UO - Thursday Edition

RedGiant · October 2014

I saw two spam boards, but no UO. So, I felt the need to start one.

My UO: I think people are overreacting to the whole Ebola thing. Yes, if you are working as a first responder or in a hospital then you should have a good plan figured out for how to treat people who might possibly have Ebola, and hope no one lies about their travel history to you. But most of the general public should not be totally freaked out. Unless you habitually go around sharing bodily fluids with other people who have fevers, you will most likely be ok.

What is your unpopular opinion?

Alygohome · October 2014

I know this will be extremely unpopular opinion but I think watching someone breast feed is gross. Sorry. I know its best for baby and I know that its your right and whatever, I wont complain or say a word, but it honestly squicks me out to see someone elses nipple or baby breastfeeding, it makes me so uncomfortable. I plan to try and breastfeed but since I am so squicked out I don't know if I will be able to do it. I am taking a breastfeeding class so hopefully it helps me get over it.

lizzybean · October 2014

My toddler is turning into an asshole and it is making me sad.

She is not her happy, lovey self when she doesn't take her nap and it is upsetting. I miss my nice girl.

lizjennings81 · October 2014

Honeycrisp apples are not all that special. Give me a McIntosh apple any day.

(Yes, yes, I know, I have no soul).

bhjones1980 · October 2014

Alygohome said:

I know this will be extremely unpopular opinion but I think watching someone breast feed is gross. Sorry. I know its best for baby and I know that its your right and whatever, I wont complain or say a word, but it honestly squicks me out to see someone elses nipple or baby breastfeeding, it makes me so uncomfortable. I plan to try and breastfeed but since I am so squicked out I don't know if I will be able to do it. I am taking a breastfeeding class so hopefully it helps me get over it.

I agree with you and I nursed (I prefer that word to BFing) for 15 months with DS and plan to do the same for this LO, but I never got over the uncomfortable factor with it.

You will NEVER see me NIP without a cover, even with a cover I picture people thinking about it and it gives me the heebies.

I have no idea why.

I will also never understand other peoples comfort with discussing BFing with me, I would go to work trips and people I have only met once or twice would have no problem asking me if I was still BFing, if I had to go pump, etc. ICK!

bhjones1980 · October 2014

lizzybean said:

My toddler is turning into an asshole and it is making me sad.
She is not her happy, lovey self when she doesn't take her nap and it is upsetting. I miss my nice girl.

Toddlers are assholes... it is a known fact

Love him to death, but DS is one too.

freegiraffe · October 2014

KristinMTBell said:

@bhjones1980‌ I don't think this will be an UO, but I don't understand other people's comfort with discussing most things about pregnancy and parenthood. In my work I meet new people every day, and I see a large number of people that are only acquaintances. It does in no way stop them from asking what I consider to be quite personal questions. I'm feisty though, and reply with my real thoughts (unless it's a wine buyer, then I'll do anything for a sale).

I feel this way about people asking me what kind of birth I plan to have. First of all, why do you care? It has no bearing on you and it's none of your business. Second of all, booooring. Let's talk about the BABY I am going to bring home, not the 24-48 hour period I may spend laboring.

lizzybean · October 2014

Thank you @bhjones1980 and @kcrosem I need to hear that today!

DH says he doesn't get why I lose my patience with her.. he only sees the last 2 hours of her day. I have been dealing with it for 12 hours straight.

lizzybean · October 2014

@KristinMTBell I am the same way. BUT I give her the time to sleep. As much time as she wants! Oh, when she is a mother she will wish she didn't use her crib time for playing and yelling..

bhjones1980 · October 2014

lizzybean said:

@KristinMTBell I am the same way. BUT I give her the time to sleep. As much time as she wants! Oh, when she is a mother she will wish she didn't use her crib time for playing and yelling..

Ugh, MJ has started boycotting all weekend naps, he still takes his two naps a day at daycare perfect, and comes home rested and sweet, but on the weekends he is a terror, refusing to nap, screaming when I put him down for naps (I give him lots of time to fall asleep), only sleeping for 30-45 minutes) when he does nap on the weekends.

So trying to move him from the two nap to one nap schedule has been a big fat failure!

ordinary1 · October 2014

Alygohome said:
I know this will be extremely unpopular opinion but I think watching someone breast feed is gross. Sorry. I know its best for baby and I know that its your right and whatever, I wont complain or say a word, but it honestly squicks me out to see someone elses nipple or baby breastfeeding, it makes me so uncomfortable. I plan to try and breastfeed but since I am so squicked out I don't know if I will be able to do it. I am taking a breastfeeding class so hopefully it helps me get over it.

