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January 2015 Moms
FFFC
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Re: FFFC
While I don't understand, I respect that this is an incredibly difficult place for you to be in right now.
I will say the only thing you're doing for your baby by staying with him (long term - if this is a "stay with him until baby is 6 months old and then leave" cultural decision, then this point is moot) is showing your child that this type of relationship is okay. I vehemently believe if you wouldn't want your child in a relationship like yours that you should find a different situation because children often emulate their parents in ways we wouldn't expect.
Hopefully you can make things work, and he will work to improve, but as you said - two years isn't overnight, and it doesn't sound like he feels much motivation to change. Brushing your teeth every day isn't a big request by a long shot.
Off birth control March 2012 - Actively trying Sept 2012-April 2014
BFP on May 5th after Follistim & IUI #3
The kids won't care if your marriage is sexually fulfilling or not. But they will pick up on bitterness and resentment, so you need to sort that out ASAP and determine if the issues you are up against are a deal breaker for the marriage or if you can find a solution within it.
BFP 1: 9/19/11 , DS born 5/28/12 @ 41 weeks
BFP #2: EDD 9/3/13~~Slow HB at 1st U/S~~MMC -Loss on 2/13/13
I'm so sorry you're dealing with those feelings. I can understand how it would hurt your feelings but I really hope that the therapist can help and that your honey finds time to make it to couples counseling
Lots of love boo
dx: Unexplained IF
TTC since May 2011, 1 year trying, and then 3 TI, 2 IUI = BFN
IVF #1 (May 2013): Antagonist Protocol:
24R, 18M, 15F w/ICSI; 5dt of 2 early blasts, no frosties = BFN
IVF #2 (August 2013): Lupron Stop Protocol:
28R, 23M, 15F w/ICSI; 5dt of 1 partially hatched blast, 7 frosties = BFP
EDD 5/23/14, blighted ovum (6w6d), D&C (8w6d)
FET #1 (April 2014): transferred 2 5d blasts = BFP
C.J. born 01/09/15
that's what I thought as well
What the hell were you watching? I live phineas and verb. It does actually teach things (like a rabbit is a lagomorph, not a rodent) and just other random things. And also I think it encourages kids to be outside and to use their imagination. My husband likes some other stupid cartoons like Gravity Falls and Fish Hooks. I think they are dumb. But eh, they are better than some of the live action shows. But I'm not really into cartoons in general, I watch mostly cooking shows and when DS is fussy we watch Disney Jr. Netflix used to have Rugrats on there. But I'm not sure if it still does.
I was like "um....I want a c-section due to my risk of placental abruption during labor. The idea of a PA terrifies me."
He acknowledged that a PA was definitely very scary, but that we can't really decide what to do until I'm closer to my due date. He said as long as the baby turns head down, and my fibroids aren't impeding the path to the birth canal, that my risk of a PA is less than the real risks of a c-section, and in that case he would recommend a vaginal delivery with a midwife, unless I strongly prefer an OB. He said in good conscience he couldn't recommend a c-section as long as the above criteria are met.
I was floored. I was led to believe there was no issue with my c-section. I have zero desire to labor and deliver vaginally. ZERO. The risks of a c-sec are mostly risks to me, the risks of a PA are mostly all to the baby, namely going without oxygen. I am ok with risks to me, not ok with risks to her. I am hoping to schedule a visit towards the end with one of the providers who didn't have an issue with a c-section for me. I do not want to deliver vaginally. No no no no no. Flame away.
There is a systemic problem with women's sovereignty over their body not being recognized. You do not deserve to be flamed for making an educated choice for a c-section. You deserve a care provider who believes that you are a human being capable of making her own choices, regardless of HIS risk perception. The common denominator in horror stories of women's birth choices not being respected is care providers with a god complex who believe they know best. #notallcareproviders, but it happens way too often for me to believe that there is not a misogynistic component to it, that people (male and female) see women as less than autonomous, and resent ones who claim right to make their own educated decisions that don't jive with da patriarchal provider's. Hope the one(s) who do respect your wishes are the ones who get to be there supporting u.
How is your HG doing? Can you eat okay?
1) (forgive my brain for not knowing/remembering if you said this before) does fibroids increase the risk of placental abruption?
2) again, sorry if you have updated on this. My kid cried for 2 hours straight today, and then slept on me for two hours. I'm pretty sure my brain lacks oxygen now. But is you PICC line doing well now? Like no major infection or anything? And did you ever follow up with the people in charge of the nurse who effed it up? (This was you right? I can't keep left from right anymore.)
1. Just having fibroids alone doesn't cause placental abruption. However, I have two fibroids underneath my placenta, and they're not small, I think 4x6cm? I might be getting those measurements wrong but they're a decent size. In those two spots, my placenta cannot adhere securely to my uterine wall, and since it's not firmly attached, during the stress of contractions the placenta could partially or totally abrupt. It's my understanding that this is not a likely outcome, but I don't care. It scares the crap out of me to imagine it.
2. My new PICC line is doing just fine, other than having to switch dressings because the one I had on last week gave me itchy, water filled blisters. I reported the prior infection to the nursing agency. They want to get a copy of my blood cultures before agreeing to do anything, and I need to follow up with them on this. Even if the blood culture is clear, I'm determined to make them pay for the additional costs.
Honestly, on my good days (and 5 out of 7 days are good), I really don't feel too bad. The zofran/reglan do a pretty darn good job of controlling my nausea, but I just have no appetite, and if I try to force it I will definitely get sick. So I do what I can. I can eat a light breakfast and maybe a snack, and usually eat a good (as in a full plate) of dinner. On a bad day I might not be able to do more than drink coke and have some cereal.