Breast feeding without a cover at back to school night -oh my!

janda426 · September 2014

Yes, because feeding your kid, dogs and eating are all equivalent.

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dani727 · September 2014

It's so unfortunate how shitty everyone is on this board. You take everything everyone says and twist it to fit your own narrative. You enjoy only the company of fellow bitches. You're not happy till you've got a brawl. What kind of parents will you be? Will your little gems be berating other kids? Probably. Do I hate kids? No. But go ahead and draw conclusions about me and then give me shit for doing the same thing about someone else that I don't know. Maybe you'll also teach your children to be hypocrites.

janda426 · September 2014

dani727 said:
It's so unfortunate how shitty everyone is on this board. You take everything everyone says and twist it to fit your own narrative. You enjoy only the company of fellow bitches. You're not happy till you've got a brawl. What kind of parents will you be? Will your little gems be berating other kids? Probably. Do I hate kids? No. But go ahead and draw conclusions about me and then give me shit for doing the same thing about someone else that I don't know. Maybe you'll also teach your children to be hypocrites.

Oh see when you said "to discuss your other pain in the ass kids" that isn't typically something someone who likes kids would say.

Insult me all you want, you made yourself look like a fool and are just mad you got called out.

FrecklesInside · September 2014

dani727 said:
It's so unfortunate how shitty everyone is on this board. You take everything everyone says and twist it to fit your own narrative. You enjoy only the company of fellow bitches. You're not happy till you've got a brawl. What kind of parents will you be? Will your little gems be berating other kids? Probably. Do I hate kids? No. But go ahead and draw conclusions about me and then give me shit for doing the same thing about someone else that I don't know. Maybe you'll also teach your children to be hypocrites.

Who thought she would GBCB??

Now we're all bitches who are bad moms? Cool story. I'm already a mom, and a damned good one who raises children who don't judge or shame other people. Get the fuck over yourself that you, haha, YOU, think you can criticize my parenting. Laughable.

Also, lolz @ @etoille being called passive aggressive... This is like when you thought I wanted a unicorn response. You don't have good reading comprehension or an understanding of tone as presented through coherent text.

kellbell1982 · September 2014

I can't get past the androgynous boy either, I hope my daughters teachers aren't judging her like that

kella0708 · September 2014

dani727 said:

etoille said:

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dani727 said:

kella0708 said:
So much shit in this thread I want to address, but it's. so. early.

One thing that stuck with me while I was I reading all of the comments was when OP, @dani727‌ said something about the other teachers and staff were balking at this woman and making snarky comments. How rude and immature? And how uncomfortable were they making this mother feel in a place where she is sending her child everyday to learn? And all I could think was as a bystander (who supposedly supports breastfeeding?) how wonderful would it have been if you spoke up and said something to your asshole coworkers? Or even better said something supportive to the mother? You might as well have been standing with the others staring her down and making nasty comments.
I'm a new teacher at the school. Don't have any friends yet and not looking for enemies either. If I had actually known the teachers for more than a week I would have been more vocal about my opinion- which by the way is not fully formed on the issue of BF at back to school night. Honestly I wish I had written orig post clearly , knowing the crazy bitches that are on here who can't wait to pounce. I posted because while I advocate for public BF in almost every situation, I already find it distracting to bring children to school when you're meant to be discussing them. It's a night to call a babysitter. This woman is a college professor I'm sure she could have afforded it just like I had to pay a dog walker and I'm certain I make a fraction of what she makes...What if her kid screamed the whole time and shoving a boob in it's mouth didn't work? How distracting is that?? Anyway I thought more teachers would weigh in, but I hadn't predicted that others would assume I'm a breast hating monster . Ha! Anyway, that's it.

God really?

Did you ignore ALL of the shit people said to you about colic, not being able to pump, engorgement....

of course you did.

Also good to know that you are brazen enough to judge people you don't know to strangers on the internet but not with enough fortitude to voice your opinions to people in public. Fits right in with the picture a lot of us already have of you in our heads.

