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  • MalVoughMalVough member
    FrecklesInside said:

    MalVough said:

    FrecklesInside said:

    MalVough said:

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    MalVough said:

    FrecklesInside said:

    For a lot of these I want to be that bitch that is like "welcome to motherhood! You think you're tired or don't have your own space now??? Before baby is here?" but I know that's obnoxious. I can't really play this game as a STM, and I'd share what I didn't realize until I was a parent, but honestly, I can think of more awesome things than not awesome things and I know I'll sound like the cliche life as a mom is a miracle...so...I'll just say that despite the things you miss, you gain so much and it is fucking amazing.

    Despite our complaints, I'm pretty confident in saying all of us agree that this crap will immediately be forgotten once the LOs arrive.

    I think pregnancy and all that goes with it takes a lot of women by surprise. It's not all butterflies and rainbows like the media insists on portraying. But I don't think for a minute the ladies on this BMB have lost sight of the ultimate reward.

    But while we're still baking and impatiently waiting for March to get here, I don't think there's anything wrong with commiserating with each other, as long as it stays lighthearted.
    Where did you read that I have a problem with this?? I didn't say there was a problem commiserating, I'm just commenting on how different it all feels as a STM, also a valid thing for me to discuss. Calm down. I don't have a problem with the thread.

    My comment wasn't directed about what you will learn once baby is here, but rather at the joy I experience being a mom. Sorry you misread my tone.
    A bit testy today, are we?

    I thought my post was well mannered. There were no expletives, capitalizations or exclamation points.

    I wasn't necessarily bashing you but, perhaps, defending myself a tad. I don't want to be made to feel guilty for commiserating and having a good laugh.

    I know how fucking amazing the end result and all that goes with it will be, but thanks for the extremely obvious reminder.

    The only other pregnant woman around me is my SIL and she's had a COMPLETELY different pregnancy than me. Hard to bond when you can't relate to each other's experiences.
    Uh, nope, not testy, but thanks for checking on me. There was nothing to defend yourself over, that was my point. I didn't use caps, expletives or exclamation points either. What are you getting at? Such a weird reaction...I'll say it again, calm down.
    Moving on... *yawn*... I'm bored with you.
    Oh. Cute. Feeling is mutual, sweetheart.
    Peledreamsofrain said:

    MalVough said:

    FrecklesInside said:

    MalVough said:

    FrecklesInside said:

    MalVough said:

    FrecklesInside said:

    For a lot of these I want to be that bitch that is like "welcome to motherhood! You think you're tired or don't have your own space now??? Before baby is here?" but I know that's obnoxious. I can't really play this game as a STM, and I'd share what I didn't realize until I was a parent, but honestly, I can think of more awesome things than not awesome things and I know I'll sound like the cliche life as a mom is a miracle...so...I'll just say that despite the things you miss, you gain so much and it is fucking amazing.

    Despite our complaints, I'm pretty confident in saying all of us agree that this crap will immediately be forgotten once the LOs arrive.

    I think pregnancy and all that goes with it takes a lot of women by surprise. It's not all butterflies and rainbows like the media insists on portraying. But I don't think for a minute the ladies on this BMB have lost sight of the ultimate reward.

    But while we're still baking and impatiently waiting for March to get here, I don't think there's anything wrong with commiserating with each other, as long as it stays lighthearted.
    Where did you read that I have a problem with this?? I didn't say there was a problem commiserating, I'm just commenting on how different it all feels as a STM, also a valid thing for me to discuss. Calm down. I don't have a problem with the thread.

    My comment wasn't directed about what you will learn once baby is here, but rather at the joy I experience being a mom. Sorry you misread my tone.
    A bit testy today, are we?

    I thought my post was well mannered. There were no expletives, capitalizations or exclamation points.

    I wasn't necessarily bashing you but, perhaps, defending myself a tad. I don't want to be made to feel guilty for commiserating and having a good laugh.

    I know how fucking amazing the end result and all that goes with it will be, but thanks for the extremely obvious reminder.

    The only other pregnant woman around me is my SIL and she's had a COMPLETELY different pregnancy than me. Hard to bond when you can't relate to each other's experiences.
    Uh, nope, not testy, but thanks for checking on me. There was nothing to defend yourself over, that was my point. I didn't use caps, expletives or exclamation points either. What are you getting at? Such a weird reaction...I'll say it again, calm down.
    Moving on... *yawn*... I'm bored with you.
    This is a seriously bitchy and childish remark over what was clearly just a misunderstanding.

    Ok.
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  • suzyq0525suzyq0525 member
    janda426 said:
    Dafuq?
    My thoughts exactly.

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  • lib1974lib1974 member
    Peledreamsofrain said:

    Let's see....

    I miss being me. I don't feel like I am myself, and I really get bummed about it. Even little things that were always status quo have been changed and I'm struggling to catch up and figure out who I am again.

    I want to decide when I go to the bathroom, what I eat, when I eat, when I sleep, what I wear, what my favorite foods are, how I sit, how I sleep, what I drink, and all sorts of other things. I feel like I've been crammed into another person's body. Nothing belongs to me anymore.

