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March 2015 Moms
wishiwaspreggo
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Let's talk about rudeness and tacky shit again!
wishiwaspreggo
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Because I'm in a rage.
I got a bridal shower invite for my cousin's bride-to-be on Black Friday. Because my aunt knows I'll be around (C and I prefer to do our Black Friday shopping in my hometown because the deals are awesome and plentiful).
Now here's why I'm pissed. When my cousin announced his engagement on Facebook I commented and said "As your favorite cousin, I would be delighted to attend your wedding!" To which he commented "Actually, we don't have enough money in our budget to invite cousins so... sorry!" And I was thinking "Eh, it's cool, I get it. Some folks prefer low-key intimate affairs."
But then I get invited to the bridal shower? Oh, sure, SHOWER ME WITH GIFTS but sorry, I can't afford to have you attend the actual wedding itself.
That's a big, fat, steaming crock of shit right there if I've ever seen one.
Whatcha got, ladies? Commiserate with me. It could be bridal or baby shower related, wedding, mundane shit, rude drivers, parents, in-laws, siblings, friends, irritating shoppers, idiotic customer service... I wanna hear more of your stories because a lot of you have some real gems!
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Re: Let's talk about rudeness and tacky shit again!
For my wedding, my MIL threw us a shower and invited people that were not invited to the wedding. We wanted a small wedding, which we were up front about (especially since my parents were paying for almost all of it) and she was not happy that some of her friends would not be invited. I was never more angry with her than I was that day. It was so embarassing, there were people there that were confused and asking why they never got a save the date...ugh.
When I worked in retail I was answering phones for a fairly busy best buy. This lady called and wanted me to send some guys out to re-box and move her old tube-tv from her current apartment to her new apartment. Free of charge. I explained to her that's just not how that worked and she became enraged.
Started calling every five minutes hoping for a different answer. I answered the phone every time and she got the same answer. Every time. She thought her idiot boyfriend would have better luck, so he started calling every five minutes. No dice. The calls became threatening.
I finally went to my all-male selection of managers and let them know what was going on after this guy threatened to come to the store and wait for me to get off work. With a baseball bat. Being very protective of their female employees, they answered the phone and threatened grievous bodily harm to the guy if he ever called the store again. And that was the end of that.
In retrospect, 8 years after the fact, I wish I'd told her it was no problem. Scheduled a day with a wide window "between 8am and 8pm" and just made them wait for nobody to show up. But I was young then, and too polite for my own good.
OMG I can't believe you guys didn't call the police!!! How terrifying!! Probably a good thing you didn't tell them someone would stop by because they would've raised hell with you the next day if no one came to help. These don't sound like classy people.
I once had a customer get in my face and cuss me out because his filet-o-fish didn't have extra cheese like he ordered. I was 16. My manager and male coworker had to escort him out of the McDonalds.
Some people are just fucking crazy.
A little background:
My aunt is hosting and she's a very "gimme" person. She passed this trait down to her three sons. My cousin (who is getting married) went on unemployment for as long as he possibly could after he got laid off because he got $400 a week for doing nothing. He applied for jobs far below or above his skillset knowing he wouldn't get called but he had to keep his quota. For 2 years he lived on the system happy as a pig in shit.
I love the man because he's family, but he's taken enough from me in my tax dollars to sit around doing jack shit while I've held a job consistently since I was 15.
Then after the wedding she had the gull to tell me that she was the best maid of honour ever and I couldn't have found anyone better!
And to top it all of I wasn't part of her wedding party at all... And she invited my ex boyfriend who last time I saw him he asked me to marry him... And I said NO! So awkard! He kept tryin to talk to me all night *eye roll
@Peledreamsofrain - My cousin was CC'd on the invite (yes, it was an e-mail) so he knows :P Just don't think he gives a shit. But that's okay, one doesn't have to accept invitations.
@cmhurst - I admit it, I invited myself to the wedding. But it usually goes without saying for my family because if one cousin gets married, EVERYONE is invited. My family puts on awesome weddings. I have a feeling his little fiancé wants something fancier than what we usually do (fried chicken in the back yard - knock it if you want, but it's a good time) so of course she gets priority.