If it was screaming she may have left the room. Maybe her spouse would be there to take over the listening part.

YOU ARE IN AN EVENT ABOUT CHILDREN WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH BRINGING ONE?

God you are just so friggin ignorant.

You have no idea wtf you're talking about but plenty of opinions.
Ugh. Ugh ugh ugh. Post it post it post it.

You're obviously not a teacher. Maybe I should have just taken my dog to the event too? Maybe we should all eat while we talk as well? Perfect.

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HOLY SHIT, lady. Did you just compare your dog to a breastfed child!?

Look, I love my furbaby just as much as the next person but I can leave my dog with a bowl of water and some kibble for a few hours without issue.

You were clearly too distracted by the androgyny of the little boy and his mother's breasts that you couldn't take a step back and look at the situation with an unbiased eye.

Maybe THEY are NEW too? Maybe they have no family or friends or babysitter to watch their kid and they both want to be involved with their sons education.

Like PP said, if they didn't show up you'd be ranting about how they are deadbeat parents and don't give a shit about their kid and his education. And FWIW I was a teacher and it's people like you that give teachers a bad rep.

Take your judgmental as fuck attitude elsewhere.

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littlepawsbigears · September 2014

All the bfeeding love on this post has made me super happy. Thanks ladies for making my day better. :x

ruemorgan · September 2014

Jenny7766 said:
Seriously you ladies are being extremely harsh. I agree with what she is saying, there is a time and a place for uncovered bfing, and perhaps an environment such as was aforementioned in this forum isn't the proper place for public bfing. Unfortunatey, we do live in a perverse society and whether or not you wish to give credence to that, it does not in fact change the situation. I see nothing wrong with covered feeding, and if you begin this ritual from the get-go, I do not believe your child would have an issue with it. And to answer the ignorant response of one of you, yes if I were hungry enough or felt that someone would take offense to it, I would eat with a blanket over my head. You are all atacking an individual based on the fact that she disagreed with one scenario, and frankly I find the turn in this discussion a bit ludicris and childish. The issue isnt that one person believes bfing is wrong, it is situational courtesy for the surrounding individual in the atmosphere in which you chose to bf for an exorbinant amount of time.

No one is being attacked. People are giving their opinions and she is simply overwhelmed that more people share the opinion opposite of hers. If thats called being attacked then stop asking for opinions.

HollyHTx2 · September 2014

I just don't understand people and their breastfeeding exhibitionism. I bf my son, but I never desired to have people staring at me in my private moments with my son. In public, I covered up if I had to feed him. Most of the time I planned what I was doing around his schedule so I wouldn't be stuck in that situation. If he was hungry, he ate, and it never seemed to bother him. I'm pretty sure a baby mostly cares that they are being fed. We can argue about whether breasts are sexual or not all day and night. The reality is this is America and people here are sexually attracted to them. I would never walk around with my nipple exposed, especially in a school! WTF is wrong with people.

kelseypie · September 2014

Wow. I'm just now seeing this, and I'm so glad the majority of the board shares my views.

What OP and some of the more disgusting WKs may not realize is that in the majority of US states, mothers are legally allowed to breastfeed wherever mother and baby are otherwise authorized to be. So idgaf if some people are raised to believe that breasts are scary unless they're purposely on display to be ogled (which is up to us to STOP teaching children). Idgaf if kids ask their parents questions...good if they do! Idgaf if it distracts you. Idgaf if you don't think it's the appropriate time and place. I'm legally within my rights to "whip it out" when and wherever the fuck I want, so stick that in your boob-hole and suck it.

kella0708 · September 2014

HollyHTx2 said:

I just don't understand people and their breastfeeding exhibitionism. I bf my son, but I never desired to have people staring at me in my private moments with my son. In public, I covered up if I had to feed him. Most of the time I planned what I was doing around his schedule so I wouldn't be stuck in that situation. If he was hungry, he ate, and it never seemed to bother him. I'm pretty sure a baby mostly cares that they are being fed. We can argue about whether breasts are sexual or not all day and night. The reality is this is America and people here are sexually attracted to them. I would never walk around with my nipple exposed, especially in a school! WTF is wrong with people.

