6 week scan, no heart beat... guess this is goodbye.

Blessed4This · October 2014

I went yesterday for my first ultrasound appointment. I thought I was 8 weeks, come to find out I was 6. I did the ultrasound and the ultrasound lady was unable to find a heart beat. Then I seen my doctor and he told me that I had a miscarriage yet I have no bleeding, I'm in no pain (I had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy and it was very obvious... I was bleeding bad and in tons of pain) my doctor then proceeded to try to push the at home pills that you insert vaginally to force your body to miscarry or he told me we could do an in office or hospital surgery to get rid of my baby. I was in complete shock due to the first news of me carrying a dead fetes and he's now trying to push me to surgeries and pills to get rid of it?!?!?! I was like a deer in headlights. He said my body doesn't yet realize that my babies no longer alive?!?! I'd rather wait and let my body do the natural thing. I'm not gonna shove pills inside me or have a long needle type thing suck my baby out... I'm so sad, heart broken. . . . Confused. I read online that there are times that at 6 weeks you can't get a heart beat but I'm not gonna get my hopes up. What a mess. I wish you all luck with your pregnancies. We ttc for 3 years before we were blessed. Now I hear it's been taken from me. I'm at a loss for words.

jmw46 · October 2014

I'm so sorry!

Did your doctor say it would be okay to give it a little more time? Was he willing to do a follow-up ultrasound just to confirm?

GASuzuki · October 2014

I'm so sorry. I wish I could give you medical advice, but I feel like your doctor would know more. Did you ask him why he recommended that?

Blessed4This · October 2014

@jmw46‌ he didn't even recheck himself after the ultrasound lady gave him her notes... he didn't say anything about a fallow up.... he went from telling me that I was carrying a dead fetus too this is what we can do to get rid of it.....

jmw46 · October 2014

I would think about getting a second opinion. If you are 6 weeks, that seems too early to me for him not to want to do a follow-up ultrasound. I am SO sorry he was that insensitive, that's horrible! *HUGS*

Blessed4This · October 2014

@hbanana18‌ I (was) going off my LMP august 25 when I thought I was 8 weeks. I came home and I kept track of everything and seen that I didn't ovulate til September 9th. Which would put me at 6 weeks not 8. Even the ultrasound tech said I was 6 instead of 8.... I'm just so confused

NoeliaV · October 2014

Gosh. What a horrible bedside manner

I am so sorry for your loss, and so sorry for the way he treated you. I think you would be within your rights to request a follow-up ultrasound, or a beta check (to see if your numbers are declining).

Blessed4This · October 2014

They did take blood to see my levels I did a blood test yesterday and I'll be back there tomorrow to see if it's increased or not. Doctor said that would prove it too me.

ky121810 · October 2014

If I were in your shoes I think I would go to someone else for a second opinion. I'm so sorry that happened and I'm sending good thoughts your way!

cooldown726 · October 2014

I am so sorry. Trust your gut and if you feel up to it, try to get a second opinion before taking any other action.

mountainmama65 · October 2014

That's terrible. I'm so sorry- thinking of you!

adorebel · October 2014

Thinking of you - I hope you are able to get a second opinion. Perhaps your partner can deal with transferring your information over to a new doctor while you step back at this difficult time.

Blessed4This · October 2014

Yeah he was super heartless and I absolutely hated how he tried to push those pills on me. It was sickening. How could someone do that?

Blessed4This · October 2014

I have no bleeding. No discomfort. I don't get it.

Blessed4This · October 2014

How would your body just not know?!?!?

tasteslikeshiny · October 2014

I'm sorry you're going through this. I went through this a few years ago and told my doctor I would wait 2 weeks and if an ultrasound confirmed the miscarriage was there and stuck I would allow them to d & c me. When I went back I was 8 wks with a HB. She's 7 now. I'm not saying that's your situation but if the options you are given make you uncomfortable you advocate for better ones.

Blessed4This · October 2014

I have a picture but it won't let me upload it off my phone but everything looks normal. The yolk sack the fetus. .. everything matches up

tasteslikeshiny · October 2014

That's how mine was. I just ovulated later and she was a slow starter I guess. I blogged about it back then and I remember thinking that I was crazy for demanding a 2ww.

Blessed4This · October 2014

Yeah its just hard to take in when I still feel pregnant. I seriously cried so fucking bad yesterday. Like a little child. It was horrible. Half of me thinks I still have something to hold onto and the other half is telling me to get over it.

alygator11687 · October 2014

Blessed4This said:
@hbanana18‌ I (was) going off my LMP august 25 when I thought I was 8 weeks. I came home and I kept track of everything and seen that I didn't ovulate til September 9th. Which would put me at 6 weeks not 8. Even the ultrasound tech said I was 6 instead of 8.... I'm just so confused

@Blessed4This‌ I'm so sorry you are going through this! You are in my thoughts and prayers. I would definitely seek a second opinion. When you say you track everything, do you temp to know when you ovulated or are you basing ovulation on something else like an OPK?

tasteslikeshiny · October 2014

Been there and done that. There is a misdiagnosed miscarriage webpage so I had read that and I went psycho. Not kidding. It was just too early. My baby now was off to a slow start too but his/her little heart started faintly beating at the last U/S so I am waiting again.

rhapsody04 · October 2014

I agree -- trust your instincts and your body, get more information from the tests, seek a second opinion if you can (hopefully from someone with more compassion!), and wait.

Blessed4This · October 2014

@alygator11687‌ Oh yeah I used 3 different ovulation tests every day after taking my clomid. When I say we tried we TRIED... I got a smiley face on my clear blue digital ovulation test and two DARK positives on my strip ones. So I KNOW I ovulated September 9th... it was my first time fully blown ovulating so it was pretty exciting.

awheeler4311 · October 2014

Oh my goodness!!! My heart goes out to you. I'm so so so sorry you're going through this. What a terrible place to be in. Prayers, thoughts, vibes are all coming your way.

