Do you follow your mother's footsteps?

saralynn91 · November 2014

I am sorry if this may be a stupid question, but STM+ have your pregnancy/ies ever been similiar to your mother's?
I know every pregnancy is different, but so far it seems my symptoms fall in line with what my mother went through with my siblings and I, and she shared today that she didn't need to use drugs with labor because her contractions were only as bad as menstraul cramps.
I am hoping beyond hope that I may go through the same type of labor that she experienced. (Granted there's no risks/complications)

tinalovescauliflower · November 2014

Nope. My mom's two pregnancies were similar to one another. Mine is nothing like either of those!

Gatorsgirl731 · November 2014

Actually yes. But not in pregnancy as a whole. The only similarities were my brother and DS were both long difficult deliveries we both had epi's. Me and DD were slip and slide babies that came fast. It was total coincidence. Try not to get too wrapped up in other peoples deliveries, take any advice you can but don't let them scare you or give you too much hope.

poteetpartyof3 · November 2014

I'm hoping that I'm like my mom and don't go past 36 weeks. With six babies none of them made it past 36 weeks and have all turned into functional (well somewhat) members of society.

littlecookie · November 2014

Nope. My pregnancies have not been identical to each other or my mom's.

There's a pregnant woman at my job whose mother went into labor with "normal sized" babies at 34-35 weeks. She was expecting that and has been complaining that baby is being stubborn for not being out already at 37. Don't be surprised if your contractions are stronger/more painful.

willadieselstm · November 2014

My mother had very healthy pregnancies, and thus far neither of mine have been. I have had complications most of the way the first time, and seem to falling in line with that again this time.

However, when I open my mouth my mother comes out most of the time. Ha. SO in life yes... just not in pregnancy.

josim · November 2014

So far, my pregnancy has been identical to all 3 of my mom's. I'm hoping that my delivery and nursing will be the same too, but that came with post partum depression....so we'll see!

jenari2013 · November 2014

My mom threw up once in three pregnancies. She also compared labour to "butterflies in her stomach." One of the first things I said to her once I was in labour with DD was that it didn't fucking feel like butterflies. Lol.

The only thing our pregnancies had in common was quick labour - I went from 2 to 8 cms in less than an hour. The doctor didn't make it for any of my moms deliveries - we were all delivered by interns.

ashmichelle208 · November 2014

No, my mother had easy simple deliveries and didn't even use meds. And she never even had any problems like high BP or anything..I'm completely opposite. I don't think anyone's labor can be the same even if it is your mother. I wish!

Nita2603 · November 2014

Not at all. I was a 26w preemie and thankfully, both of mine were term.

tiggyt · November 2014

Yep, my first trimester has been very similar to all three of my mom's. Fatigue, no morning sickness, but a huge aversion to coffee. She had bearable natural childbirths with all three of us (not by choice - she wanted the epidural but couldn't ever get it because they used to wait until you were 4cm to give it and she jumped from 4-10 in under an hour all three times). I'm hoping my labor and delivery is similar to hers, but I'm also really hoping I don't get preeclampsia like she had with her second pregnancy.

jenanns · November 2014

poteetpartyof3 said:
I'm hoping that I'm like my mom and don't go past 36 weeks. With six babies none of them made it past 36 weeks and have all turned into functional (well somewhat) members of society.

My sister had two premies what they went through brings tears to my eyes NICU is not fun. Maybe you don't really realize what your asking for....as others have said it is way better for baby to stay put and continue final development of lungs etc.

Pintobean39 · November 2014

veenie2009 said:

GFJ48 said:

poteetpartyof3 said:

I'm hoping that I'm like my mom and don't go past 36 weeks. With six babies none of them made it past 36 weeks and have all turned into functional (well somewhat) members of society.

Wait. You're hoping for a preemie?

I was wondering why everyone was letting this go!

I actually had to read it a few times. I've heard ppl say a week or 2 early but this is the first time I've ever heard anyone say 4 weeks. I thought I was misreading this because who in their right mind hopes for a preemie?

Back to my FFFC ..... This poor next generation doesn't stand a chance.

saralynn91 · November 2014

Thanks for the responses ladies, I knew it was a slim chance but hey, who doesn't wish for a minimally painful, fast delivery?
I'm just having a tough time with the unknown, and now I have crazy dreams about labor and delivery which puts it on my mind all the more!
But I will have to wait and see!

MallyJM128 · November 2014

My mom says she felt amazing pregnant..she had very little morning sickness and apparently her body loved all the extra hormones. She would've had 7 kids if they could have afforded it. I puked nearly everyday with DS and have been off and on sick with this baby.

