Seriously?! Some people...

Natashahunt · September 2014

So the select few that I decided to tell about baby number two so far "was this one planned?"
Were YOU planned???!
Ever thought that maybe some people decide to want their children closer in age rather than several years apart?
Oh and then "oh man- you are seriously going to have your hands full" thanks for stating the obvious ass face. That's my rant for today. Haha anyone else having to deal with stupid remarks??

aeith11 · September 2014

Yeah ppl don't think my inlaws were like "oh well I hope you know what you are doing"...like we have a choice now lol

BabiesEverywhere · September 2014

That's frustrating. Where I live, it's common for people to have larger families & have their kids close in age. If you aren't pregnant again by the time your kid is two, people start to wonder if you're having problems getting pregnant. Isn't it silly how it goes both ways depending on where you're from?

Hummingbirdbaby3 · September 2014

Oh geez. Aren't people entertaining?! I have only told family and no one would say that. But I did have an acquaintance ask me if our first was planned. I was kinda surprised because we were married 2 years before getting pregnant with our first. Some people shouldn't be allowed to say things out loud.

Natashahunt · September 2014

I just think it's rude!!

Ashgal · September 2014

Some people are just rude. Like it's any of their business whether the baby was planned or not. And who cares anyways? I am waiting to tell people as long as I can because I don't want to deal with comments like this. (This is #3, well actually #4 if you count my late term loss). My mom even said to me before I found out I was pregnant that she thought we should adopt instead of trying to have another baby. When it came to telling her, I was really dreading that. But she was very positive about it, thank God!

Natashahunt · September 2014

Love it!! I will be doing that when we announce as well. "Yes it was planned" haha

marigold32 · September 2014

My boss asked me that with my first... About an hour after she asked me in front of the entire office if I was pregnant. I was not planning on sharing my news yet at that point, and she asked because she was eavesdropping on a conversation (that actually had nothing to do with me being pregnant). I hated her.

You'd think WOMEN would know better than to ask each other these questions. Sorry you're dealing with it!!

Natashahunt · September 2014

Thab

Marigold32 said:
My boss asked me that with my first... About an hour after she asked me in front of the entire office if I was pregnant. I was not planning on sharing my news yet at that point, and she asked because she was eavesdropping on a conversation (that actually had nothing to do with me being pregnant). I hated her.

You'd think WOMEN would know better than to ask each other these questions. Sorry you're dealing with it!!

thsnks girl!! And yes it HAS only been women asking me!!
Sorry about your stupid boss- I would have given her a piece of my mind

Natashahunt · September 2014

somerandomchick said:
Ugh that's so personal. 'Yes, and here's my chart of cervical mucous to track ovulation!'

Bahahahahahahaha

MitoRachel · September 2014

I had the exact same responses when I got pregnant with my second. I HATED it! Because of that experience we are waiting as long as possible to tell people and we have decided not to tell them about our plans for a home birth until after the baby is born.

Anicole14 · September 2014

Ugh I'm having this issue also. And people have also thrown in "already!? You've only been married a year" and "again? That didn't take long" I had a miscarriage in May so that's what they're referring to with that comment. I guess some people don't think before they speak.

BabiesEverywhere · September 2014

MitoRachel said:
I had the exact same responses when I got pregnant with my second. I HATED it! Because of that experience we are waiting as long as possible to tell people and we have decided not to tell them about our plans for a home birth until after the baby is born.

I have a friend whose family was very pro-hospital (as in completely opposed to midwives, birthing centers, home births...) My friend had an awful labor & delivery experience in the hospital with her first child. She decided to do a home birth with her second and not tell family until afterward. To take it a step further, she told everyone her due date was actually two weeks later than it was so no one would call her and ask "when is baby getting here?!" I have followed her lead on that due date part

Miluiel07 · September 2014

We didn't get it with our first but we didn't with the last two and this current pregnancy. I don't understand people, yes we are having our kids close together but that is our choice. Even if the pregnancy wasn't planned how is that any of their business?

