Sunday Randoms

Liss1481

Morning!  Been up for an hour and now sitting with my 3 year old contemplating going grocery shopping so I figured I'd get the thread started.

lrobi13

I feel like I am stuck in the movie "Groundhog Day" except instead of learning the piano I am on a quest to appease my baby a but better each day.

caranichole

Had an awful breakdown last night while holding LO. We were discussing phases that babies go through and comparing to our previous littles and I started sobbing because I don't remember much of DD2's first year. I remember so many little moments with DD1 but with DD2 I had ppd and I sort of threw myself into working and neglected my family for a little bit. 

All I remember is my first night with her - the nurses asked if I'd like her to stay in the room with me or I'd rather get rest and call if I wanted to feed her (she was being FFed) and I chose rest and didn't call for her till the next day. Next thing you know we were celebrating her first birthday. 

DH made me feel so much better though. He was a SAHD during this time and he would have every right to agree that I was a crappy mom but he held me and told me I was a great mom and that I've done well this last year in connecting with my DD2. I appreciate him.

MrsSarahRenee

@caranichole‌ Hugs! Good job DH!

Our LO was born Friday night and then cluster fed last night. I am working on 12 hrs of sleep in 4 nights including many hrs of labor in there. Need sleep.

AppleGrapeMSTK

DH is about to get his first TP since Solomon came home. Last night he said he wished there was something he could do to help while I nursed, and I told him that taking over DS1's motn screaming sessions was helpful, so we were even. At 2am, as I am nursing and sleep deprived, DS1 starts crying, so DH gets up and goes to him. Instead of putting DS1 back to sleep, he brings him to our bed. So I have a wide awake newborn AND wide awake toddler in a too-small bed, and DH is passed out. Way to be helpful.

angeltennis3

I am starting to really bum out. 40+6 and still no sign labor will start on its own. I was so hopeful with the contractions I felt yesterday afternoon and last night, but woke up to nothing.

DH and I will be getting our house all cleaned up today and I think we may go out to breakfast this morning. He works tomorrow til about 3, but then will start his paternity leave and come home to take me to the hospital to be induced. I am so excited to meet our baby girl but really nervous! At the wedding we went to yesterday we took a photo and even though I have the belly and see myself in the mirror...seeing how big I am on film I no longer am surprised by people asking me if it is twins! I know it can just be the way I am carrying, but it definitely seems impossible what is in my stomach can get out through my pelvis!!

MrMrsandBaby

I want to go to church today but know Brooke will need to eat during the service. I'm torn. I could sit in the back to nurse get or miss part of the service. Or not go....decisions decisions

ohioloveyou

I just feel tired today. Still pregnant, contractions slowed down when I went to sleep. Boo.

caranichole

MrMrsandBaby said:

I want to go to church today but know Brooke will need to eat during the service. I'm torn. I could sit in the back to nurse get or miss part of the service. Or not go....decisions decisions

I have been going and sitting in the back. I'm torn at how I should approach today - we are cluster feeding this morning.

angeltennis3

Ughhhhh...my cousin just had his baby. They weren't due until 11/8.

You are cutting in line! Not fair.

Emerald27

MrMrsandBaby said:

I want to go to church today but know Brooke will need to eat during the service. I'm torn. I could sit in the back to nurse get or miss part of the service. Or not go....decisions decisions

I just nurse in the pew.

Emerald27

savagek7 said:

LO won't sleep anymore unless he's on my chest or in my arms. I think he might have reflux...his belly is super gurgly and whenever I lay him on his back he gets a little choky and makes weird like clicking sounds until it wakes him up. Then he's all frustrated and Can't get comfy. He's also only rating for 5 minute chunks, and his poo had turned green. Does that sound like reflux to you guys? If it keeps up today, I'll be calling the pedi tomorrow. I can't do another night like that...

Do you have an oversupply? Make sure he's finishing the first breast first. That green poop makes me think oversupply.

The gas in his tummy is likely from frequent latching and unlatching, if he's just nursing for a few minutes at a time. If he nurses 5 mins, put him back to the same breast a few times before switching.

Reflux typically has an underlying cause (like oversupply or food sensitivity), and Zantac doesn't address the cause, just relieves symptoms. It's so so much better to figure out what's going on and work to fix it than to put baby on medication, IMO.

LightBright515

I've been nursing on demand, but I'm going to have to go back to pumping a bottle or two a day.

This kid is always on my boob! I can't do anything (

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angeltennis3 said:

Ughhhhh...my cousin just had his baby. They weren't due until 11/8.