Stormy61 · October 2014

This breaks my heart to read. Prayers for you!

NoeliaV · October 2014

Blessed4This said:

I have no bleeding. No discomfort. I don't get it.

Blessed4This said:

How would your body just not know?!?!?

I hope this doesn't add to your pain, or come across as cruel, but with my loss, I didn't have any cramping or bleeding until late the day after the ultrasound. At that point, the heartbeat had stopped beating more than a week prior.

I'm so sorry and have my FX for better news for you with your blood draw. And, I still think that doctor was a complete jerk to you. I hope you don't have to see him again.

BGgrowsagain · October 2014

I'm so sorry.

jbartsy · October 2014

I'm so sorry you're going through this.

T&Ps!

beckynsean11 · October 2014

I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Your doctor was awful to you. The fact that your doctor did not want another scan to confirm the loss is disgusting to me. With my first loss we knew it was over at 6.5 weeks. My doctor still insisted on a scan around 8 weeks to confirm before we did anything. If you had a positive ovulation test on Sept 9th, you could have ovulated as much as 2 days later. It's definitely possible that the scan was too early. I hope you seek a second opinion.

Your doctor had you on unmonitored Clomid (it should not have been on you to use OPKs, you should have had an ultrasound that would tell you when you were ovulating.) And he didn't want a follow up scan, plus his horrific bedside manner. 2 strikes doc, you're fired.

effthisnoise · October 2014

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I'd definitely get a new doctor regardless of whether this is a miscarriage or not. I'll be crossing my fingers that you see a heartbeat next time.

smjohnson8 · October 2014

I'm so sorry

I'm praying for you and I'll hold out hope that you get to keep your baby!

mamahawk12 · October 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss!!

beattykid · October 2014

I'm very sorry for you. The blood test will tell you what you need to know. I know this is scary, but it happened to me and it is possible. It is called a missed miscarriage and there can be no symptoms. My first baby passed at 5 weeks 6 days according to measurements and I didn't find out until my first ultrasound at ten weeks. I kept having symptoms until nine weeks or so because my hormone levels were so high that my body didn't realize. They were falling, but not quickly enough. The blood test will tell you if your hormones are going up or down. Once you find out, if it is bad news, I urge you to consider the surgery or pills considering what your insurance covers etc. It was really really difficult for me to walk around knowing that my baby was still inside of me but it was gone. Also I couldn't go anywhere without being afraid the miscarriage was going to start and I had my surgery less than a week after finding out. For me, the surgery was preferable because I would know when everything happened and I would know what to expect. Not to mention I wouldn't feel it (just sore afterward). The pills are painful, as is natural miscarriage from what I have heard.

I'm so sorry for you. I hope your dates are off and your blood test shows the hormones increasing! If you need to talk feel free to message me. This is a scary time. Again, I'm so so sorry for you!

brody624 · October 2014

I agree with the PP and I would get a second opinion. I am so sorry you're going through this but I'm sending lots of prayers your way!

sharice111 · October 2014

I'm so sorry you are going through this. My first ultrasound showed nothing, but the doctors didn't say anything about doing anything for a miscarriage. They decided to recheck hcg to see if they fell and ether way do a repeat ultrasound two days later today. My hcg didn't double, but did rise and we did see a baby and heart beat. I'm shocked the doctor didn't want a repeat ultrasound with rechecking hcg levels... I'd get another opinion. Be prepared though because it could be a missed miscarriage still... I'm sorry sorry you are going through this. Hugs!!! Hang in there.

IsadoraB · October 2014

Definitely find a new doctor and get a second opinion! I can't believe how horrible his bedside manner was. Please keep us updated!

MissBridg · October 2014

Blessed4This I am so sorry for you that this is happening. I 100% agree that you need a second opinion at 7 or 8 weeks. From what I've read it's very uncommon to detect a heart beat at 6 weeks. I'm by no means a doctor, but I say do not agree to any procedures without seeking a second opinion and (if you can) waiting a couple of weeks.

T&P for you!

loveinkw13 · October 2014

beckynsean11 said:

I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Your doctor was awful to you. The fact that your doctor did not want another scan to confirm the loss is disgusting to me. With my first loss we knew it was over at 6.5 weeks. My doctor still insisted on a scan around 8 weeks to confirm before we did anything. If you had a positive ovulation test on Sept 9th, you could have ovulated as much as 2 days later. It's definitely possible that the scan was too early. I hope you seek a second opinion.

Your doctor had you on unmonitored Clomid (it should not have been on you to use OPKs, you should have had an ultrasound that would tell you when you were ovulating.) And he didn't want a follow up scan, plus his horrific bedside manner. 2 strikes doc, you're fired.

Agreed with this also. I'm so sorry you are going through this. T&P!

housewifebecomesher · October 2014

I'm so sorry to hear this. The doctors can really be insensitive to these events. I agree with PPs, I would get a second opinion.

asturgeon04 · October 2014

I am so sorry to hear this news. I agree.. Get a second ultrasound. I cannot believe your doctor didn't want to do another scan just to confirm. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

RedRaiderLaura · October 2014

I'm so, so sorry!! Having lost 3 myself I would say wait a bit, have another ultrasound, but don't get your hopes up. If you would rather wait and let your body handle things I understand, but in my experience having the D and C is easier (don't have to flush your baby down the toilet) and helps your chances of carrying another baby. Best of luck to you. Again, I'm very sorry for the loss of your baby.

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