Yesterday my MIL asked me when we conceived the baby. O_o

Hummingbirdbaby3 · September 2014

Anicole14 said:

Ugh I'm having this issue also. And people have also thrown in "already!? You've only been married a year" and "again? That didn't take long" I had a miscarriage in May so that's what they're referring to with that comment. I guess some people don't think before they speak.

Unbelievable that someone would say that about it being soon since your loss. I cannot believe that!!!

Mom2bois85 · September 2014

What does it matter? Like you would love your child more if it was planned vs unplanned? No! That question is just irrelevant and nosey :-t

risplace · September 2014

In my family pretty much EVERY ONE gets pregnant and then 3-6 months later has a rushed wedding (don't ask me why, we know you weren't married when you got pregnant, especially since you had a double bridal/baby shower. At any rate, you shouldn't just get married because you're pregnant! That probably why ALL of you have been divorced -sorry rant over) so it's actually super common to have young moms and all in our family but when I got pregnant 3 months after we got married I heard a TON of people saying "wow that was fast! Was it planned?" Well idk was your 16 y/o daughter's planned? And compared to y'all who get pregnant 3 month before you got married, how was how I did it "fast" exactly?? People seriously say the stupidest crap.

AllyDogg · September 2014

This is the reason we haven't told my MIL yet! She has been super judgey with DD and always tells my DH and I that we take on too much.

OliveMom3 · September 2014

I had a co worker touch my belly fat today. I told her that it was probably my subway baby that she was touching.

MitoRachel · September 2014

@BabiesEverywhere I like the due date change! I was already thinking about telling most people that I am due the beginning of may. With my first two I noticed that people would remember the month but not the date. As soon as I hit the due date month people would start asking me when I was going to have my baby. My ute goggles were broken so I couldn't tell them.

thelittlepear · September 2014

We've only told our parents, and a couple close friends so far. Most people understand, due to our difficulty getting DD. That said, my Mom's response was "Well, you'd better get things figured out after this one, or you could end up with way more than you want!" Uhhh... thanks? I don't know what there is to figure out, we'll use birth control of some sort next time, this time we didn't. We knew what we were doing.

4N6s · September 2014

People are annoying.

amdecker1016 · September 2014

This is why I haven't told anyone but our parents and siblings yet.

My hormones can't deal with the judgement yet. I might bite someone.

fitfam20 · September 2014

Ugh! People are so rude! When I got pregnant with my first we got a lot of "we were wondering if it was ever going to happen". The few family members that we've told this time have ALL asked "was this planned?!"

WTF kind of question is that?! Totally pisses me off

imamurphy · September 2014

my mom said "WOW! well that opens a whole new can of worms! Yikes!!" my dad said "so I hear youre kinda knocked up?!" I said, "Not really much -kinda- about it!" and props to my FIL who replied "I dont think we say 'knocked up' once they're married" We have been married 3 years, have a beautiful 19 mo old daughter who is going to be an amazing big sister! We know its a little crazy and our lives are gonna be pretty full for a minute, but full of love and gratitude and happiness!!! Thats what I keep telling myseld at least!

mrsalvidrez · September 2014

@BabiesEverywhere‌ are you by chance in utah?

Duffgurl · September 2014

Wow some people just don't know when to zip it.

Our thing is everyone asking us when are we going to have another. Even when they know we are trying.

Rski15 · September 2014

I just gotta say...I find the opposite end of this spectrum annoying as well. Hubs & I have been married 5yrs today. I am 30. We are waiting to tell as long as possible cause it wasn't planned...wanted to wait a couple more years. We have been fielding "so are you trying yet? Are you EVER gonna have kids ?" I just know the first thing I hear is gonna be "about time" & the thought alone makes me irate. I am under ZERO obligation to justify my choices to anyone. Mine & Hubs business. Period.

SuperFudge00 · September 2014

I have been fortunate, so far. But I'll update you when I tell my dad, who is sure to have some awesomely inappropriate things to say.

