This is literally the longest time I have gone without sex since I was 14. Aside from deployment but I wasn't around any wemen for it to bother me this much. I know my wife is going through a lot and she is really self conscious but I'm dying. I swear weman put a smell on you because when your single wemen don't want anything to do with you. But if your married all the skanks are drawn to you like a magnent. Especially when I'm at college. I don't even acknowledge their presence. One girl sat down next to me and said "hey baby you got a pen" and without saying anything I showed her my ring and got up and moved down the aisle to a new seat. My balls feel like their going to explode and I never have any alone time to take care of it. I really wish she would throw me a bone or something. Iv done the old maybe if I poke her with it she will get the hint but she just doesn't care. Iv tried talking to her about it and she wants to have sex but can't with it only being a month since giving birth. I then tried telling her that just becuase the Farris wheel is broken doesn't mean the fair is closed but she just rolles her eyes. She knows I'm moody becuase I haven't busted a nut in so long but I haven't seen any action on her part to relieve me of the tension.
To be really honest with you a month isn't that big of a deal. Some of us here had to wait over a year before sex became normal again. You'll get there, you just have to be patient. Your wife probably misses it too. Rather than telling her I'm frustrated and asking her to help you out try telling her you can't wait until you two can have sex again.
By the way, whenever I joke that just because she can't doesn't mean she can't help me out I get a similar reaction. It's not just your wife, but probably every wife.
Totally agree with the joking part...never expect a good response there. And when everything is back to normal, don't ask either. Even if you think are being considerate of her feeling.
I also agree that a month is not that long given the circumstances. It does get back to normal (even if its a new kind of normal).
It is amazing the hormones or pheromones or whatever other "mones" men give off during these various periods in our lives. Sometimes attracting the unwanted attention of others and sometimes, unfortunately, turning away the attraction of the ones we want.
Don't let this get to resentment of your DW. That's a bad road to drive upon. Remember that you fell in love with this wonderful, beautiful creature who carried (or is carrying) your child. And though we have needs, so do they. Make sure to plug in romance, light foreplay, massage, together reading time, or anything else that makes the right deposit back into your marriage "bank account". This will pay dividends!! Especially since it sounds like this isn't an issue of her "wanting to", but more of the "store is still closed for a few weeks".
As a more practical measure, I'd suggest talking about play time in the shower with your DW or going out and getting muddy dirty in the yard and taking an afternoon shower, alone......
I can't for the life of me figure out why she won't have sex with you. Keep poking her with it. That always works.
Harry Styles = Life Ruiner
There’s a lightningin your eyes I can't deny Then there’s me inside a sinkingboat running out of time Without you I'll never make it out alive But I know, yes, I know we’ll be alright
Oh and FUCK YOU SHE HASNT BEEN CLEARED BY THE DOCTOR FOR SEX YET YOU SELFISH PIECE OF SHIT.
Sincerely, WOMEN everywhere.
Harry Styles = Life Ruiner
There’s a lightningin your eyes I can't deny Then there’s me inside a sinkingboat running out of time Without you I'll never make it out alive But I know, yes, I know we’ll be alright
By the way, whenever I joke that just because she can't doesn't mean she can't help me out I get a similar reaction. It's not just your wife, but probably every wife.
Maybe because it's about the stupidest thing you could ever fucking say to a woman who had a human come out of her vagina weeks ago.
Harry Styles = Life Ruiner
There’s a lightningin your eyes I can't deny Then there’s me inside a sinkingboat running out of time Without you I'll never make it out alive But I know, yes, I know we’ll be alright
The more I read the more I realize how clueless men are. No wonder you all come here to complain. Jesus fuck.
