Ttc-scared to test

thnkinpreg517 · October 2014

so I was on here a few months ago.. I ended up not being pregnant.. Today is 9 days late.. I'm scared to take the test and get a bfn... I have been extremely tired... And slightly nauseous ...and extremely moody!!! I told my better half if take it Tuesday when I'm 2wl.. Sorry I'm just super scared

LittleMrsW · October 2014

How do you know that you're 9 days late? Are you charting? Do you know when your LP usually ends?

thnkinpreg517 · October 2014

Yes I chart... Lp should have started 9/7 and ended 9/11

TRP85 · October 2014

You have a 4 day LP?

Scatterbug · October 2014

Only 2 ways to know for sure as symptoms mean nothing.

1. Test.
2. Wait 9 months :-D and see what happens.

Good luck

kristyn831 · October 2014

A 4 day LP is very short.

thnkinpreg517 · October 2014

Wait sorry new to this lp? Thought it meant last period... I should've started on the 7th of this month

LittleMrsW · October 2014

thnkinpreg517 said:

Yes I chart... Lp should have started 9/7 and ended 9/11

What? I'm sure your Luteal Phase is longer than that.

Please read the Newbie Blog and get yourself educated about your body.

TRP85 · October 2014

LP means your Luteal phase. This is the phase between ovulation and your period when implantation occurs (if you are pregnant). The average LP is between 10-16 days.

Edit: to echo the others and say please read the newbie blog.

thnkinpreg517 · October 2014

Wow...ok yea I'll read the newbie blog... And thanks to the ppl that were helpful... And thanks for being [edited by mod] to the last two [edited by mod]

pmcd886 · October 2014

thnkinpreg517 said:
Wow...ok yea I'll read the newbie blog... And thanks to the ppl that were helpful... And thanks for being [edited by mod] to the last two [edited by mod]s

This violates the TOU. You can not call people names.
Also, whomever came up with the saying there are no such thing as stupid questions obviously had too many shots of tequila that night. Oh wait there was no question asked...
OP take a test. It will be able to tell you way more than internet strangers can.

howljenkins · October 2014

OP, pee on your screen. I'll tell you if you're pregnant.

nandaboob06 · October 2014

bibliothecary said:

thnkinpreg517 said:
Wow...ok yea I'll read the newbie blog... And thanks to the ppl that were helpful... And thanks for being [edited by mod] to the last two [edited by mod]
Dicks. What are your thoughts on eating them?

Only when i want to keep dh in line. He knows i mean srs bidness when i do.

Wait what?

Mysh · October 2014

Oh FFS, OP these ladies were not being assholes. If anything you are the (one acting like an) asshole. Seriously, if you are late pee on a stick. You didn't even have a question for us to answer. This board is not your personal diary. JFC.

[Deleted User] · October 2014

OP - I know it feels like when we start the TTC process that there's suddenly a lot of information to learn that grade school failed to tell us. It's hard; we've all been there. I assure you that knowledge is power in this process, and your worries may lessen if you have more information at your fingertips. If you use Fertility Friend and take your temp with a BBT at the same time each morning, you'll have much more peace of mind on whether you're hitting your fertile window.

I encourage you to get involved with the community here and post more often. Offer support to other members, welcome new members, etc. and this process will slowly become less scary. Please don't name call us. We're all in the same boat, right? We're all just trying to help.

Good luck!

Cythe · October 2014

I find it hard to believe that not one of these assholes directed you to the newbie blog last time you were here. Huh.

sister13 · October 2014

thewickedfairy · October 2014

FFS, just take a test.

PinkCamino · October 2014

I have the opposite problem. I can't control myself and test all the fucking time.

Belou52579 · October 2014

I'm an asshole E-o-E-o-E-o-E-o I'm an asshole. The worlds biggest asshole....

Ant&Al2825 · October 2014

thnkinpreg517 said:
Wow...ok yea I'll read the newbie blog... And thanks to the ppl that were helpful... And thanks for being [edited by mod] to the last two [edited by mod]

Bannable.

You asked a ridiculous question and got called on it.

Catcherryesux · October 2014

jefa621 said:
You say you chart... But are you charting your bbt? If not, there is no way to know when you ovulated or if you are truly late. Sometimes ovulation can happen later than you think, thus delaying your period.

And I'm sorry, but testing goes along with ttc. If you don't want to test, then you need to sit and wait for your period. Either way you'll know if you're pregnant or not so why not just take the test?

But what do I know. I'm just one of these assholes.

Waiting for your period as opposed to taking HPTs is fine if used in conjunction with temping, but if not, then you have all these women who say, my period is X days late (according to my period tracker app, or clockwork cycles), yet my tests are negative! What gives?

