Vent and GTKY - Tacky shit

daizedoo · August 2014

@cwbandthenewbie

Wait - guests had to fill out their own thank you card? That is hysterical!

bdazzld · August 2014

The fill out your own envelope is terrible yet brilliant...in this day of email vs snail mail I don't know anyone's home address :P

daizedoo · August 2014

cwbandthenewbie said:

@cwbandthenewbie

Wait - guests had to fill out their own thank you card? That is hysterical!
The envelope, yes. So guests really had to work hard to attend this baby shower.

Ah ok LOL. I thought they had to write in the card their name, and what they gave. One step up from the job someone always gets of writing down who gives what, as she is opening the gifts.

Leather318 · August 2014

This is by FAR my favorite thread. Keep the tacky stories coming, I can't get enough of them!

Ok, mine's not as bad as a lot of these, but is recent and I feel like it was INCREDIBLY tacky and rude. So my younger brother got married this past Sunday. We love them. We love her family. It's great in that respect. The ONLY family member we have an issue with, is the bride's oldest brother's wife, M. She's just a rich daddy's girl and it seriously, it doesn't matter WHAT it is, everything has to be about this woman. ALL. THE. TIME.

So, last Thursday, it wasn't the rehearsal dinner, but several family members had flown in and were together and we all went out to eat to celebrate the start of the weekend and my brother's marriage. We were all sitting there with our drinks when the bride's brother, M's husband, gets up to "take a picture" of the table. He counted to three and everybody is sitting there with this stupid look ready to take a picture and he yells "M's Pregnant!". Of course, Bride's mother is happy and everyone is happy but CLEARLY the wrong place to announce your first pregnancy. Like, REALLY?! It was just a way for M to YET AGAIN, make everything about her. To top it off, the bride was sitting there just kind of in disbelief that they would REALLY announce that at their celebration dinner, when her brother says to her "Sorry, didn't mean to steal your thunder." So basically, yes you did mean to steal her thunder and basically #sorryImnotsorry. Also didn't help that the bride has really been wanting to start a family soon and everybody knows it.

It was just so tacky to me, I couldn't believe it. I hate people who make everything about them. Can't handle it.

daizedoo · August 2014

that sounds like a really fun way to tell people - but horrible timing!

mayv314 · August 2014

This isn't nearly as bad as some of the above stories!!! Although I did get a couple good laughs reading these at work

My BIL asked my FIL for his permission to marry my SIL the night of my rehearsal dinner. They then got engaged barely 1 week later on the day that we returned from our honeymoon. I had so many people say "Oh they are just stealing your thunder huh?!" I could have screamed.

daizedoo · August 2014

I love this thread so hard. Can we have a regular topic like this? Or are we all out of tacky stories now

beatlesgal4 · August 2014

I was asked to play a duet in a wedding of one of my sorority sisters when I was 20. The wedding and the bride were awesome. The other girl I played the duet with (sorority sister) and two other sorority sisters were all coming to the wedding from our college town as well, and it's a long drive, so we carpooled. I didn't think anything of being asked to drive because they were going to pay for gas and we were going to stay for free at one of their parents' houses. After the wedding, the B and G went out to a bar in downtown with those of us college friends. The bar was all ages, so I could go but not drink, which was fine- it was nice to hang out with everyone. After B and G left (their hotel was right there), the girls I drove (all 21) wanted to go to another bar that was only 21 and up because it was supposed to be a "really cool bar." So the girl I played the duet with came up to me and said, "we are going to another bar... but it's 21 and up so... can we meet you afterwards?" I drove, so I was their DD. I was really taken aback, but as politely as I could, asked if there was any other bar they were willing to go to, or even stay at the one we were at, so that I wouldn't be alone in this downtown. All she said was, "well, no, we've really been wanting to go for a long time, but now is the first time we're all21." WE were not all 21... THEY were 21. So they left me alone in a downtown- really safe for a college aged girl in a fancy dress- to drink at this "really cool bar." I so wish I could have left their asses and driven away, but my stuff was still at the one girl's parents' house, and I didn't have the address because the girl just directed me when we were close. So I guess that wouldn't really have worked. They were wasted when they called me letting me know they were ready to go two hours later, and one almost threw up in my car. I was so pissed at them. The drive back the next day was looooong and awkward as fuck. I didn't speak to them much after that... I have no idea if they think what they did was rude at all.

