Worst fears right now?

huntress17

Hey everyone. I know we all have our own fears but it helps me to talk about mine. So I figured we could start a thread and maybe comfort one another a little

My worst fear is that I will go into my dr appointment and my blood pressure will be way too high(I'm on a very close watch for pre e) and they send me to the hospital. Most of my appointments are an hour from my house. I have my dd with me and most of the time SO is at work. We only have one car so we would have to try and figure out a way to get him to me and someone to come take dd.

mslynn2012

PTL - due to my low PAPP-A hormone levels, so they are watching me (high risk for it)

R-CS - doing everything I can for a VBAC. Recovery was hard last time, and chasing a toddler isn't going to make things easier.

Having DS feel left out when DD makes her arrival. I know in all likelihood he won't even notice, but still...

moroccojade

I really do not want another crap birth.  Labouring at home was pretty great up until the end, and once at the hospital things went downhill and I ended up with a cesarean. 

I really want a VBAC.  

mander82

Having baby show up before my baby shower. I should be more afraid of labor....but being a FTM I can't really fear the unknown.

MrsG1019

PTL before 36 weeks for sure. Already had one scare at 21 weeks and had a cerclage.. Im worried about the issues that would come with going into labor or gaining any cervical changes before 36 weeks.. And the stitches tearing my cervix apart-- especially since we are 1 hour away from the hospital. Tho 36 weeks is still preterm I won't be as worried about the delivery once my cerclage comes out.

huntress17

@mslynn2012‌ having dd feel left out is one of mine too. She is such a headstrong little girl that I don't think in will matter much but it's still my fear!

FishyMom

Labor in general... Breast feeding.... DH not handing the birth well (he is VERY squimish)... Not knowing how to handle the baby at home... Post partum hormones - DHs family gets a little overwhelming sometimes and most of them are thinking that they are going to come stay with us days-weeks after we come home... Yep. I think that's about all.. And probably anything else I don't know about yet.

shan24

I go tomorrow for another ultrasound to check to see if my low-lying placenta moved, to check on the fibroid that in a "tricky" spot and the 10 x 11 x 14 cm cyst that's growing on my ovary.  My biggest fear right now is that there has been a perfect storm of hormonal ridiculousness happening in my body and that they're going to tell me that the placenta hasn't moved, the fibroid has grown, making it impossible to deliver vaginally and that the cyst is now the size of a football, therefore I will need a c-section.

The thoughts of a c-section terrify me.  Irrationally, maybe, but still terrifying.

FishyMom

@mrsg1019 how far along are you again? I am thinking you are a couple weeks ahead of me which would mean you only have 2 or 3 or so weeks before you make it to that 36 week goal, right? Have you scheduled the appointment to get the cerclage removed?

LongIslandMama1114

I fear the unknown...the what-ifs. Since I haven't heard from LOs father since July not have I seen him since May/June...I worry about what is going to happen when LO is born and how I'll handle it. On one hand, I don't want to keep LO from knowing his father. On the other hand, I wonder what gives him the right to just show up after all this time expecting the privilege of being this LOs daddy? I'm more afraid of having to deal with him being in an out of LOs life than I am of being a single mom. Maybe he won't show up and I won't have to deal with him...but then I get angry thinking of that, too. How dare he do that to this little boy? Ugh. Sorry for the ramble.

sweetbabyrahe

Pre term labor and/or birth with a baby in the nicu as they have been watching me due to early cervical dilation. Ob continuing to keep me off work and not having enough time left for post baby.

Stephaniegiboney

Pre-term labor also, due to early cervical dilation. It doesn't help that my cramps have returned this weekend...

MrsC430

I'm w/ you ladies that are fearing the unknown. Just hoping both babies are born as healthy and close to term as possible.

I'm also anxious about how these next few weeks are going to go. I'm getting pretty damn uncomfortable. Can't imagine this belly getting bigger...

FirstBabyDoyle

Everything. I'm scared of all of it. Baby having is sccccccarrrryyy. PTL? Still birth? CS? Roadside delivery? BF? Sleep deprivation? Doing everything wrong? Yes to all.

soulcupcake

Making it to the end again only to be left with empty arms. That will always be a fear in the back of my head.

MrsG1019

Ashris13 said:

@mrsg1019 how far along are you again? I am thinking you are a couple weeks ahead of me which would mean you only have 2 or 3 or so weeks before you make it to that 36 week goal, right? Have you scheduled the appointment to get the cerclage removed?

