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equinegirl2010 · September 2014

I had asked a question and have gotten some pretty poor responses from people. It was a ligament question but im sorry i asked. I'll know better next time to not ask when I have a question.

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equinegirl2010 · September 2014

Okay I was just asking but seriously your a plain out bitch! But thanks for your wonderful advise and I honestly hope you get booted off of here because its people like you that ruin sites like this for people that have common sense.

mb314 · September 2014

Um has someone offered to throw you a shower? It is considered bad form to throw or plan your own shower. If someone offers to throw you one, that's a different story. No one is entitled to a shower, whether it is your first or your fifth child. A shower is a gift given by family or friends to help you out and celebrate. You don't throw one yourself.

I personally don't think that having a boy 18 months after having a girl warrants a shower. I'm not 100% opposed to showers for 2nd or 3rd children, if they are given by other hosts, but typically I think that they are when there is a larger gap between kids (and when baby gear has been already given away).

Are you in your 3rd Tri? If so, I would say that if no one has offered to throw you a shower by now, they're not going to.

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ILoveRunning · September 2014

I say this as kindly as possible- these posts never go over well. Baby showers are typically supposed to be for a first baby only, although I understand there are exceptions... and honestly, I don't care what others do.

I'm also trying to understand what you need for a boy that you didn't have 18 months ago when you had your most recent child. Clothes and diapers are the only thing that come to mind and you can always reuse the more gender neutral items in a pinch. Everything else (swing, bouncer, etc) can be used for a boy, even if it is pink.

equinegirl2010 · September 2014

I wasnt planning on throwing my own shower, my husbands aunt was talking about throwing one for me. We are able to do things on our own but at the same time, they live in another state than us and it would give them a chance to see the baby, maybe we will just do a small get together when the baby is born and just call it good. I wasnt trying to be tacky by any means, i was just trying to get some assurance on if it would be okay for her to throw the shower. I did some research saying it is good to throw a shower because its for the baby not the mom and its a celebartion but I wasnt quite sure. So thanks for the advice.

mb314 · September 2014

equinegirl2010 said:

Okay I was just asking but seriously your a plain out bitch! But thanks for your wonderful advise and I honestly hope you get booted off of here because its people like you that ruin sites like this for people that have common sense.

I think most people on this board find it to be "common sense" that you don't throw your own baby shower and you don't get a shower just because you're having a boy. What stuff don't you have? Your boy isn't going to care if his car seat/swing are pink and not blue. Same goes with clothes, although I get that as kids get older, society expects boys and girls to dress separately. But most baby gear is the same baby gear for a boy or a girl.

equinegirl2010 · September 2014

First of all I never said that I wasnt going to provide the stuff for my child. Second that wasnt what the question was. Okay really no need to be a bitch. I was asking a simple question if you have a problem with it please use your head and dont respond. I was looking for a little clarity on what to do. AND i never said i was throwing the damn shower myself. I had it offered to me! But it didnt seem like something we really needed so im sorry to have posted something on here at all.

equinegirl2010 · September 2014

And last of all I dont have a swing, or a bouncer or anything from my little girl because we were living in a very small apartment at that time so I dont have any of it. But thanks for the advice the ones who were actually nice about it. I have common sense enough to know that when you have your 3rd baby that you dont get everything handed to you thank you. I was just asking a simple question. My mistake.

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golfingdarwinfish · September 2014

equinegirl2010 said:

I had asked a question and have gotten some pretty poor responses from people. It was a ligament question but im sorry i asked. I'll know better next time to not ask when I have a question.

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equinegirl2010 · September 2014

seriously your being plain mean. I was asking a question you have given your answer. Thanks for the wonderful mommy support that your supposed to get on here seriously i deleted the original post because i was trying to delete the whole thing! wow get a life. go be a mom i mean honestly. I dont have time for people like you in my life. SO good bye.

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ready-or-not · September 2014

We hosted a bbq/cookout for family & friends about a month after both of our last kids were born. A couple people brought a gift for the new baby but it def wasn't required or asked for. We threw the parties so that our people could meet the newest little, not so that we'd get gifts.