stellarsoundz · August 2014

This thread wins the internet. I can't believe some of the stories I'm reading in here... It's like a train wreck; I just can't look away! So, here's mine:

The pertinent background info is that my husband and I are both now 28, and at the time of our wedding in 2012 were 26. We have known each other since we were 12, dated in high school, moved away to college and life, and moved back to our hometown and got back together in late 2010. My lovely MIL has despised me since I was 12. Neither my husband or I are entirely sure why.

Three days (yes 3) before our wedding, my now MIL called my DH and I over to her house to sit us down for a chat. topics included, but were not limited to:

1. Changing the date of our impending ceremony because it was the same as the date she married my FIL on, and as they had been divorced, it was obviously a bad omen
2. What is the history of mental illness in my family, and do I have a therapist that she can speak to to verify my "alleged mental stability"
3. Am I taking medication for my "very serious mental health issues" (for the record, I have ADHD, and I take a medication for it, or did, until we began TTC.)
4. Giving us a printed spreadsheet to use to "teach us how to learn fiscal responsibility and how to pay bills" (I owned a fairly large company of my own in Ca prior to moving back home and have no debt.)
5. Letting us know that she didn't approve of the wedding, or our relationship at all, and that if we "insisted" on getting married, she wouldn't be attending.
6. Informing us that if she *did* attend our wedding, no one had better dare to try and tell her where to sit, that she would sit in the back, and that she would cry the whole time, "out of heartbreak and anguish"

She did in fact attend our wedding. She also brought a distant cousin I had never met and DH hadn't even considered inviting, "for moral support" and insisted on sitting right by the aisle door in the back, dressed in funeral black, and cried quite dramatically the whole time. She also evacuated briskly as soon as we exited the sanctuary. My poor DH had to chase her down into the parking lot just to get a photo with his own mother on his wedding day.

bdazzld · August 2014

stellarsoundz said:
This thread wins the internet. I can't believe some of the stories I'm reading in here... It's like a train wreck; I just can't look away! So, here's mine:

The pertinent background info is that my husband and I are both now 28, and at the time of our wedding in 2012 were 26. We have known each other since we were 12, dated in high school, moved away to college and life, and moved back to our hometown and got back together in late 2010. My lovely MIL has despised me since I was 12. Neither my husband or I are entirely sure why.

Three days (yes 3) before our wedding, my now MIL called my DH and I over to her house to sit us down for a chat. topics included, but were not limited to:

1. Changing the date of our impending ceremony because it was the same as the date she married my FIL on, and as they had been divorced, it was obviously a bad omen
2. What is the history of mental illness in my family, and do I have a therapist that she can speak to to verify my "alleged mental stability"
3. Am I taking medication for my "very serious mental health issues" (for the record, I have ADHD, and I take a medication for it, or did, until we began TTC.)
4. Giving us a printed spreadsheet to use to "teach us how to learn fiscal responsibility and how to pay bills" (I owned a fairly large company of my own in Ca prior to moving back home and have no debt.)
5. Letting us know that she didn't approve of the wedding, or our relationship at all, and that if we "insisted" on getting married, she wouldn't be attending.
6. Informing us that if she *did* attend our wedding, no one had better dare to try and tell her where to sit, that she would sit in the back, and that she would cry the whole time, "out of heartbreak and anguish"

She did in fact attend our wedding. She also brought a distant cousin I had never met and DH hadn't even considered inviting, "for moral support" and insisted on sitting right by the aisle door in the back, dressed in funeral black, and cried quite dramatically the whole time. She also evacuated briskly as soon as we exited the sanctuary. My poor DH had to chase her down into the parking lot just to get a photo with his own mother on his wedding day.

