Yeah, and he just gets all defensive so its pointless..
Sorry I'm late to this but HOW are you talking to him about it? Are you accusing him or being aggressive when you talk to him? I can understand if you are because his behavior would piss me off too but maybe try talking g calmly with him. He might not even realize what he's doing.
I can relate to him because I get super frustrated in the MOTN and DH has to calm ME down! I hate getting so frustrated with the baby but newborns are so fucking hard sometimes.
I just calmly told him how I feel and what I see when he's with her. He just doesn't respond, then he's super nice to me and overly sweet to DD afterwards like he's sucking up. I can tell he felt bad. :-<
I feel like I am stuck in the movie "Groundhog Day" except instead of learning the piano I am on a quest to appease my baby a but better each day.
This is exactly why newborns sort of suck. You really are just keeping them alive/content and at the same time, you feel like YOU are slowly dying of boredom and exhaustion.
Yep. I sometimes get so frustrated and I am guilty of acting like @MrsSinner402 Dh. My DH gets on to me.
I love my son and I would never hurt him but I have called him a name or two. He is such a cutie but when he refuses to sleep it really wears me down.
I'm pretty upbeat post-partum, but yesterday was rough. DD cried almost all day when she wasn't on the boob. I'm pretty sure the chili I had for dinner Friday night did not make for pleasant milk on Saturday. DH has been sad that he can't soothe her the same way he was able to while we were in the hospital. Today is better though. DH was able to get her to fall asleep on his chest so we had a happy baby and daddy- and therefore a happy mommy :x
@MrsSinner402 hugs . it honestly does get better. SO gradually got more patience as DS got older. I know it's hard right now but as PP have said, men don't always get the bond we do right away.
I am also jealous of overdue ladies with inductions set. I can't see my midwife until I'm 10 days over to even discuss one.
I'm not really looking forward to it unless my cervix decides to cooperate before then; if that makes you feel any better. But I don't think they'll let me leave the hospital without a baby, even if the induction fails just because of the risk/benefit ratio. In some medical circles, I'm way too overdue for it to be safe, but here I am.
I really wanted to avoid an induction if possible...but I just can't keep going! Friday I was a little over a cm dialated but 80% effaced. I have had a lot of contractions this weekend...so I am hoping that helped dialate me so we have a better chance of success. We will see though!
I feel like I am stuck in the movie "Groundhog Day" except instead of learning the piano I am on a quest to appease my baby a but better each day.
This is exactly why newborns sort of suck. You really are just keeping them alive/content and at the same time, you feel like YOU are slowly dying of boredom and exhaustion.
Yep. I sometimes get so frustrated and I am guilty of acting like @MrsSinner402 Dh. My DH gets on to me.
I love my son and I would never hurt him but I have called him a name or two. He is such a cutie but when he refuses to sleep it really wears me down.
This. I get frustrated and sometimes I have to put him down and let him cry for a minute while I calm down.
Me: 30 | DH: 4/12/85 - 6/16/14 | Quinn Patrick born 9/28/14
We received two hand knitted/crocheted blankets from an organization called Threads of Love while our babies were in the NICU. I wish I knew how to knit or crochet so I could return the favor to other moms.
Also, NICU's take donations of infant clothing to dress the babies in. One of the best days in NICU was going in to see they had dressed the twins in real clothing instead of the hospital shirt.
I am really struggling with breast feeding/pumping. I know I should be glad I am producing anything at all, but it breaks my heart that I cannot produce enough for them because of the medications I am on. I want them to take to the breast so I can stop pumping all together. But they hate having to work hard for the milk and we all hate the nipple shield. I feel like we are stuck in a horrible cycle we will never be able to get out of.
This is how nursing has been all morning. I kept trying to put the kitten down, but Chaos keeps climbing right back up. I caught him in the swing with Alex yesterday. (Excuse the giant, weird-looking boob. If it bothers anyone, I'll take it down.)
