POLL! Your baby's penis....

Stargirlb · September 2014

So fun, a poll! Vote if you are preg with a boy or based on what you would do if you were preg with a boy

Maebb · September 2014

Cut and cut. I suggested to DH not cicumcizing this one as a medical and social experiment so we could compare him to DS, but DH didn't like that idea.

Stargirlb · September 2014

Maebb said:
Cut and cut. I suggested to DH not cicumcizing this one as a medical and social experiment so we could compare him to DS, but DH didn't like that idea.

Is your Dh the family wisdom stone? Who cares what he thinks! Do what you want!

Maebb · September 2014

Lol, @Stargirlb‌. We are both the family wisdom stone, but he has a stronger opinion about this than I do. He and DS have not had any problems with circumcision, and I'm not strongly opposed to having it done on DS2. I realize that some people do have strong opinions about it; I just don't.

SheHulk723 · September 2014

We're having a girl, but if we ever have a boy we're definitely keeping it intact. I personally think intact is natural and wouldn't feel right cutting off a part of my son's body. But to each their own.

moonfaerie · September 2014

IMO voting for what you think you would do if you were pg with a boy is completely different than voting if you are actually pg with a boy. It's a game changer when it becomes something that you're actually facing vs a hypothetical.

Stargirlb · September 2014

moonfaerie said:
IMO voting for what you think you would do if you were pg with a boy is completely different than voting if you are actually pg with a boy. It's a game changer when it becomes something that you're actually facing vs a hypothetical.

True, when you see the perfect little penis protectively sheathed in the adorbs foreskin I cannot imagine you would feel the urge to slice it off still! :O

moonfaerie · September 2014

I admit to not having seen a baby penis in a long, long time, but I can't imagine looking at a penis and thinking it's adorbs in any form. :P

thumper7912 · September 2014

We won't be circumcising! We have a girl now and I am pregnant with a boy.

kellyfo14 · September 2014

We have a boy who we had cut. Left it up to DH but he decided what I would have. In all honesty though, one of the reasons I am glad we are having a girl is that I don't have to feel bad about the pain it causes and managing the healing.

UberBiz · September 2014

Stargirlb said:

IMO voting for what you think you would do if you were pg with a boy is completely different than voting if you are actually pg with a boy. It's a game changer when it becomes something that you're actually facing vs a hypothetical.
True, when you see the perfect little penis protectively sheathed in the adorbs foreskin I cannot imagine you would feel the urge to slice it off still! :O

When we had our son, they showed FI where they did the procedure and explained the process, and after that, he was like, NOPE, they're not cutting anything off our son! So, no snip snip for him. Having a girl this time, but we wouldn't cut any subsequent boys either if we were having more kids.

YaMrWhite · September 2014

I chose undecided (having a girl). If we were to have a boy I would prefer not to cut but would want to discuss it with my husband since it is his child too.

Jellybean707 · September 2014

We have an intact 2yo boy and will leave any future boys intact as well. Although this am we found out we are having a girl this pregnancy.

YaMrWhite · September 2014

ICarriedAWatermelon said:

I already have a boy. Can I not vote? (This ones a girl.)

You can I think. It says "or based on what you would do if you were preg with a boy"

Edvent · September 2014

I had a girl last time and was glad I didn't have to worry about this. This time around we are having a boy and I feel strongly that we will not. DH is not and I just don't see the medical necessity. We spoke to DD's pediatrician and he said there's no compelling medical reason to, so we wont.

I know it's different, but I felt similar about when my MIL wanted to pierce DD's ears after she was born. I just didn't feel comfortable making a permanent change to her body without her consent. Same feeling applies to little one's penis.

southernyankeegirl · September 2014

saiven said:
This is a fun can of worms poll.

I completely agree… I feel like we are being baited, especially based on who started the poll ;-)

I guess I'll stick my neck out… We will be circumcising our son. We have done a good deal of research, as well as spoken to a number of pediatricians, internal medicine doctors, and other medically knowledgeable friends, as well as mothers of small boys who we know who have made both decisions, and adult men (yes, we openly asked our male friends how they felt about their circumcised or uncircumcised penis… I have zero shame nor apparently boundaries). This includes one friend who chose to have the surgery himself in his 20s.