I did have a shower for my first 2 girls, thrown for me by someone else

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ready-or-not · September 2014

equinegirl2010 said:
seriously your being plain mean. I was asking a question you have given your answer. Thanks for the wonderful mommy support that your supposed to get on here seriously i deleted the original post because i was trying to delete the whole thing! wow get a life. go be a mom i mean honestly. I dont have time for people like you in my life. SO good bye.

The "go get a life/parent your child/be a mom" is my favorite part of these post...

CubanPinky · September 2014

hmmm never knew that it was tacky to have a shower for the 2nd or 3rd kid *news to me*.. i had showers for both kids..my son (the 2nd) was our first boy in the family other than my 84 yr old grandfather that just passed. and this time around with my 3rd me, my mom and my mil are throwing one bc this is my bf's first child and the first girl in his family. i know its not a "re-introduction" into motherhood and all..but i personally feel like its good cause for a celebration

plus my 2nd n 3rd showers werent really "showers" more like "get together and meet the family and grub out on some awsome food". ppl brought gifts...but it wasnt a "BRING GIFT OR NO ENTRY" type deal ya know?

CubanPinky · September 2014

Joy2611 said:

CubanPinky said:

hmmm never knew that it was tacky to have a shower for the 2nd or 3rd kid *news to me*.. i had showers for both kids..my son (the 2nd) was our first boy in the family other than my 84 yr old grandfather that just passed. and this time around with my 3rd me, my mom and my mil are throwing one bc this is my bf's first child and the first girl in his family. i know its not a "re-introduction" into motherhood and all..but i personally feel like its good cause for a celebration plus my 2nd n 3rd showers werent really "showers" more like "get together and meet the family and grub out on some awsome food". ppl brought gifts...but it wasnt a "BRING GIFT OR NO ENTRY" type deal ya know?

Yeah, no. Showers are for first babies and a "welcome to motherhood."

If you want to celebrate the baby, then the baby should be present at their own party. Otherwise, it's a party for the mother to gather stuff to take care of the child and is really a party all about the mother.

Asking your friends to buy baby things AGAIN for you is unfair and self-centered. Truly.

well i mean like i said...the 2nd n 3rd really werent "showers" more so just like "congrats" get to gethers...lol didnt know it was a big deal to just celebrate with family just bc lol its cool..to each its own

and to be honest..i dont have to ask my friends to buy my child anything...thats just done out of love ....i did the same for friends who have had multiple kids also and had showers or parties.

Ciardasully · September 2014

Wow. I came late to this party and saw enough.

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CubanPinky · September 2014

@bliss+berry nope..no invites just mainly text and word of mouth. This time around (mainly bc my bf mom is a control freak) she brought invites to send to family out of town and all. I didnt mind. I just looked at it like "hey are you busy saturday....come hang n stuff your face with us" lol i mean a shower is a shower or a gathering is a gathering...my point was just saying like if its the 1st or 10th...if thats what she wanted to do...coolbeans for her. i was just sharing my story...plus i literally didnt know the "standards" or "rules" to having showers for the 2nd or 3rd child. lol i learnt something today lol

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NunyaBennis · September 2014

CubanPinky said:

Joy2611 said:

CubanPinky said:

hmmm never knew that it was tacky to have a shower for the 2nd or 3rd kid *news to me*.. i had showers for both kids..my son (the 2nd) was our first boy in the family other than my 84 yr old grandfather that just passed. and this time around with my 3rd me, my mom and my mil are throwing one bc this is my bf's first child and the first girl in his family. i know its not a "re-introduction" into motherhood and all..but i personally feel like its good cause for a celebration plus my 2nd n 3rd showers werent really "showers" more like "get together and meet the family and grub out on some awsome food". ppl brought gifts...but it wasnt a "BRING GIFT OR NO ENTRY" type deal ya know?

Yeah, no. Showers are for first babies and a "welcome to motherhood."

If you want to celebrate the baby, then the baby should be present at their own party. Otherwise, it's a party for the mother to gather stuff to take care of the child and is really a party all about the mother.

Asking your friends to buy baby things AGAIN for you is unfair and self-centered. Truly.

well i mean like i said...the 2nd n 3rd really werent "showers" more so just like "congrats" get to gethers...lol didnt know it was a big deal to just celebrate with family just bc lol its cool..to each its own

and to be honest..i dont have to ask my friends to buy my child anything...thats just done out of love ....i did the same for friends who have had multiple kids also and had showers or parties.

