What's with all the negativity?!?!

Trampslikeus · November 2014

......

I thought you were leaving?

I'm a first timer, and I have felt nothing but welcome here and received a lot of great advice. Don't speak for people who haven't ask you to speak for them. Thanks.

KikiCohen · November 2014

Wow.... I thought it was too early to make a bingo card, but I guess not!

Trampslikeus · November 2014

@kikicohen - haha - the bingo was a lot more fun in TTGP when I had a jack and coke or a beer in my hand.

wtbratcher · November 2014

Not my terms, just a quote from one of your team members.

ChrisLipstick · November 2014

Thank you @wtbratcher‌! I am all for some respectful debate, but I have also been unhappy by the tone some of the posts have been taking. Let's try to be more polite and supportive!

nicperdue · November 2014

ac5008 said:

nicperdue said:

Most of the nasty remarks I have read are from posters that are trying to be cute or gather a following to like their witty sarcastic remarks. I would take them with a grain of salt and remember that a group of strangers should not have any bearing on your well-being.

This is exactly what I was doing. Does anyone want to be in my witty sarcastic remark following?

No, but that's cute.

Trampslikeus · November 2014

we've gone from bullies, to a "click" to a cult of witty sarcastic super-tryers in a matter of hours. This is all very exciting!

housewifebecomesher · November 2014

I guess the quiet, crazy-free J15 couldn't last forever ladies. Thanks for the entertainment today!

mch6115 · November 2014

1. When I downloaded this app the reviews about the community were really negative. I downloaded anyway mainly to compare me baby to fruit sizes, haha.

2. I know people will jump on me for this but the posts I see repeated most are the scariest/saddest: the goodbyes and loss posts. Consolidating those would be nice bc it scares the shit out if most of us I'm sure.

blastocarrier30 · November 2014

emilyzemily said:
"One of" the team members. I second what @Trampslikeus‌ says. I'm a first time new mum and have been made to feel nothing but welcome

This for me too. Just a little searching and lurking showed me how much some of the ladies here know and have gone through. Good organization just makes it easier to find what you need. And, speaking for myself, I find a little humor in a stressful time to be a relief; it helps me keep everything in perspective and they say layover is the best medicine.

I've also noticed this board is great at not jumping all over people for asking questions. Some experience posters point out the appropriate place to find info, that's about it. And if you're using the app/site to keep track of your baby's growth, you should also be getting updates on common symptoms. That list is a pretty good resource.

nicperdue · November 2014

poohbearlove123 said:

ac5008 said:

nicperdue said:

Most of the nasty remarks I have read are from posters that are trying to be cute or gather a following to like their witty sarcastic remarks. I would take them with a grain of salt and remember that a group of strangers should not have any bearing on your well-being.

This is exactly what I was doing. Does anyone want to be in my witty sarcastic remark following?

I will certainly join your following if you will follow me as well. We make a wonderful team.

The post I made in no way called out anyone in particular, it just stated that everything should be taken with a grain of salt. The fact that a select few has taken that as a personal attack directed at them just shows which category they obviously find themselves in. I'm taking my own advice and going about my business. Have fun on your own ladies!

Trampslikeus · November 2014

@mch6115 - are you kidding me? Of all the posts on this board, those are the ones that are MOST important to be seen so that we can surround those mamas with whatever support we can provide through words, and mourn with them. If you can't handle seeing those posts, PLEASE head to the fucking door.

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tiffbot1985 · November 2014

I'm going to go out on a limb here and guess that anyone's fear of miscarriage does not even equal the feelings of pain the grieving mothers to through at that time. They need support, period.

amhowell14 · November 2014

kimmarie1105 said:
Starting a post like this is intentionally looking for drama. Nobody here has been a bully in any way. The only people I have seen act in a nasty manner are the ones claiming to dislike any sort of attitude. Please go read the pee pee thread for proof.
Additionally, if you think you are going to be part of a forum with 100's of other pregnant women, and everybody is going to mesh well, I not only question your sanity but your level of common sense as well.