Altogether, circumcision is the right decision for us.

thompnia · September 2014

This baby is a girl, so we don't have to worry here. Our son is circumcised.

Lola918 · September 2014

Our son will not be circumcised.

I'm lucky that DH and I are in full agreement on this. I believe that while both parents have a voice in this, our husbands have actually lived with one or the other and therefore should probably have more weight on the decision. They know what it feels like, they have seen the reactions of their sexual partners or even locker room buddies to whether or not they were circumcised, and their experiences will probably color their opinions. I think it's an important perspective to keep in mind.

LaBellaVida · September 2014

::Eye roll::

This whole poll is ridiculous. Why does it matter to anyone what I do, or don't do with my son's penis?

YaMrWhite · September 2014

Lola918 said:

Our son will not be circumcised. I'm lucky that DH and I are in full agreement on this. I believe that while both parents have a voice in this, our husbands have actually lived with one or the other and therefore should probably have more weight on the decision. They know what it feels like, they have seen the reactions of their sexual partners or even locker room buddies to whether or not they were circumcised, and their experiences will probably color their opinions. I think it's an important perspective to keep in mind.

I cringe when I see someone say something like "who cares what your husband thinks" or "its your kid, do what YOU want." Pretty sure it's his kid too and therefore he should have a say in the matter. Just because I am carrying the child before birth doesn't mean my husband has no rights as to what we do with him/her.

motherboy · September 2014

Side bet: who wants the over/under on how many posts it will take until someone cries genital mutilation?

southernyankeegirl · September 2014

motherboy said:
Side bet: who wants the over/under on how many posts it will take until someone cries genital mutilation?

I would've lost that bet already. I thought the post was coming awhile ago.

I am sure someone is just crafting the great American novel of a lecture for us on why we're all horrible mothers ;-)

larahouseman · September 2014

We're Jewish and pretty religious so there was always the assumption that we would circumcise. I did my research anyway because, tradition be damned, if I found a compelling reason not to then I certainly wouldn't. That being said, the research seems pretty inconclusive with pros and cons on both sides, so tradition wins out.

Being totally honest (and zipping up my flame suit), if there wasn't a religious aspect to it I probably wouldn't do it, just because, with no compelling reason either way my inclination would be to just not bother.

Interestingly, my husband and I got into an enormous fight, not about whether to circumcise but about whether circumcision is a decision based on sex or gender. I feel strongly that it is about sex. Regardless of your gender, if you have a penis (and are Jewish) it should be circumcised. He feels that if you are a transgender female who has not had bottom surgery, you should not be circumcised. I disagree. (This is obviously just a religious/semantic argument and not really relevant to the poll, but I thought it was interesting.)

luciddreamer106 · September 2014

I feel like there's a not so hidden agenda behind this "fun" poll.

MusicFanatic · September 2014

MF was here.

That's all I'm contributing to this

LadyXaverian · September 2014

You know what is definitely not staying intact? The boston cream donut I am probably going to buy today thanks to the UO thread.

Stargirlb · September 2014

LaBellaVida said:
::Eye roll::

This whole poll is ridiculous. Why does it matter to anyone what I do, or don't do with my son's penis?

Pshhh. You want to lob of some healthy genitilia like it's nobody's business?

BookitBoo · September 2014

Let's have a poll about vaccination next

Stargirlb · September 2014

YaMrWhite said:

Lola918 said:

Our son will not be circumcised.

I'm lucky that DH and I are in full agreement on this. I believe that while both parents have a voice in this, our husbands have actually lived with one or the other and therefore should probably have more weight on the decision. They know what it feels like, they have seen the reactions of their sexual partners or even locker room buddies to whether or not they were circumcised, and their experiences will probably color their opinions. I think it's an important perspective to keep in mind.

