When are you spilling the beans?!

lindsey85d · September 2014

When do you plan on telling the world about your pregnancy? As of right now only hubby and I know (EDD 5/4/15) but we are itching to let our 7 year old know!

Our first appt is 9/17 and I was thinking after that appt I could let him know and our parents--then let the rest of the friend\family spectrum know sometime in Oct!

Thoughts?!

katielyn1 · September 2014

EDD is 5/15/15. Only DH and I know Now. Thinking we are going to tell our parents on grandparents day on Sunday even though it's super early. I will tell close friends and family after the first ultrasound and then announce on fb whenever I feel comfortable doing so. On one hand , I can't wait to tell everyone and on the other, I like no one knowing but DH and I .

oh and I told dd but she's 16 months so I told her I have a baby in my belly and she went and grabbed her baby doll.

katie0919 · September 2014

I won't be telling the "world" ie Facebook likely until after the anatomy scan. We will tell immediate family after the 8 weeks sono....DS won't know until probably after the nt scan

missz326 · September 2014

whenever you guys want to !!!!! its SO hard to wait

jennadesigns · September 2014

No plans of coming out any time soon. I think we'll hold off telling the children until we're past the 12-week testing, or until I start showing. I just want to know this one is going to stick. It was hard the last time around having told everyone, then having to untell everyone. I did tell my mom the day I found out, but only because I'd want her to know, whatever happened. Besides that, only SO and I know and it'll stay that way for some time.

missz326 · September 2014

Grrrrrrrr it didnt post my whole response!!!! Ok i just found out today and am due right before you 5/2/15 hubby knows of course, texted my gfs , mom/dad/sis im calling tommorow i kinda want to tell my kids tommorow too and video tape their reaction and probably tell the rest of the world 10/26 when im 13 weeks (currently pinning photo ideas)!!!

momtosam · September 2014

I am not sure how/when we will really tell our 2 year old. Probably not till I really have a belly, since he does not really understand. And we will have to do some explaining to him.

As for others we have told our immediate family and close friends. Those who I would want support from if we have another loss. As for others, we will share as we see fit. I will not really share on fb for a while.

I did a photo shoot as a surprise for DH to tell him. We have used the photo from the shoot as our way to share with others.

smash1228 · September 2014

We are telling our parents tomorrow. And will probably wait until after first tri to tell everybody else.

Pink724 · September 2014

We have told our parents, my brother, and my best friend. We will probably tell a few others once we hopefully hear the heartbeat, and then everyone else at around 14 weeks.

ktzen3 · September 2014

I don't think we will share until after our appointment in October. Our last pregnancy was kind of stressful after the initial u/s so we are a little anxious about getting past that point.

beachhippiemama · September 2014

We are waiting until 12 weeks to tell everyone. First pregnancy, my sister outed me at 5 weeks for not drinking and I spent the rest of the scary period on edge!

LexiSophie55 · September 2014

I think we will send out our Christmas cards with the announcement. We typically mail those the day after Thanksgiving. We will probably tell family (siblings and parents) on Thanksgiving. My DH and I are the only ones that know right now. I will tell my best friend mid - september. Other than that - we are keeping it quiet.

nogitron · September 2014

According to The Bump calculator, I'm due 5/4. Told both our sets of parents right away . . . my sister happened to be visiting with my mom when I called and my mom was immediately, "STACY'S PREGNANT!", so she and her husband know by accident!

Waiting to tell our boys until after the first appointment, make sure everything looks good so far. Though we've had a few almost-slips with our 8yo already, so he may find out sooner if we're not careful. Then I guess we'll go Facebook-public at the second trimester (which happens to fall on Halloween! I bet I can come up with some sort of cutesy "Not a trick, just a treat!" announcement pic

) Last time we caved and told everyone after the first ultrasound, though. We'll see if we can wait! But my cute Halloween idea might keep me on track!

OnceInLoveWithAmy · September 2014

We told my parents this weekend. If something goes wrong, I want my mommy. I had a chemical pregnancy in July, and I didn't get to tell my mom until later, and it just felt strange. I am letting the hubs tell his parents when he is comfortable.

I had a loss at 9 weeks, and I just need to get to that point before I tell anyone else. I think I will be 10 weeks on the monster's 3rd birthday, so we will probably tell the family and close friends at his birthday party. I would like to thank Daniel Tiger's Neighborhood for introducing the idea that 'mommy has a baby in her belly' to my son. Now his entire daycare thinks I am pregnant-- before I even tested

He gets the idea, so we will probably tell him in or around his birthday.

Not sure if we are going to go Facebook Offical at 12 weeks (which would be about Halloween!) or at 20 weeks.

CoPilot2012 · September 2014

I think it's personal preference.

DH and I just found out Saturday we were edd 5/8, and I already have my annual exam schedules for 10/5, so I'll likely just keep that as my first appointment.