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You're wrong. This is not America. This is TB.

And aren't you just the little model breastfeeding citizen! But the reality is women do not need to cover up and there are laws that protect them. And not everyone has the luxury of running errands around a baby's schedule. Did you read or comprehend anything in this entire post?

WTF is wrong with YOU?

FrecklesInside · September 2014

HollyHTx2 said:
I just don't understand people and their breastfeeding exhibitionism. I bf my son, but I never desired to have people staring at me in my private moments with my son. In public, I covered up if I had to feed him. Most of the time I planned what I was doing around his schedule so I wouldn't be stuck in that situation. If he was hungry, he ate, and it never seemed to bother him. I'm pretty sure a baby mostly cares that they are being fed. We can argue about whether breasts are sexual or not all day and night. The reality is this is America and people here are sexually attracted to them. I would never walk around with my nipple exposed, especially in a school! WTF is wrong with people.

Oh, sweetheart, welcome to the board!! Try lurking awhile next time or at least reading the thread you posted in. This has been covered 100% so I'm not going to respond to you other than to say: hahaha, no.

janda426 · September 2014

HollyHTx2 said:
I just don't understand people and their breastfeeding exhibitionism. I bf my son, but I never desired to have people staring at me in my private moments with my son. In public, I covered up if I had to feed him. Most of the time I planned what I was doing around his schedule so I wouldn't be stuck in that situation. If he was hungry, he ate, and it never seemed to bother him. I'm pretty sure a baby mostly cares that they are being fed. We can argue about whether breasts are sexual or not all day and night. The reality is this is America and people here are sexually attracted to them. I would never walk around with my nipple exposed, especially in a school! WTF is wrong with people.

No the question is, wtf is wrong with you?

So because America sexualizes women we should cater to that media bullshit and hide ourselves while we do as nature intended. You're what is wrong with people. Thanks for being part of the problem.

Turn the other fucking way if you don't want to see boobs. God damn.

kcbizme · September 2014

I think things have pretty much been covered here.

capulet · September 2014

dani727 said:

So much shit in this thread I want to address, but it's. so. early. One thing that stuck with me while I was I reading all of the comments was when OP, @dani727‌ said something about the other teachers and staff were balking at this woman and making snarky comments. How rude and immature? And how uncomfortable were they making this mother feel in a place where she is sending her child everyday to learn? And all I could think was as a bystander (who supposedly supports breastfeeding?) how wonderful would it have been if you spoke up and said something to your asshole coworkers? Or even better said something supportive to the mother? You might as well have been standing with the others staring her down and making nasty comments.
I'm a new teacher at the school. Don't have any friends yet and not looking for enemies either. If I had actually known the teachers for more than a week I would have been more vocal about my opinion- which by the way is not fully formed on the issue of BF at back to school night. Honestly I wish I had written orig post clearly , knowing the crazy bitches that are on here who can't wait to pounce. I posted because while I advocate for public BF in almost every situation, I already find it distracting to bring children to school when you're meant to be discussing them. It's a night to call a babysitter. This woman is a college professor I'm sure she could have afforded it just like I had to pay a dog walker and I'm certain I make a fraction of what she makes...

I can only echo what PPs have said about BFing but I want to comment on this specifically. For as long as DD is in elementary school, I'm going to have a baby or toddler. There are PTA meetings once a month in addition to back to school nights, conferences, etc. We don't have family nearby and babysitters here are expensive. DH is a lawyer and we still can't just throw money around like that. DD's teachers will either get an involved parent with a baby on her boob or a wiggly toddler, or they won't get me at all. They, fortunately, have given every indication they prefer the former.

Also, it's possible to be a college professor and make very little money. Academia is not for people who want to get paid more than K-12 teachers.

alexandria22489 · September 2014

I just finished reading allllll 8 pages.

dani727 This is the most disgusting post I've read on this board. I have never read something so incredibly rude and judgmental...until I read your additional posts attempting to defend yourself. You're giving teachers a bad name and that's really discouraging...then you comment about the "crazy bitches on this board". You can quite honestly go away.

