Rant: Play by Play on Facebook about your L&D

Aarg · September 2014

Sorry I just have to rant...

I have 3 friends who have all recently given birth. And every single one of them have given a play by play on their labor and delivery.

Yes I am excited you are in labor! Yes I am excited you are about to meet your LO!
But I really don't care how dialated you are every time the dr comes in to check you, or that your mucus plug fell out, or that you won't be posting for a while because it's time to push! (Seriously...)

Do you not want to enjoy the birth of your child?!
And how did you find the time to update your FB status??

Ok, I feel much better now...

MrMrsandBaby · September 2014

Ummm...ew....why would you post on FB about your MP? Ew. That is just....overshare.

JJsMum · September 2014

Yuck! So glad I don't have oversharers (of that variety) on my FB. FB gets 3 announcements about my pregnancy. The fact that I am, boy or girl, and when it's done.

jesslinnn · September 2014

I had a friend do the same thing. She just had the baby this morning after a 2 day long induction, and she gave all the details. While I wouldn't post updates about my labor on FB, I don't really care if others do. I won't lie, I was creeping her page though.

megaroo64 · September 2014

I recently encountered this too. The whole time I was thinking "Aren't you busy now? Why is your phone that close to you???" This particular person has overshared about her entire pregnancy and life for that matter - so I don't know why I am surprised. But it was ANNOYING.

nightowl1989 · September 2014

Gross gross gross!

Boundaries, people!

staryb · September 2014

I have a feeling that my MIL will do this while I'm in labor. ugh. Luckily she's bad about tagging people and I won't be letting her into the room so it shouldn't be THAT bad.

SCMomma · September 2014

I was totally zoned in during the birth of my first child. I can't imagine having a conversation, much less updating Facebook. I think in certain circumstances, that distraction could be helpful though. And some people just enjoy attention, and that's not a horrible thing. I enjoyed birth the way I wanted, they can enjoy it how they want.

Liss1481 · September 2014

How are these people thinking about updating FB during labor?? That was the last thing on my mind with DS1

NavyFlyer · September 2014

Couldn't agree more. I felt the same with updates via text to the fam as well. I told my DH he was allowed to text them 4 times: Headed to hospital, got epidural, ready to push, and he's here. The world did not need to know about the state of my cervix! Facebook had nothing but "he's here!"

DreadGamerWife · September 2014

Ummmm....no. FB world won't be notified about anything until several hours after Schroeder has been notified.

jenndub · September 2014

I can see how you would have the time if you have a super long labor. And it can be nice to have distractions, but that is odd.

Eastie156 · September 2014

That's way too much info, the play by play including the mucous plug info... I definitely know someone that was giving updates on their FB the entire time they were in labor. It was a co-worker and they also were texting another co-worker the entire time, so the WHOLE office knew what was happening. Way to much info for everyone in our office!

Maggie6424 · September 2014

It's so odd to me.. .. I didn't even update my family (who lives out of state). They kept texting or emailing me and I either ignored it or asked Hubs to reply.

ashleyvictoria · September 2014

Play by play with all the gross details is probably unnecessary, but I do have quite a few out of state family members (well most if them actually) who are on FB all the time and I know they will be watching for updates. I will probably update when headed to or checking into the hospital, maybe one during depending on the speed of the whole process (if things are moving slowly and I need a distraction), and one after his arrival. Hopefully they won't be too disappointed that there will be no details about how dilated I am or when I've lost my mucus plug! :-)

melszum · September 2014

That's gross. I would love to know what the comments were

Syllessa · September 2014

The only messages I'll be sending are "mom/dad/labor buddy, it's go time" and "he's here! (with stats)" No one needs to know the rest of that mess.

