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August 2014 Moms
UO Thursday
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Re: UO Thursday
You're crazy. Pumping is...
Ugh! I just don't like that it's expected. I got a hair cut one time and it was like $50 and I gave her 3 $20s. She asked if I needed change. I'm like yes please. All of it. Then if I want to tip you, I will!
I don't think that by having other people watch your baby for x hours a day you are creating unhealthy humans. I think staying home with your baby is great if you want to and are able to but I refuse to believe that because you send your child to daycare you fucked them up for life. I certainly hope we are more resilient than that.
ETA I think obsessing about our children having everything they could ever wish for and more and giving them the impression they are perfect and can do no wrong is way more scary.
That being said, she needs to stop with these type of photos to the public now that she is a mom.
I can eat a whole costco pumpkin pie though!
I had mastitis and it felt like the flu plus pain with pumping. I made it through but it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be, pregnancy was worse! The worst part was the diarrhea I got from the antibiotics! Haha
One should at least have 1 months pay or expenses held back.. plus some. If you don't then I don't know how you could even afford a LO....
I don't think we are entitled to leave because we CHOOSE to have children. We choose to financially take on another person.
Do I think paid maternity leave for six weeks would be awesome? Hell yes! But I do not think we are entitled to it because we chose to have a child.
Eta: Christmas lights with music for your viewing pleasure:
Baby Boy due October 2017
I'm in the camp of that the government is not responsible for taking care of you on that level. Would it be nice to have a longer leave where I don't need to worry about my job and getting paid? Abso-frikin-lutley. Am I going to ask other people to take care of me via gov't hand outs? Nope. It's not your job to take care of me. That's my job. Do people run into crazy life situations that drain them physically and financially and they need help? You bet they do and I want to and will do what is in my abilities to help.
I also agree that people should save up some money before going on leave or disability. After living so long with out any savings that now I can't imagine not having some money to fall back on. I'm a Dave Ramsey fan so I like to wave the financial responsibility flag wherever I can.
The question I would like to have answered is why families can no longer live on one income? Why are taxes so high and why does healthcare cost so much? I don't think there is any one correct answer to it, but I hope that we (as a nation) can work it out sooner than later.
Regarding instituting mandatory parental leave, certainly we should follow the example of countries like Canada by financing it through payroll deductions, not through employers. Hopefully this would make some feel better about no one getting something for nothing or burdening the job creators.
I can't wait until DD can sit up on her own and we can do more things together. Right now I just feel like I'm talking and playing by myself all day.
Hah, my DH hates it too! He's a Canes fan also.
They're more traditional it seems like, I still stand behind my opinion lol I love me all the guitar action!
Why can't it be both?
Personal attacks (like those directed at babym or the "screw you" directed toward me) are really not useful and don't contribute to the discussion. And I think I should add that someone isn't ignorant just because they disagree with you...it's that kind of mindset that leads to the stalemate in this country.
@zoegirlTX you're awesome.
I have two sisters who don't work, but continue to have children they cannot afford because they know they get more government help! I shouldn't say that...I know they love their children. But it makes me SICK knowing my sister who had a baby 3 days ago was really thinking about the $14,000 tax return she's going to get next year because of her 3 children and he husband is the only one working! (Hence my comment yesterday about seeing Medicaid and other systems being abused...)
I have a BACHELORS degree but can't find a job with my degree because I'm over-qualified by living in small town Nebraska. So I work for $9.50 an hour as an office assistant. I make LESS IN A YEAR working full time than my sister is given for popping out more children, yet I'll be lucky to receive $1000 return for having my daughter because my husband and I are in a higher tax bracket because we both work.
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@zoegirlTX well-said, thank you!
My son was born at 36 weeks and we had a shitstorm of issues (tongue and lip tie, me not producing enough due to hypothyroidism and early delivery, etc.) leading to me having to quit breastfeeding after one month.... my friend donated a month's worth of HER frozen breastmilk to me. And I fed it to him. I will do it again in a heartbeat.
ETA: I wouldn't have a problem with her feeding him from the tap either.
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I didn't mean for this to apply to donated BM.
I feel like there is a big difference using donated BM because you need to and having your BFF breastfeed your baby because you have to run to the store (or gather berries or whatever). Using donor BM is a wonderful option for babies and mothers that need to. I wish I could donate myself although I don't think I would personally be OK with the "from tap" option from either side of the issue (me giving or my baby receiving) - that's just me though. But baby actually nursing with 3-4 different women for the sake of convenience? Not for me.
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