Edit: toned it down a notch.

ruemorgan · September 2014

I finally finished reading this whole thread. I just have to say I love you ladies SO much. As a FTM I knew I wanted to breastfeed but didnt have much of an opinion otherwise. This thread just sealed the deal for me. :x :x :x :x

janda426 · September 2014

Elbug said:
Mobile and don't have time to read all the comments now but whoa judgy mcjudgepants, you have some serious nipphobia and really you had to make fun of her "androgynous" looking child. How the fuck are you in education and work with children?

I'm getting all warm and fuzzy seeing you in my BMB
:x

chaysefaith · September 2014

OMG you guys. There are seriously too many TOU violations happening starting from what I can tell on page 6 and I'm not even done reading. I don't have the time to PM each of you (sorry to those who got a PM and now feel I'm being unfair).

Cool it with the "fuck you's," name calling, and whatever other TOU might have been violated.

Don't make me turn this car around, we WILL go back home...

kcbizme · September 2014

@MandJS I heart you. Seriously. :x

jnowosielski · September 2014

kcbizme said:

@MandJS I heart you. Seriously. :x

DITTO

jnowosielski · September 2014

kcbizme said:

@MandJS I heart you. Seriously. :x

DITTO

ETA: double post because I agree so hard.

goofygoff · September 2014

I already said what I wanted to say in this thread, but I couldn't leave without declaring my ever growing heart-on for @etoille.

cafecreme · September 2014

*whips out titty for DD and eats popcorn while reading this*

wishiwaspreggo · September 2014

@MandJS - My mom knits

I'm going to ask her to make me one of those hats!

goofygoff · September 2014

cafecreme said:

*whips out titty for DD and eats popcorn while reading this*

You need some musical accompaniment.

transplantedhawkeye · September 2014

My siggy. That is all.

dani727 · September 2014

ruemorgan said:

Jenny7766 said:
Seriously you ladies are being extremely harsh. I agree with what she is saying, there is a time and a place for uncovered bfing, and perhaps an environment such as was aforementioned in this forum isn't the proper place for public bfing. Unfortunatey, we do live in a perverse society and whether or not you wish to give credence to that, it does not in fact change the situation. I see nothing wrong with covered feeding, and if you begin this ritual from the get-go, I do not believe your child would have an issue with it. And to answer the ignorant response of one of you, yes if I were hungry enough or felt that someone would take offense to it, I would eat with a blanket over my head. You are all atacking an individual based on the fact that she disagreed with one scenario, and frankly I find the turn in this discussion a bit ludicris and childish. The issue isnt that one person believes bfing is wrong, it is situational courtesy for the surrounding individual in the atmosphere in which you chose to bf for an exorbinant amount of time.
No one is being attacked. People are giving their opinions and she is simply overwhelmed that more people share the opinion opposite of hers. If thats called being attacked then stop asking for opinions.

You obviously haven't read all the msgs. Absolutely am being attacked. But go ahead and support the others so they accept you.

kella0708 · September 2014

goofygoff · September 2014

dani727 · September 2014

I

MandJS said:

dani727 said:

ruemorgan said:

Jenny7766 said:
Seriously you ladies are being extremely harsh. I agree with what she is saying, there is a time and a place for uncovered bfing, and perhaps an environment such as was aforementioned in this forum isn't the proper place for public bfing. Unfortunatey, we do live in a perverse society and whether or not you wish to give credence to that, it does not in fact change the situation. I see nothing wrong with covered feeding, and if you begin this ritual from the get-go, I do not believe your child would have an issue with it. And to answer the ignorant response of one of you, yes if I were hungry enough or felt that someone would take offense to it, I would eat with a blanket over my head. You are all atacking an individual based on the fact that she disagreed with one scenario, and frankly I find the turn in this discussion a bit ludicris and childish. The issue isnt that one person believes bfing is wrong, it is situational courtesy for the surrounding individual in the atmosphere in which you chose to bf for an exorbinant amount of time.
No one is being attacked. People are giving their opinions and she is simply overwhelmed that more people share the opinion opposite of hers. If thats called being attacked then stop asking for opinions.
You obviously haven't read all the msgs. Absolutely am being attacked. But go ahead and support the others so they accept you.