I cringe when I see someone say something like "who cares what your husband thinks" or "its your kid, do what YOU want." Pretty sure it's his kid too and therefore he should have a say in the matter. Just because I am carrying the child before birth doesn't mean my husband has no rights as to what we do with him/her.

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Really. So if your hubby wanted to circumcise your daughter, does he have equal say just because he's the other parent? Or is this kinda, ya know, inappropriate?

juls427 · September 2014

My husband was by our sons side the whole time and watched the whole thing. I don't recall my husbands emotions or my sons reaction (which only latest a few minutes from what I'm told) I just wanted you to know your significant other can be present the whole time. I will admit though...I did cry when they left the room to go do it

YaMrWhite · September 2014

Stargirlb said:

Lola918 said:

Our son will not be circumcised. I'm lucky that DH and I are in full agreement on this. I believe that while both parents have a voice in this, our husbands have actually lived with one or the other and therefore should probably have more weight on the decision. They know what it feels like, they have seen the reactions of their sexual partners or even locker room buddies to whether or not they were circumcised, and their experiences will probably color their opinions. I think it's an important perspective to keep in mind.

I cringe when I see someone say something like "who cares what your husband thinks" or "its your kid, do what YOU want." Pretty sure it's his kid too and therefore he should have a say in the matter. Just because I am carrying the child before birth doesn't mean my husband has no rights as to what we do with him/her.
--- Really. So if your hubby wanted to circumcise your daughter, does he have equal say just because he's the other parent? Or is this kinda, ya know, inappropriate?

My husband has a say in anything WE do to ANY of OUR children because we are in this parenting business TOGETHER. We have similar views and values which is one of the many reasons I married him so I trust and value his opinions. He had a hand in creating OUR children, therefore he has a say.

Edit: I can't answer your question because my husband wouldn't want our daughters circumcised.

MusicFanatic · September 2014

LadyXaverian said:

You know what is definitely not staying intact? The boston cream donut I am probably going to buy today thanks to the UO thread.

I just LOL'd out loud, hahah

Stargirlb · September 2014

YaMrWhite said:

Stargirlb said:

YaMrWhite said:

Lola918 said:

Our son will not be circumcised.

I'm lucky that DH and I are in full agreement on this. I believe that while both parents have a voice in this, our husbands have actually lived with one or the other and therefore should probably have more weight on the decision. They know what it feels like, they have seen the reactions of their sexual partners or even locker room buddies to whether or not they were circumcised, and their experiences will probably color their opinions. I think it's an important perspective to keep in mind.

I cringe when I see someone say something like "who cares what your husband thinks" or "its your kid, do what YOU want." Pretty sure it's his kid too and therefore he should have a say in the matter. Just because I am carrying the child before birth doesn't mean my husband has no rights as to what we do with him/her.
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Really. So if your hubby wanted to circumcise your daughter, does he have equal say just because he's the other parent? Or is this kinda, ya know, inappropriate?

My husband has a say in anything WE do to ANY of OUR children because we are in this parenting business TOGETHER. We have similar views and values which is one of the many reasons I married him so I trust and value his opinions. He had a hand in creating OUR children, therefore he has a say.
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Well if your views are the same, it's not really going to be an issue. Both my DH's were pro-circ (because they were circed.) I could give two shits if they wanted to cut off some genitilia out of their own comfortable ignorance, it would happen over my dead body. Both now have intact sons and are anti-circ. if you are the one with the knowledge, (and no, having a dick does not equal knowledge,) stand your ground. I did and do, and an infinitely glad I did. So are they. Their initial guard was just a bad case of pride, defensive penis, and fear. Being my "partner" doesn't mean I have to cater to that shit

WillCMyInk · September 2014

I wasn't going to respond but you know what, fuck it!

Our son will be circumcised. I'll even piss some people off more by saying, I have done absolutely ZERO research on either side of the fence. I spoke with my husband and he said that our son will absolutely be circumcised if he has his way and that's all I needed.

Personally, based on the widely skewed opinions on it, I can't imagine it would be good or bad either way. My husband grew up with a penis, not me. And really, call me superficial or whatever, but I know that I would have been thrown off and very possibly turned off by an uncircumcised penis in my own personal experiences and I'd rather not have my son deal with that.

