A couple of things that have popped out after reading through all of this: 1. I think that a cap would definitely be good to have. If everyone wants to join the group, it defeats the purpose. 2. I want to reiterate that only those who are active should be included. It makes me very nervous to see all of these people coming out saying 'I lurk all the time, so I'm in'. If they really are in, then I'm out. Too much risk.
A couple of things that have popped out after reading through all of this: 1. I think that a cap would definitely be good to have. If everyone wants to join the group, it defeats the purpose. 2. I want to reiterate that only those who are active should be included. It makes me very nervous to see all of these people coming out saying 'I lurk all the time, so I'm in'. If they really are in, then I'm out. Too much risk.
Lurker does not equal regular, believe me there's been a number of posters on this thread already that have raised some eyebrows
I would be interested since I've been involved with this group from the beginning. However, I can only mobile bump and don't post a ton, so I'm not sure if anyone actually recognizes me
This goes for me as well. I would join. Mobile Facebook is much easier than mobile bump.
This has the potential for ”you can't sit with us.”
Agreed, but if the admins come up with some specific criteria, then either you meet the requirements or you don't, there shouldn't hopefully be too many issues.
This has the potential for ”you can't sit with us.”
That's why an established set of guidelines will help determine who will get invited.
I see quite a few coming out that claim to lurk frequently and rarely post. If you post enough to be recognizable, that is one thing. If you mostly lurk and don't post, chances are we won't recognize you and won't invite you to the group.
BFP #1 5/12/12; EDD 1/20/13; Eliana Grace born 1/25/13
I never did an intro. PS I'm BSC. Can I still join?
bish, we all know your BSC. Hahahhaa
Also- am I the only one who doesn't hate mobile bumping? I only mobile bump. Hence my 700 year old siggy. Are there different apps for different phones or something? Bc my search function works just fine and I post quite easily- Obviously since the one Brittany cupcake said 10-20 posts in a month and I'm almost certain I've exceeded that in an hour.
You're not alone! I *think* I might have logged in on a computer once, when I first started. I don't even know if I have a siggy. I get along just fine.
I never did an intro. PS I'm BSC. Can I still join?
bish, we all know your BSC. Hahahhaa
Also- am I the only one who doesn't hate mobile bumping? I only mobile bump. Hence my 700 year old siggy. Are there different apps for different phones or something? Bc my search function works just fine and I post quite easily- Obviously since the one Brittany cupcake said 10-20 posts in a month and I'm almost certain I've exceeded that in an hour.
Woman don't judge me because I work with crazy people and let my son wear pajamas.
D14 November Siggy Challenge: The feels of 3rd trimester...
I never did an intro. PS I'm BSC. Can I still join?
bish, we all know your BSC. Hahahhaa
Also- am I the only one who doesn't hate mobile bumping? I only mobile bump. Hence my 700 year old siggy. Are there different apps for different phones or something? Bc my search function works just fine and I post quite easily- Obviously since the one Brittany cupcake said 10-20 posts in a month and I'm almost certain I've exceeded that in an hour.
Woman don't judge me because I work with crazy people and let my son wear pajamas.
Unfortunately, once the fb group is up and running, it's bound to lose some people here or at least the frequency of some mamas. But as you can see, there are still quite a few that aren't comfortable joining. The same thing happened with my last bmb and it's still up and running pretty well today.
BFP #1 5/12/12; EDD 1/20/13; Eliana Grace born 1/25/13
I was wondering when a FB group would start, only because it's so much more convenient. Instead of putting a cap on it, I would just add those who want to be in it and weed out the people who don't post after a couple months. That's what we did on DD's BMB and now we are about 200 out of 500 that started.
I hope our BMB doesn't dwindle away if everyone goes to FB instead
Me too! I hate being left out of things. Damn my parinoia!
I'm the exact same way. I don't feel comfortable with the while fb thing.
On my last BMB there was a mass exodus when pretty much all the regulars moved over to FB. But the BMB actually stayed fairly busy for quite a while.
It's going to make me sad if all the regulars leave. They're who keep me coming back!