Which again, is totally cool if that's what they want to do because it is THEIR wedding. However, I'd appreciate NOT being solicited for gifts at the pre-parties when you don't want me at your actual wedding. Argh!
Oh, that makes me angry!!!! Some people, I swear. I wish people would just not respond to requests like that and say "Screw you, man, we've already welcomed you to parenthood!!!"
The second baby shower that I was complaining about is happening this weekend. One of the girls planning the shower is getting our friend a "new mom" sash. WHAT?! She's been a stepmother for 4 years, and a mother to her child for 2.5 years! She is NOT a "new mom" by any stretch of the imagination.
It's driving me insane how extravagant these people are making it. So much attention-whoring. It's unbelievable.
When my sister was pg with her first I offered to throw a shower - whatever she wanted. She wanted a couples BBQ. I had just finished grad school and had not yet started working. I lived in a small apartment - so my sister's in-laws offered their home (I love them!) I still did all the work, paid for everything, made and sent invites to her 80 closest friends, etc. After the shower she told my parents she hated it.
Fast forward 3 years later and she is pg again. My mother said it would be nice if I threw her a shower since she expected it. I didn't agree but offered to throw her a luncheon (not a shower - no mention of gifts just a fancy ladies' lunch) with 8 or 10 friends at my new house or a nice restaurant. She said no, she wanted a shower like she had last time because I owed her - I didn't really throw the last one since it was at her inlaw's house (like it wasn't my $900 that paid for the invites, food, beverages (including alcohol), decorated, mailed invites, cleaned up after...)
Anyway, I told her no big party. She said fine, she had friends that cared about her and would throw one for her - but I shouldn't expect to be invited.
Well, about a month before her due date my mother called on a Thursday and said my sister needed me to host her baby shower that Sat. My sister had already sent out the invitations and ordered her own cake. It would be at my sisters house - I just had to decorate, bring food, and come up with the games.
Because I still mind my parents, I did it. I was so busy at work, my boss actually made some of the food and decorations for me. And once again, it was the worst shower my sister ever had.
So my sister got remarried to another person last year. She refused my offer of a gift to pay for hair and nails for the bridal party - so I didn't get her anything. And she just had a third child - apparently she had "several" showers. I wasn't invited to any. I did buy her a gift though - a gorgeous Vera Bradley diaper bag with every single matching accessory available. She didn't like it and refused to take it. I can't return it now so I am waiting until a friend has a girl - or I may use it myself. Now I get texts once a month or so that I still owe her a baby gift and what the baby wants. She did offer to throw me a shower for this baby - so maybe all is forgiven?
Throat punch Thursday strikes again.
I would send them a card that said "In lieu of a gift, a goat has been donated to a family in a village." (This is a real thing, actually.) Nice alternative to a gift, and pisses off the shallow greedy gift grabbers.
@Skrittens - excuse me while I scrape my jaw off the floor.
SERIOUSLY?! What an ingrate!!! I cannot believe your parents would ask you to serve as hostess for such a spoiled sister!! Keep that diaper bag for yourself. It sounds lovely and frankly she doesn't deserve it.
If she's going to host your shower, be sure to ask her to throw it to her specifications to see exactly where you went wrong with your party-planning :P What a brat.
OMG I can't believe you guys didn't call the police!!! How terrifying!! Probably a good thing you didn't tell them someone would stop by because they would've raised hell with you the next day if no one came to help. These don't sound like classy people.
I once had a customer get in my face and cuss me out because his filet-o-fish didn't have extra cheese like he ordered. I was 16. My manager and male coworker had to escort him out of the McDonalds.
Some people are just fucking crazy.
My life and safety got threatened more times than I can count at that job. People apparently take their electronics very seriously. I eventually quit and went back to school.My contribution: one year I had a (now ex-) in-law who gave everyone a suggested gift for her and her husband. Since we refused to buy them our "assigned" gift, she asked that we return it for cash of the same value. Yep.
Also had a rando high school acquaintance ASK to be invited to our wedding when she saw the engagement on fb, and then show up with her family and no gift.
EDIT: Not saying I'm a gift whore but it's kinda what you do if you invited yourself.