What's with all the negativity?!?!

marshmallowmadness

Is a "post-it list" just the number of people you have ignored? I've not heard of post it's before.

dojo1

chrain said:

Is a "post-it list" just the number of people you have ignored? I've not heard of post it's before.

No. It's the post it next to my computer where I put the screen names of the posters who I need to keep an eye out for because they are rude or trouble or make nasty comments.

Intense!  

angelalovesu

Understand!! I posted about barely nothing. On my ultrasound at 5/6 weeks. And a woman with a stuck up her ass called it MUD? GTFO I'm high risk and scared I need support?! Preach

mommacandi

poohbearlove123 said:

CFearsy said:

I haven't read the whole thread and I probably won't. I just want to say to @mch6115‌: I am SO FUCKING SORRYNOTSORRY that my baby dying and the post I made to say goodbye have you the feels. Try for just a mother fucking second to be in a loss mom's shoes and think about how you would feel if you had lost your baby and then came back to read something like this. I'll take my slap on the wrist from whatever mod reads this. @mch6115‌, Go to hell.

Lovetits=hugs  Hey Fearsy I am so sorry you had to read this shit from that insensitive "acting like a" twit.  All the love and hugs to you @CFearsy I hate that she left that disgusting comment here.  I hope you are ok and healing(emotionally, mentally, physically). 


I second this! Think of you regularly and hope you're ok @CFearsy‌

Trampslikeus

@emilyzemily‌ My post tits keep getting heavier and heavier :P

@CFearsy‌ So many hugs from those of us with functioning brain cells.

franski

NariaDreaming said:

@mch6115

sorrynotsorry that I'm tardy to the party

Apparently saying F*** O** is not a TOU violation but here is a reference to the actual content of the TOU:

"Online behavior requires common sense and basic etiquette. Accordingly, here are some rules that you agree to follow:

No strong, vulgar, obscene, or otherwise harmful language."

Not sure about your standards but your comment sounds pretty strong and vulgar to me!

Would not expect this from a mod.

Trampslikeus

@emilyzemily‌ You mean a "stuck", right? Totes different than a stick. I mean, a lot of us are a little stuck in that area at the moment ...so I didn't take it as an insult

wtbratcher

What @mch6115‌ said was not how most of us see it, but it was how she felt; her honesty and I'm sure she did not mean any ill wishes. And, if I'm correct that is how y'all are defending your condescending behavior; y'all are just being honest, right?!?! Back off attacking and threatening her. Especially a moderator!!! Y'all are evil.

Trampslikeus

..... And you're still here. Lolololol. But please tell us more about how much you hate the drama.

wtbratcher

Evil.

wtbratcher

I hate evil!

Trampslikeus

I do too actually. Things like genocide, ethnic cleansing, terrorism, sexual abuse, domestic violence, corruption, theft, institutionalized poverty and discrimination, rape....

... But tell us more about the evil women being honest on the internet.

wtbratcher

She said the mc posts scare her. Get it right!

wtbratcher

Oooo, she's so evil for thinking that.

wtbratcher

Back off of her!

wtbratcher

Read all of your remarks, they are threatening and vile.

wtbratcher

No, she said consolidate. And that they scared and made her sad.

wtbratcher

You get it right

wtbratcher

Any chance to be evil, you guys are there

wtbratcher

Jumping down someone's throat and wishing them ill is evil

willowprincess

You need to leave. Like yesterday.

wtbratcher

I wouldn't use God's name like that.

wtbratcher

Ouch

wtbratcher

I'm defending being able to say what's on your mind without being attacked. She said she thought the mc posts should be consolidated because they make her sad and scared. Heck, they make me scared and sad; I am extremely empathetic. I lost a niece to stillbirth and many mc in my family. But, I am comfortable facing my fears; she is not to that point yet and I respect that.

kimmarie1105

For someone who is so against all of the negativity, you sure are all "up in it". You're that girl. Every BMB has one.

wtbratcher

Read her comment again or did you read it at all and go by hearsay?!!!! We were talking about cleaning up the threads by reducing repeat posts. She mentioned about consolidated mc posts because they made her scared and sad. That's clearly not how most us us view it but she said nothing about getting rid of them or wanting them to not get support. Y'all are twisting her words.