You are cutting in line! Not fair.

Were you the one with the super competitive cousin or aunt who kept saying their baby would come first? Or was that a different bumpie?

MrsSinner402

DH has zero patience for DD. His attitude with her is horrible and I'm about to freak the fuck out on him. Like, I dont even want him to get up with her at night based on what I've seen so far. I'm about to legitimately knock him out if he can't control his temper. He treats her like a toddler thats disobeying him, not a helpless newborn that can't communicate whats wrong. It pisses me off to no end. Now I see how mothers feel when their child is treated poorly. All the rage.

sabby2

Yesterday DH asked about giving DD a brother or sister someday and if I still wanted more than one kid after experiencing birth. I told him to give me a few years to forget.

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MrsSinner402 said:

DH has zero patience for DD. His attitude with her is horrible and I'm about to freak the fuck out on him. Like, I dont even want him to get up with her at night based on what I've seen so far. I'm about to legitimately knock him out if he can't control his temper. He treats her like a toddler thats disobeying him, not a helpless newborn that can't communicate whats wrong. It pisses me off to no end. Now I see how mothers feel when their child is treated poorly. All the rage.

Oh no! I'm sorry Have you guys talked about it?

golfingdarwinfish

@mrssinner402

>:D<  >:D<

Have you tried talking to DH about it? 

windwithfingers

I'm joining the no sleep club. Poor guy is really gassy. He grunted and farted all night and just slept really badly in general.

savicke2009

Sorry to everyone not sleeping and the husbands needing throw punches.. and of course labor dust to those who need it..

My husband is about to get nut punched, throat punched and face punched all at once.. yesterday he went to the mich/michigan state football game, so he left around 11to go with his friends, so until he got home it was me and the three kiddos.. we had to go buy diapers and I wanted to get a manual pump.. so he was asking what they had for lunch, dinner etc. I told him I took them to my parents for a little bit and the baby and I came home and just lounged around.. and he says 'you took them to your parents during the mich/michigan state game? What did you do the whole time they were gone?' All rude like.. he came home last night around 11- the house was clean, the laundry folded and put away, the kids bathed and everyone sleeping.. so for him to get shitty pissed me right off.. but im going to enjoy my sunday and not let it bug me!

Emerald27

@MrsSinner402‌ I think it can be really hard for dads to figure out how to soothe their babies. It's so different for them...we have our natural mothering instincts and are nurturing and soothing to our LOs. But dads just kind of get handed baby.

Definitely talk to him about reasonable expectations for an infant, who isn't capable of manipulation and for whom every experience is brand new and challenging to navigate. Remind him that LO is 100% dependent upon Her parents for everything, and that now is a crucial time for developing a foundation of trust in your relationship with DD.

BUT also offer DH some concrete ideas for how to help LO. "Don't treat her this way" doesn't help as much as "try xyz."

Check this out:

https://www.llli.org/docs/0000000000000001WAB/WAB_Tear_sheet_Toolkit/09_fussybabyideas.pdf

And this is helpful for DHs for bonding ideas:

https://www.llli.org/docs/0000000000000001WAB/WAB_Tear_sheet_Toolkit/10_what_about_partners.pdf

MrsSinner402

golfingdarwinfish said:

@mrssinner402

>:D<  >:D<

Have you tried talking to DH about it? 

Yeah, and he just gets all defensive so its pointless..

MrsSinner402

scottysgirl77 said:

@MrsSinner402‌ my husband is doing the same thing and he is a certified teacher birth-6th grade. I thought he would be so much better at this than I do, but he thinks if he shows her that he is frustrated it will teach her not to cry anymore. SHE'S THREE WEEKS OLD!

Exactly.. he makes comments about when she's eating from the bottle (we had latching issues so I'm EPing and bottle feeding and she doesn't always have a correct latch on the bottle) like "if you dont do it right you arent getting any at all". At which point I'm sure to tell him that he'd better not keep food from her. I dont think he's 100% serious about actually not feeding her but he treats her like she should know everything. And I hear him getting frustrated with her at night. Yes, I do too. But I heard him out in the living room the other night saying "what the fuck do you WANT?!" Because she was fussing. It breaks my heart

2goingon3

@MrsSinner402‌ Hugs....no advice, just hugs. Men don't always have that instant bond, and he definitely doesn't have maternal instincts to tell him what to do, so maybe he's just not adjusting well and time might help?


I gave birth 2 weeks ago, with a raging head cold, came home and the postpartum pain increased over the first week to the point that I ended up back in the hospital with what they thought might be hypertension but turned out to be postpartum gastritis....perfect, get the prescription for that only to have an allergic reaction to it this week which is causing my lips to swell and burn.

