Facebook Group

JunkieBrewster · September 2014

I will put the link back tomorrow after I add the requirements/rules

eta:

https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1hNN6_52kzBdMMaUvt7V2juT4ZTDO9smqAu40qc7eqf8/viewform?usp=send_form

JunkieBrewster · September 2014

ashtonkitty1 said:

This has the potential for ”you can't sit with us.”

Not at all. Its already been discussed that there will be no "We dont like this person, so no"

The requirements for joining are nothing more than "Is this a person who is active in our group, or are they trying to creep?", the end.

No one would join if we simply let anyone who requested to join, actually join.

perfectlove09 · September 2014

NandaB said:

NandaB said:

Right, but the problem is those crazies then have your full name, your SOs name and where you live. Don't you people remember that just a few months ago you were all "ZOMG I can't believe how many views the hdbd post has! I'm gonna change my sn and delete all my pics!!1!!!"

I'm in quite a number of private FB groups, and only "friends" with certain people. Just because you're part of the group doesn't mean everyone sees your business. You don't have to friend everyone, and if your FB is on lock down there's little others can see anyway.

I'm not very paranoid or overly protective. I have a shit-ton of people on my FB that I know exclusively from various forums, and many of them I've known for a number of years.

And if trolls find their way into the group, kick 'em out. Simple as pie.

ETA: To the bold, do people really freak out about that stuff? I mean, really!?
Yes. Yes they do. You must have missed it, but it happened. And was dramatic and full of "ZOMGs this is not a safe place!!!11!"

I missed this post too. Did anyone mention that each and every time 1 single person opens the same thread it shows another count. So if 45 people post a bump pic, and I click on the post 45 times,...it's going to show the ticker of "views' another 45 times. If there are 45 woman doing that 45 times...well now that's math I can't even do. ( ;-) anyone know what that line is from????)

MeganK81410 · September 2014

ZAP12 said:

vintagejjane said:
@amw0914 I knew those that are semi active on here that are on our FB group because we've talked about it, but I don't remember bump SN's because we don't use them on FB. I just know them by their regular names.
This. I've also changed my bump name and siggy since then, so people from my original BMB wouldn't know me by that.

Yep! Different sn and signature here, too. I also wasn't very active on the May 2012 bump board so screen names wouldn't jump out at me even if they were the same.

hellopartyof5 · September 2014

so wait, did we decide that the email address has to be connected to facebook? Or can it be another one. The only email address I have associated with facebook is my college one which I can no longer access of course.

I'm also nervous that I was more active with my last username I think gah!

JaymeeLH · September 2014

nauticallife said:
so wait, did we decide that the email address has to be connected to facebook? Or can it be another one. The only email address I have associated with facebook is my college one which I can no longer access of course.

I'm also nervous that I was more active with my last username I think gah!

I believe that as long as you sign into Facebook when you click the link regardless of what email it is you should be able to accept the invite to join

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JaymeeLH · September 2014

Slaps said:
I am in awe of how the mention of let's make a fb group can bring so many lurkers out of the woodwork, and inspire them to make threads and comment on stuff.
I think there will be some BSC going on soon!

It's certainly going to be fun to watch

Smoby1231 · September 2014

I don't think I post enough to qualify. The time difference makes it hard (I'm in the UK). Everything I would say has usually already been said by the time I get to a post. I really hope there are still people around here! :-S

JaymeeLH · September 2014

pooky08 said:

Does anyone know for sure if people can see the closed groups that you belong to? We still have zero "I'm having a baby" info up on fb, and I'd like to keep it that way for as long as possible (which will likely be another 6 weeks until my shower). I don't need people finding out I'm pregnant because of a group I joined or posted in. I'm only a member of one closed group atm, and I know people outside can't see the posts, but I don't know if outsiders can see that I'm a member of the group, either.

The group is set to secret so absolutely nothing will show up on your page regarding joining/posting

MaineMama · September 2014

Slaps said:

I am in awe of how the mention of let's make a fb group can bring so many lurkers out of the woodwork, and inspire them to make threads and comment on stuff. I think there will be some BSC going on soon!

This is my prayer. I need more entertainment in my life.

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kimba1976 · September 2014

A little late to the party, but I might be interested in joining. I have no intention of leaving TB though. I'll wait to see what the final "rules" and membership criteria are for the Facebook page before I decide.

kalynn12 · September 2014

katehgee said:
I hope our BMB doesn't dwindle away if everyone goes to FB instead

Agreed, I am not sure if I am ready to join a FB page.

mlee116 · September 2014

NandaB said:

Right, but the problem is those crazies then have your full name, your SOs name and where you live. Don't you people remember that just a few months ago you were all "ZOMG I can't believe how many views the hdbd post has! I'm gonna change my sn and delete all my pics!!1!!!"

Yep, this is where I'm at. I like this board a lot, but I just don't feel that comfortable letting everyone know my real name, my H's name and God knows what else. Plus, sometimes my child is in my profile pic and that's just too close for comfort.

