NTTGPR: I'm a coward. Please help.

Re: NTTGPR: I'm a coward. Please help.

• ramaholic member

  October 2014

  Just do it.  Write a letter of resignation and thank people that you want to keep good relationships with.  Done.  You'll be fine, promise.
  

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• briannaescplan member

  October 2014 edited October 2014

  
  
  ETA: the sexy was too big. Nothing a little bit of sexy can't help.
  

  
  

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• tlc35 member

  October 2014

  I get that it is stressful and you hate letting them down but you have to do what is best for you.  As long as you give appropriate notice remember that you did the right thing.
  
  Good luck and congrats on the new job!
  

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• Cythe member

  October 2014

  Yeah, pretty much what Rama said. Thank them for the time you've spent with them, give 2 weeks notice (don't be a dbag and just quit on the spot) and carry on. People quit jobs all the time, companies know that not every job is a good fit for every person. You need to grow and that requires a different job.

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• Lottie&Paul member

  October 2014

  I get how you feel. I quit a job once, and I was so nervous about it my friend offered to call and do it for me. But in the end it was AWESOME. The quitting itself wasn't that bad (maybe a little uncomfortable, but no big deal), but the drive home that day was the best feeling in the world. I was euphoric. Seriously I would consider quitting a job again just for that feeling.

  

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• HippoTooth member

  October 2014

  Wine&Cupcakes said:

  I need to quit my job today. I work nights and it's been slowly killing me for a while. I'm always stressed, exhausted and just feel miserable. On top of that, I'm in school and my current job doesn't offer much flexibility. Another opportunity came around for a daytime job that would allow for much greater flexibility. I'm going to lose my night differential but that's fine. I've never quit a job before and the anxiety right now is vomit-inducing. Please tell me I'm being a p-bag and do the damn thing. I need a pep talk!

  How long have you been working there?  I think the pp's gave you good advice, but I'm curious.

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• URMySunshine77 member

  October 2014

  The PPs gave you great advice. You can do this! Good luck. 

  
  

  
  

  
  

               

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• BabyCowbell member

  October 2014

  Good luck today!
  
  The last two times I quit my job I felt so stressed out about it beforehand and felt guilty for letting people down. In the end, all the worrying was for nothing and people just kind of accepted it and moved on. I definitely cared more about how they were going to feel than they cared about me leaving

  
  

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• Wine&Cupcakes member

  October 2014 edited October 2014

  I'm in resignation limbo right now.
  
  To clarify, yes, I have another job lined up already that I've accepted. I'm giving 3 weeks notice.
  
  I've had this job for 3.5 years, a majority of my nursing career.
  
  Thanks for the support! I'm awaiting a call back from my supervisor. I work in the field and don't ever really see my boss. I was going to submit a formal letter after speaking with her...but if I don't hear back by end of business should I send it and discuss Monday morning?
  
  Edited to clarify.

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• ramaholic member

  October 2014

  Wine&Cupcakes said:

  I'm in resignation limbo right now. To clarify, yes, I have another job lined up already that I've accepted. I'm giving 3 weeks notice. I've had this job for 3.5 years, a majority of my nursing career. Thanks for the support! I'm awaiting a call back from my supervisor. I work in the field and don't ever really see my boss. I was going to submit a formal letter after speaking with her...but if I don't hear back by end of business should I send it and discuss Monday morning? Edited to clarify.

  Does she have an office that you can physically go to?  Handing it to her in person is generally better than mailing it in.  If leave her a voicemail with a "heads up" and are able to come in to her place of work Monday, then I don't see the harm in lumping the delivery and discussion together.
  

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• carolinagirl67 member

  October 2014

  I would definitely try to give it to her in person. Makes a better impression, but not sure if that'd be possible for you as I don't know the specific situation.

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• Jags8 member

  October 2014

  Just do it, lady! Write out a formal two-week notice, and hand it in in-person. I know how nerve-wracking it can be. But if you really hate it, you will feel SUCH relief afterwards!

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• Wine&Cupcakes member

  October 2014

  @LongLiveTheEvilQueen‌ - no, no, it's good advice!
  
  I'm in pedi home health. Going to the office isn't really a thing that's done at my company. Also, I'm not quitting the company, just the specific case I'm on, further adding to the weird dynamic. I hope to stay on per diem as a fill-in when I can (like school breaks).
  
  These were all very helpful words of wisdom so I very much appreciate them!
  
  @riderchik‌ - Awww! I hope you have lots of wine tonight!

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  DX (me): Inborn error of metabolism - protein restriction, metabolic formula & weekly blood tests

  DNA Results (7/1): DH is NOT a carrier for my genetic disorder! 

  7/3: Metabolic clinic gave the green light to TTC - holy crap!

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• aloha_mama member

  October 2014

  Quitting a unit is the worst because I always feel like I'm letting down my team... But of the four jobs I've had since graduating, I only left one because of personal reasons (there was some crazy shit going on there and I was worried about getting dragged in and losing my license by association), and every 2 week notice I handed in sucked. I'm pretty sure I cried every time, too. Even the crazy ass unit. You can do it! ASAP so you save yourself the mind games! 

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• Wine&Cupcakes member

  October 2014

  Thanks, ladies!
  
  

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  TTC #1: July 2014
  Me: 31  DH: 29
  

  DX (me): Inborn error of metabolism - protein restriction, metabolic formula & weekly blood tests

  DNA Results (7/1): DH is NOT a carrier for my genetic disorder! 

  7/3: Metabolic clinic gave the green light to TTC - holy crap!

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• MrsC0617 member

  October 2014

  I second PPs. It's SO tough but it's unbelievable how good you'll feel after quitting. Good luck!!

  Married to DH (aka the love of my life) since June 17th, 2006

  
  

  
  

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• almachs0786 member

  October 2014

  @Wine&Cupcakes‌ how did it end up going??

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• Wine&Cupcakes member

  October 2014

  @almachs0786‌ - well, we played phone tag and I left the last message. She didn't call me back. I didn't tell her what was going on in my message (obvi) but that if she could call me back as soon as she got it, that would be great.
  
  So....I'm anticipating that this will become a Monday morning conversation.

  TTGP December Siggy Challenge: Favorite Holiday Movie:
  ~Santa Claus is Coming to Town~
  
  
  
  
  

  
  

  
  

  TTC #1: July 2014
  Me: 31  DH: 29
  

  DX (me): Inborn error of metabolism - protein restriction, metabolic formula & weekly blood tests

  DNA Results (7/1): DH is NOT a carrier for my genetic disorder! 

  7/3: Metabolic clinic gave the green light to TTC - holy crap!

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• almachs0786 member

  October 2014

  At least you have the weekend to drink lots of wine! Since your staying within the company I'm betting it will be much easier than you think, it's just a hard thing to build up to. Good luck on Monday!

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