Holy heck

stellarsoundz · August 2014

bdazzld said:

Holy heck

In her defense, I am clearly a psychopath, what with my ADHD.

bdazzld · August 2014

stellarsoundz said:

bdazzld said:

Holy heck

In her defense, I am clearly a psychopath, what with my ADHD.

-----mobile quote fail-----

I just...can't even process. Holidays must be fun!

stellarsoundz · August 2014

bdazzld said:

bdazzld said:

Holy heck

In her defense, I am clearly a psychopath, what with my ADHD.
-----mobile quote fail----- I just...can't even process. Holidays must be fun!

fun... like a root canal sans anesthesia!

wishiwaspreggo · August 2014

@stellarsoundz - That is by far the most appalling MIL story I've ever heard!!!!! Honestly, I'm surprised you followed through with the wedding, because if I knew she was going to be my MIL I would have ran away screaming.

Did your husband say anything to her? Did he at least stand up for you? What the hell???

Your MIL would never approve of me, then. My family tree grows nothing but nuts. My mom and dad suffer from anxiety and are prone to panic attacks, I have one brother on medication for anxiety and depression and another with bipolar and severe ADHD. My grandma was institutionalized in the 50's - no one will tell me why which means I assume the worst. My mom's side has a history of depression and anxiety.

I am okay, but I do worry that I carry the crazy somewhere in my DNA. I hope the stable and sane donor I picked will help balance whatever mental illness floats in my genes.

Lmsq1611 · August 2014

mrsh924 said:

stellarsoundz said:

This thread wins the internet. I can't believe some of the stories I'm reading in here... It's like a train wreck; I just can't look away! So, here's mine:

The pertinent background info is that my husband and I are both now 28, and at the time of our wedding in 2012 were 26. We have known each other since we were 12, dated in high school, moved away to college and life, and moved back to our hometown and got back together in late 2010. My lovely MIL has despised me since I was 12. Neither my husband or I are entirely sure why.

Three days (yes 3) before our wedding, my now MIL called my DH and I over to her house to sit us down for a chat. topics included, but were not limited to:

1. Changing the date of our impending ceremony because it was the same as the date she married my FIL on, and as they had been divorced, it was obviously a bad omen
2. What is the history of mental illness in my family, and do I have a therapist that she can speak to to verify my "alleged mental stability"
3. Am I taking medication for my "very serious mental health issues" (for the record, I have ADHD, and I take a medication for it, or did, until we began TTC.)
4. Giving us a printed spreadsheet to use to "teach us how to learn fiscal responsibility and how to pay bills" (I owned a fairly large company of my own in Ca prior to moving back home and have no debt.)
5. Letting us know that she didn't approve of the wedding, or our relationship at all, and that if we "insisted" on getting married, she wouldn't be attending.
6. Informing us that if she *did* attend our wedding, no one had better dare to try and tell her where to sit, that she would sit in the back, and that she would cry the whole time, "out of heartbreak and anguish"

She did in fact attend our wedding. She also brought a distant cousin I had never met and DH hadn't even considered inviting, "for moral support" and insisted on sitting right by the aisle door in the back, dressed in funeral black, and cried quite dramatically the whole time. She also evacuated briskly as soon as we exited the sanctuary. My poor DH had to chase her down into the parking lot just to get a photo with his own mother on his wedding day.

OMG.. My inlaws are very close to this type of crazy! I feel your pain.

Ditto. Though mine bounce back and forth between hating me, telling me they would accept me if only I changed x, y, and z about myself, or telling each other that they have always tried so hard to connect with me and I force DH to separate from them. So crazy!

