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abbyful · October 2014

misterdonut said:
When after birth do we shower? Sure I will be over the moon with baby and needed for various things, but I assume I'll be pretty gross after delivering

I will shower earlier this time around. With DS, I was debating whether to shower at home or in the hospital. I decided to shower in the hospital our last day there, should have done it sooner! It was the best shower of my life! I felt like a PERSON again!

mander82 · October 2014

For those of you who showered in the hospital, did you take flip flops to wear in the shower?

I am not a complete germiphobe.....but to think what has been on that floor in that shower....um. eeeeeeew.

abbyful · October 2014

mander82 said:
For those of you who showered in the hospital, did you take flip flops to wear in the shower?

I am not a complete germiphobe.....but to think what has been on that floor in that shower....um. eeeeeeew.

My hospital has private showers in each room. They clean everything in between patients, so I'm not concerned.

hiketheworld · October 2014

@Econosaurus‌ nyc is $2800/month for an infant.

My hospital has shared rooms and I am freaked out about sharing a shower an toilet with a bleeding stranger. How is it possibly sanitary? What if they have a std or something transmitable?

MuchlyGen · October 2014

My MIL talks about her births sometimes. She delivered in a military hospital each time, and it just sounds... yikes. I'm sure it depends on where you are, and this was about thirty years ago, but still. Five or six women in a recovery room. One woman whose baby would never stop crying, and she just ignored it. Another woman who insisted on playing her radio loudly at all hours so her baby would get used to the noise. Oyyyy.

If I were having my baby in a hospital, I would totally pay extra for a private room.

MuchlyGen · October 2014

@heisenberg I don't know about it being standard procedure in hospitals, definitely something to talk to your doctor about. My midwife carries pitocin at home births in case of excessive postpartum bleeding or hemorrhage, but that's an "as needed" situation, certainly not the default.

kayd8 · October 2014

heisenberg said:

I hope this hasn't been addressed (this thread is getting long!). I just reviewed my doctor's paperwork and it says they administer pitocin after delivery. I've done some googling and obvi I will talk to my OB, but I'm curious if this practice is widespread (among our small sample size here) and what people's prior experiences were with this.

The nurse who did the childbirth class at our hospital said they give it to everyone after birth. I had never heard of this until the class, so maybe one of those things that varies widely from hospital to hospital, practice to practice.

hidingangel82 · October 2014

CatLady22 said:
Do I really need to call the doctor for regular braxton hicks contractions? I don't see what the doctor is going to do at this point, until it's actual labor. I'm having Braxton hicks contractions (about 11 an hour) but they don't hurt so far.

As a FTM I don't know, but I am very curious as to what everyone says, I have been dealing with this from my irritable uterus for weeks, and i don't want to cry wolf over and over!

hidingangel82 · October 2014

When you store bottles, do you keep on the shelves with the nipples, rings, and lids on, or off?

abbyful · October 2014

heisenberg said:
I hope this hasn't been addressed (this thread is getting long!). I just reviewed my doctor's paperwork and it says they administer pitocin after delivery. I've done some googling and obvi I will talk to my OB, but I'm curious if this practice is widespread (among our small sample size here) and what people's prior experiences were with this.

My hospital does this as standard practice to deliver the placenta. I didn't even notice it when they did it, after giving birth it was just relief that baby was OUT. (Had med-free birth with DS.)

abbyful · October 2014

CatLady22 said:
Do I really need to call the doctor for regular braxton hicks contractions? I don't see what the doctor is going to do at this point, until it's actual labor. I'm having Braxton hicks contractions (about 11 an hour) but they don't hurt so far.

I would call. My doctor said 5 Braxton Hicks in 1 hour, and/or if they are settling into a pattern, needs checked out.

meeshybee · October 2014

hidingangel82 said:

When you store bottles, do you keep on the shelves with the nipples, rings, and lids on, or off?