Sweetsix06 · September 2014

Wow, this thread took off fast! I'm on the fence with this one. I'm too lazy to make a fake Facebook account, so if I join, I would use my real one. Can we join later? Like, maybe I'll join in December after my baby comes. Or do we need to join now? I don't want to be denied because the group has reached their limit...

Southernpeach80 · September 2014

JunkieBrewster said:

I will put the link back tomorrow after I add the requirements/rules

eta:

https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1hNN6_52kzBdMMaUvt7V2juT4ZTDO9smqAu40qc7eqf8/viewform?usp=send_form

So do we need to resubmit now that you added the requirements or are we still good?

JaymeeLH · September 2014

Southernpeach80 said:

JunkieBrewster said:

I will put the link back tomorrow after I add the requirements/rules

eta:

https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1hNN6_52kzBdMMaUvt7V2juT4ZTDO9smqAu40qc7eqf8/viewform?usp=send_form

So do we need to resubmit now that you added the requirements or are we still good?

your request went through, we're finishing up working out some kinks so hopefully by this afternoon we'll be up and running!

JaymeeLH · September 2014

Group Entry Requirements

Each of the following components are required in order for a member to be added to this group:

1) Active member on TB for a minimum of 2 months

2) Recognized by at least 3/5 admins

3) Spamming posts on TB will not get you recognized

**Please note: This group will have a soft cap of 100 members or will close on November 1st, whichever comes first.

the above list is what we have agreed on as the 5 admins for requirements to be considered/added to the group. It is our agreement that if you have been a regular poster (read NOT LURKER) for the last 2+ months you will easily meet the other requirements of being recognizable, and will also not feel compelled to suddenly start posting everywhere to appear as a regular poster. It's also important to note that we are looking at each person individually to ensure that their posts have been meaningful contributions and not just "T&P's" and "congrats"

We have agreed on a soft cap/closing date to prevent things such as "we had 500 members but were down to 200 in just 4 days!" well that's 4 days that 300 people had access to your full name or whatever it is that you have on your facebooks public setting, which I think most can agree is disconcerting.

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JaymeeLH · September 2014

Slaps said:

@JaymeeLH‌ there is a new lurker same first name as your screen name, I had to double check it wasn't you!

she's been here and there the last couple of weeks, and every time she posts its something unintelligent and I want to quote them and be like "hey guys that is NOT me!!"

Kmm1023 · September 2014

Cadg0986 said:
The only thing I am nervous about is the fact that I haven't posted a ton but I've "loved" a lot of posts. Many of the things I've wanted to post I have searched and found that they were already posted, therefore leading me to not posting. Also, I only comment off and on when I feel what I have to say is actually important or could be helpful in some way. But this board has been a great support for me as a FTM.

This! I do a lot of loves and read daily but if what I wanted to say has been said I don't feel the need to repeat!

bowlwoman · September 2014

I'm in the wait awhile camp on this one. I friended several people from DD1's monthly group on a different board I'm on, but it was like 5-6 women and we did it around a year after our babies were born. We're all posting on each other's walls about how weird it is that we have kids turning 8, and it's nice to keep in touch.

That being said, it was literally 5-6 people I had been posting with for almost two years. That's a huge difference, IMO.

With DD2's group, I didn't really keep in touch afterwards. Two kids plus PPD made it difficult. And, let's be honest, it's a bit different when it's your first kid because you bond with the moms also going through baby boot camp at the same time. I know for me that once I had my second, I didn't need the same level of online interaction about my kids. I was navigating real life that sucked hot, sweaty, donkey balls.

If you decide to open up the group after the kiddos are born, then I'll think about it. Right now it's too soon for me, especially since this is my THIRD kiddo. I probably won't know what FB is in 6 months.

MaineMama · September 2014

katehgee said:

Slaps said:

@JaymeeLH‌ there is a new lurker same first name as your screen name, I had to double check it wasn't you!

she's been here and there the last couple of weeks, and every time she posts its something unintelligent and I want to quote them and be like "hey guys that is NOT me!!"
Apparently she thinks Brogan is an awesome name.

Lol, when I read her replies to things all I can think is "eleventy!" from the overuse of !!!

soulcupcake · September 2014

JaymeeLH said:

Group Entry Requirements
Each of the following components are required in order for a member to be added to this group:
1) Active member on TB for a minimum of 2 months
2) Recognized by at least 3/5 admins
3) Spamming posts on TB will not get you recognized
**Please note: This group will have a soft cap of 100 members or will close on November 1st, whichever comes first.

the above list is what we have agreed on as the 5 admins for requirements to be considered/added to the group. It is our agreement that if you have been a regular poster (read NOT LURKER) for the last 2+ months you will easily meet the other requirements of being recognizable, and will also not feel compelled to suddenly start posting everywhere to appear as a regular poster. It's also important to note that we are looking at each person individually to ensure that their posts have been meaningful contributions and not just "T&P's" and "congrats"

We have agreed on a soft cap/closing date to prevent things such as "we had 500 members but were down to 200 in just 4 days!" well that's 4 days that 300 people had access to your full name or whatever it is that you have on your facebooks public setting, which I think most can agree is disconcerting.