wtbratcher

I agree, we are going to have to agree to disagree; y'all are blind.

wtbratcher

And, evil. But, I do believe your outlook will change soon enough. I have Faith.

wtbratcher

She was just being honest. We don't have to agree with everyone but we can not attack them for having different thoughts. It's not right

wtbratcher

It's not my opinion; remember, I support repeat post for everyone.

wtbratcher

I just think we should support each other and everyone. Even if they make a very obvious new symptoms post or a new post about their very heartbreaking loss. I want ALL the mommas to feel welcome and loved.

acethebase

wtbratcher said:

I just think we should support each other and everyone. Even if they make a very obvious new symptoms post or a new post about their very heartbreaking loss. I want ALL the mommas to feel welcome and loved.

Like we have stated before this is not a place of rainbows and unicorns... If you want that shit go over to the Baby Center because it's certainly not happening here and NEVER will! Just stop already because you look stupid, JUST STOP! The 10 of you that want to do whatever you want are going to find things out the hard way because no support is going to come from our direction... You're pretty much shunned at this point so just stop!

wtbratcher

Even the evil ones... If they can, at least, give the others the same respect. I do pray for everyone in this group. We are women and need to stand by each other and stop the bashing. We are stronger (and better) than this. The world, even cyber world, doesn't need more hate.

wtbratcher

I'm not leaving because 10 people are not getting it. I have a lot of experience in pregnancy, motherhood, infertility, and much more that will reveal itself in time. I'm sure there will be someone out of the 600 other people that can gain from my lessons in life. I know I'm still learning so it's wonderful to hear of people experiencing the same or who have already been through it to offer support. I love to pray for the weak and strong alike, which I think is more powerful than anything anyone can ever say or do on here. So, I will continue to bring the sunshine and rainbows, take it or leave it.

paintdadanta

wtbratcher said:

I'm defending being able to say what's on your mind without being attacked. She said she thought the mc posts should be consolidated because they make her sad and scared. Heck, they make me scared and sad; I am extremely empathetic. I lost a niece to stillbirth and many mc in my family. But, I am comfortable facing my fears; she is not to that point yet and I respect that.

I've been resisting the urge to reply to this thread but defending someone who would rather see loss moms isolated to spare their own feelings and then calling yourself extremely empathetic is more of an oxymoron. All this says to me is that you agree with society's taboo that loss is private and secret - not to be shared in case it offends someone else. I get you want people to be supportive but you need to realize the gravity of what was said and how that affects the large number of loss moms on this board by being completely unsupportive of them. We are saying what is on our minds in response to what is a negative comment. 

Most loss moms don't get to share their grief IRL so they come to boards like this. For someone to say I don't want to see that because it makes me sad basically means it's an inconvenience and that our angel babies aren't worth your time. Until you have been in that situation yourself (which I hope no one will) you will never understand what it's like for people to expect you to be happy when everything you hoped for and loved in that moment is suddenly gone or the negative reactions that many of us dealt with when sharing news of loss. You'd be surprised how cruel people are so each goodbye or loss post is a chance for that mom to receive the support they need and deserve rather than get lost in a thread a hundred pages long and never read. That is something I will never support.

((hugs)) to all the loss moms hurt by the things posted in this thread

ac5008

As a fellow Christian, please don't bring God into this. He has better things to worry about than what you think should be allowed on a board.

If this is really what you define as "evil", I almost envy you. Please stop. I'm not even being snarky anymore because now it's just sad. Just back away and maybe think about why no one is taking you seriously.

wtbratcher

@paintdadanta - again, I support ALL mamas and ALL posts. Her view is not my own; I am okay with setting my own fears aside to help others face the reality. She was not at that point and I think that is okay. I'm also okay with people making as many new posts as they need. Please read my posts as a whole and please do not rearrange my words to better suit you.

wtbratcher

@ac5008 - God is in everything I do. He is more powerful than you think. Believe me, I am a witness to small and large miracles I have asked of Him. Even taking away a headache immediately after asking; NOTHING is too small or large for Him.

paintdadanta

 . . . and some people will never understand the bigger picture. I read every post and used the proper context just like I do with anything I write whether pleasure or professional, but this is not worth my time to argue. Agree to disagree because you'll never change our opinions - the end.

 

wtbratcher

And, I think my prayers are welcomed.