I stored them all assembled. Much easier for me and especially hubs to handle in the middle of the night or when we were in a hurry.

mander82 · October 2014

@CatLady22‌ yeah I would call, my OB said more than 4 an hour to call. I don't think I am noticing all of mine, but I don't think I am getting them anywhere near that often.

mommymeg143 · October 2014

My DH found a microwave bottle sterilizer at BRU, yesterday. He is OCD and loves anything that cleans. I noticed a lot of the bottle brands have the microwave sterilizer but I am not sure about it. I feel like it's not safe because you hear all the horror stories about plastic chemicals being expelled in the microwave.

Do any of you ladies have experience with one of these? Would you recommend it?

BridgetThoams · October 2014

mommymeg143 said:

1) Emmy has a lot of frilly, lace, tutu, what have you clothes. (SHOCKING...I know). Do I need to wash those too? I'm afraid if I wash them in the washing machine, it will ruin them and if I hand wash them...I will leave the soap residue on the clothes which will more than likely irrate her skin. What should I do?

2) My face is SO swollen. I look like a chipmunk. So much so that people are making comments about it. "You're only showing in your stomach and face!!" "Your face has definitely gotten alot bigger this week." "Have you been crying...your face is puffy". My stupid question is...Is this normal? I'm really not swelling anywhere else but my face.

1. I would put it in a delicates bag (like a mesh bag that closes securely) and then wash on the delicate cycle.

2. No idea if it is normal, but I'm having a similar experience, my face has doubled in size this week (at least it feels that way) each morning when i wake up my face is a little bit bigger!!

BridgetThoams · October 2014

Ashris13 said:

lizzielu82 said:

Thanks for posting this @mommymeg143!

I was told today that my LO has a pretty sizable head. I'm now seriously worried it won't be able to come out. Anyone else had a big-headed baby and is there still hope for trying to go for a vaginal birth?

So much this! When I went thru my birth class they told us about CPD I am now terrified that is going to be me!

My question is about birthing plans. In my class on Saturday they showed us one and it was just a written bullet point of what the mother wanted.. but the instructor said that you should be careful how you word stuff so that they dont offend... anyone know where I can see more examples? I have done a little googling and have not been impressed with what I have found.

There are a bunch of websites that have black birth plans that you fill in and then can print out. I did mine on the Earth Mama Angel Baby site. My midwife really liked the way that it was set up.

Maelara · October 2014

@mommymeg143‌ I used the microwave sterilizer every day when N was an infant, especially with breast pump parts. I hated using the dishwasher because it discoloured the bottle parts (made them orange) and I worried about food particles getting all over them. For that reason I hand washed everything and then sterilized them in the microwave. Every. Single. Night.

Maelara · October 2014

@lovebuggies1‌ my SIL swears by glass bottles. Those you boil and she feels safer using them (all the conflicting data about plastic).

BridgetThoams · October 2014

MrsG1019 said:

Are humidifiers a must? A girlfriend with 2 kids insisted it needs to be at the top of my "still need to buy" list cuz she says all newborns sound like little warthogs when they sleep cuz of amniotic fluid clearing out of their lungs or something -- and the humidifier is the only thing that helps? I've never heard that before prior to her mentioning it.. Anyone care to chime in with any advice or experience?

I've heard that humidifiers are really important in preventing SIDS, however I will be moving to a very humid area as soon as LO is born, not sure if I would still need one?

NunyaBennis · October 2014

CatLady22 said:
Thanks everyone! I called my OB this morning and she said not to worry, that she thinks it is just early labor. She thinks I'll have my baby within a week! Ahhhh

"Just" early labor, eh? Yeah, no worries... you know, just birthing a baby over here!

BridgetThoams · October 2014

lizzielu82 said:

Ok, this one just came up as DH and I were working on our hospital bags.

How many nights should we prepare to be there for? I know, on average, most people are covered for 2 days after the birth but that the labor itself could take longer.

Just curious to see how many days you ladies are planning for.

I plan on wearing the hospital gown the entire time in there, i have shower stuff so that I can look OKish, Im just packing underwear and socks and then a go home outfit. For Hubby I am packing a pair of sweats, jeans and a couple t-shirts. If we really need something else I will just have my parents bring it by. Im not really worried about what either of us look like while at the hospital. I mean I will have just pushed a human out of me, I don't expect to look all that great.