On the plus side, my baby boy is pure perfection, and my other 2 kids are awesome little helpers!

LightBright515

My overtired baby is asleep on me, and I don't even want to move her.

angeltennis3

deezidee04 said:

angeltennis3 said:

Ughhhhh...my cousin just had his baby. They weren't due until 11/8.

You are cutting in line! Not fair.

Were you the one with the super competitive cousin or aunt who kept saying their baby would come first? Or was that a different bumpie?

@deezidee04‌ yep that was me. If I weren't overdue, I don't think this would bother me as much! But at 40 weeks and 6 days it stung a little...not because of the competitive nature but because I am soooo over being pregnant! Oh well...our LO will be perfect when she makes her debut and all of this will be a distant memory!

SweetMandyB12

Today is my due date.... No sign of labor. Lying in bed, trying to rest, feeling jealous of all of you mommies, but feeling sorry that you are all so exhausted. I want to join your club.... I think ;-)

cmac6186

DD is 9 days old and has started sucking her thumb. Is this normal? Should i let it continue or try to discourage?

suncake

Due dates are such a let down. I'm joining the over due club today. My induction will be the 30th. At least I see light.

angeltennis3

@suncake and @SweetMandyB12‌ love titting out of solidarity! I am sorry you had to join the overdue club and fx your stay is short. Although I may get a little bitter for five minutes if you have your babies before me! >:D<

windwithfingers

How is October almost over already?

trisharenee0316

24 hours old and can only sleep if his head is resting on or near my boob. Definitely his father's son.

heathera1979

Hard to believe my sweet baby girl is 1 month old today!

goldengirlamy

I'm 3 days overdue, the car won't start, the dog has worms in her poop. I'm trying to be positive though. I don't think the worms are that serious because she is still behaving as herself. The car has a warranty still, and I'm not even that 'uncomfortable' still being pregnant, I just want to meet my baby!

I'm also a little jealous that others are overdue and have induction dates. I know it's better to wait for natural birth but my doctors won't even talk induction until I'm a full week overdue and then it gets scheduled right before 42 weeks! I'm dialted to a 4 already, just break my water please! *boo who cry*

ohioloveyou

Hugs to all my other overdue ladies. I feel your pain.  I also feel lucky now that my doctor will induce me at 40+4 on Tuesday.  I feel a little guilty, like I'm not letting LO get all his developing done in there, but really, I'm miserable and he's done baking.  It's time.

Today I'm mopey because I have to go to a baby shower for someone else while I still haven't met my baby who was supposed to be here by now.  And I had contractions all day and evening yesterday that didn't start anything.  No fair.

goldengirlamy

erawka said:

We made it to Church today! V was a champ and slept almost the whole time. She's a giant bucket of fuss right now but it was nice to get out for a bit.

This picture is too cute for me to handle!

goldengirlamy

ohioloveyou said:

Hugs to all my other overdue ladies. I feel your pain.  I also feel lucky now that my doctor will induce me at 40+4 on Tuesday.  I feel a little guilty, like I'm not letting LO get all his developing done in there, but really, I'm miserable and he's done baking.  It's time.

Today I'm mopey because I have to go to a baby shower for someone else while I still haven't met my baby who was supposed to be here by now.  And I had contractions all day and evening yesterday that didn't start anything.  No fair.

I keep telling myself that I don't want to be induced, that it will be more painful and she will come when she's ready but I'm ready damn it!

Also seeing my friends sister had her baby when she was due a month after me wasn't fun. But I'm trying to take heart that at least my girl won't be premie.

Syllessa

These gifs are dedicated to all the people in our lives who deserve a good punch.

golfingdarwinfish

DH goes back to work tomorrow and I am terrified.  I feel bad saying this when so many husbands are being DBs, but he has been great with S, and I feel like I'm going to be lost and overwhelmed without him.  My mom is staying another week, but soon it will be just me & S, and that terrifies me. 

SweetMandyB12

angeltennis3 said:

@suncake and @SweetMandyB12‌ love titting out of solidarity! I am sorry you had to join the overdue club and fx your stay is short. Although I may get a little bitter for five minutes if you have your babies before me! >:D<

this must have been the longest 6 days of your life. I am not looking forward to this week, interested to see what my Dr. plans for me at tomorrow's appointment.  FX for you that LO arrives soon!!

windwithfingers

@golfingdarwinfish‌ it's hard but you can do it!