Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: ~*~*~UO~*~*~
Yeah I totally get what you mean... We definitely have a long way to go with universal equality.
The sport topic is interesting. I think we are the same page there. I love sports, as a spectator and a player because I do! Sometimes I do feel, however, that we as girls get competitive, attention hungry, Etc and use interests to one-up each other in the eyes of men. And THAT nonsense sets both genders back. I knew a girl in college like that, who was so compelled to show she watched Sports Center before meeting up with the guys that she looked like a desperate idiot in her attempt to distance herself from the girls and be one of the guys. They saw through that and judged her for her desperation.
Waited a long time, tried a lot of stuff, science made me a mom.
1) make an effort not to be repetitive by checking to see if a topic had been discussed
2) be part of the community or don't expect all of us to do everything or care about your issues
3) don't get offended over negative opinions because you will get them and no one is going to be hold your hands to save your feelings
With the defnition and the word...I finally get it. Thank you @jaztastic @bhjones1980
From Beyonce's 'Drunk in Love' song. She pronounces 'surfboard' as 'surfbort' and people take humor from this. It is a Beyonce-ism and sounds funny so has been adopted by the Beyhive as a joke/humorous word. Has been made into t-shirts by various Beyonce fans.
surfbort, surfbort"
"Beyonce has redefined the word surfboard to surfbort"
"I'm riding my surfbort"
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TTC 10+ | Stage 4 Endometriosis
3 Laparscopy's
BFP - 06.15.2014
EDD - 02.16.2015
I agree that it wouldn't be cool to discourage participation, but honestly, I don't think that's the case here. I'm seeing it more as a hesitance to engage. And then to be tossing PMs at each other instead of discussing it here with us after posting UOs that are provoking discussion? C'mon, ladies. Talk to us. Seriously, we want to hear from you.
I think multiple threads are fine, as long as you know you'll get ignored if it's too random to get people to respond.
Like I said, I skim the spam/random thread because I have a busy job and can't keep up, too. But the random thread is just FUN because it can get so zany. I actually would encourage you to skim it and post whatever the hell random stuff you want. I guarantee someone will end up paging you with a response sooner rather than later.
ETA: Testing to see if I can't fix the page! (Nope. Ampersand doesn't like me.)
Now I have pregnancy and white jizzy stained black pants working against the modest persona I try to reflect.
Waited a long time, tried a lot of stuff, science made me a mom.
@jaztastic, you rock the casbah.
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TTC 10+ | Stage 4 Endometriosis
3 Laparscopy's
BFP - 06.15.2014
EDD - 02.16.2015
I'm saying it without snark: join in and post to your heart's content.
It also seems to me that the people that prefer everything in one thread may be speaking louder than those who dont. If I want to make a random post that annoys some people, is it really worth mentioning that it bothers you, or can you just move past it? if there are a lot of posts about a certain topic, and you dont want to be included in the discussion, then dont respond.
At this point, I think both sides of the argument are being nit picky. it does make for a good UO though. Can we agree to disagree and be rainbows and unicorns again? (i'm being serious)
I hear ya! Shakira is pregnant! Going through IF I used to think my phone was messing with me when I got all these pregnancy alerts.
1/7/2015 Twins born @ 34 weeks
Be honest, if there were 10 threads on the first page asking us to guess a nub, that wouldn't annoy you?
BFP 6/15/14 EDD: 2/24/15
I may or may not have a serious craving for cotton candy at the moment because of this.
1/7/2015 Twins born @ 34 weeks
I like that there are set places for certain things. Why? Because if the board is drowning with the same 4 or 5 threads started 4 or 5 times each then some more serious questions or real struggles people face may get pushed to the wayside because no one will see them.
Nub threads and fb announcements are great but I'd rather go to one place to live them so that mom's who need real help about their previous ED or things like that. I also think that if people go through old threads and resurrect them as opposed to starting a new one they will get great info that may not be repeated.
Also, I never read the spam thread, the randomness didn't appeal to me. Should I??
BFP 6/15/14 EDD: 2/24/15
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TTC 10+ | Stage 4 Endometriosis
3 Laparscopy's
BFP - 06.15.2014
EDD - 02.16.2015
Waited a long time, tried a lot of stuff, science made me a mom.
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TTC 10+ | Stage 4 Endometriosis
3 Laparscopy's
BFP - 06.15.2014
EDD - 02.16.2015
Yeah. Not like, hmmm I think I might smell weed. It's like wowza, there must be a Dead concert going on. It's only been that way since last year. Lol.
@miniwheat10 team purple is B/G twins, please don't take my dream lol
1/7/2015 Twins born @ 34 weeks