That's why you need to join @gradschoolmom1234. While I think some regular posters may post more in the fb group, there are still some that don't want to join.. and they will be here.
BFP #1 5/12/12; EDD 1/20/13; Eliana Grace born 1/25/13
I never did an intro. PS I'm BSC. Can I still join?
bish, we all know your BSC. Hahahhaa
Also- am I the only one who doesn't hate mobile bumping? I only mobile bump. Hence my 700 year old siggy. Are there different apps for different phones or something? Bc my search function works just fine and I post quite easily- Obviously since the one Brittany cupcake said 10-20 posts in a month and I'm almost certain I've exceeded that in an hour.
Woman don't judge me because I work with crazy people and let my son wear pajamas.
I don't blame you for it. You are a product of your poop smear, bad trip, lunch stealing enviroment.
Listen here. Judge all you want but at least my life provides comic relief. I was actually really sad when nothing crazy happened today. No police, no poop, nothing. Just a normal day. (I really hope you know me enough by now to know that is dripping with sarcasm from the first line)
D14 November Siggy Challenge: The feels of 3rd trimester...
Yep I'm here off and on @vintagejjane !! I do have to say, even though our May Moms group has 200 or so women in it, I feel like we have a pretty tight-knit little community! It's so strange to think we were getting MM started almost THREE years ago lol we had our share of crazies but they weeded themselves out after awhile. The crazy can't hide forever lol
Yep I'm here off and on @vintagejjane !! I do have to say, even though our May Moms group has 200 or so women in it, I feel like we have a pretty tight-knit little community! It's so strange to think we were getting MM started almost THREE years ago lol we had our share of crazies but they weeded themselves out after awhile. The crazy can't hide forever lol
This has the potential for ”you can't sit with us.”
That's why an established set of guidelines will help determine who will get invited.
I see quite a few coming out that claim to lurk frequently and rarely post. If you post enough to be recognizable, that is one thing. If you mostly lurk and don't post, chances are we won't recognize you and won't invite you to the group.
edit: quote box fail!
I feel like a bunch of people said this or quoted my response because I said it first. Sorry to help bring people out of the woodwork! I just wanted to say that if you're concerned about people not recognizing you then you probably shouldn't ask to join the fb group!
As I said, I would like to join a fb group because it would be smaller (it's hard to keep track if everyone especially since I'm mobile and can't see siggies). However, since I don't consider myself a super active member, I'm sure others don't either!
I love my May12 Facebook group and yes we started with a ton of people, but now I'm comfortable with the 200ish we have. I recognize everyone in the group. I will say that even with all the guidelines you are suggesting, the crazies will get through. Some of our biggest weirdos were our top posters. It always comes out in the end though.
Baby Z: 5/21/12
**December 2014 September Siggy Challenge - Favorite Thing About Fall - Fall Leaves and Apple Cider**
We are working out the kinks -- requirements to join, etiquette rules, etc. right now. Once these have been decided, they will be shared on a new thread. We will hopefully have this done within the next day or so.
In the meantime, refer to @JunkieBrewster's link to request an invitation.
ETA: We are considering all the suggestions that were made here for requirements, rules, etc. as well. We want the lists to be fair and reasonable.
BFP #1 5/12/12; EDD 1/20/13; Eliana Grace born 1/25/13
I love my May12 Facebook group and yes we started with a ton of people, but now I'm comfortable with the 200ish we have. I recognize everyone in the group. I will say that even with all the guidelines you are suggesting, the crazies will get through. Some of our biggest weirdos were our top posters. It always comes out in the end though.
So sad, I don't want D14 to die. But I'm not that interested in joining FB right now. I agree if it is started later, like November, I would be more open to it. I did start my own FB group though. It's in this van.
@amw0914 I knew those that are semi active on here that are on our FB group because we've talked about it, but I don't remember bump SN's because we don't use them on FB. I just know them by their regular names.
Right, but the problem is those crazies then have your full name, your SOs name and where you live.