OP, if you have clear evidence that you ovulated, based on temping (not based on OPKs, CM, a period app, cramping, or your "always clockwork cycles") then if your period truly doesn't show you should have no reason to fear a negative HPT.

bfonz619 · October 2014

If I was 9 days late, I wouldn't be able to hold back my excitement for testing. POAS and move along with your nasty attitude.

howljenkins · October 2014

sdfonz619 said:

If I was 9 days late, I wouldn't be able to hold back my excitement for testing. POAS and move along with your nasty attitude.

But if you're completely ignorant to how your cycle works and 9 days "late" isn't really that uncommon, then it's probably different.

bfonz619 · October 2014

howljenkins said:

sdfonz619 said:

If I was 9 days late, I wouldn't be able to hold back my excitement for testing. POAS and move along with your nasty attitude.

But if you're completely ignorant to how your cycle works and 9 days "late" isn't really that uncommon, then it's probably different.

Good point.

divinemsbee · October 2014

howljenkins said:

sdfonz619 said:

If I was 9 days late, I wouldn't be able to hold back my excitement for testing. POAS and move along with your nasty attitude.

But if you're completely ignorant to how your cycle works and 9 days "late" isn't really that uncommon, then it's probably different.

I think it depends. My cycles, even before I knew the slightest thing about them, were always (and still are) roughly 30 days long. So, were I in that situation, if I started my last period on September 8, and it's October 17 with no show, then I would totally be testing. Now, I might get a negative because of reasons I now understand, but I'd sure as hell be testing before that.

Am I the only person who, when they had no idea how their cycle worked other than that my period started around the same day (i.e. college), would be 3 days 'late' and take at least 3 pregnancy tests? Even if I'd had totally protected sex? Even when I was on BCP? Yes, I was uninformed, but I'm pretty sure at least once every female friend I had was 'late' by 3 or 4 days and peed on a stick. That's why I don't get these posts. If you're 9 days beyond what your cycle normally is, not testing isn't going to change the answer.

thnkinpreg517 · October 2014

Dude... I was posting because I'm scared I'm infertile and my body is playing tricks on me... I'm not an asshole .. I'm just fucking scared and ppl were being rude .. I do need more education on this .. That's why I came here.. And to be treated like that was wrong... I though this was a place to be supported I guess I should have framed it more in a question I'm scared it's too early to test... That's my bad.. But for it to not be a question for anyone to answer there sure we're a lot of comments.. With nothing but rude things to say...I had trouble with the newbie blog because I'm on my iPhone I could get to any of the links... I'm overwhelmed... I don't want to test early think I'm not pregnant and be pregnant.. Even though I am ttc it's still scary I just didn't think ppl would really be so unsupportive and awful.. And I said thank you to the ppl who gave legit advice...that wasn't an over reaction ppl were out of line... I clearly never said everyone here is an asshole...

MsFaith15 · October 2014

thnkinpreg517 said:
Dude... I was posting because I'm scared I'm infertile and my body is playing tricks on me... I'm not an asshole .. I'm just fucking scared and ppl were being rude .. I do need more education on this .. That's why I came here.. And to be treated like that was wrong... I though this was a place to be supported I guess I should have framed it more in a question I'm scared it's too early to test... That's my bad.. But for it to not be a question for anyone to answer there sure we're a lot of comments.. With nothing but rude things to say...I had trouble with the newbie blog because I'm on my iPhone I could get to any of the links... I'm overwhelmed... I don't want to test early think I'm not pregnant and be pregnant.. Even though I am ttc it's still scary I just didn't think ppl would really be so unsupportive and awful.. And I said thank you to the ppl who gave legit advice...that wasn't an over reaction ppl were out of line... I clearly never said everyone here is an asshole...

QFP...and the newbie in me is excited because I've never done a QFP before.

Empireceo · October 2014

thnkinpreg517 said:

Dude... I was posting because I'm scared I'm infertile and my body is playing tricks on me... I'm not an asshole .. I'm just fucking scared and ppl were being rude .. I do need more education on this .. That's why I came here.. And to be treated like that was wrong... I though this was a place to be supported I guess I should have framed it more in a question I'm scared it's too early to test... That's my bad.. But for it to not be a question for anyone to answer there sure we're a lot of comments.. With nothing but rude things to say...I had trouble with the newbie blog because I'm on my iPhone I could get to any of the links... I'm overwhelmed... I don't want to test early think I'm not pregnant and be pregnant.. Even though I am ttc it's still scary I just didn't think ppl would really be so unsupportive and awful.. And I said thank you to the ppl who gave legit advice...that wasn't an over reaction ppl were out of line... I clearly never said everyone here is an asshole...