Hmm. I didn't begin posting here until about six weeks ago.

Cadg0986 · September 2014

Well hey, at least I know I've done these, well, I mean aside from not knowing if 3/5 admins will recognize me or not. Surprisingly though, after posting last night saying that I didn't think I had posted very often, I looked at my name and found out that over the past 5 months that I've been a part of TB I've actually posted and commented much more than I realized haha (I didn't even realize I could look back and see what I've written all in one place since I'm typically on mobile).

JaymeeLH said:

Group Entry Requirements
Each of the following components are required in order for a member to be added to this group:
1) Active member on TB for a minimum of 2 months
2) Recognized by at least 3/5 admins
3) Spamming posts on TB will not get you recognized
**Please note: This group will have a soft cap of 100 members or will close on November 1st, whichever comes first.

the above list is what we have agreed on as the 5 admins for requirements to be considered/added to the group. It is our agreement that if you have been a regular poster (read NOT LURKER) for the last 2+ months you will easily meet the other requirements of being recognizable, and will also not feel compelled to suddenly start posting everywhere to appear as a regular poster. It's also important to note that we are looking at each person individually to ensure that their posts have been meaningful contributions and not just "T&P's" and "congrats"

We have agreed on a soft cap/closing date to prevent things such as "we had 500 members but were down to 200 in just 4 days!" well that's 4 days that 300 people had access to your full name or whatever it is that you have on your facebooks public setting, which I think most can agree is disconcerting.

JRod13 · September 2014

I like you all, but the fb thing creeps me out. Maybe later.

irishtriplets · September 2014

I'm so late to this, sorry about that. When I leave work, I almost never check TB because it's just too time consuming on mobile. I have been in FB private groups with my two previous children and have made some legitimate, really wonderful friends. So I would definitely be up for joining if I'm invited. I never did an intro post, I don't think. Man that seems like decades ago. How am I already 27 weeks pregnant??

Am I the only person who would honestly like to put a name to a face?

leoandethansmom · September 2014

@perfectlove09‌ rat babies! That's math I can't even do! One of my favorite friends episodes

MeganK81410 · September 2014

amw0914 said:

@amw0914 I knew those that are semi active on here that are on our FB group because we've talked about it, but I don't remember bump SN's because we don't use them on FB. I just know them by their regular names.
This. I've also changed my bump name and siggy since then, so people from my original BMB wouldn't know me by that.
Yep! Different sn and signature here, too. I also wasn't very active on the May 2012 bump board so screen names wouldn't jump out at me even if they were the same.
So you knew there were other moms due in December just not on this bmb... You two are making me nervous about the fb.

Eh, we just don't talk about The Bump or screen names over there. Facebook land is where we know each other by first names, and where we've known each other by first names for almost three years. I couldn't tell you what @ZAP12 's original screen name was if my life depended on it. The Bump just isn't really a facet in the friendships that we've built Facebook. As for me, this account and screen name were made specifically for this pregnancy, so any May12 moms who are also D14 moms may remember me as @MeganK814, which is the screen name I posted under on the May12 bmb. For sentimental reasons, I couldn't change DS's information on that account to reflect the new information for this pregnancy, so I started from scratch.

I absolutely understand that Facebook isn't for everyone! I can say from personal experience, I built and continue to maintain strong friendships with the women in our May 2012 Facebook group, and I know those friendships would not be so strong if we had only ever interacted through the anonymity that this board provides.

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norweigan · September 2014

Wow really late to this post, but I would like to join as well.

AnonnAni · September 2014

I think the amount of new screen names just in the post alone say A LOT about what may potentially happen with a FB group.

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MaineMama · September 2014

Sorry @Slaps, @anna930 is MY bff- or at least she will be when she finds out I have a Gelato Fiasco card with bottomless credit (for reals)

irishtriplets · September 2014

Only throwing this out there...

I have made genuine friends from my December 2011 board. Ha, I went to the wedding of one of them last year. They all got together and bought me an Origami Owl necklace when my dad died in January. I met another one at the aquarium in New Orleans when I was visiting. All of that to say that genuine friendships can be gleaned from any of these groups, you just never know. I had a place to go when my dad was VERY sick last year and I knew someone would be online that I could talk to, any hour, any time. I guess for me, Facebook is more comfortable and casual than these boards. If that makes any sense?

Again, I'm not trying to sway someone one way or the other. Just wanted to point out that they're not necessarily a bad thing. You find out pretty damn quickly who "those" posters are and can either leave or kick them out.

MaineMama · September 2014

Anna930 said:

@MaineMama... whaaaaaaaaaaaa?! I just want to be part of the Red Spoon Society. If you are like a creepy old dude luring me into your window-less van with candy... I AM GETTING IN THAT VAN AND RIDING OFF INTO THE SUNSET WITH YOU!!! And with hubby away tonight I am going to Gelato Fiasco - there's one within a few minutes of my house (but I'll wait until the FB group to give directions )

Yep

And when I was pregnant with my second all I wanted to eat was Strawberries and Cantaloupe and I suggested the sorbet. I actually had some mailed to me on dry ice.

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