Exactly what she's talking about! That last thing you said.... You question her sanity and/or her level of common sense? Rude!

beckynsean11 · November 2014

mch6115 said:

2. I know people will jump on me for this but the posts I see repeated most are the scariest/saddest: the goodbyes and loss posts. Consolidating those would be nice bc it scares the shit out if most of us I'm sure.

What the actual fuck???? Pregnancy is fragile, sorry to burst your bubble. Miscarriage is scary & lonely; those women don't need to be made to feel any more alone & alienated than they already do.

VanessaE19 · November 2014

Amen!! It's rather annoying especially for first time mothers. Just because it is common doesn't mean we won't have questions about it! God bless you all! I pray for the best outcomes for all of you and that you all have wonderful pregnancies!

Trampslikeus · November 2014

luvindanimals · November 2014

I have been on the bump for like 2 1/2 years and have never heard of these post it notes...now I am wondering if I'm on any???

IVFBeliever · November 2014

I think starting this thread yes, started some drama, but hey OP maybe it will work, because maybe everyone will now read what they are about to post and just remember this thread and perhaps re-phrase what they are about to say (or maybe not comment at all instead of making a snarky/annoyed comment).

People DO need support even when its a multiple post and not as terrible and heartbreaking as a miscarriage. There definitely is a lot of snark on the board and I am not even on it a ton but I definitely see it every single time I am on. I also agree with PP that when you see its a multiple post, instead of leaving a negative comment, just ignore it and move on, and just allow those that are going to be helpful by answering or linking to previous posts do their thing.

Calling out and saying what you said took guts @wtbratcher - good for you for saying what a lot of us are thinking. Hopefully we can all move on and be as supportive as possible to each other and can axe a lot of the negativity.

kimmarie1105 · November 2014

amhowell14 said:

kimmarie1105 said:
Starting a post like this is intentionally looking for drama. Nobody here has been a bully in any way. The only people I have seen act in a nasty manner are the ones claiming to dislike any sort of attitude. Please go read the pee pee thread for proof.
Additionally, if you think you are going to be part of a forum with 100's of other pregnant women, and everybody is going to mesh well, I not only question your sanity but your level of common sense as well.

Exactly what she's talking about! That last thing you said.... You question her sanity and/or her level of common sense? Rude!

Please hold, I have something for you to lick....

FarrahMo · November 2014

Now I remember why I never liked or cared to join an online forum. Everyone is obsessed with correcting each other on their "politically correctness". Honestly who cares if people choose to post questions and concerns about topics that others find futile or redundant. Odds are that no one cares about your opinion anyways. Reading these posts are just aggravating me. On that note, I'm done with this forum. Hope everyone has a healthy and pleasant pregnancy. Good vibes only

>-

kimmarie1105 · November 2014

GBCB's are supposed to be done within a brand new thread where you spell out all the things wrong in the world and say very nasty uncalled for things about your fellow posters, completely contradicting everything you claim to stand for.
Please do at least one thing right while your still here.

ac5008 · November 2014

mch6115 said:

1. When I downloaded this app the reviews about the community were really negative. I downloaded anyway mainly to compare me baby to fruit sizes, haha. 2. I know people will jump on me for this but the posts I see repeated most are the scariest/saddest: the goodbyes and loss posts. Consolidating those would be nice bc it scares the shit out if most of us I'm sure.

Ive been around the bump block for a long ass time, and this is one of the most offensive things I have ever seen.

I pray you never know what its like to lose the very thing you would give your own life for. I truly hope you never know that fear, or pain, or heartbreaking devastation. But you REALLY need to think before you post. Because that was just ... whoa.

It just keeps getting better. Please, keep coming out and showing who the real "mean girls" are.

Trampslikeus · November 2014

FarrahMo said:

Now I remember why I never liked or cared to join an online forum.

