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November 2014 Moms
Are we too mean to the newbies?
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Re: Are we too mean to the newbies?
LMAO! You know it
I call my labour buddies out all the time in private. Just ask em
Bahahahaha!! Always!! How dare anyone wear socks in my presence
I've done that with others I would consider close and I've had private convos with bumpies I'm not super close to when the subject has been particularly hot button for me and/or the other bumpie.
No we don't know if you are having contrations, no we don't know if that was your mucus plug, your vaginal angle has changed? Thanks for the information.
Don't ask a question you don't want to response too. Don't delete it because you didn't get the answer you wanted.
I will add, I totally have an understanding for new users who don't know how to use the site to search for post among other things.
LMAO! Careful, the socks might cause slipperiness of the feet! I had to word that one really carefully...
@jj0313 I don't think you misinterpreted. That's exactly what I meant. It's ok if you don't believe it, I know it happens
I've been called out in PM from people I'm not even close with and I'm glad they did so we could figure things out. A lot of that was more in the early days and things have settled.
LMAO! Careful, the socks might cause slipperiness of the feet! I had to word that one really carefully...
@jj0313 I don't think you misinterpreted. That's exactly what I meant. It's ok if you don't believe it, I know it happens
I've been called out in PM from people I'm not even close with and I'm glad they did so we could figure things out. A lot of that was more in the early days and things have settled.
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Exactly what I meant too. I have called out and been called out via pm on here.
Omg. Dying over here!
I've seen some regs post shit and I eye roll so hard. And it's met with hugs and T&P and tits galore from the board.
We don't have to be bff. I also don't think you should blame hormones on your behavior. You act like a bitch, own it.
I like having a safe place to vent/share vagina stories. I'd like to think that I would never type something that I wouldn't want people to read IRL. I'm sure I have skated thin ice sometimes, but this is a general rule that I try to follow.
Some days I take this board more serious than others. Some days I am more vulnerable/hormonal/BSC than others. If I ever act like a bitch just call me on it respectfully.
Sorry, just a pet peeve of mine.
I'm totes not using hormones as an excuse, using pregnancy as an excuse to be mean/stupid/whiny is something that drives me batty. We're adults here and need to control how our hormones affect our attitude. It was just a comment that I thought was funny considering I DO feel like the board has mood swings towards newbs, and we happen to have lots of extra hormones right now. Not that I am ok with them ruling our actions.
This. Also, @lizzielu82 I didn't think I could love you anymore than I already do, but it happened. I think name threads are fair game. Most of them are pretty ridiculous and the occasional one that intros as well as asks a name opinion have been met nicely by people.
If my interpretation of a group of people was that they were mean, and I had a choice to be "around" them or not, I would just remove myself from the situation.
In my interpretation of the board, I can't recall a time where I have seen people here be down right mean. Sarcastic yes, snarky definitely, but mean I don't think so. But again its interpretation.
Edit to add: I also think that people don't understand the difference in a debate and a fight.
I don't think people are mean just to be mean but there have been times the tone can be rude and nasty. And once one person starts it can just snowball from there. I find my space here on TB unique in a way because I was once pregnant here, now I'm not and I can somewhat remove myself emotionally and literally from certain emotions and/or thought process. It definitely has given me a different perspective.
I'm not saying that nobody here can't do this, but for me I do not have an attachment to this board like most here do. (re:pregnancy)
One or two bitches on a board do not bother me. We all have the capability to be a bitch, the only issue I have is when it's every freakin "newbie" that post and it's a shit show.
So, I tend to think that occasionally, the newbies get piled on. When I see a question that may be considered 'duh' or dumb, I remember that once I was a FTM and who knows what I may have asked back in the day! So I try to respond with kindness, like how I'd respond to my own kids' questions (and they will ask you a million and one questions in their childhood).
And I still have learning to do. I just asked a question in the pumping thread. I've BF five kids but I don't know EVERYTHING and I hope that it's not seem as a stupid question! Because I really would like a real answer.
That said, regs may have noticed I'm not really a confrontational person. As @mommymeg143 noted, I choose to express myself through gifs. It's how I like to respond to the crazy. If people think my gifs are too silly, too bad; it's who I am!
P.S. So excited this is culturally relevant again!
That is all.
ETA: typo
**TW Living Child**
BFP 2/2014 - DS - 10/2014
And often, those individuals not familiar with said practices are relatively new to the birthosphere. When, in fact, said practices have been around for many years. For instance, breastfeeding beyond a year. I've seen heated threads where people exclaim not understanding it or thinking it's weird or unnecessary. I guess I don't understand it because it's such an outdated response to something well documented and supported.
Yes, its ill-advised to induce before full term, and it's ill-advised, based on a plethora of evidence, to rupture membranes without cause (which there is none) or induce (for the 80% of low risk women), especially when mom's body isn't ready, no matter if she's 39 or 40 weeks. And seeing a good chunk of inductions turn into c-sections, well, I can't say I'm surprised. But these choices rarely receive the same amount of criticism. The only time everyone hops on the "look at the new data" bandwagon is when the discussion is about the new full term guidelines, all other concerns and practices are otherwise ignored by the large majority. Cherry-picking what to be informed about makes little sense to me. It becomes more about hopping on a bandwagon than actually being informed and providing support.