Don't you people remember that just a few months ago you were all "ZOMG I can't believe how many views the hdbd post has! I'm gonna change my sn and delete all my pics!!1!!!"
I'm in quite a number of private FB groups, and only "friends" with certain people. Just because you're part of the group doesn't mean everyone sees your business. You don't have to friend everyone, and if your FB is on lock down there's little others can see anyway.
I'm not very paranoid or overly protective. I have a shit-ton of people on my FB that I know exclusively from various forums, and many of them I've known for a number of years.
And if trolls find their way into the group, kick 'em out. Simple as pie.
ETA: To the bold, do people really freak out about that stuff? I mean, really!?
G 12.04 | E 11.06 | D 11.08 | H 12.09 | R 11.14 | Expecting #6 2.16.18.
@amw0914 I knew those that are semi active on here that are on our FB group because we've talked about it, but I don't remember bump SN's because we don't use them on FB. I just know them by their regular names.
This. I've also changed my bump name and siggy since then, so people from my original BMB wouldn't know me by that.
Baby Z: 5/21/12
**December 2014 September Siggy Challenge - Favorite Thing About Fall - Fall Leaves and Apple Cider**
I just want to say I will be doing both... there are too many "I have no interest in joining the FB group" gals that I want to keep in touch with! Plus, the snark and bitchiness here is just too hard to say goodbye to!
I never truly knew snark until I joined TB. It's a small addiction now.
November Siggy Challenge: How I feel in the Third Trimester
I still feel like there is a couple crazies waiting to come out and be crazy. Its like a ticking time bomb, and I don't want them knowing my full name. Ever.
So I guess my post earlier today about the birthday sticky doesn't sound so creepy any more huh? ;-)
I'm on the fence. I'd be willing to make a second FB account or even changing my current FB to a slightly different name.
I want to comment on a few things. I think that people who are saying "we started with 500 and within 4 days it was down to 200" Um...why did those 300 other people even need to be on there in the first place. That's 300 random, possibly really creepy creepers that now were granted to some personal information of yours, just to bounce out in 4 days. No thank you.
For lurkers that are now saying "I lurk but don't post unless my comment is helpful" That's the point. A FB page gets rid of all the "lurkers" and only has people that are actually going to contribute to a conversation. Helpful or not. A FB page would be stupid with just tons of people lurking and not commenting...that would bring us back to TB.
I think a cut off date is ok...but I think it should be elaborated on. I personally feel that it should be opened for joining here soon (whenever you get it set up), then shut down for requests for the next 2 months. There are a lot of ladies on here that have already said they would feel more comfortable later on, after a little more time GTKY, rather than this "one time open door" option. This would also give a little time for new people that might join, make a really great impression, have lots of people like them and then be denied the FB just because they weren't on the board 4 months before they had their baby. Just a thought. And it will give time to those that aren't 100% sure they want to do it a little more time to get comfortable with the idea rather than having to make a quick, knee jerk choice that they may regret later on down the road. Of course they would be subject to the same criteria we all had from the beginning. Unless it was even more strict which would be fine.
DD#1 December '12
DD#2 New Year's Baby '15
Married 07/09
I just caught up on this thread - I was away most of the day. I'm up for joining a FB group now, and I would still continue to post here on TB as well.
Me: 34 - PCOS | DH: 30 - everything looks good!
TTC #1 since 10/13
March 2014 - 1st medicated cycle - 5mg Femara CD 3-7 = BFP! EDD 12/26/14
Re: Facebook Group
BFP #1 5/12/12; EDD 1/20/13; Eliana Grace born 1/25/13
BFP #2 12/11/13; EDD 8/23/14; M/C 6 weeks
BFP #3 4/3/14; EDD 12/13/14
Damn. I'm gonna have to try harder.
D14 November Siggy Challenge: The feels of 3rd trimester...
That's why an established set of guidelines will help determine who will get invited.
I see quite a few coming out that claim to lurk frequently and rarely post. If you post enough to be recognizable, that is one thing. If you mostly lurk and don't post, chances are we won't recognize you and won't invite you to the group.