As a mom who bf'ed for over a year, I would find it gross and uncomfortable for someone to stare at me during a nursing session.

jennjilljo · October 2014

bhjones1980 said:

Alygohome said:

I know this will be extremely unpopular opinion but I think watching someone breast feed is gross. Sorry. I know its best for baby and I know that its your right and whatever, I wont complain or say a word, but it honestly squicks me out to see someone elses nipple or baby breastfeeding, it makes me so uncomfortable. I plan to try and breastfeed but since I am so squicked out I don't know if I will be able to do it. I am taking a breastfeeding class so hopefully it helps me get over it.

I agree with you and I nursed (I prefer that word to BFing) for 15 months with DS and plan to do the same for this LO, but I never got over the uncomfortable factor with it.

You will NEVER see me NIP without a cover, even with a cover I picture people thinking about it and it gives me the heebies.

I have no idea why.

I will also never understand other peoples comfort with discussing BFing with me, I would go to work trips and people I have only met once or twice would have no problem asking me if I was still BFing, if I had to go pump, etc. ICK!

Ditto. I hate seeing it. I think modesty and discretion are amazing things.

AngieAn · October 2014

Alygohome said:

I know this will be extremely unpopular opinion but I think watching someone breast feed is gross. Sorry. I know its best for baby and I know that its your right and whatever, I wont complain or say a word, but it honestly squicks me out to see someone elses nipple or baby breastfeeding, it makes me so uncomfortable. I plan to try and breastfeed but since I am so squicked out I don't know if I will be able to do it. I am taking a breastfeeding class so hopefully it helps me get over it.

I feel the same way….I'm not sure if it has to do with the fact that I was so young when I had my first and super uncomfortable with people watching me, but I have always been such a private person and I just think that somethings should not been seen. Its bad cause I really think that breastfeeding is such a good thing to do, but the last thing I want to see is my SIL breasts when I'm trying to eat my eggs in the morning.

thegoodpotato · October 2014

Alygohome said:

I know this will be extremely unpopular opinion but I think watching someone breast feed is gross. Sorry. I know its best for baby and I know that its your right and whatever, I wont complain or say a word, but it honestly squicks me out to see someone elses nipple or baby breastfeeding, it makes me so uncomfortable. I plan to try and breastfeed but since I am so squicked out I don't know if I will be able to do it. I am taking a breastfeeding class so hopefully it helps me get over it.

I never got over the squick factor with breastfeeding. I mean, it was great for bonding and all, but it always felt just a little bit.... weird.

That being said - I nursed Amanda for 6mo (I had issues with Marnie - mostly not knowing what I was doing, so only nursed her for 8 weeks or so), and weaned her to formula after that.

And my children are both healthy as horses and rarely get sick... So there's nothing wrong with giving it a go and quitting if you don't like it.

But I'm totally with you on the uncomfortable factor.

lizzybean · October 2014

bhjones1980 said:

lizzybean said:

@KristinMTBell I am the same way. BUT I give her the time to sleep. As much time as she wants! Oh, when she is a mother she will wish she didn't use her crib time for playing and yelling..

Ugh, MJ has started boycotting all weekend naps, he still takes his two naps a day at daycare perfect, and comes home rested and sweet, but on the weekends he is a terror, refusing to nap, screaming when I put him down for naps (I give him lots of time to fall asleep), only sleeping for 30-45 minutes) when he does nap on the weekends.

So trying to move him from the two nap to one nap schedule has been a big fat failure!

UGH sorry the nap schedules are getting screwy for you! Toddlers that don't nap SUCK.

lizzybean · October 2014

KristinMTBell said:

@lizzybean and @bhjones1980 - I refused to nap ever when I was a toddler. It's my one regret.

