Everyone keeps telling me baby has to slow down before she will come out. Like it is a sign that she has not descended at all if she is still kicking and moving. She is still a monster mover. Are they right? Am I going to be pregnant forever?
Everyone keeps telling me baby has to slow down before she will come out. Like it is a sign that she has not descended at all if she is still kicking and moving.
She is still a monster mover.
Are they right? Am I going to be pregnant forever?
No. Wrong.
Thank God!
::two chest pumps and a peace sign for Jenn:: ~ MrsJudgeyPants
Everyone keeps telling me baby has to slow down before she will come out. Like it is a sign that she has not descended at all if she is still kicking and moving. She is still a monster mover. Are they right? Am I going to be pregnant forever?
No. Wrong.
Phew! I was like... I am supposed to call if she slows down soooooo that doesn't make sense.
Everyone keeps telling me baby has to slow down before she will come out. Like it is a sign that she has not descended at all if she is still kicking and moving. She is still a monster mover. Are they right? Am I going to be pregnant forever?
No. My baby was a wiggle worm basically until I went into labor. She was much more calm the night I went into labor but otherwise still moved just as much.
@caranichole that sucks. Also, what's wrong with those pouches?
They're overpriced. That's all I've got. (We made our own yogurt pouches for a while. Full fat plain Greek yogurt plus fruit. DD loved them).
That's the truth. We love them, and still get them for our almost 3 year old because they make a quick and easy snack, and I love that she doesn't know she is eating vegetables. But shit man, they have gone up so much in price over the past 1-2 years. Those damn companies realized what a gold mine they are, apparently.
@caranichole that sucks. Also, what's wrong with those pouches?
They're overpriced. That's all I've got. (We made our own yogurt pouches for a while. Full fat plain Greek yogurt plus fruit. DD loved them).
I think the main argument is lazy parenting...I suppose it's all about who/how/when/why. My kiddos had them up through this past summer. Personally I always used them as treats for the girls or snacks if we were on the road. We used to take a 7 hour road trip every weekend. I wouldn't judge or side-eye anyone regardless of the reasoning though.
DH used to teach at a school that provided lunch for all the kids and he'd bring home lunches for kids who were absent. I loved those little applesauce pouches. Can't say whether that was pregnancy or that I just love applesauce.
I feel like I need to keep my emotions in check...but maybe, just maybe, my mom will be getting discharged from the hospital on Friday! After three long weeks. She was able to eat a liquid diet today and her doctors are really happy with how she has been able to process that food so we are cautiously optimistic! This is the third time they have given us a tentative discharge date, so we are trying not to get too excited about it. I would just love for my mom to be out of the hospital by the time this LO decides to make her debut!
Everyone keeps telling me baby has to slow down before she will come out. Like it is a sign that she has not descended at all if she is still kicking and moving. She is still a monster mover. Are they right? Am I going to be pregnant forever?
I felt lots of movement DURING labor. It didn't really stop until the intense contractions after my water broke...and eveb then, I may have just been too distracted to feel him.
@SPurp13 I posted the horrible birth thread you definitely shouldn't read and I'm still feeling good 48 hours after my c/s... And I'm not taking anything stronger than ibuprofen. So don't let the fear of after stress you out. You can 100% do this!
Breastfeeding moms... If you struggled to get LO to latch, how long did it eventually take before they got it or you gave up? This isn't a bad latch... When she's done it, it was fine, but she usually just refuses to try completely. The LC suggested I exclusively pump... Which seemed kinda soon at 2 days.
@AmandaJean12 Wow! 2 days is extremely early to recommend EPing. Can you find another LC to meet with (make sure she's an IBCLC) or contact your local LLL Leader?
Sometimes it can take a while for baby to learn to latch. Lots of skin to skin on your chest and keeping the breast a positive place to be (pausing when either of you becomes frustrated and snuggling skin to skin before trying again), can help bring baby to the breast.
Once her cord stump falls off, you can also have someone help you take a warm bath with baby. The water and skin to skin can work to help reset baby's nursing instinct and make them want to latch.
I hope you can find some positive sources of help, support and encouragement near you. Sounds to me like the LC who was helping you was not giving good info or help. Don't let anyone give up on you!
For the first time ever, Celeste has been awake for over an hour.
Can someone remind me what you're supposed to do to entertain/stimulate babies?
We had the typical red/black/white toys for a newborn.
^^ That. A mirror as well.
Most of the time I just bring my face kind of close to hers and talk to her, sing to her. I take the opportunity to have her sisters come talk to her so she learns their voices. Play with her hands. give her little massages. mimic the sounds she makes.
Was reading a site about foods and things made with breastmilk instead of cow milk...I am so tempted to to make breastmilk pancakes and see what DH says about them.
@Emerald27 Thank you, I just wasn't sure what to say to her. But yes, we have a bunch of resources available. She was just the one doing rounds at the hospital today and her response surprised me, but then one of the nurses echoed the same thing and I thought maybe I was the crazy one. I'm sure having to supplement because of jaundice isn't helping the situation, but I'm not ready to give up this early.
