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Guilty for feeling disappointed

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Re: Guilty for feeling disappointed

  • lneice0160lneice0160 member
    @kinseykinz‌ :
    Your job is just to bake 'em...hubby decided the flavor of the cake.

    This made my night so much better :D
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  • babyvachhanibabyvachhani member
    @kinseykinz‌ i loved your comment. i found out i am having a girl and was hoping for a boy.. but things that u said are spot on. this will help me connect with my little sunshine x
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  • malteserladymalteserlady member
    MOtownMama said:

    I think it's great that you acknowledged the struggles of others and how that might make your disappointment seem petty.

    I do understand. I wanted a son first. As it turned out, he ended up being a boy. In a weird, irrational moment, I began to to feel sad. I felt like I was "mourning" the daughter that could have been. Before I knew for sure, I had two distinct images in my head of what a son or daughter would be like. When I found out I was having a boy, even though I had a feeling it was a boy and wanted a boy, I felt like the IDEA of my potential daughter was stripped from me.

    I'm not sure if I explained any of that correctly. My main point is that I think it is natural to have feelings toward one sex or the other and to feel disappointed when you don't get to fulfill your dream of one sex or the other.

    I just found out I'm probably having a boy and have had mixed emotions as I was desperate for a girl. You just explained how I feel perfectly!! I've been talking to the baby like it was a girl, calling it our girl name. I hate to admit that I did feel really sad when the idea of my girl was taken away. I've been feeling like a bad person as I know I should be overjoyed that my baby is healthy, and I absolutely am! It's just that there was a little bit of sadness too. It's been a couple of days now, and I'm starting to imagine myself with a son, and the sadness has disappeared :)
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  • cdstaub01cdstaub01 member
    As someone who struggled to get pregnant and experienced a miscarriage in the past, please don't let gender disappoint you. So many women are struggling to get pregnant or dealing with losses - always remember how extremely fortunate and blessed you are. Smile everyday knowing you have a beautiful baby girl growing inside of you.
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