Harry Styles = Life Ruiner
There’s a lightningin your eyes I can't deny Then there’s me inside a sinkingboat running out of time Without you I'll never make it out alive But I know, yes, I know we’ll be alright
Y'all can put the hate train on halt and leave the name calling to the children. I do not understand how I'm a pig for being overly attracted to my wife when there are 18 yr old sluts that I go to class with wanting to have orgies with me? Statistically some of you men or woman have cheated and I'm a pig for being above reproach by not even cominicating with the skanks and in most cases being out right rude? And yes I do have no alone time becuase when we get home she feeds baby and we put her in her swing to sleep and we both get in the shower together. Which is something we have done since being a couple and is our quality time. We don't have TV in our house. Our rule for Internet or phones is we can't touch it unless the other one is asleep or t. When people ask what we do I say we read books, play games or talk to each other. Men are on this earth to do two things fuck and kill. Reproduce to ensure our species exists and to kill for the same reason whether it is for protection or food. Yeah it's barbaric but that's life. Humans are animals and I'm human. How am I not respecting my wife? By being turned on by her becuase I feel a deeper connection with her by going through the incredable process of having a baby? I showed my wife my post and she said "yeah you are a thirsty boy." Saying I don't respect my wife becuase I want her is insane. My frustration is nothing compared to what she went through and is going through with her depression but if I need to vent a little so I can not be as edgy for her then what's the problem with that?
Dude, as a fellow dad, I can relate to the frustration of post baby lack of sex, but the way you went about explaining yourself comes off completely wrong. Yes, you have urges, as we all do. However, your wife just went through a MASSIVE ordeal down there and I'll be willing to bet that nearly every man who has had a baby has gone through the exact same thing in terms of not getting sex, some have gone much, much longer. If she's only 6 weeks like some of the ladies mentioned, she's not even cleared by her doctor to engage in sex if she even felt like it. If even the doctor gave her the green light to go and her delivery was "easy" (I can't imagine giving birth is easy under any circumstance), she probably still doesn't feel up to it. She's probably not sleeping much, exhausted and adjusting to the still ever changing hormones and body changes that occur even after the baby. If she doesn't want to "help" you relieve your tension, you've got 2 hands and like most guys are probably pretty well versed in taking care of that problem yourself. Maybe the post wasn't a very good representation of what you were trying to say, but I can see where the ladies were not thrilled with your post(s).
I was going to chime in harshly but the ladies beat me to the punch! My fellow man, as a man and a father that is actually going thru the third recovery time period, trust me, I know your feelings as to the urges and your needs. BUT, you have to understand that you and your wife are partners, and when one is hurting, struggling, or in need of help, its up to the other to step in and man up be the bigger person. Personally its been 2 1/2 months since my wife and I have done anything. And, I understood from the beginning that a month before and for some time (6 weeks at the earliest) she would ready to have sex again. I love sex like the next person but I love my wife even more. When she is ready, the rewards for waiting it out and being there for will be reciprocated later on. My wife as always told me that she appreciates and loves me even more not putting any pressure on her when it comes to sex during and after pregnancy and those words carry with me right now. So just jerk off, exercise, read books, or just be the companion partner, best friend, and husband that you can be. Your wife will appreciate it and when she is ready she reward you plenty in the long run.
Y'all can put the hate train on halt and leave the name calling to the children. I do not understand how I'm a pig for being overly attracted to my wife when there are 18 yr old sluts that I go to class with wanting to have orgies with me? Statistically some of you men or woman have cheated and I'm a pig for being above reproach by not even cominicating with the skanks and in most cases being out right rude? And yes I do have no alone time becuase when we get home she feeds baby and we put her in her swing to sleep and we both get in the shower together. Which is something we have done since being a couple and is our quality time. We don't have TV in our house. Our rule for Internet or phones is we can't touch it unless the other one is asleep or t. When people ask what we do I say we read books, play games or talk to each other. Men are on this earth to do two things fuck and kill. Reproduce to ensure our species exists and to kill for the same reason whether it is for protection or food. Yeah it's barbaric but that's life. Humans are animals and I'm human. How am I not respecting my wife? By being turned on by her becuase I feel a deeper connection with her by going through the incredable process of having a baby? I showed my wife my post and she said "yeah you are a thirsty boy." Saying I don't respect my wife becuase I want her is insane. My frustration is nothing compared to what she went through and is going through with her depression but if I need to vent a little so I can not be as edgy for her then what's the problem with that?