Hi - I'm a moderator here. You are right. There are some TOU violations that happened. You were called names - I don't disagree. But to be clear, you weren't perfect on the TOU, yourself. People in glass houses and all that.

@ruemorgan is a "regular" here. She doesn't need to say or do anything in this thread to be accepted. She supports the others, we support her. And yes - if we disagree, that gets said, too.

You really may want to step away from this thread, though. You're not really helping your cause any.

Not saying I was but I was absolutely 100% provoked. Anyway I am done with this thread. I'm sad because I really did enjoy a laugh and the support from this group but if shit like this happens everytime I ask for some opinions on something or provide an opinion that others may disagree with then it's not worth the brain space and anger that I feel upon reading it. Obviously anything I say will be torn to shreds and some people are keeping notes to laugh to themselves if I have a miscarriage or some other unfortunate shit happens -just waiting for 'karma'.( @etoille‌ ) That is the OPPOSITE of support. That is abuse and some seriously twisted shit. I don't wish negativity in any form on anyone. Anyway if I DO stick around, I can't wait for your future judgement and keeping tabs on my misfortunes. You've officially ruined TB for me.

jnowosielski · September 2014

DO NOT accuse ANYONE on this board of waiting for ANYONE to have a miscarriage. The reg's on here have been there for many women on here going through terrible times. NONE of these women would wish that on you or wait for it to happen even if they disagree with you. That was completely unacceptable and you REALLY need to leave now.

EDITED because @dani727 you need to know I'm talking to you.

goofygoff · September 2014

dani727 said:

I

dani727 said:

Seriously you ladies are being extremely harsh. I agree with what she is saying, there is a time and a place for uncovered bfing, and perhaps an environment such as was aforementioned in this forum isn't the proper place for public bfing. Unfortunatey, we do live in a perverse society and whether or not you wish to give credence to that, it does not in fact change the situation. I see nothing wrong with covered feeding, and if you begin this ritual from the get-go, I do not believe your child would have an issue with it. And to answer the ignorant response of one of you, yes if I were hungry enough or felt that someone would take offense to it, I would eat with a blanket over my head. You are all atacking an individual based on the fact that she disagreed with one scenario, and frankly I find the turn in this discussion a bit ludicris and childish. The issue isnt that one person believes bfing is wrong, it is situational courtesy for the surrounding individual in the atmosphere in which you chose to bf for an exorbinant amount of time.
No one is being attacked. People are giving their opinions and she is simply overwhelmed that more people share the opinion opposite of hers. If thats called being attacked then stop asking for opinions.
You obviously haven't read all the msgs. Absolutely am being attacked. But go ahead and support the others so they accept you.

Hi - I'm a moderator here. You are right. There are some TOU violations that happened. You were called names - I don't disagree. But to be clear, you weren't perfect on the TOU, yourself. People in glass houses and all that.

@ruemorgan is a "regular" here. She doesn't need to say or do anything in this thread to be accepted. She supports the others, we support her. And yes - if we disagree, that gets said, too.

You really may want to step away from this thread, though. You're not really helping your cause any.
Not saying I was but I was absolutely 100% provoked. Anyway I am done with this thread. I'm sad because I really did enjoy a laugh and the support from this group but if shit like this happens everytime I ask for some opinions on something or provide an opinion that others may disagree with then it's not worth the brain space and anger that I feel upon reading it. Obviously anything I say will be torn to shreds and some people are keeping notes to laugh to themselves if I have a miscarriage or some other unfortunate shit happens -just waiting for 'karma'.( @etoille‌ ) That is the OPPOSITE of support. That is abuse and some seriously twisted shit. I don't wish negativity in any form on anyone. Anyway if I DO stick around, I can't wait for your future judgement and keeping tabs on my misfortunes. You've officially ruined TB for me.

