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So M15 has rules? Lurkers reveal yourselves/newbie playdate!

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Re: So M15 has rules? Lurkers reveal yourselves/newbie playdate!

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  • ac123185ac123185 member
    Lurker here! I only post when I feel like I have something to contribute, or if I share a similar concern. However I do love reading the threads and hearing about everyone. I try and offer T&P when I can, and I like to think as I progress in this pregnancy I will be able to contribute more.
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  • ohana112610ohana112610 member
    edited October 2014
    Lurker and occasional commenter. I've been here since I was 4 weeks pregnant but as a FTM who is completely clueless, I have very little to contribute. But I sure do love reading all of the posts! ❤️M15!

    ETA- spelling is hard.
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  • selena61307selena61307 member
    chaysefaith said:

    I gotta say, my comments in the random thread are almost ALWAYS post and run, unless it's a slow day at work. Don't let that scare you away from posting!

    And, we all get intimidated. I was nervous posting this! But I'm a mod, so if you disagree with me I'll just ban you :p (jaaaaaay kaaaaaay!)

    Your changed your avatar. Damn it I am so bad with names and so good with photos that I have been looking for your picture. @chaysefaith‌
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  • Christina1939Christina1939 member
    I am trying to post now, I've been just reading occasionally for the past few weeks when I see a thread that's of interest to me. But it gets really hard to keep up because there are so many discussions and so many responses to them. >.<
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  • lib1974lib1974 member
    I have started posting more lately now that know this pregnancy is for real. Been a Lurker since I found out I was pregnant in July...I'm a slow mover. Lol
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  • tahneetaytahneetay member
    I find most pregnancy forums mildly intimidating. I was reading a thread last night (not on here) where the posters keyboard had jammed on the 'o' so there was a few zeros used instead, but on the whole it was very readable with great grammar / spelling otherwise. She got 30+ responses all calling her names and tearing her to pieces. I wanted to read opinions on her issue because I happen to be in the same situation, but it was hard scrolling through to find actual responses. Everyone seemed really catty. I haven't noticed it to that extent here but still, lurking is less stressful.
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  • DragonflyDreamingDragonflyDreaming member
    edited October 2014
    ToasterCat said:

    etoille said:


    jessuhmarie said:

    I do wish that our board gave newbies a little more leeway. I love our rules. I think it makes for a better flowing board. I like that we emphasize proper grammar. I like that "guess the sex of my baby" posts are discouraged. I do feel like if little things like that are let go then we will just be the next baby center with text speak and hundreds of threads about the same thing because every poster feels like they need to post their own thread. I like basically every aspect of the rules except for the enforcement. The delivery to newbies is way too hard and it almost feels like a pile on of regs every single time. It makes me sad to see so many people are intimidated to post here when I feel like we have a great community. Maybe, just maybe we can tone it down a bit?

    Eh obviously given..well the facts of me I don't have an issue with enforcement but I do have an issue with inconsistent messaging (which I've brought up before).

    We tell people "omg search old threads for your answer" but then get annoyed when they bump old threads.  Like you (the royal you) can't have it both ways.  

    Also I don't particularly care for the "get an avatar and a sig" thing either.  Folks can integrate without these things - we expect folks to get to know us and we can get to know them beyond stuff like this - we should be focusing on content not a picture.
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    I don't even mind zombie threads, sometimes it's nice to take a stroll down memory lane. It's only irritating if the member who started it is gone for a sad reason or it it was from an argument that was a closed case like a billionty years ago.


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    I feel like this is very true exactly and agree completely with basically all of the above. Most of the lurkers (in this thread) have openly talked about searching the thread for their issue. But I've seen several times where they'll post on the zombie thread and do, indeed, get a lot of snark. I often try to tell noobies to search the threads, but when others get snark for it, or feel they can't post, I feel bad.

    Now, bumping an argumentative or troll thread just to argue is a different story.

    Also, noobs won't know the loss moms, so if they bump really old threads, that is a risk, that they will bump a thread they shouldn't. Not sure how to counteract that?
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  • kncole28kncole28 member
    edited October 2014
    Tired a gif it didnt work blah lol
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  • DragonflyDreamingDragonflyDreaming member
    edited October 2014
    Tacocatmom said:

    I'm just here for the love tits.....and I'll post every once in a while. I think M15 is the bomb.com

    LOVE your avatar!!

    Please tell me that's your cat? :)
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    Tacocatmom said:

    DragonflyDreaming said:

    Tacocatmom said:

    I'm just here for the love tits.....and I'll post every once in a while. I think M15 is the bomb.com

    LOVE your avatar!!