Just ugly cried after hanging up the phone with my mom. I told her I don't want her there at 6 in the morning. She's a smart woman, so she said she will call my MIL and just go with her. My MIL was going at 6, and now my mom will know this and gets to say "well she went so since I'm your mom I get to go too. It's fair. "
I do not want to run into anyone in the hall or the elevator. Maybe I will let visitors in later but I need to get there and settled. I'm not convinced I'm going. I got the crazy idea in my head to refuse it. I'm only 40+3. But. I also think prolonging it will be worse.
Just ugly cried after hanging up the phone with my mom. I told her I don't want her there at 6 in the morning. She's a smart woman, so she said she will call my MIL and just go with her. My MIL was going at 6, and now my mom will know this and gets to say "well she went so since I'm your mom I get to go too. It's fair. "
I do not want to run into anyone in the hall or the elevator. Maybe I will let visitors in later but I need to get there and settled. I'm not convinced I'm going. I got the crazy idea in my head to refuse it. I'm only 40+3. But. I also think prolonging it will be worse.
I shouldn't have answered the phone.
Can you call MIL and tell her the situation and have her keep it on the DL?
So in the Monday Bitchfest thread, I posted about how DH's death certificate says "natural causes." MIL, who is a nurse, was not having this, so the death certificate wasn't official, and in the space next to "cause" it said "pending." It's taken forever to get any word from the medical examiner because the first one went on maternity leave after two weeks and the new one was hard to get ahold of.
Well. I got a call. ME has finished his investigation, and we now have an official cause of death: undiagnosed cardiac arrhythmia, which is what killed his maternal grandfather. You'd think this would bring some closure, but all its done is make me wonder how we could have saved him if only we'd known. And I'm now terrified that DS will have an arrhythmia too.
Tomorrow, it's been 4 months since DH died.
The mood swings are intense. My head hurts. I just want to crawl into bed and ignore everything. But I can't. I won't. DS needs me. I just feel so wrung out emotionally and needed to get it out somewhere.
Thanks for letting me vent here. I know it's probably uncomfortable and scary to have to read about all this.
Me: 30 | DH: 4/12/85 - 6/16/14 | Quinn Patrick born 9/28/14
Just ugly cried after hanging up the phone with my mom. I told her I don't want her there at 6 in the morning. She's a smart woman, so she said she will call my MIL and just go with her. My MIL was going at 6, and now my mom will know this and gets to say "well she went so since I'm your mom I get to go too. It's fair. "
I do not want to run into anyone in the hall or the elevator. Maybe I will let visitors in later but I need to get there and settled. I'm not convinced I'm going. I got the crazy idea in my head to refuse it. I'm only 40+3. But. I also think prolonging it will be worse.
I shouldn't have answered the phone.
Can you call MIL and tell her the situation and have her keep it on the DL?
I told her I don't want to see my mom. She said she will deal with her.
@ windwithfingers, it's not uncomfortable to read about it. I'm so glad you are here.
This. Please don't ever feel weird about posting about your DH. I can not imagine going through something like this and we are here for you in any way that we can be.
@windwithfingers Processing all your emotions will take so many different forms and I am glad we can help in one way by being your sounding board. I am sorry the news was not a comfort as you hoped. At least with this information, it can be something DS's doctors can know in the future. Big hugs!!!
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He's obviously not concerned about it....maybe he'll come out and continue to just be super chill.
She is still a monster mover.
Are they right? Am I going to be pregnant forever?
Phew! I was like... I am supposed to call if she slows down soooooo that doesn't make sense.
Breastfeeding moms... If you struggled to get LO to latch, how long did it eventually take before they got it or you gave up? This isn't a bad latch... When she's done it, it was fine, but she usually just refuses to try completely. The LC suggested I exclusively pump... Which seemed kinda soon at 2 days.
Sometimes it can take a while for baby to learn to latch. Lots of skin to skin on your chest and keeping the breast a positive place to be (pausing when either of you becomes frustrated and snuggling skin to skin before trying again), can help bring baby to the breast.
Once her cord stump falls off, you can also have someone help you take a warm bath with baby. The water and skin to skin can work to help reset baby's nursing instinct and make them want to latch.
I hope you can find some positive sources of help, support and encouragement near you. Sounds to me like the LC who was helping you was not giving good info or help. Don't let anyone give up on you!
I do not want to run into anyone in the hall or the elevator. Maybe I will let visitors in later but I need to get there and settled. I'm not convinced I'm going. I got the crazy idea in my head to refuse it. I'm only 40+3. But. I also think prolonging it will be worse.
I shouldn't have answered the phone.
Well. I got a call. ME has finished his investigation, and we now have an official cause of death: undiagnosed cardiac arrhythmia, which is what killed his maternal grandfather. You'd think this would bring some closure, but all its done is make me wonder how we could have saved him if only we'd known. And I'm now terrified that DS will have an arrhythmia too.
Tomorrow, it's been 4 months since DH died.
The mood swings are intense. My head hurts. I just want to crawl into bed and ignore everything. But I can't. I won't. DS needs me. I just feel so wrung out emotionally and needed to get it out somewhere.
Thanks for letting me vent here. I know it's probably uncomfortable and scary to have to read about all this.
I am sorry the news was not a comfort as you hoped. At least with this information, it can be something DS's doctors can know in the future.
Big hugs!!!