And b/c I haven't bragged about my older kids lately:
They found my cd case from high school, so now they are jamming to Backstreet Boys ::hangs head in shame:: while voluntarily folding their own laundry. Queen is next up, so their (my) tastes don't totally suck.
I know I should look through the bfing thread first but I'm exhausted. So, little man scored a 10 on his apgar and got a clean bill of health. He nursed twice at the birth center really good. We left around 5am to come home and he's been asleep basically the entire time. He did wake up twice since then for a few minutes but has had zero interest in eating since then.
Am I crazy for being worried about a baby who wants to sleep?
I know I should look through the bfing thread first but I'm exhausted. So, little man scored a 10 on his apgar and got a clean bill of health. He nursed twice at the birth center really good. We left around 5am to come home and he's been asleep basically the entire time. He did wake up twice since then for a few minutes but has had zero interest in eating since then.
Am I crazy for being worried about a baby who wants to sleep?
Being super sleepy the first day is completely normal. He had a big day, being born is exhausting. I totally get the worrying though.
I know I should look through the bfing thread first but I'm exhausted. So, little man scored a 10 on his apgar and got a clean bill of health. He nursed twice at the birth center really good. We left around 5am to come home and he's been asleep basically the entire time. He did wake up twice since then for a few minutes but has had zero interest in eating since then.
Am I crazy for being worried about a baby who wants to sleep?
DS was like this for the first few days. It was so hard to wake him up. And then he suddenly stopped sleeping and wanted to eat all the time.
Me: 30 | DH: 4/12/85 - 6/16/14 | Quinn Patrick born 9/28/14
I know I should look through the bfing thread first but I'm exhausted. So, little man scored a 10 on his apgar and got a clean bill of health. He nursed twice at the birth center really good. We left around 5am to come home and he's been asleep basically the entire time. He did wake up twice since then for a few minutes but has had zero interest in eating since then.
Am I crazy for being worried about a baby who wants to sleep?
You're not crazy at all. But he does need to eat. Wake him every 2 hours during the day and every 3 at night until his pedi appt. They'll probably have you continue to wake him at least every 3 hours until his 2wk appt or until he's back up to his birth weight.
I know I should look through the bfing thread first but I'm exhausted. So, little man scored a 10 on his apgar and got a clean bill of health. He nursed twice at the birth center really good. We left around 5am to come home and he's been asleep basically the entire time. He did wake up twice since then for a few minutes but has had zero interest in eating since then.
Am I crazy for being worried about a baby who wants to sleep?
You're not crazy at all. But he does need to eat. Wake him every 2 hours during the day and every 3 at night until his pedi appt. They'll probably have you continue to wake him at least every 3 hours until his 2wk appt or until he's back up to his birth weight.
What if he wont eat? I tried both times he woke up to get him to latch but he wouldn't.
I know I should look through the bfing thread first but I'm exhausted. So, little man scored a 10 on his apgar and got a clean bill of health. He nursed twice at the birth center really good. We left around 5am to come home and he's been asleep basically the entire time. He did wake up twice since then for a few minutes but has had zero interest in eating since then.
Am I crazy for being worried about a baby who wants to sleep?
You're not crazy at all. But he does need to eat. Wake him every 2 hours during the day and every 3 at night until his pedi appt. They'll probably have you continue to wake him at least every 3 hours until his 2wk appt or until he's back up to his birth weight.
What if he wont eat? I tried both times he woke up to get him to latch but he wouldn't.
What does he do? And what do you do? Is he just not waking up, or is he awake and not opening his mouth?
Change his diaper and leave him naked (in just a diaper). Set him chest to chest up high between your breasts, and put a blanket over the two of you. Does his head bob around a bit, like he's searching for the breast? If he's asleep, take away the blanket and tickle his ears/neck/feet.
ETA: when he bobs his head and roots for the breast, gently guide him there. Encourage him to open wide by tickling his lips with your nipple.
My mom and mil were both at my house at the same time today and they decided to have the grandma competition. They were both trying to prove they were the better grandma. It was disgusting!
Just got the picture back for our birth announcements! The cuteness makes up for the fact Kenzie has been screeching every time I set her down this afternoon.