@stellarsoundz‌ Do you still have to see this crazy ever? I hope not!

transplantedhawkeye · August 2014

The tacky is unfortunately our family. My mother is an only child (well take that back, she has half sisters that were adults 30+ years old when she was born from her dad) so she considers her cousins her sisters.

Therefore, at every wedding for the cousins kids and their kid's kids, my mother thinks we must sit up in the front row with the immediate family or damn close to it, because xyz would have wanted it that way. She has wheedled her way into so many first, second and third row pews, I've lost count.

kella0708 · August 2014

wishiwaspreggo said:
@Nannabee21 – if I don’t get to family gatherings in time, C and I don’t eat because I have 14 full-grown male cousins, 8 large aunts and uncles, and 2 brothers who hoover the food down so quickly it’s gone within an hour. Keep in mind we usually get 2 or 3 large turkeys for Thanksgiving, plus gallons of sides. I’d be pissed if one of my relatives packed a leftover plate before we all had a chance to get some ourselves!!!

This totally made me think of Marshall's family from How I Met Your Mother!

stellarsoundz · August 2014

wishiwaspreggo said:

@stellarsoundz - That is by far the most appalling MIL story I've ever heard!!!!! Honestly, I'm surprised you followed through with the wedding, because if I knew she was going to be my MIL I would have ran away screaming.

Did your husband say anything to her? Did he at least stand up for you? What the hell???

Your MIL would never approve of me, then. My family tree grows nothing but nuts. My mom and dad suffer from anxiety and are prone to panic attacks, I have one brother on medication for anxiety and depression and another with bipolar and severe ADHD. My grandma was institutionalized in the 50's - no one will tell me why which means I assume the worst. My mom's side has a history of depression and anxiety.

I am okay, but I do worry that I carry the crazy somewhere in my DNA. I hope the stable and sane donor I picked will help balance whatever mental illness floats in my genes.

Lmsq1611 said:

Ditto. Though mine bounce back and forth between hating me, telling me they would accept me if only I changed x, y, and z about myself, or telling each other that they have always tried so hard to connect with me and I force DH to separate from them. So crazy! @stellarsoundz‌ Do you still have to see this crazy ever? I hope not!

My DH has stood up for me consistently. In fact, as a result, she now is trying to get to know me and while it is awkward, she does have us over sometimes and she is sincerely putting in effort. so it could be worse.

kriskwillits · August 2014

My father in law just passed away 5 weeks ago. I got the call from our hired man on the feedlot that Jimmy had passed, but then MIL proceeds to send DH a TEXT MESSAGE that his father has just passed. A week later DH falls ill and paralyzed. What does MIL do?!?! She sends him a text asking him to sign off on the will to give up his inherited ground from his father since he can't walk or farm it anyhow!!!! I was livid. How horribly greedy and tacky some ppl can be just blows me away.

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stellarsoundz · August 2014

kriskwillits said:

My father in law just passed away 5 weeks ago. I got the call from our hired man on the feedlot that Jimmy had passed, but then MIL proceeds to send DH a TEXT MESSAGE that his father has just passed. A week later DH falls ill and paralyzed. What does MIL do?!?! She sends him a text asking him to sign off on the will to give up his inherited ground from his father since he can't walk or farm it anyhow!!!! I was livid. How horribly greedy and tacky some ppl can be just blows me away.

And my story is officially a walk in the park on a lovely autumn evening as of the moment I read this. Wow. I'm so sorry that you and your DH are going through this.

wishiwaspreggo · August 2014

kriskwillits said:

My father in law just passed away 5 weeks ago. I got the call from our hired man on the feedlot that Jimmy had passed, but then MIL proceeds to send DH a TEXT MESSAGE that his father has just passed. A week later DH falls ill and paralyzed. What does MIL do?!?! She sends him a text asking him to sign off on the will to give up his inherited ground from his father since he can't walk or farm it anyhow!!!! I was livid. How horribly greedy and tacky some ppl can be just blows me away.