Snip snip, bitches! I'm like a damn butcher over here

YaMrWhite · September 2014

Stargirlb said:

Stargirlb said:

Lola918 said:

Our son will not be circumcised. I'm lucky that DH and I are in full agreement on this. I believe that while both parents have a voice in this, our husbands have actually lived with one or the other and therefore should probably have more weight on the decision. They know what it feels like, they have seen the reactions of their sexual partners or even locker room buddies to whether or not they were circumcised, and their experiences will probably color their opinions. I think it's an important perspective to keep in mind.

I cringe when I see someone say something like "who cares what your husband thinks" or "its your kid, do what YOU want." Pretty sure it's his kid too and therefore he should have a say in the matter. Just because I am carrying the child before birth doesn't mean my husband has no rights as to what we do with him/her.
--- Really. So if your hubby wanted to circumcise your daughter, does he have equal say just because he's the other parent? Or is this kinda, ya know, inappropriate?

My husband has a say in anything WE do to ANY of OUR children because we are in this parenting business TOGETHER. We have similar views and values which is one of the many reasons I married him so I trust and value his opinions. He had a hand in creating OUR children, therefore he has a say.
-------- Well if your views are the same, it's not really going to be an issue. Both my DH's were pro-circ (because they were circed.) I could give two shits if they wanted to cut off some genitilia out of their own comfortable ignorance, it would happen over my dead body. Both now have intact sons and are anti-circ. if you are the one with the knowledge, (and no, having a dick does not equal knowledge,) stand your ground. I did and do, and an infinitely glad I did. So are they. Their initial guard was just a bad case of pride, defensive penis, and fear. Being my "partner" doesn't mean I have to cater to that shit

Having a vagina doesn't equal knowledge either. Having a brain and knowing how to fill it with the proper information does equal knowledge. And thankfully, I married someone who knows how to use his brain. If we were to disagree on the issue, I would at least listen to his reasons and he would listen to mine, out of respect for each other.

Stargirlb · September 2014

Done zero research and are cutting of some of a baby's genitals! Wow you do deserve a medal.

southernyankeegirl · September 2014

Stargirlb said:
Done zero research and are cutting of some of a baby's genitals! Wow you do deserve a medal.

But you've done a ton of "research" and aren't vaccinating your kids. So research might be a little overrated at times ;-)

Stargirlb · September 2014

Let's get one thing straight. If you have or plan to cut off some of your child's healthy genitilia, it's hilarious that you also think that THEIR genitals are nobody's business.

WillCMyInk · September 2014

Stargirlb said:

Done zero research and are cutting of some of a baby's genitals! Wow you do deserve a medal.

Can it be a gold medal? I fancy myself to be pretty special...

Or should the medal be made out of his foreskin? I can proudly display it on the wall of our house to let everyone know how stupid and uneducated and downright vile I am.

Stargirlb · September 2014

southernyankeegirl said:

Stargirlb said:
Done zero research and are cutting of some of a baby's genitals! Wow you do deserve a medal.
But you've done a ton of "research" and aren't vaccinating your kids. So research might be a little overrated at times ;-)

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That's right, I'm not. And I don't think you are wrong to vaccinate. It's an extremely complex issue.

Circumcision is cutting off healthy genital tissue. A vaccine is not.

southernyankeegirl · September 2014

Stargirlb said:

southernyankeegirl said:

Stargirlb said:
Done zero research and are cutting of some of a baby's genitals! Wow you do deserve a medal.
But you've done a ton of "research" and aren't vaccinating your kids. So research might be a little overrated at times ;-)
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That's right, I'm not. And I don't think you are wrong to vaccinate. It's an extremely complex issue.

Circumcision is cutting off healthy genital tissue. A vaccine is not.

And my decision whether or not to circumcise my son is my son's business, and my husband and my business. It will not affect anyone else. Whether or not you vaccinate your children could affect all of us.

Which decision is more worthy of public ridicule? We clearly disagree on that answer.

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