This is literally the longest time I have gone without sex since I was 14. Aside from deployment but I wasn't around any wemen for it to bother me this much. I know my wife is going through a lot and she is really self conscious but I'm dying. I swear weman put a smell on you because when your single wemen don't want anything to do with you. But if your married all the skanks are drawn to you like a magnent. Especially when I'm at college. I don't even acknowledge their presence. One girl sat down next to me and said "hey baby you got a pen" and without saying anything I showed her my ring and got up and moved down the aisle to a new seat. My balls feel like their going to explode and I never have any alone time to take care of it. I really wish she would throw me a bone or something. Iv done the old maybe if I poke her with it she will get the hint but she just doesn't care. Iv tried talking to her about it and she wants to have sex but can't with it only being a month since giving birth. I then tried telling her that just becuase the Farris wheel is broken doesn't mean the fair is closed but she just rolles her eyes. She knows I'm moody becuase I haven't busted a nut in so long but I haven't seen any action on her part to relieve me of the tension.
This is exactly how you are disrespecting your wife. Obviously you can't see this yourself, but you would think with the amount of replies from men alone, that maybe you would change your thinking.
I'm so glad that my guy understood why we couldn't have sex after our son was born. If he had done or said the things you did to your wife, he would have been rubbing one out for much longer than 6 weeks!
Re: Frustration
To be really honest with you a month isn't that big of a deal. Some of us here had to wait over a year before sex became normal again. You'll get there, you just have to be patient. Your wife probably misses it too. Rather than telling her I'm frustrated and asking her to help you out try telling her you can't wait until you two can have sex again.
By the way, whenever I joke that just because she can't doesn't mean she can't help me out I get a similar reaction. It's not just your wife, but probably every wife.
Totally agree with the joking part...never expect a good response there. And when everything is back to normal, don't ask either. Even if you think are being considerate of her feeling.
I also agree that a month is not that long given the circumstances. It does get back to normal (even if its a new kind of normal).
It is amazing the hormones or pheromones or whatever other "mones" men give off during these various periods in our lives. Sometimes attracting the unwanted attention of others and sometimes, unfortunately, turning away the attraction of the ones we want.
Don't let this get to resentment of your DW. That's a bad road to drive upon. Remember that you fell in love with this wonderful, beautiful creature who carried (or is carrying) your child. And though we have needs, so do they. Make sure to plug in romance, light foreplay, massage, together reading time, or anything else that makes the right deposit back into your marriage "bank account". This will pay dividends!! Especially since it sounds like this isn't an issue of her "wanting to", but more of the "store is still closed for a few weeks".
As a more practical measure, I'd suggest talking about play time in the shower with your DW or going out and getting muddy dirty in the yard and taking an afternoon shower, alone......
Harry Styles = Life Ruiner
There’s a lightning in your eyes I can't deny
Then there’s me inside a sinking boat running out of time
Without you I'll never make it out alive
But I know, yes, I know we’ll be alright
-----------------------------------------------------------------------
J. 1.14.13 my reason for breathing
Sincerely, WOMEN everywhere.
Harry Styles = Life Ruiner
There’s a lightning in your eyes I can't deny
Then there’s me inside a sinking boat running out of time
Without you I'll never make it out alive
But I know, yes, I know we’ll be alright
-----------------------------------------------------------------------
J. 1.14.13 my reason for breathing
Harry Styles = Life Ruiner
There’s a lightning in your eyes I can't deny
Then there’s me inside a sinking boat running out of time
Without you I'll never make it out alive
But I know, yes, I know we’ll be alright
-----------------------------------------------------------------------
J. 1.14.13 my reason for breathing
Harry Styles = Life Ruiner
There’s a lightning in your eyes I can't deny
Then there’s me inside a sinking boat running out of time
Without you I'll never make it out alive
But I know, yes, I know we’ll be alright
-----------------------------------------------------------------------
J. 1.14.13 my reason for breathing
No wonder she doesn't want to sleep with you.
You have a newborn, the amount you get laid should not be a priority
My computer is being stupid so I can't link but you posted a discussion months ago about "sucking your wife's nips even when she didn't want you to."
You're a misogynistic piece of trash.
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Bradley 05-04-11 & Tyler 06-18-13