ChanStew · September 2014

Rski15 said: I just gotta say...I find the opposite end of this spectrum annoying as well. Hubs & I have been married 5yrs today. I am 30. We are waiting to tell as long as possible cause it wasn't planned...wanted to wait a couple more years. We have been fielding "so are you trying yet? Are you EVER gonna have kids ?" I just know the first thing I hear is gonna be "about time" & the thought alone makes me irate. I am under ZERO obligation to justify my choices to anyone. Mine & Hubs business. Period.

We've been married 7 years, and my MIL was asking about kids at our wedding. DH told her very clearly, very early in our marriage, that she is NEVER to ask us about kids. When we have kids, we'll have kids...and we'll let her know when it happens. She has done a good job keeping her mouth shut even as we approached 30 and several years of marriage.

I am looking forward to her reaction the most...she will be over the moon excited for us.

She is also likely to say something offensive, which will then get put on here, lol.

ETA: TB is being weird with the quoting today....

Lyndsey13 · September 2014

We've gotten so many comments! I guess its crazy to have 2 year old twins and get pregnant again! We've gotten the, "Don't you know how that happens?" comment several times. I really just want to go off and tell them that yes, I do know how it happened. Although, you have no clue since it took IVF. It really irritates me!!!

BabiesEverywhere · September 2014

mrsalvidrez said:
@BabiesEverywhere‌ are you by chance in utah?

Haha good guess, but no

I'm in West Texas. It's in the "Bible belt" and there isn't a whole lot to do for entertainment in the desert except make babies...

mrsbb515 · September 2014

Yesterday my MIL told me that she put my due date in online and it told her that I am only 5 weeks so I am wrong about being 7 weeks.

I asked her if she knew when my last period was. She said oh no ... Do you ? YES ! I do !

I could go on and on about all the offensive things she's said but my hubby is going to have to keep her away from me. Constantly trying to point out that I don't actually know what I'm doing. Sorry to hear so many others are in the same boat

RobynB13 · September 2014

I already expect the inevitable "Don't you know what CAUSES that??"

and I already have my reply lined up... "Yeah, we do, maybe you should try doing that more often so you aren't such an uptight bitch."

I no longer play nice with rudeness, and "I like to stand on by bridges while I burn them just so they know how serious I am about my crazy" is the best quote ever for my pregosaurus rage lol

ThisAgain · September 2014

what really gets me, is when my MIL posts on Facebook "I get to play with such and such baby, can't wait for grandchildren of my own HINT HINT" knowing that her only two DILs both had devastating miscarriages. I was so angry I had to put her in her place. No shit you want a grandchild don't you think we are fucking trying as hard as possible....we were dealing with possible infertility, and airing that shit on Facebook is not okay.

mrsalvidrez · September 2014

@BabiesEverywhere‌ oh! I'm in utah and it just sounded like home when you were describing lol.

TammyStott · September 2014

I did this exact same thing !

miracle4x · September 2014

Yessss!!! When I got pregnant with my third, everyone kept saying, "You know what causes that, right?" No, I have no idea, you a-hole! As if I was saying I was upset that I got pregnant. Huh. And now I'm pregnant with my 4th, which was a surprise, and I don't want to tell anyone! I'm sure someone will think that's too many!

vickersh1 · September 2014

We will be telling our parents this weekend.....stay tuned!!...

MaMa~MoOrE · September 2014

I'm at a University so I kind of get it but when I told one of my classmates who I work with her response was "I'm sorry." I couldn't stop laughing when I told DH. Being #3 I've heard just about everything but that was a winner right there!

fiscally3 · September 2014

I always struggle with this - our first we were in a trying to whatever phase (it was a surprise that I got pregnant two weeks after stopping the pill.) The last two were surprises in a sense, I plan on having 4-5 kids, I just didn't plan on them showing up so soon. This ones especially awkward since I was pretty vocal about wanting to wait 2-3 more years before having a third, so once I announce it, I'll be curious to see what people say.

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