Hi PGAL.
I've lurked over here a little since my last loss since I was hoping to 'graduate' from TTCAL before long. I have two kids, both school-age, and a very depressing history of losses due to PCOS and low progesterone. My last loss was in September and was another CP so it was safe to try again right after. I just started getting BFPs today (12 DPO) so I'm still very nervous. My EDD would be 2015-07-14, though I'd probably be delivered before then.
My plan is not even to tell my husband for a couple weeks. He doesn't even know I had a confirmed O this cycle, and I'm so irregular he won't notice AF being late. The last loss was really hard on him and I don't want to get his hopes up if we just have another CP.
This was our last cycle TTC until next year, since the timing wouldn't work otherwise. I'm currently in university, hopefully starting a professional program next year, and won't be able to defer an acceptance if I get in. We really wanted a third child so agreed we'd try, so long as I'm due between academic years.
Right now, I just HAD to tell someone, and it seemed best to talk to people who know what this horrible, stomach-churning mix of abject terror and absolute joy is like.
I hope I'll be welcome here, and I hope to get to know you all.
K
~ K.
PCOS, EDS III, low progesterone.
Six early losses (5-8 weeks,) 1 twin loss.
Surprise natural BFP 2014-12-17 Ectopic dx and MTX 2015-01-02.
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PCOS, EDS III, low progesterone. Six early losses (5-8 weeks,) 1 twin loss. Surprise natural BFP 2014-12-17 Ectopic dx and MTX 2015-01-02.
I agree with all of the PPs, you need to tell your husband now. I think my h would truly be heartbroken if I kept it from him, regardless the reason. And I am a huge blabber mouth so I would probably blurt it out after three hours anyhow!
Married August 2003
I have lost 5 early pregnancies, plus my youngest's twin. This is a road we've been down many times before so I'm respecting that he'd rather not know.
PCOS, EDS III, low progesterone. Six early losses (5-8 weeks,) 1 twin loss. Surprise natural BFP 2014-12-17 Ectopic dx and MTX 2015-01-02.
Started TTC Nov. 2011
1st clomid cycle June 2012- No response :: HSG August 2012- Left tube blocked, right tube clear :: 2nd clomid cycle Aug. 2012 BFN :: 3rd clomid cycle Sept. 2012 :: BFP Sept 30th :: DS born 6/15/13 :: BFP #2 7/29/14 M/C 8/5/14 :: BFP#3 10/20/14 DD born 7/1/2015 :: Applied to be surrogate April '17 :: Transferred 1 Embryo for IFs Dec. '17 :: Surro Babe born 9/11/18 :: Started 2nd Journey May '19 :: Transferred 1 Embryo for new IFs 9/24/19 :: HB 138 at 6w6d
PCOS, EDS III, low progesterone. Six early losses (5-8 weeks,) 1 twin loss. Surprise natural BFP 2014-12-17 Ectopic dx and MTX 2015-01-02.
TTC since Sept 2011, Unexplained IF
Oct 12 - Jan 14: 3 clomid/TI cycles, 2 hysteroscopies, 2 IUIs, 1 BFP (MMC @ 12w), 2 more IUIs
Feb 14: Gonal-f + IUI #5 = BFP! (EDD 11/4/14)
Baby boy arrived 11/13/14!
***Losses mentioned.*** TTC #1 since May 2012. Me: 37, OH: 41. Ectopic August 2012 => tubal damage. Stage 1 endo removed June 2013. IVF #1 Oct/Nov 2013: Long Lupron with Gonal-F. 7R, 7M, 7F. 2 txfer@3d. Nothing frozen. => M/C @ 8 wks. Selected RPL panel all normal. Very hyper and brittle response to stims. IVF #2 (antagonist protocol) Feb 2014 => Converted to IUI (Perfect conditions). BFN. IVF #2.1 w/ new RE June 2014: Antagonist protocol. 33R, 31M, 30F, 19 blasts to test!!! I made it through without crashing!! Hats off to Dr. Fancypants!! ET of one 5AB blast. BFN. 13 10 CCS'ed snowflakes! FET #1 PUPO as of 7/29 Betas: 8/7@24, 8/9@97, 8/11@334 (etc.) Two sacs on 8/15, one seen on 8/18 after a bleed. U/s 8/25 (6+3) "perfect": 5.9 mm + HB@120bpm! U/s 9/4 (7+6): 15.9 mm + HB@172 bpm! Please, PLEASE stick this time!!!!
So are you not going to tell your H if you have another loss? Just hide it from him completely? This rationale makes no sense to me. It's his baby too. From your earlier response, he said he wished you wouldn't test so early....but you DID test so that negates that opinion.
Married 12/18/2010 BFP#1 4/1/14 MC 5/6/14 D&C 5/13/14 BFP#2 10/5/14
My husband has expressed to me that he'd rather not know about CPs (realize I didn't make that very clear, sorry!) when we discussed it and I am respecting that. While I realize this is different than what most would do, I don't need any of you to understand it or agree with my decision to delay telling him. It's not like I'm planning to not tell him, I'm waiting a couple of weeks so that I can both surprise him (if things go well, centre myself before telling him if they don't) and avoid having to drag him through the roller coaster of uncertainty with me which, again, is seething he has expressed a wish not to do.
@justanotherphotographer Yay! I agree, we should both stick around here!
PCOS, EDS III, low progesterone. Six early losses (5-8 weeks,) 1 twin loss. Surprise natural BFP 2014-12-17 Ectopic dx and MTX 2015-01-02.
My plan is not even to tell my husband for a couple weeks. He doesn't even know I had a confirmed O this cycle, and I'm so irregular he won't notice AF being late. The last loss was really hard on him and I don't want to get his hopes up if we just have another CP.
You are entitled to your fucked up logic.
This baby you are pg with is half his. You need to tell him. I don't think it's your choice not to let him know. I couldn't imagine if something did happen and my H had no idea we were even expecting. I strongly believe this is not ok.
Congrats on your pg, op. I wish you the best.
THE DARK SIDE IT IS
and GBCB
BFP 8/2/12 EDD 4/9/13 Addie was delivered 1/4/13 at 26 weeks due to Eclampsia
BFP 9/15/14 EDD 5/28/15 Please be our R A I N B O W take home baby BOY
~All AL always welcome~