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Can I plan a baby shower for my husband ??

theladycoy13theladycoy13 member
in March 2015 Moms
ok yes you read correct !!! So to make a Longstory short this is my third baby 2nd marriage my children are older 13 and 7 ... This is my husbands first baby we tried for 5 years and went to fertility doctors and they told us my hubby had a condition due to illiness that left him infertile we gave up trying two years ago and God Blessed us with a child !!!! My husband is over the moon !!! We are having a little girl which is a dream come true for him he even named her... Question is can I throw a baby shower for him ?? My other two girls want to help as well but not sure if I can do that its a little out of normal but honestly so are my hubby and I !!!! So what do you other mommy's to be think daddy to be shower or tacky tacky ??
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  • lisap0924lisap0924 member
    That sounds like a cute idea! But I agree with beer and football and not a "typical" shower where everyone sits around and plays games and watches the mom to be open presents

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  • Disneygeek77Disneygeek77 member
    No, you can't host a shower for him since you would benefit just as much as he would.  Now, if someone from his side of the family wanted to host a shower for this baby, that would be fine.
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  • lisap0924lisap0924 member
    MandJS said:


    theladycoy13 said:

    ok yes you read correct !!! So to make a Longstory short this is my third baby 2nd marriage my children are older 13 and 7 ... This is my husbands first baby we tried for 5 years and went to fertility doctors and they told us my hubby had a condition due to illiness that left him infertile we gave up trying two years ago and God Blessed us with a child !!!! My husband is over the moon !!! We are having a little girl which is a dream come true for him he even named her... Question is can I throw a baby shower for him ?? My other two girls want to help as well but not sure if I can do that its a little out of normal but honestly so are my hubby and I !!!! So what do you other mommy's to be think daddy to be shower or tacky tacky ??

    No. You canNOT throw a shower for yourself or your spouse or for ANY child that will be living in your house. If you want to celebrate your H with your 2 existing children, then go for it. Take him out to dinner. Throw a little party. But. Keep it to JUST the 4 of you. Don't invite people. It's gross and tacky. (To be clear - if one of HIS friends wants to throw it, then fine. But YOU should not throw it. Nor should you ask anyone to. Nor should you indicate in ANY way what types of gifts people should bring.)


    Yes. This. I should have been more clear.
    If you want to celebrate somehow, that would be fine. But, no gifts.

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  • kcbizmekcbizme member
    Okay.. so many things wrong with this question..

    1. A "baby shower" is for a FIRST TIME mother-to-be.
    2. It is ABSOLUTELY "tacky tacky" (as you put it) to throw your own, as you will benefit from it just as much as he does.
    3. Isn't he already a dad to your 2 older kids? Just because he's not biologically their father doesn't mean he's not a dad.
    4. This would only be acceptable if it was SOMEONE ELSE'S idea.

    Go to dinner with the fam and celebrate that way. Otherwise, why even ask?
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  • kcbizmekcbizme member
    jnowosielski said:
    Do guys even care about showers?  I feel like every guy I know would want to avoid anything associated with a shower (bridal, baby, or other)
    I was going to list that as one of my reasons, but I thought it might sound too stereotypical.
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  • Disneygeek77Disneygeek77 member
    My husband has been to two showers and said " Never again."
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  • Lark425Lark425 member
    Lol my husband just mentioned a daddy shower yesterday as a joke and said that if he were to plan it, it would include beer, pizza, and hockey. It was funny but no, you shouldn't throw him a party. One of his friends could if they are so inclined but isn't he a daddy now to your other girls? I don't really understand.
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  • scarlettc27scarlettc27 member
    @kcbizme  I could be wrong, but I feel like the Baby Shower board generally says it's okay for the family/friends of a first time father to have a shower for him, even if his wife has children from a previous relationship.

    Obviously, that doesn't mean what OP is proposing is appropriate...
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  • janda426janda426 member
    It's totally okay if his friends want to have a shower for him. Let's get this straight. Totally fine.

    But the OP doing it for him screams ulterior motives. Nothing SHE wants would be included on the registry? Doubt it. If I got an invite from the mother to be for a shower for the husband Id be like wtf? No. Gift grabby.
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  • janda426janda426 member
    MyLittleGony said:

    Uhm, why can't she plan a baby shower for her husband?  It's not like she's planning it for herself.  You are all rude and should be ashamed of yourselves.

    Except all of the gifts received would also belong to her. So yeah it would be for herself as well. And no I don't feel ashamed of myself knowing Id never do something that tacky.
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  • emopnyemopny member
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    MyLittleGony said:


    janda426 said:

    MyLittleGony said:

    Uhm, why can't she plan a baby shower for her husband?  It's not like she's planning it for herself.  You are all rude and should be ashamed of yourselves.

