Worst fears right now?

SarahHeck · September 2014

rox825 said:
I'm scared that one day the baby is just going to stop moving and that'll be it. Or that we'll make it to delivery and something will go wrong. Also scared of attempting a med free birth only to need an emergency c section and have to get knocked out and miss the birth because I won't have already had an epidural.

This exactly! So scared of all that!

hjenni · September 2014

LongIslandMama1114 said:

hjenni said:

Count me as another person who's terrified of having a c-sec. Especially being on blood thinners. I'm currently on Lovenox but am switching to Heperin at 36 weeks. If I make to week 36, there is an anecdote for the Heperin so everything would most likely be fine. I have no reason to believe I'll go early or need to have a c-sec, but there is always that small chance and its scares me :-(.

Interesting. On blood thinners I actually lean toward a C-section for awhile (ended up choosing induction instead). Surgery is a controlled amount of time off of blood thinners. Induction is an unknown amount and THAT terrifies me!
I'm on Lovenox as well. Switching to heparin at week 36. I wasn't told about an anecdote for heparin. I'm kind of scared of being induced BECAUSE I'm scared of having a c-section. When my godson was coming, my friend had to be induced and she ended up needing an emergency c-section.

I was worried they would have to induce me too but that's when my OB told me about the anecdote so they wouldn't have to. The hematologist I'm seeing said that's why they did it that way. I was told that it's more of a worry if I go before 36 weeks while on the Lovenox and if that were the case I wouldn't even have the option for an epidural. The whole thing is just worrying. :-SS.

lincoln79 · September 2014

Losing our baby and having our world come crashing down AGAIN.

Other than that, not making it to the birth since our surrogate lives an hour away and labors FAST!

lincoln79 · September 2014

lissydee said:

how we're going to manage 3 kiddos. We'll officially be out numbered.

@lissydee A friend of mine called this moving from man-to-man to zone defense. You got this!

Lilwatz · September 2014

hjenni said:

Lilwatz said:

hjenni said:

Count me as another person who's terrified of having a c-sec. Especially being on blood thinners. I'm currently on Lovenox but am switching to Heperin at 36 weeks. If I make to week 36, there is an anecdote for the Heperin so everything would most likely be fine. I have no reason to believe I'll go early or need to have a c-sec, but there is always that small chance and its scares me :-(.

Interesting. On blood thinners I actually lean toward a C-section for awhile (ended up choosing induction instead). Surgery is a controlled amount of time off of blood thinners. Induction is an unknown amount and THAT terrifies me!

Good point. I was worried about bleeding out. But being off of blood thinners could mean clotting which is also very scary

Not trying to freak you out!!! I have spoken to my team of doctors at length and I feel confident they have a solid plan. I recommend you doing the same! One thing I requested (unsure if it was in the plans already or not), is anytime I am stuck in the hospital bed I want the leg squeezie things. Are you familiar? They velcro around your calves and hook up to a machine that squeeze various points on your calf encouraging blood flow. With those I feel so much better about being off the thinners.

tabatharose83 · September 2014

Ashris13 said:

aragosta said:

Making it to the end again only to be left with empty arms. That will always be a fear in the back of my head.
Yep. ((Hugs))

I think this is one for me too, but fear It too much to even vocalize it. I wish none of you had to feel this way. Hugs to you all.

Same here. I have MTHFR, which I didn't think was a big deal with regular low dose aspirin, but at my last appointment my dr. mentioned starting NSTs 2xs a week at 34 weeks to monitor everything due to the MTHFR. I wasn't worried about it until now. I have no idea how it can effect my pregnancy this far out and google is annoying. But, I've always had the fear of coming home empty handed. I've had 3 losses and I dealt with them ok, but I don't think I could get this far and handle losing another.

hjenni · September 2014

Lilwatz said:

hjenni said:

Lilwatz said:

hjenni said:

Count me as another person who's terrified of having a c-sec. Especially being on blood thinners. I'm currently on Lovenox but am switching to Heperin at 36 weeks. If I make to week 36, there is an anecdote for the Heperin so everything would most likely be fine. I have no reason to believe I'll go early or need to have a c-sec, but there is always that small chance and its scares me :-(.

Interesting. On blood thinners I actually lean toward a C-section for awhile (ended up choosing induction instead). Surgery is a controlled amount of time off of blood thinners. Induction is an unknown amount and THAT terrifies me!

Good point. I was worried about bleeding out. But being off of blood thinners could mean clotting which is also very scary

Not trying to freak you out!!! I have spoken to my team of doctors at length and I feel confident they have a solid plan. I recommend you doing the same! One thing I requested (unsure if it was in the plans already or not), is anytime I am stuck in the hospital bed I want the leg squeezie things. Are you familiar? They velcro around your calves and hook up to a machine that squeeze various points on your calf encouraging blood flow. With those I feel so much better about being off the thinners.

No worries. I do need to talk about a plan though. They told me if I went into labor while still on the lovenox that they would just deal with it but they haven't said anything specific so that's not comforting. I did have those velcro things on my legs though when I was in the hospital for the TIA and they are amazing! It felt like a leg message.

as far as their plan for being off blood thinners, The hemotologist is supposed to come to the hospital and give me a lovenox shot after I deliver so I won't have to be off of it for long. And then I'll be on lovenox for 6 weeks after.