Hahaha too funny! I think of all those nights I stayed up all night as a teenager. Reading, playing computer games, sleepovers with friends... I should have been sleeping damnit!!

nbad311 · October 2014

I find found Aaron Hernandez rather physically attractive. So I was disappointed when he went and became a murderer

Alygohome · October 2014

ITs even in videos it makes me uncomfortable. In my labour class they showed that video on medicated vs. unmedicated births and bfing and the skin on skin and crawl reflex stuff. And in the video there was all these different women with no tops on right after birth laying down and letting the baby "crawl" to the nipples and suckle. I was so uncomfortable I couldn't watch. Yet watching the babies come out (while not a pleasant sight) didn't bother me.. It just felt..so intimate or something. My one friend ALWAYS whipped her nipple out at me. I would try and look away but pretty hard when you are sitting right across from them eating or w.e or she asks you to hand her something right when she does it. Gah. I plan to try and be modest but who knows, maybe I will get it more when I am bfing.

psychobutthead · October 2014

I agree about the bfing thing. When i attempted to nurse dd i think for the two weeks i did it i never just whipped my nipple out. I always tried to cover up with a blanket or wear a baggy shirt with a tank under it. I dont plan on whipping my nipple out in public this time around either. especially not in front of males in my dhs family. now if someone comes to my house and i ask them to leave the room so i can nurse and they wont then you get what you get.

AngieAn · October 2014

lizzybean said:

My toddler is turning into an asshole and it is making me sad.
She is not her happy, lovey self when she doesn't take her nap and it is upsetting. I miss my nice girl.

I feel the same way about my daughter right now also. She's 13 and I'm pretty sure its hormones and just teenage angst, but she can be so mean to her younger sister and have such an attitude that it just makes me sad. I do know that your LO will be her happy self again soon my youngest is 9 and she just loves life like no one else I know, and she has been like this ever since she got out of her terrible 2's.

dreemkin84 · October 2014

It's ground beef; not hamburger!

lizzybean · October 2014

AngieAn said:

lizzybean said:

My toddler is turning into an asshole and it is making me sad.
She is not her happy, lovey self when she doesn't take her nap and it is upsetting. I miss my nice girl.

I feel the same way about my daughter right now also. She's 13 and I'm pretty sure its hormones and just teenage angst, but she can be so mean to her younger sister and have such an attitude that it just makes me sad. I do know that your LO will be her happy self again soon my youngest is 9 and she just loves life like no one else I know, and she has been like this ever since she got out of her terrible 2's.

Okay, so I've got about 10 good years in between the two awful phases??

foxslaw · October 2014

I wasn't a horrible monster until 17, so maybe more than 10.

@lizzybean‌ now I love my mom more than anything & couldn't live without her.

lizzybean · October 2014

Thanks @foxslaw!! I will have two girls in their teens at the same time... yikes!

DH and I are in for a world of hurt. It's going to be a rough few years in our house I predict!

smg2302 · October 2014

Is it funny to anyone else that Nursing in Public = NIP. Just a funny acronym I guess.

I also am uncomfortable with the idea of nursing in public.

UO: I'm over halloween. Can we just move on to Thanksgiving?

foxslaw · October 2014

lizzybean said:
Thanks @foxslaw!! I will have two girls in their teens at the same time... yikes! DH and I are in for a world of hurt. It's going to be a rough few years in our house I predict!

It'll be tough, but I PROMISE they will come around and be super sweet again! Especially since they have a great mom like you. Maybe they'll just skip the terrible teens altogether. @lizzybean‌

AF9211 · October 2014

I'm not sure if mine is a UO or not, but I can't stand when people don't take care when throwing around the phrase "natural birth" or "naturally" when referring to labor & delivery. IT'S ALL NATURAL. Just because some women have surgical deliveries (for WHATEVER reason) or need pain medication during labor & delivery doesn't mean their birth experience wasn't natural.

Last week I met my husband for lunch at one of the restaurant he manages. He had a new server training who was very sweet and she starting chatting with me about my pregnancy. I don't mind small talk about being a mom or being pregnant, especially with other moms. But when she heard this baby would be a c-section just like DD1 was, she got this shocked looked on her face and said, "they won't let you try to deliver naturally??" Um, what? First of all, I think the term you're looking for is vaginally. You're a grown woman, the word vagina shouldn't embarrass you. And secondly, why would you assume that I would automatically want a VBAC? Because no woman in her right mind would ever want a c-section? Because YOU delivered your babies vaginally?

There really is no filter when speaking to pregnant women and I just don't get it. Especially when it comes from another woman/mother. End rant. $:\$ ">

WanderingA · October 2014

I'm not at all uncomfortable with nursing in public and will continue to do so with this LO (yes, even in front of male family members and friends)...I guess that's an unpopular opinion :-/

Two points here...one is that even when I tried to use a blanket to cover up Addie it never worked. She hated having her head covered and would pull away the cover and unlatch immediately causing me to flash my whole breast. The second is that after those initial first few weeks where you are figuring everything out you can generally nurse very discreetly without a cover (yes, even with my giant FF sized breasts). I always wore two layers and would just pull one up and one down and people would hardly notice. Unless someone is literally walking around with a boob hanging out with their baby not nursing I really struggle to see why this would be an issue for anyone.