Yes ma'am-- I'm 34w1d today --- cerclage comes out 10/6 -- 2 weeks away!! ((insert freak out moment here)) & at that point the doctor said they won't try to stop him at all -- if he comes.. He's coming!!! I have zero faith in my cervix being able to hold a 6 pound baby (estimated weight by 36 weeks) in there without the cerclage, when it couldn't even do it's job back when he weighed less than a pound. We'll see!

minibean16

Having to have a C-section. I'm allergic to most pain killers and general anesthesia. The doctors promise they would be able to get me through if I needed them, but it terrifies me.

PTL: I don't feel ready at all, and I worry about finishing up at work and trying to get my house ready without overdoing it. I need three months instead of two.

I've been so worried about getting the baby, I haven't even thought of HAVING a baby... So that unknown scares me too.

ccam

I'm nervous that something will be wrong with the baby and how DS will react to the new baby (and to us being separated for 3 nights!). I'm also nervous about a RCS. I didn't have time to be nervous with my first CS!

lizgrace03

Well I guess I'm a little nervous about the delivery itself, provided everything goes according to plan and I have a vaginal delivery. I hate the thought of tearing or getting an episiotomy! On a more serious note, there is always the chance that something would go wrong during the whole process resulting in issues for either me or him... I try not to think about that though.

DisneyDee1984

My hypertension turning into full blown pre-eclampsia. I pray that I can control it till the end of pregnancy and have a vaginal birth. I'm so nervous that I'll go to the dr one day and they'll say that we have to do an emergency c-section that day. If it does come to that, I'm hoping its after 37 weeks.

Lilwatz

With my blood clotting issues, my biggest fear is something happening to me during delivery--a stroke or death. Honestly, the rest doesn't even compare.

kikimeemee

Mine are pretty morbid. :-/

1. Hubby suddenly dies. (Could be because my young step brother died in July suddenly and publicly -- graphic accident)

2. I will/hubby will/in-laws will drop baby as we go up or down stairs at my house. We don't have a carpet runner -- just hardwood.

I think I just feel very vulnerable at 33 weeks that many a thing scares me.

mamatohne

My fear is that I will spend the rest of my pregnancy in pain. My sciatic nerve has been pinched for 2 weeks, which sucks. Somehow in those two weeks I dislocated my hip. Now that my hip is back in place, my sciatic nerve still hurts terribly. I have SO much to do to get ready for this baby and going to the grocery store sends me to tears. I have a very understanding boss and she has told me to take it easy but I HAVE to work until the end.

abbyful

That something will happen and I won't have a baby to bring home. In the last year I've lost my dad, grandma, and miscarried; I'm terrified that the losses will continue. I cringe every time someone says something about baby being a bright point in a dark year, I feel like it's tempting fate for something bad.

FishyMom

aragosta said:

Making it to the end again only to be left with empty arms. That will always be a fear in the back of my head.

Yep. ((Hugs))

I think this is one for me too, but fear It too much to even vocalize it. I wish none of you had to feel this way. Hugs to you all.

JustJainey

@abbyful - I'm with you on the tempting fate fear. DH was actually in a coma last year when I miscarried. He has made a miraculous recovery and this pregnancy seems a blessing...just feel like I can't become complacent or count on nothing else bad happening.

meeshybee

Biggest fear for myself - a c-sec; I am petrified of any kind of surgery. I'm usually pretty good at keeping it together and laughing things off, but I'd be a blubbering mess if they said I had to have an emergency c-sec, and for mostly selfish reasons.

Biggest fear for LO - cord incident; I never worried about it with my others, but for some reason this time I am petrified she will have the cord around her neck, like my brother did (even though they caught it and he was perfectly fine).

Other fears - DS + crying baby = feedback loop from HELL

tamarnina

My biggest worry is going into labor early and not having care for my kids. We have no family in the area and our friends work. My MIL is coming around my due date, and I have gone over 41 weeks with both my other kids, but I am constantly worried about this.

After reading this thread, I am super-lucky that this is my biggest worry. Fortunately I am having a very healthy pregnancy so far.

absolutelymaybe

MrsC430 said:

I'm w/ you ladies that are fearing the unknown. Just hoping both babies are born as healthy and close to term as possible.

I'm also anxious about how these next few weeks are going to go. I'm getting pretty damn uncomfortable. Can't imagine this belly getting bigger...