    Please tell me that's your cat? :)
    Uggggg I wish that was my cat!! Here is baby Taco. I fully plan on getting him a taco halloween costume :)
    Wow your cat has some amazing/unusual colorings and markings!! Gorgeous! I always go for black cats, lol. :)

    If I tried to put them in costumes, I'd probably end up with some nice wounds. My cats would be less than thrilled!
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  • apstaapsta member
    edited October 2014
    Oh, and yes, I realize my gif has no tie to anything relevant. Just my test. And I adore Emma. 
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  • rowboat4rowboat4 member
    I posted more in the beginning, when I was not working, but now that I'm working it makes it harder to keep up with everything during the day, especially being on the west coast. So, I've drifted back into lurking more than posting, but I still read posts at night, and throw some lovetits around when I am on.
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  • pregarellapregarella member
    I don't post much, I feel like I can only catch up on the board once a day or every 2 days and I'm on the West Coast so I'm always late to the party.  I guess because of that I don't get around to opening up every post, but I try and comment on the ones that I can actually contribute something to (even if it's saying a simple hi on an intro).  I want to try to stay as active as time allows, because I did become super BFF tight with my last BMB (who has since moved to FB), and I really appreciate the interwebs friendships you can forge on here, because well.....I'm a weirdo and I like cyber hand holding.

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  • mwerrenmwerren member
    I only post a couple of replies a day usually, but I try to read all of the current posts. This is my first pregnancy (well that lasted this far) so I feel like I can't contribute much when it comes to advice. But I have found a pretty great sense of community here and a lot of more experienced moms willing to share information. And it is very frustrating when people post randomly without checking recent posts. It's a little disrespectful to the group I think. There's actually a good wealth of knowledge already posted on these boards if anyone bothered to search.

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  • lifewritelifewrite member
    edited October 2014
    Zanza_3 said:

    I don't post often as I feel I don't have much to contribute. I'm also pretty introverted, so even IRL it takes me a long time to just start talking. I don't start threads since either someone has already asked the question or I just look it up on Google. I do love reading all the threads though, especially the ones started by ridiculous people. :) No matter what others say, I really like our group!

    This is me as well. I was on the March 13 board when I was pregnant with DD and was an occasional poster but didn't really open up until we moved over to FB. Mainly because it was much easier to keep up with and all the crazies had been weeded out. I've gotten very close to some of those ladies and their support/friendship is priceless. All the scrolling on here also makes my nausea worse so hopefully once that subsides I'll join in on the random thread.

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  • chaysefaithchaysefaith member
    Joon+ said:

    @harper3 @pregarella I'm a West Coaster too and have felt constantly late to the party just like you mentioned - I even posted about it the other day cause I wanted to see who else was around at 3:00 a.m. EST. Looks like there are a few of us, so you're not alone! P.S. @harper3 I totally recognize you and have even puzzled over your avatar once or twice wondering if the bend in the wheel is a heart on purpose (I'm on mobile so it's really tiny).

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    I love this thread and the flame-free honesty it's brought. I'm surprised to see so many ppl I would have deemed "confident regs" saying they've been intimidated to post things and leery of how their contributions will be met at one point or another. I have felt this way too and it does make me wonder if sometimes the snark is laid on a little too thick. I get that it's part of the tone of the board, but if even the regs are sometimes nervous to chime in, it does seem a bit excessive... Just an observation.

    On a completely unrelated note, this whole thread bumping thing is foreign to me... I'm on mobile, so the threads stay in reverse chrono order of when they were started regardless of how recently a new comment was added. I had no idea that commenting on an old thread bumped it back up to the top for computer users - is that how it works? If so, I'm sure I've done this more than once and I'm sorry if it's annoying. I do think that it's better than having tons of threads on the same topic though, no?

    You can fix the order of the threads, but I think you have to get on s computer to do it! That would annoy the piss out of me to have the oldest threads first.
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  • Amy and JayAmy and Jay member
    I've been on TB since 2008 when I was pregnant with my first but I've pretty much always been a lurker. I'll comment on things I feel I can contribute to but I mostly like to just read the threads. I do feel like the snark is too much and personally it makes me think twice about starting threads. At the same time I see a lot of support given as well and I've gotten a lot of good info from this group :-)
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  • JennyP0222JennyP0222 member
    OMG @jessuhmarie a Zach gif! I may have squeeeeeeed a little. I counter your dancing Zach with dancing Cody.

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  • ruemorganruemorgan member
    JM0848 said:

    @harper3 I had the same worries re: ability to be a reg and time difference. I've said this before somewhere, but just post when you can, where you can. I'm usually either just super late or super early to the party. Woo 6 hour difference!

    And I totally recognize you. :)

    my sister just moved to Germany so I always make that extra effort to be available to talk to her a few times a day. Because of that I always see you and always considered you a regular. I dont think the time difference is making any difference anyways!
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