Maelara · October 2014

I can't remember who asked the reflux question or if it was answered but I will answer anyway. Do you mean for yourself or or the baby? If it's yourself, my BFF who had a baby had it really bad and had it after birth for quite a while. Most of the time it goes away but there is a possibility it won't. N had reflux and she had it for along time. It also dos not go away quickly.

abbyful · October 2014

lovebuggies1 said:
I just received glass bottles as a gift. I really didn't know they still sold them. Did anyone have some and are the better to use?

Not experience with glass bottles, but just wanted to mention if you are using daycare see what they allow. I initially wanted to do glass bottles, but our daycare doesn't allow them because they might break.

Jatpa003 · October 2014

To all my mommas in Canada: is it just my insurance company that sucks or do yours not cover pumps either? And considering I will be paying out of pocket what should I do?
A) go south of the boarder (are they cheaper there-should probably have looked that up before asking)

suck it up and pay a few hundred dollars for a good one
C) any other suggestions on which one/where I can get one?

I feel really frustrated, DH really wants me to breastfeed, but I feel so overwhelmed that I thought it might be nice to have a pump so I can enjoy wine some evenings or just not feel like a all you can eat buffet 24/7. But after looking at some stores I don't really want to spend 400-600$ for a "good pump". Oh and to add to the pressure my MIL is a La Lache League leader and is very sure that even the smallest bit of formula will kill my child.

Curlyfries851 · October 2014

Jatpa003 said:
To all my mommas in Canada: is it just my insurance company that sucks or do yours not cover pumps either? And considering I will be paying out of pocket what should I do?
A) go south of the boarder (are they cheaper there-should probably have looked that up before asking)
suck it up and pay a few hundred dollars for a good one
C) any other suggestions on which one/where I can get one?

I feel really frustrated, DH really wants me to breastfeed, but I feel so overwhelmed that I thought it might be nice to have a pump so I can enjoy wine some evenings or just not feel like a all you can eat buffet 24/7. But after looking at some stores I don't really want to spend 400-600$ for a "good pump". Oh and to add to the pressure my MIL is a La Lache League leader and is very sure that even the smallest bit of formula will kill my child.

My insurance also doesn't cover... But I also have a crappy plan lol. I am thinking I will just end up sucking it up and dropping $400 up here. Some people have suggested getting a used one and buying new tunes etc but that still kinda weirds me out...if it was someone I knew MAYBE, but not a stranger....

NunyaBennis · October 2014

Curlyfries851 said:

Jatpa003 said:
To all my mommas in Canada: is it just my insurance company that sucks or do yours not cover pumps either? And considering I will be paying out of pocket what should I do?
A) go south of the boarder (are they cheaper there-should probably have looked that up before asking)
suck it up and pay a few hundred dollars for a good one
C) any other suggestions on which one/where I can get one?

I feel really frustrated, DH really wants me to breastfeed, but I feel so overwhelmed that I thought it might be nice to have a pump so I can enjoy wine some evenings or just not feel like a all you can eat buffet 24/7. But after looking at some stores I don't really want to spend 400-600$ for a "good pump". Oh and to add to the pressure my MIL is a La Lache League leader and is very sure that even the smallest bit of formula will kill my child.
My insurance also doesn't cover... But I also have a crappy plan lol. I am thinking I will just end up sucking it up and dropping $400 up here. Some people have suggested getting a used one and buying new tunes etc but that still kinda weirds me out...if it was someone I knew MAYBE, but not a stranger....

Isn't it funny how familiar funk is okay? I'd use my sister's pump in a pinch, no problem; but purchase a twice-sterilized one at a thrift store, no thanks. Drop a paci on my cat hair dusted floor? Blow it off, dip it in some tap water and go on. Drop a paci anywhere else, and it's straight to a ziploc until it can be sterilized, right? So weird.
I'm debating buying a new pack n play because the one from my ex-sil smells like her house, is all kinds of stained, and, well, I can't stand her. She's disgusting. Like my smells and stains are any sweeter? Oy! ...my justification: it doesn't have the changing pad & newborn napper attachments that I'd really like to have and it would cost more to replace them than to just get a new one. That's my story, and I'm sticking to it.