Do you have a legit reason to believe you may have trouble conceiving, like a diagnosis of PCOS or something? Because right now it sounds like you're being dramatic because you didn't sniff a dick and get pregnant immediately.

icaughtfire · October 2014

hereistreble said:

thnkinpreg517 said:
Dude... I was posting because I'm scared I'm infertile and my body is playing tricks on me... I'm not an asshole .. I'm just fucking scared and ppl were being rude .. I do need more education on this .. That's why I came here.. And to be treated like that was wrong... I though this was a place to be supported I guess I should have framed it more in a question I'm scared it's too early to test... That's my bad.. But for it to not be a question for anyone to answer there sure we're a lot of comments.. With nothing but rude things to say...I had trouble with the newbie blog because I'm on my iPhone I could get to any of the links... I'm overwhelmed... I don't want to test early think I'm not pregnant and be pregnant.. Even though I am ttc it's still scary I just didn't think ppl would really be so unsupportive and awful.. And I said thank you to the ppl who gave legit advice...that wasn't an over reaction ppl were out of line... I clearly never said everyone here is an asshole...
You can just use one period at the end of a sentence.

____________
I just assumed she was trying to make up for her lack of period...

PinkCamino · October 2014

thnkinpreg517 said:

Dude... I was posting because I'm scared I'm infertile and my body is playing tricks on me... I'm not an asshole .. I'm just fucking scared and ppl were being rude .. I do need more education on this .. That's why I came here.. And to be treated like that was wrong... I though this was a place to be supported I guess I should have framed it more in a question I'm scared it's too early to test... That's my bad.. But for it to not be a question for anyone to answer there sure we're a lot of comments.. With nothing but rude things to say...I had trouble with the newbie blog because I'm on my iPhone I could get to any of the links... I'm overwhelmed... I don't want to test early think I'm not pregnant and be pregnant.. Even though I am ttc it's still scary I just didn't think ppl would really be so unsupportive and awful.. And I said thank you to the ppl who gave legit advice...that wasn't an over reaction ppl were out of line... I clearly never said everyone here is an asshole...

Ridiculous.

The only way to know you're pregnant is if you test.

There are at least 12 excuses in there justifying why you can't take the time to be a respectful member of this community. If you can't read the newbie blog then why not hold of on posting? Simple right?

Sorry I'm not sorry apologies are funny. You're basically justifying why it was okay to call the ladies here assholes.

Finally, have you tested? Instead of fucking arguing why not piss on an HPT.

PinkCamino · October 2014

bibliothecary said:

Wow...ok yea I'll read the newbie blog... And thanks to the ppl that were helpful... And thanks for being [edited by mod] to the last two [edited by mod]
Dicks. What are your thoughts on eating them?

Just in case you forgot. That's where you called people assholes.

GypsySoul1112 · October 2014

thnkinpreg517 said:

Dude... I was posting because I'm scared I'm infertile and my body is playing tricks on me... I'm not an asshole .. I'm just fucking scared and ppl were being rude .. I do need more education on this .. That's why I came here.. And to be treated like that was wrong... I though this was a place to be supported I guess I should have framed it more in a question I'm scared it's too early to test... That's my bad.. But for it to not be a question for anyone to answer there sure we're a lot of comments.. With nothing but rude things to say...I had trouble with the newbie blog because I'm on my iPhone I could get to any of the links... I'm overwhelmed... I don't want to test early think I'm not pregnant and be pregnant.. Even though I am ttc it's still scary I just didn't think ppl would really be so unsupportive and awful.. And I said thank you to the ppl who gave legit advice...that wasn't an over reaction ppl were out of line... I clearly never said everyone here is an asshole...

OP, I understand you are frustrated and overwhelmed. Learning about your cycles and how your body works to get pregnant is complicated. However, you also have to take into account that this board sees a lot of women hoping for the answers they want to hear and for us to coddle you throughout the process. True, some of the ladies may be harsh, but if you can't get past that and take the advice you've been given, then this is not the place for you. Quite frankly, there is a wealth of information on the newbie blog and in previous threads that can teach you, and we get tired of sounding like a broken record when these resources are easily available to you. Just calm down, have a glass of wine, and come back with some legitimate questions.