How awful

Reminds me of that song, Family Feud. People get ugly around deaths, but that's probably the greediest thing I've ever heard.

wishiwaspreggo · August 2014

@krystaloowho - I lol'd at the demon dog Wow. Sounds like a spoiled little thing. Yeah, I can guarantee the dog should've been somewhere resting away from people and was likely very overstimulated. Same thing happens with my mini dachshund.

That is insanely tacky of your sister to host her own baby shower. Honestly, I'm shocked anyone showed up. You're a much better sister than me!!!

Lmsq1611 · August 2014

kriskwillits said:
My father in law just passed away 5 weeks ago. I got the call from our hired man on the feedlot that Jimmy had passed, but then MIL proceeds to send DH a TEXT MESSAGE that his father has just passed. A week later DH falls ill and paralyzed. What does MIL do?!?! She sends him a text asking him to sign off on the will to give up his inherited ground from his father since he can't walk or farm it anyhow!!!! I was livid. How horribly greedy and tacky some ppl can be just blows me away.

There are really no words to explain this kind of behavior. How awful! I'm sorry you have to go through that.

cafecreme · August 2014

mayv314 said:

This isn't nearly as bad as some of the above stories!!! Although I did get a couple good laughs reading these at work

My BIL asked my FIL for his permission to marry my SIL the night of my rehearsal dinner. They then got engaged barely 1 week later on the day that we returned from our honeymoon. I had so many people say "Oh they are just stealing your thunder huh?!" I could have screamed.

Would you consider it tacky that we announced our pregnancy a week after my cousins wedding? At least I waited until after. Plus, it was our anniversary weekend.

cafecreme · August 2014

tunnel said:

cafecreme said:
Would you consider it tacky that we announced our pregnancy a week after my cousins wedding? At least I waited until after. Plus, it was our anniversary weekend.

No, this is not tacky. The wedding was well over and it was a meaningful weekend for you guys.
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Phew, that's good to know! lol

jpavenski · August 2014

That chick sounds very insensitive & I would find if hard to deal with that. @MauiBliss‌ those are the two worst things I've ever heard! My friends & family are pretty traditional I guess which is good. I do have a story about my mil when I got married. So first of all she called my mother to see what color she was wearing so they wouldn't be the same, then after my mother told her she went & got the same color anyway & same designer! Then she pretty much had a sour face on at every event having to do with the wedding. She actually walked down the isle with an expression that looked like she was in a funeral procession. Then wouldn't let go of my husband after their dance kept caressing his face, ugh. But the worst was the next day when I came home to her house because we still lived with them for about a month after the wedding and I was still on that high from the best day of my life. She proceeded to tell me that she cried all the previous day, when I stupidly asked why she said because I lost my son! Keep in mind we still lived there, were 25 years old & had been together for almost a decade before our wedding. She's a peach!

leahxjane · August 2014

Tackiest thing I ever experienced was my uncle's wedding. The girl he married (we'll call her T) came from a VERY redneck/hillbilly/Hoosier family. Not that there's anything wrong with that, but seriously, my cousin's bday party had to be rescheduled because nobody from T's family was going to come because Nascar was on....

Anyway, at the wedding, Kentucky Fried Chicken was served because apparently T's mother didn't realize that you have to actually pay the caterers. There wasn't enough food for everyone, and the DJ was some random guy with a karaoke machine who had NO music. My aunt ended up having to get cd's from her car so there'd at least be something to dance to. Towards the end of the night everyone was told to go out into the parking lot of the lodge where the reception was being held. Waiting for us was a GIANT CANNON with a rebel flag strapped to it. Without warning they fired the damn thing off. IN THE PARKING LOT. Everyone's car alarms went off, and about ten minutes later the cops showed up and shut the whole wedding down (thank god).

Needless to say, that was the last time I ever went to an event that T's family would be at, let alone hosting.