AnnieRoo13 · October 2014

Jatpa003 said:

To all my mommas in Canada: is it just my insurance company that sucks or do yours not cover pumps either? And considering I will be paying out of pocket what should I do? A) go south of the boarder (are they cheaper there-should probably have looked that up before asking) suck it up and pay a few hundred dollars for a good one C) any other suggestions on which one/where I can get one? I feel really frustrated, DH really wants me to breastfeed, but I feel so overwhelmed that I thought it might be nice to have a pump so I can enjoy wine some evenings or just not feel like a all you can eat buffet 24/7. But after looking at some stores I don't really want to spend 400-600$ for a "good pump". Oh and to add to the pressure my MIL is a La Lache League leader and is very sure that even the smallest bit of formula will kill my child.

As far as I know my insurance doesn't cover one either. SIL gave me her Medela, so I am set for one myself, BUT if I didn't have one I would definitely look at renting before buying one, especially because of how you're feeling about breastfeeding. I know when I looked at renting one the local La Leche League had info about it and it seemed pretty reasonable. That way you know that a) pumping works for you and b) you like the pump and would buy one. Since MIL is a La Leche leader she might have info about renting?

Maelara · October 2014

@Jatpa003‌ my insurance doesn't cover a pump either. Maybe try to bf and see if even want to do it first. Then, invest in a pump. If you're close enough to the boarder, go get it there. I have the medela swing and it's only a single electric pump. I wish I had gotten the double but if you only plan to use it occasionally maybe you will only need a single.

Maelara · October 2014

Double post!

aa98 · October 2014

I know we have discussed this at length, and I'm sorry for bringing it up again but I keep going back and forth on this. Where will your baby sleep? Ideally, I would have the LO sleep in a pack n play in my bedroom, but there is NO SPACE. DH wants LO in his crib in the nursery day one but i've read "rooming in" if you will reduces SIDS risk plus what if he doesn't like all that space? I know some swear by the rock n play which was what I was leaning towards but they aren't officially recommended for sleep and now I'm worried about torticollis. This one issue has me completely stressed out.

Jatpa003 · October 2014

Thanks @Maelara‌ @AnnieRoo13‌ @NunyaBennis‌ @Curlyfries851‌ for your advice. It seems like Not many insurances cover it...
Also my MIL although she is a LLL leader she is convinced that because she couldn't pump (I think her words were "only real moms don't pump because they cannot let down unless they have their child on boob") so ya even though I have asked her about it she always brushes me off. I want to do what is best for my child but I also want some sanity. I guess I will suck it up and buy one here, but I will for sure look into renting one maybe from the hospital first.

Carebella · October 2014

@aa98‌ I really liked what our instructor said in our early newborn care class. She said you have to view it as "what is your acceptable level of risk?" Babies can suffer from SIDS whether they are in a crib in another room, or sleeping in your room in whatever form that may take.

Bed sharing would be a way to have the baby in your room and you wouldn't need a rock n play. (They make co-sleepers that can go in your bed as well if you're concerned with rolling over onto the baby.) It can be a way to reduce SIDS risk, BUT for bed sharing to be safe it has to meet 5 specific requirements, I'd be happy to share the info if you'd like.

We are going to try bed sharing with the baby on my side using a co-sleeper because we are fortunate enough to have the room and DH is a little worried about if he'd be aware enough not to roll on baby. We want to bed share because we've learned as mammals our babies are tuned into and function better when they are close to their parents.

Maelara · October 2014

@Jatpa003‌ try your local health unit as well. Usually they only rent thing out to moms how are having issues (like I did last time) but they might help you out! Your MIL sounds like a piece of work. Do NOT share anything with her about BFing. If she harps on you bring up the fact that moms who are BFing need SUPPORT not negative comments, she's hindering the process not helping. She sounds just as fanatical as the local LLL leader here is. I hated her.