My mom and mil were both at my house at the same time today and they decided to have the grandma competition. They were both trying to prove they were the better grandma. It was disgusting!
My sister asked me tonight if 2 weeks from now I could come to Senior night for my nephew..... And bring the toddler and the infant.....I asked if she was serious. Apparently she was... )
Also MIL is refusing to call my son by his name. On mine and DH Facebook pictures of Owen she will say " your son is beautiful" or "looks like you are enjoying your son" again I )
oh FFS your MIL is impossible. Is she just going to call him your son for the rest of his life? While that would be somewhat amusing it's so fucking obnoxious and immature.
5 cycles of "TTC" - 3 intentional, 2 not so intentional. 5 BFPs. My rainbow arrived 10/15/14. TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.
Also it is so weird to give parenting advice to others like I have any freaking idea what I'm doing but I so enjoy having a place to trade ideas and talk about our triumphs and struggles.
Me: 30 | DH: 4/12/85 - 6/16/14 | Quinn Patrick born 9/28/14
DH is complaining about feeling like "hired help". This weekend, he put things away in the kitchen, wiped down the counters, did a few loads of dishes, and cooked dinner. Welcome to my life as that is what I did after I got home from work most days.
And then he complains that he is horny. Sorry dude but complaining about having to do basic chores doesn't make me want to help you out with that issue.
Married 10/06
Baby Girl "C" arrived on 10/07/14 (39 weeks, 6 days)
Baby nursed but poorly. I keep trying to wake him up but then he just gets pissed and wont eat because he's mad. I'm just letting him sleep and after I eat dinner it's on: operation wake up and eat, damn it.
Re: Sunday Randoms
I haven't written my birth story yet, but will say this...
Why did I want a med-free birth?! Turns out baby boy did NOT actually flip and was born sunny side up with his hand by his face. :-O
I love my son and I would never hurt him but I have called him a name or two. He is such a cutie but when he refuses to sleep it really wears me down.
I'm not really looking forward to it unless my cervix decides to cooperate before then; if that makes you feel any better. But I don't think they'll let me leave the hospital without a baby, even if the induction fails just because of the risk/benefit ratio. In some medical circles, I'm way too overdue for it to be safe, but here I am.
I really wanted to avoid an induction if possible...but I just can't keep going! Friday I was a little over a cm dialated but 80% effaced. I have had a lot of contractions this weekend...so I am hoping that helped dialate me so we have a better chance of success. We will see though!
Also, NICU's take donations of infant clothing to dress the babies in. One of the best days in NICU was going in to see they had dressed the twins in real clothing instead of the hospital shirt.
I am really struggling with breast feeding/pumping. I know I should be glad I am producing anything at all, but it breaks my heart that I cannot produce enough for them because of the medications I am on. I want them to take to the breast so I can stop pumping all together. But they hate having to work hard for the milk and we all hate the nipple shield. I feel like we are stuck in a horrible cycle we will never be able to get out of.
They found my cd case from high school, so now they are jamming to Backstreet Boys ::hangs head in shame:: while voluntarily folding their own laundry. Queen is next up, so their (my) tastes don't totally suck.
Am I crazy for being worried about a baby who wants to sleep?
Change his diaper and leave him naked (in just a diaper). Set him chest to chest up high between your breasts, and put a blanket over the two of you. Does his head bob around a bit, like he's searching for the breast? If he's asleep, take away the blanket and tickle his ears/neck/feet.
ETA: when he bobs his head and roots for the breast, gently guide him there. Encourage him to open wide by tickling his lips with your nipple.
https://www.llli.org/docs/0000000000000001WAB/WAB_Tear_sheet_Toolkit/03_waking_a_sleepy_newborn.pdf
My little smooshy.. I love her, and I need a nap!
TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.
And then he complains that he is horny. Sorry dude but complaining about having to do basic chores doesn't make me want to help you out with that issue.
Married 10/06
Baby Girl "C" arrived on 10/07/14 (39 weeks, 6 days)