Says the person who.... joined an online forum, and cared enough to write a whole post to get attention and stir up drama.

Makes perfect sense.

BookishMomma · November 2014

@cfearsy and the rest of the loss mamas, sending ((hugs)).

As usual, most of the ridiculous, naive, head-stuck-up-your-asshole comments are coming from users without real avatars, which only reinforces my prejudice against forum users who don't bother to change their avatars to something---ANYTHING---that makes them recognizable as an intelligent human being and not a pop-in drama llama or the next contestant on Teen Mom.

acethebase · November 2014

CFearsy said:
I haven't read the whole thread and I probably won't. I just want to say to @mch6115‌: I am SO FUCKING SORRYNOTSORRY that my baby dying and the post I made to say goodbye gave you the feels. Try for just a mother fucking second to be in a loss mom's shoes and think about how you would feel if you had lost your baby and then came back to read something like this. I'll take my slap on the wrist from whatever mod reads this. @mch6115‌, Go to hell.

ETA: grammar

@CFearsy‌ gigantic hugs to you and Please ignore that fucking idiot! Us loss mamas are already meant to feel like we can't talk about it IRL and I'll be damned if we can't talk about it here. To all the loss mamas out there lurking we are here with love and support and please don't ever feel ashamed to talk about it! Our click/ posse or in other words the real women on this board are here to support you!

a5swanson · November 2014

Smh to some of the ignorance with the loss comments. I mean, really?! Again, let us consider this is a blessing in figuring out who the crazies are. Can our next siggie challenge be the best "circle of meanness" or better yet, "CLICK of bullies"? Maybe it should be a badge contest. Let the creative juices flow! lol

beckynsean11 · November 2014

Love you @CFearsy‌ !!! I'm so sorry you had to see that shit.

BookishMomma · November 2014

wtbratcher said:
I wish you all the best. The defensiveness is out the roof. It just amazes me. Y'all can have your click. There is plenty of other wonderful mommas in this group that I can get valuable, supportive advice from.

Wasn't there an allegation of ignorance somewhere?

Eta: LOL, I love it when allegations of ignorance come with spelling and grammar mistakes.

catmagick · November 2014

Fuck this thread. Oh, and @mch6115 I think you pretty much dug your own hole with this. You suck. And fail. And will never be welcome here again.

So sorry @CFearsy

HUGE hugs!!!

btay136 · November 2014

Hormonal women who obnoxiously proclaim their expansive knowledge of everything pregnancy related or strange possessiveness over the organization of this board make me want to puke...or is that the morning sickness?

erbear84 · November 2014

Love to @CFearsy‌ and the other loss/near loss moms. It takes a special kind of blockhead to insult women who have lost/nearly lost a child.

btay136 · November 2014

@emilyzemily now you are suggesting I leave? Case in point.

I will admit your morning sickness/daily symptoms joke make me laugh.

btay136 · November 2014

@emilyzemily I didn't say everyone. There are just a few repeat offenders that have caught my eye. You not being one of them.

btay136 · November 2014

@sensitivesally‌. I have just discovered that I can ignore users. I won't see their posts and they won't see mine. I think this is probably the best option for me to enjoy this part of my day. Easy fix.

matiekae · November 2014

I am on this board for two things: Support and information. I get most of what I am looking for each time I'm here because I read the **read this first** post

The past few days I haven't felt well enough to post much as looking at a computer screen makes me want to vom... but I've tried to be active, and I can't help but notice the front page is always flooded with duplicate AW/symptom posts.

It was so bad one day that when a fellow PGAL mom spent time creating our June15 PGAL blog I had to bump the thread from Page 4 only hours after it had been created! How many other PGAL moms seeking the support and wanting to be included in this blog missed out because of all the people wanting special attention paid to their cramps or their spotting or their lack of symptoms?! This is only one example of why the duplicate posts get under people's skin.