MissMandyD · September 2014

Super weird. WAY too much information for me.

windwithfingers · September 2014

Reminds me of this

ohioloveyou · September 2014

DH can update family, but everyone else gets to find out when he gets here! I am judgey about labor posts on facebook though.

staryb · September 2014

windwithfingers said:

Reminds me of this

This actually makes me a bit sad. Hopefully she was just getting ready to take a picture of the baby!

crystal8503 · September 2014

NEWSFLASH: NOBODY except your doctor and nurse want to know the status of your vagina. Keep that shit off Facebook and all other social media sites.

imagine7696030614 · September 2014

It's crazy how different our world is now that social media is such a huge part of our everyday lives. No more just living in the moment. I really don't update much of anything on fb, much less baby/labor stats.

windwithfingers · September 2014

@staryb I hope that too. It definitely makes me a little sad. :-/

PC0909 · September 2014

Not going to lie, I was on FB during labor with DS. 12 hours passed between getting the epidural and pushing. There wasn't much to do other than watch tv. I did not give a play by play though.

BreandMikewedding · September 2014

My h has a friend's wife who would post every detail about their child's medical issues. It really bothered me when she would post that they were on the way to the er or post pics while in the er. I kept thinking "shouldn't you be more concerned about your child than updating fb?" She also left the baby in the nicu when they weren't sure if the baby would survive so that she could go have a garage sale.

crystal8503 · September 2014

staryb said:
I have a feeling that my MIL will do this while I'm in labor. ugh. Luckily she's bad about tagging people and I won't be letting her into the room so it shouldn't be THAT bad.

I wouldn't be sharing anything with her!

[Deleted User] · September 2014

I read this thread this morning and asked DH how he felt about not posting anything about labor, and asking our relatives not to post anything until we announce the birth. He gave me this weird look and said something about me having privacy issues. I started full on ugly crying.

Isn't it normal to want to be the first person to publicly announce the birth of your first child?

MrsL2B · September 2014

Eww.

pepperpotts317 · September 2014

My MIL did this to me! Every update DH sent to her and my mom went straight on to Facebook. My mom told me and I freaked a little. DH had her take them down immediately. The whole world doesn't need to know the status of my vag!

Sotho girl · September 2014

Talk about an attention seeker. How disconnected from such an amazing moment can you get?

angeltennis3 · September 2014

Social media is so frustrating. I don't even want DH to give tons of updates to family. His parents will want the play by play. We agreed we will tell parents when we go to the hospital, if anything drastic changes (ex I need a c section) and when the baby arrives / we are ready for visitors, which will be 2-3 hours after birth (pending what time it is). Our parents weren't crazy about that at first, but I didn't want DHs phone blowing up with requests for updates when he is there to be my support person. It would get me sooooo angry!!!

Dani0329 · September 2014

My friends list is full of pregnant friends. There are a few girls who have pregnancy updates, every.single.day. I will be no good if we get labor updates. Luckily, they are all due after me so I'm sure I will be busy navigating the new world of being a Mom.

2goingon3 · September 2014

knittymeggy said:

windwithfingers said:
Reminds me of this

Everytime I see this photo, I swear I know her. She looks like someone I used to work with until I fired her.

ETA: words are a struggle

Awwww.....this made me irrationally sad.....

I will compensate with ice cream cake.

RNmommy14 · September 2014

Omgsh! I can totally understand! I had several people who did this on Facebook and I cannot understand how they can be on Facebook while having a baby! I for one don't want my Facebook friends knowing anything except that my baby has arrived lol and I'm sure Facebook or my phone for that matter will b the first thing on my mind lol

ADH0906 · September 2014

windwithfingers said:
Reminds me of this

I can't be the only one who sees this photo and clearly sees a proud mama taking a photo of their baby...right?

I hate FB over sharers, but I can also see the need for a distraction. My family all lives out of state, so I guess I can also understand wanting to keep everyone in the loop without sending a thousand repetitive texts. *shrug* Guess I just can't find it in me to get worked up about (non-over sharing) updates.

rae76 · September 2014

It drives me crazy when people do that. FB doesn't even get a pregnancy announcement from me.

munchiemama104 · September 2014

a little off topic, but sorta related. My in laws had their financial adviser over to work on some things. SIL is there cleaning up after dinner and is currently undergoing IUI treatments (she had just gone in for insemination that morning). After him asking me about DD and when LO is due he turns to SIL and ask if she has child. She says " I just got inseminated! The hubby's jizz was squirted in there this morning, so if all works out, I'll get a positive results in two weeks!"

Poor guy turned bright red and wished her luck. I couldn't believe the TMI. I had to leave.