Scatterbug · October 2014

I don't understand. What did you want people to say? You are late and scared to test (not a question btw). The only response to that is to test. So test. If you need psychological or emotional support I would suggest your other half or a professional. Strangers can't provide that. Good luck. I sincerely mean that.

teaghanmarek · October 2014

Wow, quite honestly I was shocked by the number of rude and disrespectful comments to this girls post. Being new to TTC I thought I would come here to understand the struggle of TTC and be surrounded by people who understood and felt as frustrated as I was. This post does not show support and guidance but lashing out. I think those of you who responded with "dumb question, dumb answer" or "get over it" should take a break. Those replies are not helpful or what the community should be about. Also, referring people to the newbie page is not that helpful either. I have been their multiple times to multiple newbie pages and there are a lot of things to know and learn. How about instead of being sarcastic and mean, we can be supportive an act as a support system; especially to those who have been there before, dreading the not positive result. I thought coming here would be helpful and help raise my spirits but really it was such a downer to read these responses. Why have a site for support, if you are not going to be supportive?

Best of luck my dear! I hope that it did come back as positive.

teaghanmarek · October 2014

Again, why do you insist on attacking people as soon as they post something? Maybe it is your attitude that needs to change. Not everyone is at the same point as you are or has as much information about TTC as you do. What I am saying is there is a lot of information to sort through, and a lot of different opinions on it. To say that reading a post in a few minutes will make me an expert is ridiculous. Show a little compassion.

KingLED · October 2014

teaghanmarek said:

Again, why do you insist on attacking people as soon as they post something? Maybe it is your attitude that needs to change. Not everyone is at the same point as you are or has as much information about TTC as you do. What I am saying is there is a lot of information to sort through, and a lot of different opinions on it. To say that reading a post in a few minutes will make me an expert is ridiculous. Show a little compassion.

No.

thewickedfairy · October 2014

teaghanmarek said:
Wow, quite honestly I was shocked by the number of rude and disrespectful comments to this girls post. Being new to TTC I thought I would come here to understand the struggle of TTC and be surrounded by people who understood and felt as frustrated as I was. This post does not show support and guidance but lashing out. I think those of you who responded with "dumb question, dumb answer" or "get over it" should take a break. Those replies are not helpful or what the community should be about. Also, referring people to the newbie page is not that helpful either. I have been their multiple times to multiple newbie pages and there are a lot of things to know and learn. How about instead of being sarcastic and mean, we can be supportive an act as a support system; especially to those who have been there before, dreading the not positive result. I thought coming here would be helpful and help raise my spirits but really it was such a downer to read these responses. Why have a site for support, if you are not going to be supportive?

Best of luck my dear! I hope that it did come back as positive.

WK, go away!

Mysh · October 2014

teaghanmarek said:
Wow, quite honestly I was shocked by the number of rude and disrespectful comments to this girls post. Being new to TTC I thought I would come here to understand the struggle of TTC and be surrounded by people who understood and felt as frustrated as I was. This post does not show support and guidance but lashing out. I think those of you who responded with "dumb question, dumb answer" or "get over it" should take a break. Those replies are not helpful or what the community should be about. Also, referring people to the newbie page is not that helpful either. I have been their multiple times to multiple newbie pages and there are a lot of things to know and learn. How about instead of being sarcastic and mean, we can be supportive an act as a support system; especially to those who have been there before, dreading the not positive result. I thought coming here would be helpful and help raise my spirits but really it was such a downer to read these responses. Why have a site for support, if you are not going to be supportive?

Best of luck my dear! I hope that it did come back as positive.

Why are you asking us to be a support group for a lady who had thus far been unwilling to support us? She came in here, wrote a dear diary and then called us assholes for telling her to just take the test. Just no, WK. Take a seat and watch, you'll see tons of support for those of us willing to stick through thick and thin together.

thewickedfairy · October 2014

KawaiiKitsune said:

teaghanmarek said:

Again, why do you insist on attacking people as soon as they post something? Maybe it is your attitude that needs to change. Not everyone is at the same point as you are or has as much information about TTC as you do. What I am saying is there is a lot of information to sort through, and a lot of different opinions on it. To say that reading a post in a few minutes will make me an expert is ridiculous. Show a little compassion.

This community is extremely supportive but you have to give to get. You can't just waltz in here and expect someone to hold your hand and feed you false hope. We aren't about that here. The Newbie blog is extremely helpful and full of awesome advice on conceiving and it you didn't take anything away from it after reading it multiple times, then there is nothing else we can do for you. Might I suggest babycenter? They will blow rainbows and glitter up your ass all day long and tell you there is definitely a possibility that pregnancy tests are lying to you.

traversity773 · October 2014

@teaghanmarek‌ these women have been nothing but supportive of me and others who don't come in and ask dumb questions. The newbie blog is super helpful. Slow your roll and learn to interact with others before you freak out. Do you expect your new neighbor to give a shit about your reproductive journey? Oh no? They don't know you? Well then.

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