But we couldn't hold it in, so we discussed and decided to tell our parents and one close person each. He chose his grandma and I chose my closest girl friend. Today we told the parents and grandma, got to spin it as "happy Labor Day, today's not Labor Day, May 8th is!". Tomorrow I'll tell my best friend.

But these are also the people that if we had a loss, we would turn to for support, so it felt like the right decision for us. (And we asked they keep the information private for now).

Good luck with your decision!

Lomcmuffin · September 2014

We decided to tell my family on Thanksgivings (in Canada so October 13) and DH's family the same weekend. It's Fil's bday on Oct 12 so we will give him a gift and reveal then. Our friends we will tell on Halloween along with Facebook

missz326 · September 2014

Super cute idea

hellok2010 · September 2014

We will tell my parents and sister here soon but I am pretty sure my mother already knows. She just seems to know these things. My husband will probably let his family know via phone around the same time. I have a 13 yr old step daughter who we will tell the next time we have her. I lost a pregnancy at 6 weeks in May I'm a little anxious to tell anyone before we reach that point but the more I think on it it's silly because we would tell our parents what was going on if that happens again. I will also tell my two closest friends and my principal this week. As for everyone else I'm not sure. My husband is not very good at keeping exciting news to himself and told the world at 8 weeks with our son.

kiki510 · September 2014

I have already told immediate family and some close friends. Honestly will probably tell anyone I see in person or spend a lot of time with right away. A friend almost ended our friendship while she was trying to keep her pregnancy a secret. We shared a hotel room for a weekend and she was SO rude and selfish and weird and I had no idea why. I left that weekend thinking she'd totally changed, but if she'd just told me we could have had a great time as always and I would have understood her rude moments!

Will wait til second tri for Facebook announcements!

welly01 · September 2014

I've told a coworker and my chiropractor. We're going to try not to tell anyone else until 12 weeks. DS's birthday will fall right around that time, so we're thinking of having him open a big brother shirt as a gift.

rivieramaya · September 2014

Only our very close friends know right now. We have weekly dinners with them and they would figure it out as soon as I turned down a glass of wine anyway. We will tell our parents, immediate family, and my manager after our 8 week appointment. We will go public (Facebook) after the 12 week appointment.

twinkletoes3126 · September 2014

I am only telling those people whose support I would want if anything were to happen. So far I have told my parents, my BFF, my aunt, MIL, SIL, and BIL. I plan on telling the rest of my siblings as soon as I see them. Everyone else will know at 12 weeks, I will also do a Facebook announcement then.

maybebride · September 2014

Told my mom and youngest brother (only because he was at the house when we told my mom) the day we found out, same as with DS. My mom told my stepdad (with our permission; he's out of the country right now) who in turn told my other younger brother. MIL and SIL know. My two closest girlfriends know.

Just like with DS, if we are able to see the heartbeat at the 8 week u/s on 9/16, we'll start telling people in person. Last time, a few more people knew because DH and my stepdad couldn't keep the secret.

Last time, I "announced" on Facebook at about 13 weeks, but I feel awkward doing it. But, we might do a big brother shirt for DS. Or, I was thinking about re-posting a picture from Halloween when I was very pregnant with DS and my two best girlfriends (who are also co-workers) and I dressed as pee sticks. I was positive, they were negative. Use a caption like "I could wear this costume again this year!"

nikolah81 · September 2014

We told our parents right away, but we are trying our hardest to wait until our 2nd trimester to tell anyone else. When we lost our first it was very hard because we blabbed to the world right away, so people would see us and ask when the baby was due etc, with our second loss we just told immediate family and it was nice to be able to have some support. With this pregnancy we both feel comfortable waiting, except we may just tell our 7 year old who prays everynight for a sibling after we get a good heartbeat and ultrasound.

jennnyboomboom · September 2014

Since we did IVF, all of our closest friends and family knew I was going in for retrieval and transfer so they all knew id be getting a beta test shortly after. These are all people we've shared out whole infertility/IVF journey with and if anything were to happen they're people I'm ok telling the news to.

My birthday is the first week of November so we might start telling people then or wait for Thanksgiving. We'll see.

As much as I want to enjoy every minute of this, after going through IVF I just want this to last and wish I could skip ahead to the safe zone!

23Tez23 · September 2014

Anyone that has told their parents or ILs and already wishing that they'd waited? I don't want to promise them a grandchild and then have them go through the loss if it doesn't work out. My other reason for holding off is I know once they know that's going to be the only thing they're going to want to talk about, and they'll have 30-year-old advice that if I'm not educated otherwise I'll just believe them and I'll end up doing something terrible. We don't live in the same city, so if I can make it past Oct 10th visit without them knowing (I will be 10 weeks by then), I could probably wait until Christmas. Does anyone have a 'I waited too long to tell them' story that might away me?