    Except all of the gifts received would also belong to her. So yeah it would be for herself as well. And no I don't feel ashamed of myself knowing Id never do something that tacky.

    What's wrong with being tacky?  I say the more saddles and bridles the better.

    Right? Never forget the hoof polish. That stuff goes rock bottom after Xmas.

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    MyLittleGony said:


    janda426 said:

    MyLittleGony said:

    Uhm, why can't she plan a baby shower for her husband?  It's not like she's planning it for herself.  You are all rude and should be ashamed of yourselves.

    Except all of the gifts received would also belong to her. So yeah it would be for herself as well. And no I don't feel ashamed of myself knowing Id never do something that tacky.

    What's wrong with being tacky?  I say the more saddles and bridles the better.

    --end quote--

    Hey do your thing. People being tacky always makes for interesting stories around here.
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    SparkleHooves said:


    janda426 said:

    It's totally okay if his friends want to have a shower for him. Let's get this straight. Totally fine.

    But the OP doing it for him screams ulterior motives. Nothing SHE wants would be included on the registry? Doubt it. If I got an invite from the mother to be for a shower for the husband Id be like wtf? No. Gift grabby.

    Is there a book I can read this in? I like to get presents, it's not a secret, why should I have to pretend I don't? Please show me where I can read about this. Thank you! I love to hear from experts!


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    I want whatever you're smoking.
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  • MyLittleGonyMyLittleGony member
    janda426 said:
    janda426 said:
    It's totally okay if his friends want to have a shower for him. Let's get this straight. Totally fine. But the OP doing it for him screams ulterior motives. Nothing SHE wants would be included on the registry? Doubt it. If I got an invite from the mother to be for a shower for the husband Id be like wtf? No. Gift grabby.
    Is there a book I can read this in? I like to get presents, it's not a secret, why should I have to pretend I don't? Please show me where I can read about this. Thank you! I love to hear from experts!
    --end quote-- I want whatever you're smoking.
    YOU CAN'T SMOKE WHILE PREGNANT.  OMG, READ A BOOK!
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  • smartponysmartpony member
    emopny said:
    janda426 said:
    Uhm, why can't she plan a baby shower for her husband?  It's not like she's planning it for herself.  You are all rude and should be ashamed of yourselves.
    Except all of the gifts received would also belong to her. So yeah it would be for herself as well. And no I don't feel ashamed of myself knowing Id never do something that tacky.
    What's wrong with being tacky?  I say the more saddles and bridles the better.
    Right? Never forget the hoof polish. That stuff goes rock bottom after Xmas.
    What brand do you like? I'm a Super Shine mare with some twinkle toes thrown in.
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  • MyLittleGonyMyLittleGony member
    janda426 said:
    Are the trolls disappointed when they make their cute little buddy accounts to annoy us only to find out we know how to play along? Sadz
    No, you're still entertaining.  Don't be sad!
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    smartpony said:


    emopny said:

    MyLittleGony said:


    janda426 said:

    MyLittleGony said:

    Uhm, why can't she plan a baby shower for her husband?  It's not like she's planning it for herself.  You are all rude and should be ashamed of yourselves.

    Except all of the gifts received would also belong to her. So yeah it would be for herself as well. And no I don't feel ashamed of myself knowing Id never do something that tacky.

    What's wrong with being tacky?  I say the more saddles and bridles the better.
    Right? Never forget the hoof polish. That stuff goes rock bottom after Xmas.

    What brand do you like? I'm a Super Shine mare with some twinkle toes thrown in.


    I like the Halloween black. Dark and misunderstood, like my soul.

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  • koshveilykoshveily member
    I think throwing a party for the new dad-to-be is a sweet idea... I just definitely wouldn't market it as a baby shower.
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    Peledreamsofrain said:

    No to the ponies, just no. Please can we get some adult sounding trolls up in here?

    Excuse me, but I am not a pony, I am a full grown Majestic Unicorn. I demand respect.


    Poser. I'm a mutherfuggin Thestral.


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    RQuinlin said:
    Hey look! The My Little Pony crew has finally decided to grace us with their presence! They've been all over TB since the mayhem/chaos started, but they hadn't come to play with the Haggard Glitter Trolls yet. I was kind of feeling left out. Too bad they've lost some of their funny along the way.
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    FrecklesInside said:
    Can I ride emopony? If not, I'll take Sparklehooves...
    No.  I am too misunderstood and dark to be ridden.

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