Let's talk about having the next baby...

Re: Let's talk about having the next baby...

• lnbtaa15 member

  October 2014

  LO definitely has not been a cake walk for us.  For the first few months my husband made many comments about being OAD because he could not handle the constant crying.  I also had a rough time and ended up having to be on medication for anxiety.  Through most of the trying months I never thought that I would only want one though.  I am the oldest of 4 so I appreciate having a siblings, although to me 4 is too many.  I had trouble getting pregnant and we spent a couple of years trying so we were super excited when I finally got a BFP.  With that being said we are looking at starting to try around LO's first birthday.  We are both in our 30's so we don't want to wait too long just in case we struggle again to get pregnant.  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  

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• snowbound member

  October 2014

  I can't wait but I have to because... life. I want to finish my last few college credits and DH has some things going at work which will make it difficult. Maybe in a year/year and a half.

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• jenskurn member

  October 2014

  LO and DD are exactly 25 mo apart.  I am not a huge fan of the baby phase myself, but I will tell you that after its over you get a better perspective on how short-lived it actually is.  When trying for DS, we knew it was going to be really, really hard, but we also knew it was only going to be that hard for a short period of time.  Its so freakin exhausting, but its worth it for us :-) 

   

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• edoliesmom member

  October 2014

  jenskurn said:

  LO and DD are exactly 25 mo apart.  I am not a huge fan of the baby phase myself, but I will tell you that after its over you get a better perspective on how short-lived it actually is.  When trying for DS, we knew it was going to be really, really hard, but we also knew it was only going to be that hard for a short period of time.  Its so freakin exhausting, but its worth it for us :-) 

  Thanks for that perspective!

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• Pearlvirus member

  October 2014

  I'm thinking similarly. Before LO was born, DH and I would day dream together about how fun having 4 kids would be. Now I feel like I can barely handle 1. When she is being really fussy and I'm getting overwhelmed, I think, God how much worse would this be with a toddler on top? None the less, there's no way I'm OAD. I have 4 siblings and couldn't imagine life without them. So I am semi constantly obsessing about when to TTC. My group of friends are all of the sudden all having babies. So when one of them announces a pregnacy or talks about TTC. I feel a little jealous, like I want to be there too. And then I am awake in the night again and again or I'm alone all day doing nothing but caring for her, then having a baby just seems like a crazy trap, and why would anyone do it twice? But I don't want her to finally start to give me some freedom just to start all over again with #2, so I'll probably just go for it, ready or not, sometime first half of next year. I'm also hoping my next newborn phase won't be as hard. Maybe I'm just losing memories already but it seems like most of the toughest stuff was in my head. I just wanted to escape. I'm starting to get a little more comfortable with the constant need and lack of me time. So hopefully with #2 I'll be adjusted to being a mom and it will be just the physical / sleep things to deal with. Or I'll give up, hire a nanny and get a job, lol.

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• MaglioMomma member

  October 2014

  meg.eliz1 said:

  @MaglioMomma‌ Congrats! DH took the news better than I did and I'm still really scared but also know that moms do it all the time, so I can do it to.

  I keep telling myself that too. We can do it!
  

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