@smg2302‌ - I always giggle at that acronym too!

lizzybean · October 2014

foxslaw said:

Thanks @foxslaw!! I will have two girls in their teens at the same time... yikes! DH and I are in for a world of hurt. It's going to be a rough few years in our house I predict!
It'll be tough, but I PROMISE they will come around and be super sweet again! Especially since they have a great mom like you. Maybe they'll just skip the terrible teens altogether. @lizzybean‌

Awwww thanks @foxslaw you are so sweet hun

mommaa1615 · October 2014

I HATE the show Friends..that thread reminded me & now its on tvland at night

Alygohome · October 2014

amack22 said:

I HATE the show Friends..that thread reminded me & now its on tvland at night

I am going to pretend I didn't read this

dreemkin84 · October 2014

willvilljill said:

dreemkin84 said:

It's ground beef; not hamburger!

omg, this is so random Yea! take a stand!

Someone had to say it. It was like the elephant in the room. Sorrynotsorry

cups4 · October 2014

Taylor Swift speaks to my soul....hate away

lizzybean · October 2014

missystephens said:

Taylor Swift speaks to my soul....hate away

I LOVE Taylor Swift. Always have

Alygohome · October 2014

lizzybean said:

missystephens said:

Taylor Swift speaks to my soul....hate away

I LOVE Taylor Swift. Always have

uuuurrrgggh. I cannot stand Taylor Swift. Like, I feel ragey how much I cannot stand her. Its her and Kevin Bacon that drive me insane with anger.

jmcgra06 · October 2014

WanderingA said:
I'm not at all uncomfortable with nursing in public and will continue to do so with this LO (yes, even in front of male family members and friends)...I guess that's an unpopular opinion :-/

Two points here...one is that even when I tried to use a blanket to cover up Addie it never worked. She hated having her head covered and would pull away the cover and unlatch immediately causing me to flash my whole breast. The second is that after those initial first few weeks where you are figuring everything out you can generally nurse very discreetly without a cover (yes, even with my giant FF sized breasts). I always wore two layers and would just pull one up and one down and people would hardly notice. Unless someone is literally walking around with a boob hanging out with their baby not nursing I really struggle to see why this would be an issue for anyone.

@smg2302‌ - I always giggle at that acronym too!

All this. I was actually kind of surprised because that usually comes up much sooner in these conversations.

michelle142 · October 2014

I'm perfectly OK with nursing in public.

I only had to do it a handful of times, but it's not something that weirds me out or makes me uncomfortable.

When I see a Mom BFing her LO publicly, I kind of want to fist-bump her and be like "awesome, good for you!"... I don't obviously, but I would like to.

ordinary1 · October 2014

My dad was very uncomfortable with me nursing. He thought it was great I was, but was very much of the opinion I should excuse myself (I nursed where I was comfortable). One time I was laying downstairs on the couch nursing while my dad was upstairs. He came down, patted Annabelle's back and kissed the back of her head. He didn't realize she was nursing until he walked away from us.

AngieAn · October 2014

@lizzybean what @foxslaw said is true, I didn't even really have a rebellion stage, my mom said i just skipped it, so you never know, she might work her way out of it and never return. (fingers crossed)

nbad311 · October 2014

Adding crystal to your wedding registry = WHY?? I will literally never purchase crystal for you as your wedding present. I just can't get with the crystal. It's so.......... idk

Alygohome · October 2014

holachicaaa said:

I'm a FTM, so I haven't had breastfeeding experience yet, but I do plan to breastfeed and many of these comments make me sad.

Can I ask why so many people are uncomfortable with public breastfeeding?

Its not so much public breastfeeding for me its the whole ACT of breastfeeding that makes me uncomfortable and it squicks me out. Its irrational and silly but when I see someone doing it, it almost makes me feel a little light headed and uncomfortable and I can't wait to remove myself from the situation. Like I said I would never tell someone not to or complain that they were bf in public but I won't lie and say it doesn't phase me, I realise its my problems and not the nursing mothers. When watching the videos of the first time baby latched it made me feel uncomfortable because it seemed like an intimate moment between the mom and the baby and I didn't feel I needed to witness it.

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