Maelara · October 2014

@aa98 if you're worried, get a regular bassinet. We don't have rock n plays here so we don't even have that option. The bassinet worked just fine for N and it is better for the baby (regarding SIDS) to be in the same room as you. It has to do with your breathe.

aa98 · October 2014

Thanks @Carebella and @Maelara. I read something similar about the maternal breathing. I think I will look into bassinets. Hopefully I can find a small one, DH's old bassinet was huge plus it's almost 40 years old sitting in MIL's garage. SIL used a Moses basket for her LO, but I want something that is raised up from the floor (unreasonably freaked about stepping on the LO). I was debating co-sleeper, but it would have to be attached at the foot of the bed due to room configuration and something about baby sleeping where my feet are just doesn't sit right with me

NunyaBennis · October 2014

aa98 said:
Thanks @Carebella and @Maelara. I read something similar about the maternal breathing. I think I will look into bassinets. Hopefully I can find a small one, DH's old bassinet was huge plus it's almost 40 years old sitting in MIL's garage. SIL used a Moses basket for her LO, but I want something that is raised up from the floor (unreasonably freaked about stepping on the LO). I was debating co-sleeper, but it would have to be attached at the foot of the bed due to room configuration and something about baby sleeping where my feet are just doesn't sit right with me

Flip over for a few months so your head would be at the foot of the bed?

aa98 · October 2014

NunyaBennis said:

Thanks @Carebella and @Maelara. I read something similar about the maternal breathing. I think I will look into bassinets. Hopefully I can find a small one, DH's old bassinet was huge plus it's almost 40 years old sitting in MIL's garage. SIL used a Moses basket for her LO, but I want something that is raised up from the floor (unreasonably freaked about stepping on the LO). I was debating co-sleeper, but it would have to be attached at the foot of the bed due to room configuration and something about baby sleeping where my feet are just doesn't sit right with me
Flip over for a few months so your head would be at the foot of the bed?

hmmm... that's a good idea for a cosleeper or bassinet... I'll have to see if DH would go for it (I don't want to sleep at his feet either, eww.

Cici3913 · October 2014

Maelara said:
I can't remember who asked the reflux question or if it was answered but I will answer anyway. Do you mean for yourself or or the baby? If it's yourself, my BFF who had a baby had it really bad and had it after birth for quite a while. Most of the time it goes away but there is a possibility it won't. N had reflux and she had it for along time. It also dos not go away quickly.

Thanks for answering! I was worried it might not go away

I've had it pretty bad. Like I have to sleep in our recliner bad.

Cici3913 · October 2014

aa98 said:
I know we have discussed this at length, and I'm sorry for bringing it up again but I keep going back and forth on this. Where will your baby sleep? Ideally, I would have the LO sleep in a pack n play in my bedroom, but there is NO SPACE. DH wants LO in his crib in the nursery day one but i've read "rooming in" if you will reduces SIDS risk plus what if he doesn't like all that space? I know some swear by the rock n play which was what I was leaning towards but they aren't officially recommended for sleep and now I'm worried about torticollis. This one issue has me completely stressed out.

We bought a bassinet for our room to use when she's first born. We have a pack n play as well, but our room isn't big enough

MrsG1019 · October 2014

Jatpa003 said:
To all my mommas in Canada: is it just my insurance company that sucks or do yours not cover pumps either? And considering I will be paying out of pocket what should I do?
A) go south of the boarder (are they cheaper there-should probably have looked that up before asking)
suck it up and pay a few hundred dollars for a good one
C) any other suggestions on which one/where I can get one?

I feel really frustrated, DH really wants me to breastfeed, but I feel so overwhelmed that I thought it might be nice to have a pump so I can enjoy wine some evenings or just not feel like a all you can eat buffet 24/7. But after looking at some stores I don't really want to spend 400-600$ for a "good pump". Oh and to add to the pressure my MIL is a La Lache League leader and is very sure that even the smallest bit of formula will kill my child.

Amazon has the Madela pump in style advanced for $222! Plus it saves you a trip to the states.

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