Lilwatz · September 2014

hjenni said:

Lilwatz said:

hjenni said:

Lilwatz said:

hjenni said:

Count me as another person who's terrified of having a c-sec. Especially being on blood thinners. I'm currently on Lovenox but am switching to Heperin at 36 weeks. If I make to week 36, there is an anecdote for the Heperin so everything would most likely be fine. I have no reason to believe I'll go early or need to have a c-sec, but there is always that small chance and its scares me :-(.

Interesting. On blood thinners I actually lean toward a C-section for awhile (ended up choosing induction instead). Surgery is a controlled amount of time off of blood thinners. Induction is an unknown amount and THAT terrifies me!

Good point. I was worried about bleeding out. But being off of blood thinners could mean clotting which is also very scary

Not trying to freak you out!!! I have spoken to my team of doctors at length and I feel confident they have a solid plan. I recommend you doing the same! One thing I requested (unsure if it was in the plans already or not), is anytime I am stuck in the hospital bed I want the leg squeezie things. Are you familiar? They velcro around your calves and hook up to a machine that squeeze various points on your calf encouraging blood flow. With those I feel so much better about being off the thinners.

No worries. I do need to talk about a plan though. They told me if I went into labor while still on the lovenox that they would just deal with it but they haven't said anything specific so that's not comforting. I did have those velcro things on my legs though when I was in the hospital for the TIA and they are amazing! It felt like a leg message. as far as their plan for being off blood thinners, The hemotologist is supposed to come to the hospital and give me a lovenox shot after I deliver so I won't have to be off of it for long. And then I'll be on lovenox for 6 weeks after.

Yep, my plan is to go back on blood thinners either 4 or 6 hours after delivery (I forget which). I have to stay in the hospital 4 days to get the wafarin (oral blood thinner) to metabolize and then I get to go home and be shot freeeeeeeee! Sounds like you have a good plan.

Curlyfries851 · September 2014

Im not afraid if labour. I've been reading tons and have had a very normal pregnancy, for which I am grateful.

I'm mostly just afraid of being a really shitty mom. Like what if I can't tell when my baby is hungry? What if I don't feed him enough? What if I don't strap him tight enough in his swing? What if I'm not fast enough with dealing with my baby's issues? Will he grow up feeling neglected?

I know this is all totally irrational, but I can't help but fear failure for some reason....

MuchlyGen · September 2014

lissydee said:
how we're going to manage 3 kiddos. We'll officially be out numbered.

I second this. I don't have enough hands! How... how...

JamieK1882 · September 2014

So many fears are starting to pop up the closer we get...

still born baby or me dying during birth are at the very top. After that, any problems or issues with LO, followed by lesser fears like annoying inlaws, etc. I can deal with those, though, for a healthy delivery and baby.

meeshybee · September 2014

LongIslandMama1114 said:

hjenni said:

Count me as another person who's terrified of having a c-sec. Especially being on blood thinners. I'm currently on Lovenox but am switching to Heperin at 36 weeks. If I make to week 36, there is an anecdote for the Heperin so everything would most likely be fine. I have no reason to believe I'll go early or need to have a c-sec, but there is always that small chance and its scares me :-(.

Interesting. On blood thinners I actually lean toward a C-section for awhile (ended up choosing induction instead). Surgery is a controlled amount of time off of blood thinners. Induction is an unknown amount and THAT terrifies me!
I'm on Lovenox as well. Switching to heparin at week 36. I wasn't told about an anecdote for heparin. I'm kind of scared of being induced BECAUSE I'm scared of having a c-section. When my godson was coming, my friend had to be induced and she ended up needing an emergency c-section.

I really hate to be THAT person... but I have to. It's driving me nuts. The word you're looking for is antidote.

anecdote: a short account of a particular incident or event, especially of an interesting or amusing nature

antidote: a medicine or other remedy for counteracting the effects of poison, disease, etc.

manders9479 · September 2014

My all time biggest fear is going into the hospital with my husband and leaving just the same with no baby. Praying all the time for a healthy baby to bring home with us. Heartbroken for those who have not been able to.

Allyvaughan86 · September 2014

My biggest fear right now has got to be regarding my husband! Things have been so much better this week but I'm still scared! I really don't want to go through a divorce and be a single parent!

I'm also scared that baby will come early and I still have so much to do! At this point, I'm hoping she will be over due lol!

And I'm always super worried about my baby! I've been worried about her my entire pregnancy, I think bc I had an early miscarriage with my last pregnancy and having an anterior placenta doesn't help much although I do feel her move more and more and that's a huge relief!

I'm really not worried about going into labor at all, I'm excited about that. I know it's going to be long and painful but the outcome will be so worth it! I'm concerned about ppd just because I've been so stressed out and depressed these past couple months! Im also already worried about going back to work after maternity leave! 6 weeks just doesn't seem long enough for such a huge life change!

babyknutson · September 2014

stillbirth.....absolutely terrified

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