She also had 8lb+ babies (my bro was 9.9) and DS was 5lb6oz (2 weeks early but still he wouldn't have been close to 8lb). I had to be induced and went through 27 hours of labor. All of her deliveries went fast..she didn't haven't time for an epidural with my sister. So no unfortunately I'm not following her so far..wouldn't mind a fast delivery this go round.

MrsKindy40 · November 2014

My mom and I both got married in the same weekend in May but 30 years apart. And then we both had our first babies (both boys) 30 years apart in January. We both had (are having) girls second.

She had a 7 hour labor with her first and a 3 hour labor with me. Wish that would have been similar to me since I had a 24 hour labor with my son. I hope the next baby is more similar to her second labor!

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tinalovescauliflower · November 2014

I'm also coming back to this thread and thinking who the hell would wish for a preterm baby? Because I may have cholestasis I am facing the possibility of being REQUIRED to deliver at 35/36 weeks and it terrifies me. I want the little one to develop as long as humanly possible.

Sarahbmcd · November 2014

Im a FTM but thank God I'm nothing like my mom. She had HG with both my brother and me. It was before they knew what it was. She was in the hospital 18 times with my brother, and 22 with me. Drs tried to get her abort us. She almost died with me twice. She wanted 6 kids but Fortunately stopped at two. We were both born happy and healthy and almost 9 lbs. She only gained 10 lbs each pregnancy bc she was getting sick 30-40 times a day.

It gives me do much appreciation for what she went through. I've gotten sick maybe a total of 7 times and I'm such a big baby.

kaynix21 · November 2014

I'm a FTM but so far no. My mom said the only thing she said she ever had was fatigue.

I've had fatigue, sore bbs, const, nausea, etc.

Ballet80 · November 2014

So far yes. Both mine and my moms downstairs started swelling up a little about a week after getting pregnant and we both get our MS at night. If I stay on track with her I will deliver a week after my due date which will put me in June and might get gestational diabetes. She also had extrmely long labor for both me and my brother, hopefully I won't have that part.

Snapdragon750 · November 2014

Yes, my mom had pretty easy pregnancies and complication-free natural births for all 3 of us, and so far it was the same for my other 2.

Also I am going to assume that the lady hoping for a preemie just doesn't realize that 36 weeks is a preemie. Because seriously???

dhookland · November 2014

I agree. Your looking at a 36 week baby who is probably going to have difficulty breastfeeding, regulating body temperature and blood glucose levels. Also the size of a babies brain doubles from 35 weeks to 40 weeks. You should hope to carry a baby to term so all of it's organs are properly developed and you have a happier healthier baby.

beaseg · November 2014

Unfortunately yes, they are. In the first, we were both very sick in the first tri, then had normal pregnancies and fast deliveries. So far in the second, we've both bled early and been put on bed rest. Her delivery of my brother was 90 minutes (from the moment labor started til he was born) and she delivered him at 35 weeks, so I'm hoping I don't follow her footsteps there. I plan to do all I can to keep my cervix long and closed for as long as possible.

With my first, I wanted her to come at 37 weeks. I was drinking red raspberry tea, having sex, walking, etc. I just didn't understand the importance of those last few weeks. Luckily, she came full term. Now that she's here, I have a much better understanding of the importance those last few weeks hold. I think some FTMs (myself included) are just super anxious to meet the baby and start motherhood, and some even have more pressing issues like a dh that's deploying or things like that. It's really hard, but if you can keep your baby til 40 weeks (or even more), please try to do so. Some women can't.

lindsey85d · November 2014

STM here and this pregnancy couldn't be more different!

abethany · November 2014

Unfortunately my mom has passed away, so I am not having the opportunity to sit with her while she reminisces about her pregnancies. I am the third of four children and I know she really loved being pregnant - she said that's why there are so many of us. My dad says she had very easy and enjoyable pregnancies. I was her first c-section and she did develop preclampsia with my little brother who was born premature.

I don't know much - which is part of why I have really enjoyed documenting everything in my pregnancy journal. This whole experience over the last few months has really made missing her a lot harder.

Anyone else missing their mom too?

vballgirl78 · November 2014

poteetpartyof3 said:
I'm hoping that I'm like my mom and don't go past 36 weeks. With six babies none of them made it past 36 weeks and have all turned into functional (well somewhat) members of society.

What? Why would you wish for a premie? My DD was born at 36 weeks, 6 days and while she ended up being perfectly healthy she needed all kinds of extra tests at the hospital which put us all under extra stress. I seriously can't understand why someone would wish for a premie. You may want to educate yourself a bit more on this topic!

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