whole experience is. When people hear I already have a toddler, it just gets worse. Sure, people tell me it's "twice for joy" but I don't seem to get the same concrete examples as I get when people talk about the downsides.
I understand the importance of being prepared about the reality of having twins. I'm hoping the fact that I already do have a child has somewhat prepared me for the reality of parenting a newborn in general. But I have to admit, I'm feeling more scared than excited. I thought I would feel better as I adjusted, but like I said, it seems the research I've been doing has mostly confirming my negative expectations.
So I'm guess I'm asking for the bright side. I know that's a little naïve, but like I said, I feel pretty prepared for the challenges. Please give me some things to look forward to :-)
First of all I've really been enjoying this board. It's helped me a lot ever since I saw those two little blips on the ultrasound.
Like a lot of mothers expecting twins I've been doing a lot of research, reading, and when I can, talking to people with twin experience.
Overall, the results of my efforts have been kind of disheartening. I keep hearing about how I will get no sleep, how expensive it will be, how hard the pregnancy will be, how crazy my life will become, and basically, how incredibly difficult the whole experience is. When people hear I already have a toddler, it just gets worse. Sure, people tell me it's "twice for joy" but I don't seem to get the same concrete examples as I get when people talk about the downsides.
I understand the importance of being prepared about the reality of having twins. I'm hoping the fact that I already do have a child has somewhat prepared me for the reality of parenting a newborn in general. But I have to admit, I'm feeling more scared than excited. I thought I would feel better as I adjusted, but like I said, it seems the research I've been doing has mostly confirming my negative expectations.
So I'm guess I'm asking for the bright side. I know that's a little naïve, but like I said, I feel pretty prepared for the challenges. Please give me some things to look forward to :-)
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Re: Please, tell me about the joys.
Plus parenting two helps you to feel like super mom!
I will also say having two doesn't have to be craxy expensive. We cloth diaper, breastfeed, and take as many hand me down clothes and toys as we are offered. It has kept costs way down. Plus it means I can save the clothing budget for adorable coordinating outfits!
All babies are tough and bring stress. Twins are tougher with more stress at times, yes. But we are all double blessed! How lucky are we??
Baby Boy #1 born 1/15/2010
Babies #2 & #3 arriving Spring 2014 (EDD June 18)
At 15 months, they play very well together, though they fight as well. They spent a night apart and they missed each other so much. DD was searching my mom's house for her brother most of the night.
There is so much laughter and love in the house with two. They both fight over my lap and I almost always have one of them snuggled up with me.
We went on a double date this weekend: father/daughter and mother/son. It was nice to be able to go on a "date" like that and watch them interact across the table.
Baby Boy #1 born 1/15/2010
Babies #2 & #3 arriving Spring 2014 (EDD June 18)
He carries around my flanges on his chest and says "I pump milk"
He kisses the babies on the forehead
If they cry he tries to shhhh them
He likes to help with diaper changes
He sometimes will help hold a bottle during feedings