------long quote quote fail-------

Don't I feel silly... I read that initial post with so much sarcasm dripping from it that I laughed hard enough to finally poo a little!
I should've known she was serious upon mentioning the use of gifts as tickets to enter the big event(s) yet still held hope that was priceless subtle humor. Hmmph.

silverwings72 · September 2014

@NunyaBennis‌ - I had the same exact thought. I totally thought she was being sarcastic... But then no.
Glad you got to poo, though!! <:-P

krysngreg · September 2014

I love gifts. I give great gifts. Women can be so nasty. I had a second shower over seven years after my first. My kids are far apart. My sister and bestie insisted. So we threw a huge BBQ. Oooo no sue me and call me greedy.

LishaT92 · September 2014

I had similar responses on here and that is why I have moved to a different site primarily. I like the idea of a pregnancy community but this one isn't what I thought it'd be. I understand everyone has their own opinion but if someone asks a question and you disagree with the content, move on. There is no reason to go out of your way to upset people. I can't seem to find your original question though, if it concerns a shower or "sprinkle" or anything celebrating your pregnancy, I am having a second shower because, although I still have a crib and changing table and things like that I don't have all the smaller items. So I am having a party, not necessarily a shower, to celebrate the baby and it's also a becoming a big sister party for my daughter. Everyone in my family has had a shower for each of their kids and my family and friends see no issue with it. Do what works for you and your family/friends. Here for advice if need be!

krysngreg · September 2014

Nicb13 said:

krysgreg said:

I love gifts. I give great gifts. Woman can be so nasty. I had a second shower over seven years after my first. My kids are far apart. My sister and bestie insisted. So we threw a huge BBQ. Oooo no sue me and call me greedy.

Well looky who we have here......

I see you are super pleasant on other boards as well.

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Just because you guys entertain yourselfs at others expense doesn't make you pleasant. Your only pleasant inside your little circle. So fuck off.

schnitz9 · September 2014

LishaT92 said:

I had similar responses on here and that is why I have moved to a different site primarily. I like the idea of a pregnancy community but this one isn't what I thought it'd be. I understand everyone has their own opinion but if someone asks a question and you disagree with the content, move on. There is no reason to go out of your way to upset people. I can't seem to find your original question though, if it concerns a shower or "sprinkle" or anything celebrating your pregnancy, I am having a second shower because, although I still have a crib and changing table and things like that I don't have all the smaller items. So I am having a party, not necessarily a shower, to celebrate the baby and it's also a becoming a big sister party for my daughter. Everyone in my family has had a shower for each of their kids and my family and friends see no issue with it. Do what works for you and your family/friends. Here for advice if need be!

If you're so disappointed why do you bother coming back to TB? And why are you even bothering to post. Don't get it....

CubanPinky · September 2014

wow this is still going strong i see? lls

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golfingdarwinfish · September 2014

Oh FFS....

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mamatobe1235 · September 2014

You do not need another shower, that's ridiculous. Have a barbeque if you want to get your family together. You should either have things from your other children or you can buy them yourself. My son has a bunch of pink blankets and a pink bouncer because my boyfriend has a daughter and kept that stuff. I don't mind one bit that it's pink. I'm sure your son wouldn't either seeing as how he is(will be) a baby.

crunchymamaof2 · September 2014

Oh @mandjs I thought of you when reading this. Too bad the baby shower board missed this gem.

krysngreg · September 2014

Bliss+Berry said:

krysgreg said:

I love gifts. I give great gifts. Women can be so nasty. I had a second shower over seven years after my first. My kids are far apart. My sister and bestie insisted. So we threw a huge BBQ. Oooo no sue me and call me greedy.

Um, so what? Why is it the burden of your family and friends to provide for your baby that you decided to have?

I'm sure if it was such a burden on them they wouldn't have wanted to have one. Why would buying a few things for any ones kid be a burden. I would show up to a friends fifth baby shower with a smile on my face. And a gift in tow. No biggie, not a burden in my opinion. And I didn't think baby showers were to "provide for my child" I'm fully capable of doing it. It's for fun. People should lighten up.

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