23Tez23 · September 2014

Ya, that's exactly what I'm worried about. This is my first and will be the first grand baby for the in laws, my mom already has 2 grandsons from my brother and is aware of a third (2 months before I'm due), so I feel fine keeping her in the dark (she's already excited for my brothers third (3 under 3)

MAdams728 · September 2014

If this baby sticks, after two early losses, I wont tell anyone until 12 weeks.

With DD we told at 7 weeks, after seeing the heartbeat. That's too early for me this time.

mpiemont · September 2014

Since we had a loss with our last pregnancy, I am holding off on telling people right away. Right now only me, DH, and my cousin (who is also TTC) know. I will probably (hopefully) be able to hold off until 12weeks to start sharing with more people. If this is a healthy baby, which I hope & pray it is, I will go FB public maybe around 16ish weeks (which is when I did with my first 2 babies). I have such a different approach to all of this after a loss.

RhythmeKrow · September 2014

We'll wait until twelve or so weeks to officially announce this time. But my close friends and my mom already know.

gypsyheart85 · September 2014

We have told my mom, sister and my closest friend. We will tell his parents after the first appointment. I am having a hard time deciding when to tell the world- my daughters 2nd birthday is literally the day after I'll be 12 weeks so I am definitely not announcing that week. That's her week. So I'll either do it at 10 weeks or 13. We had been trying for ten months, and most everybody knows that so it may be hard to keep secret for long - people are always asking me how it's going. So honestly I'll probably announce at like ten weeks.
It will be hard to keep secret at work as well, as there will be patients I can't care for.

Nita2603 · September 2014

Not before Halloween, ideally around Christmas, depending on how it goes. Some people will know earlier than others. Mil likely will sniff me out next time she sees me, that woman can sniff out a pregnant woman 5km against the wind (and that's ok with me).
Everyone else will have to wait until it's either obvious or convenient for us to tell.

mommyofaei · September 2014

@LexiSophia55 Right now that is our plan too!

marijaa333 · September 2014

I think we'll wait until the second trimester. Our families are very opinionated (bless them) and we just want the peace to discuss everything by ourselves first. Plus, it's our first so no idea how it will go. Crossing fingers and toes.

23Tez23 · September 2014

Nita2603 said:
Mil likely will sniff me out next time she sees me, that woman can sniff out a pregnant woman 5km against the wind (and that's ok with me).

Would it be too evil to pretend to get offended at any comment insinuating that I look fat or bloated, and make them regret saying anything, only in the next breath tell them they're right!?

marijaa333 · September 2014

@23Tez23 I think it depends on the person but most of my friends would find it funny.

vballgirl78 · September 2014

We told our parents right away and I also told my BFF right away. Aside from that, I've told a few co-workers (they are helping cover for appointments and I wanted them to know in case I started getting sick). Aside from that we will wait until after our first 2 u/s... one is Sept. 17 and the second one is Oct. 8. If all looks good after those, we may tell the world. Even though we had a loss last time, I'm not worried about telling people early- last time we went through the loss with very little support because hardly anyone knew. It was tough to be so quiet. This time I think I'd rather have more people know so that if something happens we will have their support. Its all about personal preference though,.

abbalish · September 2014

We've told my parents and a handful of close friends (and one casual acquaintance who doesn't drink and was complaining about how it wasn't fun to go out with a bunch of drinkers, so I just kinda blurted, "Well, I'm pregnant so I feel your pain!") I think we'll tell H's family, and the rest of my family after our 8-week appointment on the 23rd. Maybe we'll tell more friends in person at that point too, not sure. I'll probably do some sort of Facebook announcement around Halloween, when I'll be 13-ish weeks....although that seems kind of strange and AW-y to me.

It's strange - the first couple of days I wanted to tell the world and now I don't feel like telling everyone, like, I feel embarrassed. But then again I'm a big old weird ball of emotions.

cemetreesc · September 2014

If baby sticks I am going to try to hold out until Christmas and wrap a big brother shirt and a picture in a box for our 5 year old son. Then dh's parents would see then. I told my sister in law and a couple friends.. And my cousin

freespiritedmama · September 2014

I'm 6W and due May 2nd according to my conception date (if they go by my LMP even though I ovulated late I'm due April 28th) and we told my mom, dad and stepparents right away, along with 3-4 of my very closest friends. We also told our kids right away and surprisingly they have stayed locked lipped. Our first appt in 9/17, and we have a photo shoot w our family photographer scheduled 9/18 so we can announce that way. We will announce as soon as she releases our photo to us.

Nita2603 · September 2014

23Tez23 said:

Nita2603 said:
Mil likely will sniff me out next time she sees me, that woman can sniff out a pregnant woman 5km against the wind (and that's ok with me).
Would it be too evil to pretend to get offended at any comment insinuating that I look fat or bloated, and make them regret saying anything, only in the next breath tell them they're right!?

Haha, she'd probably get a good chuckle out of that. Mil is awesome.

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