BFP #1 5/12/12; EDD 1/20/13; Eliana Grace born 1/25/13
BFP #2 12/11/13; EDD 8/23/14; M/C 6 weeks
BFP #3 4/3/14; EDD 12/13/14
On my last BMB there was a mass exodus when pretty much all the regulars moved over to FB. But the BMB actually stayed fairly busy for quite a while.
D14 November Siggy Challenge: The feels of 3rd trimester...
BFP #1 5/12/12; EDD 1/20/13; Eliana Grace born 1/25/13
BFP #2 12/11/13; EDD 8/23/14; M/C 6 weeks
BFP #3 4/3/14; EDD 12/13/14
BFP #1 5/12/12; EDD 1/20/13; Eliana Grace born 1/25/13
BFP #2 12/11/13; EDD 8/23/14; M/C 6 weeks
BFP #3 4/3/14; EDD 12/13/14
D14 November Siggy Challenge: The feels of 3rd trimester...
That's why an established set of guidelines will help determine who will get invited.
I see quite a few coming out that claim to lurk frequently and rarely post. If you post enough to be recognizable, that is one thing. If you mostly lurk and don't post, chances are we won't recognize you and won't invite you to the group.
edit: quote box fail!I feel like a bunch of people said this or quoted my response because I said it first. Sorry to help bring people out of the woodwork! I just wanted to say that if you're concerned about people not recognizing you then you probably shouldn't ask to join the fb group!
As I said, I would like to join a fb group because it would be smaller (it's hard to keep track if everyone especially since I'm mobile and can't see siggies). However, since I don't consider myself a super active member, I'm sure others don't either!
**December 2014 September Siggy Challenge - Favorite Thing About Fall - Fall Leaves and Apple Cider**
We are working out the kinks -- requirements to join, etiquette rules, etc. right now. Once these have been decided, they will be shared on a new thread. We will hopefully have this done within the next day or so.
In the meantime, refer to @JunkieBrewster's link to request an invitation.
ETA: We are considering all the suggestions that were made here for requirements, rules, etc. as well. We want the lists to be fair and reasonable.
BFP #1 5/12/12; EDD 1/20/13; Eliana Grace born 1/25/13
BFP #2 12/11/13; EDD 8/23/14; M/C 6 weeks
BFP #3 4/3/14; EDD 12/13/14
**December 2014 September Siggy Challenge - Favorite Thing About Fall - Fall Leaves and Apple Cider**
It's a small addiction now.
Baby 2: EDD: 8/06/14 CP: 11/13
I'm on the fence. I'd be willing to make a second FB account or even changing my current FB to a slightly different name.
I want to comment on a few things. I think that people who are saying "we started with 500 and within 4 days it was down to 200" Um...why did those 300 other people even need to be on there in the first place. That's 300 random, possibly really creepy creepers that now were granted to some personal information of yours, just to bounce out in 4 days. No thank you.
For lurkers that are now saying "I lurk but don't post unless my comment is helpful" That's the point. A FB page gets rid of all the "lurkers" and only has people that are actually going to contribute to a conversation. Helpful or not. A FB page would be stupid with just tons of people lurking and not commenting...that would bring us back to TB.
I think a cut off date is ok...but I think it should be elaborated on. I personally feel that it should be opened for joining here soon (whenever you get it set up), then shut down for requests for the next 2 months. There are a lot of ladies on here that have already said they would feel more comfortable later on, after a little more time GTKY, rather than this "one time open door" option. This would also give a little time for new people that might join, make a really great impression, have lots of people like them and then be denied the FB just because they weren't on the board 4 months before they had their baby. Just a thought. And it will give time to those that aren't 100% sure they want to do it a little more time to get comfortable with the idea rather than having to make a quick, knee jerk choice that they may regret later on down the road.
Of course they would be subject to the same criteria we all had from the beginning. Unless it was even more strict which would be fine.
DD#1 December '12
DD#2 New Year's Baby '15
Married 07/09
Never mind...
DD#1 December '12
DD#2 New Year's Baby '15
Married 07/09