Where the fuck do you get off saying anyone even hinted at something like that?? You need to seriously GTFO now.

FrecklesInside · September 2014

dani727 said:

I

dani727 said:

Seriously you ladies are being extremely harsh. I agree with what she is saying, there is a time and a place for uncovered bfing, and perhaps an environment such as was aforementioned in this forum isn't the proper place for public bfing. Unfortunatey, we do live in a perverse society and whether or not you wish to give credence to that, it does not in fact change the situation. I see nothing wrong with covered feeding, and if you begin this ritual from the get-go, I do not believe your child would have an issue with it. And to answer the ignorant response of one of you, yes if I were hungry enough or felt that someone would take offense to it, I would eat with a blanket over my head. You are all atacking an individual based on the fact that she disagreed with one scenario, and frankly I find the turn in this discussion a bit ludicris and childish. The issue isnt that one person believes bfing is wrong, it is situational courtesy for the surrounding individual in the atmosphere in which you chose to bf for an exorbinant amount of time.
No one is being attacked. People are giving their opinions and she is simply overwhelmed that more people share the opinion opposite of hers. If thats called being attacked then stop asking for opinions.
You obviously haven't read all the msgs. Absolutely am being attacked. But go ahead and support the others so they accept you.

Hi - I'm a moderator here. You are right. There are some TOU violations that happened. You were called names - I don't disagree. But to be clear, you weren't perfect on the TOU, yourself. People in glass houses and all that.

@ruemorgan is a "regular" here. She doesn't need to say or do anything in this thread to be accepted. She supports the others, we support her. And yes - if we disagree, that gets said, too.

You really may want to step away from this thread, though. You're not really helping your cause any.
Not saying I was but I was absolutely 100% provoked. Anyway I am done with this thread. I'm sad because I really did enjoy a laugh and the support from this group but if shit like this happens everytime I ask for some opinions on something or provide an opinion that others may disagree with then it's not worth the brain space and anger that I feel upon reading it. Obviously anything I say will be torn to shreds and some people are keeping notes to laugh to themselves if I have a miscarriage or some other unfortunate shit happens -just waiting for 'karma'.( @etoille‌ ) That is the OPPOSITE of support. That is abuse and some seriously twisted shit. I don't wish negativity in any form on anyone. Anyway if I DO stick around, I can't wait for your future judgement and keeping tabs on my misfortunes. You've officially ruined TB for me.

No one. ABSOLUTELY NO ONE wished a miscarriage on you. Don't twist people's words so you feel validated in your whiny GBCB and twisted panties. You didn't ask for opinions, you wanted people to say it was "crazy shit" - turns out just about everyone but a few WK avatarless folks with spelling/grammar/vocab issues disagreed with you. You backpedaled and then became defensive. NO ONE WISHED YOU HARM. Get over it.

Also, we ruined TB for you?? Are you serious? Grow up.

jurassicrabbit · September 2014

kellbell1982 said:

I can't get past the androgynous boy either, I hope my daughters teachers aren't judging her like that

Ditto.

Hey, OP, while not particularly "androgynous," my 10 year old son loves My Little Pony, his favorite color is pink, I am very involved in his school (I've volunteered weekly since he was in Kindergarten), and I plan on exclusively breastfeeding his sibling, which means he or she will be with me all the time for the first several months, including events such as the one you described. You wanna judge my family, too?

FrecklesInside · September 2014

Go home, guys. TB is ruined.

052806 · September 2014

Chunkymonkeylvr said:
Btw, I am a teacher and find your actions and post disgusting.

I'm a teacher. I also teach high school- so someone breast feeding at that level would probably raise a few eyebrows. In general though I don't think WHERE one is breast feeding makes a difference.

chaysefaith · September 2014

Ok, so. This thread is making me ragey. I have to leave for a doctors appointment in 30 minutes and if the TOU violations don't stop I'm closing the thread. Mod abuse be damned. Knock it off guys.

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