All of this.

morrkim

I'm nervous the boys will come early and end up in the NICU and no one will be able to see them. I did a NICU tour yesterday nd they have a daily checklist that each person has to pass to enter. Right now I have a cough. DH and DD both have different infections as well.

rox825

I'm scared that one day the baby is just going to stop moving and that'll be it. Or that we'll make it to delivery and something will go wrong. Also scared of attempting a med free birth only to need an emergency c section and have to get knocked out and miss the birth because I won't have already had an epidural.

beatrixkiddo19

I'm worried about a c-section.  Right now, LO is transverse and seems to really like that spot.  I'm hoping that she'll get with the program and turn head down.  

I know she has lots of time and will likely turn several times before my due date, but I'm trying to plan a med-free birth and a c-section is just the complete opposite of that.

silverwings72

I am nervous about labor and delivery. How will I act? Will I freak out my husband? Will i poop while pushing? Did i do anything while pregnant to have hurt the baby, i.e. Caffeine, etc? How will we afford maternity leave and having to pay for childcare? Just so much to worry about!
Trying to stop the worry thoughts before they turn into panic attacks. Every day I trust God to take care of these worries for me.

ShelleyElla22

It seems somewhat insignificant but I am most worried about having to be induced again. I would just really like this baby to come on his own!

staugustinewedding

I'm nervous about the delivery. I have no idea how it will all feel. I am a FTM so just really curious about the kind of pain I will feel. I'm have a pretty high tolerance for pain, but I doubt that even matters. I really don't want a C-section so I'm praying all goes well.

I'm also afraid of a stillbirth.
It happened to a friend of a friend and I just can't imagine..don't want to imagine. Praying for a healthy delivery and healthy baby every day.

Jpinky9

Oh my... The unknown is super scary to me at times! I worry about finances while I am on mat leave. I am not overly fearful of labour and delivery (although I probably should be). I am more worried that something will go wrong, not of the actual pain. My biggest fear is a cord accident, that thought terrifies me

hjenni

Count me as another person who's terrified of having a c-sec. Especially being on blood thinners. I'm currently on Lovenox but am switching to Heperin at 36 weeks. If I make to week 36, there is an anecdote for the Heperin so everything would most likely be fine. I have no reason to believe I'll go early or need to have a c-sec, but there is always that small chance and its scares me :-(.

Lilwatz

hjenni said:

Count me as another person who's terrified of having a c-sec. Especially being on blood thinners. I'm currently on Lovenox but am switching to Heperin at 36 weeks. If I make to week 36, there is an anecdote for the Heperin so everything would most likely be fine. I have no reason to believe I'll go early or need to have a c-sec, but there is always that small chance and its scares me :-(.

Interesting.  On blood thinners I actually lean toward a C-section for awhile (ended up choosing induction instead). Surgery is a controlled amount of time off of blood thinners.  Induction is an unknown amount and THAT terrifies me!

hjenni

Lilwatz said:

hjenni said:

Count me as another person who's terrified of having a c-sec. Especially being on blood thinners. I'm currently on Lovenox but am switching to Heperin at 36 weeks. If I make to week 36, there is an anecdote for the Heperin so everything would most likely be fine. I have no reason to believe I'll go early or need to have a c-sec, but there is always that small chance and its scares me :-(.

Interesting.  On blood thinners I actually lean toward a C-section for awhile (ended up choosing induction instead). Surgery is a controlled amount of time off of blood thinners.  Induction is an unknown amount and THAT terrifies me!

Good point. I was worried about bleeding out. But being off of blood thinners could mean clotting which is also very scary

kfirstiun

Biggest fear by far is coming home without the baby due to some unforeseen complication such as stillborn.

LongIslandMama1114

Lilwatz said:

hjenni said:

Count me as another person who's terrified of having a c-sec. Especially being on blood thinners. I'm currently on Lovenox but am switching to Heperin at 36 weeks. If I make to week 36, there is an anecdote for the Heperin so everything would most likely be fine. I have no reason to believe I'll go early or need to have a c-sec, but there is always that small chance and its scares me :-(.

Interesting.  On blood thinners I actually lean toward a C-section for awhile (ended up choosing induction instead). Surgery is a controlled amount of time off of blood thinners.  Induction is an unknown amount and THAT terrifies me!

I'm on Lovenox as well. Switching to heparin at week 36. I wasn't told about an anecdote for heparin. I'm kind of scared of being induced BECAUSE I'm scared of having a c-section. When my godson was coming, my friend had to be induced and she ended up needing an emergency c-section.