    This. Ugh.
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  • lib1974lib1974 member
    edited November 2014
    I have just started to feel like I am missing things. I am having a hard week, physically and mentally so the awareness is more prevalent. My list will consist of a lot of what has already been mentioned so no need to go through it. Just like @peldreamsofrain said, it's more so the overall loss of identity. Yes this is what I signed up for but I wasn't expecting it to hit so hard all of a sudden.
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  • sunset30sunset30 member
    I never realized how much more cautious I would be. I feel like I am so much more aware of my surroundings and not taking unnecessary risks. Sketchy looking people waiting for the subway/ in public freak me out, I wait for the go light at the cross walk instead of running across when there is a break in traffic, etc. Even things like my running pace I am much more careful about now that I am responsible for someone else. Never thought I took unnecessary risks or lived dangerously before but now I'm way more conscious.

    That and booze- I miss having a few beers or glasses of wine after a long week!
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  • Christina80xoxoChristina80xoxo member
    edited November 2014
    I miss sleeping through the night without having to pee, my ankles not being swollen , beer and mimosas :)


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  • drudolph11drudolph11 member
    happymamax2 said:

    I will say one thing I can honestly say I do miss about pre pregnancy.... when my boobs weren't able to touch my stomach! Ahhhh

    Bahaha i noticed mine doing this the other day haha i stood up immediately and made them stop touching!
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  • cinderella105cinderella105 member
    I miss not having to fart after everything I eat. Lol. Seriously this gas is insane...

    I miss having energy and motivation. I swear I have no motivation for anything but laying in bed, so that makes for my time at work and school really shitty. I miss enjoying things.

    I REALLY miss drinking. Like taking shots, or having cocktails, or having beers. I miss my social life.

    But like pp's have said, being a mom is so worth it. My 2 that I have fill my heart and happiness and I can't wait to have a brand new baby again! I am very looking forward to my un-pregnant body though.. Lol
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  • salmphilsalmphil member
    drudolph11 said:

    happymamax2 said:

    I will say one thing I can honestly say I do miss about pre pregnancy.... when my boobs weren't able to touch my stomach! Ahhhh

    Bahaha i noticed mine doing this the other day haha i stood up immediately and made them stop touching!
    Omfg I love you two for saying what I've recently mentally noted in shock. I barely had boobs before and wow. Just. Wow.
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  • jack12tripjack12trip member
    I miss being able to go quickly up a flight of stairs without feeling short of breath.

    Stairs, man.

    Probably won't get any easier while holding LO. :-)
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  • jess412lovejess412love member
    Even though I'm a STM, there are parts of pregnancy that I just simply forgot about. I will say for me personally giving up all my meds that I normally am on is probably the toughest. But it's worth it in the end, still hard to function without though.
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  • kateluke2014kateluke2014 member
    I miss taking showers or a nice long bath before I was pregnant. Now I have to take speed showers :)
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  • CoozieInMyPurseCoozieInMyPurse member
    kateluke2014 said:

    I miss taking showers or a nice long bath before I was pregnant. Now I have to take speed showers :)

    Why do you have to take speed showers?
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  • JCWhiteyJCWhitey member
    Being a size 2.  Given that actually went away a few years before I got pregnant there was always that thought that I *could* get back there if I tried.  Now, no way.  Hips, thighs, and a butt later those things would maybe make it up to my knees!

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  • lilyrose27lilyrose27 member
    KT416 said:

    I miss sleeping through the night without any pee breaks.

    This!!
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  • JenLa21JenLa21 member
    I am exhausted! I was tired during my first pregnancy, but once I hit 2nd tri, I was a new woman! Not this time. I am so tired all the time? It's hard being pregnant with a toddler. That's the hardest part for me.
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  • DragonflyDreamingDragonflyDreaming member
    edited November 2014
    meladoriestar said:

    I didn't appreciate how nice it is to have your body to yourself. I also didn't know how emotionally tough pregnancy can be even without pgal issues.

    (I'm really struggling with having to be careful of my movements. I'm usually fairly careless, hop around, stretch, flop in and out of bed, etc... Now I have to constantly watch what I do to make sure I don't risk hurting the baby. No more flopping into bed full weight on my tummy. No more walking downstairs like a normal person -last week I fell down the stairs and spent all day in L&D. And for once, I actually want to exercise but I'm on restricted activity and can't).

    I've been having a hard time keeping up with threads lately and must have missed this! I am so sorry. I hope you are feeling better and have a speedy recovery. I'm glad that everything seems to be ok at the moment, even if bed rest is required.
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  • DragonflyDreamingDragonflyDreaming member
    I'm not going to lie, I miss the freedom and ability to be selfish, my independence. I miss being able to go up in a hot air balloon at a whim, travel without having to worry about getting a note from the doctor, the ability of spontaneity with activities and trying new things, hot baths, hot tubs, and the ability to go into hot/thermal springs. Mostly, at the moment, I miss sleeping flat on my belly. I still belly sleep, but it's a weird style that is not as good. And sleep ... definitely miss a solid sleep!

    So many things i agree with on PP! Add all of that in as well. :)
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  • kcbizmekcbizme member
    D. All of the above.

    I actually had this conversation with SO last week. I told him if someone were to ask me what I miss most about not being pregnant, I know what I would say. I MISS POOPING.

    I also took sleep so much for granted. And being able to sleep on my back. That is my most difficult issue right now. I actually shoved a pillow under me last night so I could have some semblance of sleeping on my back and I woke up with my arm tucked behind my shoulder and completely numb. It was amazing.
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