SmiLeeMom · August 2014

I had a baby shower for my second...10 years after my first with none happening for my first cause I was on bed rest. A "friend" of mine, who refused to attend, later brought me a gift. Its was a wine glass that said "its a girl" on it with a cocktail recipe on the bottom that was not pg friendly. I don't drink....its common knowledge. She also spent $50 on this thing that could have been used for something helpful. She just had a kid of her own. I hope she got lots of useless shit too.

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Leather318 · September 2014

tunnel said:

This is by FAR my favorite thread. Keep the tacky stories coming, I can't get enough of them!

Ok, mine's not as bad as a lot of these, but is recent and I feel like it was INCREDIBLY tacky and rude. So my younger brother got married this past Sunday. We love them. We love her family. It's great in that respect. The ONLY family member we have an issue with, is the bride's oldest brother's wife, M. She's just a rich daddy's girl and it seriously, it doesn't matter WHAT it is, everything has to be about this woman. ALL. THE. TIME.

So, last Thursday, it wasn't the rehearsal dinner, but several family members had flown in and were together and we all went out to eat to celebrate the start of the weekend and my brother's marriage. We were all sitting there with our drinks when the bride's brother, M's husband, gets up to "take a picture" of the table. He counted to three and everybody is sitting there with this stupid look ready to take a picture and he yells "M's Pregnant!". Of course, Bride's mother is happy and everyone is happy but CLEARLY the wrong place to announce your first pregnancy. Like, REALLY?! It was just a way for M to YET AGAIN, make everything about her. To top it off, the bride was sitting there just kind of in disbelief that they would REALLY announce that at their celebration dinner, when her brother says to her "Sorry, didn't mean to steal your thunder." So basically, yes you did mean to steal her thunder and basically #sorryImnotsorry. Also didn't help that the bride has really been wanting to start a family soon and everybody knows it.

It was just so tacky to me, I couldn't believe it. I hate people who make everything about them. Can't handle it.
I am resurrecting this thread because 1) I totally stole this picture idea as my own in announcing my pregnancy to my family, in a non-tacky setting if course, and 2) this is the greatest thread and serves as an important Public Serbice Announcement!

Haha, I'm glad you stole it! I thought it was a really cute idea, just horrible timing. I'm happy you were able to use it in a non-tacky setting. Also, thrilled that you resurrected the thread, it's my favorite!

randomnames · September 2014

Since this has been resurrected, I'll add my tacky stories.
My dad and his wife are some of the most self-centered people I know. A few years ago my uncle (dad's brother) was really sick and his drs didn't think he was going to make it. During this same time my dad and his wife we're moving to a new town a couple of hours from their old house. When things first started to look bad for my uncle my cousin asked my dad to tell the rest of the family. He did, but several days later because he was busy moving. When they finally went to visit my uncle (he'd been in the hospital for several weeks at this point), his wife complained about how hard the move had been to my aunt, whose husband was in a medically induced coma and was likely going to die.

Not nearly as bad, but at my wedding my dad's wife kept asking my mom about someone i had a very brief online relationship with. My mom didn't even know about this guy. Also my mom and dad don't get along and my mom can't stand his wife, so I don't even understand how they ended up talking in the first place.

scgansen · September 2014

kellbell1982 · September 2014

scgansen said:
I'm doing a gender reveal party too we just specified on the invites no gifts please that we just want to celebrate with our friends and family. It's our first and we're just really excited And want to celebrate every moment, but not at others expenses. Plus I thought the shower was for the gifts? But I heard people were confused about the etiquette so I figured I would be more clear and spell it out on the invite.

A gender reveal!! How do you know the gender already? I don't even know DD's yet and she's 9! Perhaps you mean sex reveal?

scgansen · September 2014

wishiwaspreggo · September 2014

@scgansen- here:

Sex = the physical body. As in genitals and hormones.

Gender = identity. A male-bodied person could identify as a woman. A female-bodied person could identify as a man.

Especially if you are in California, you should know the difference. PSA.

cafecreme · September 2014

Oh, fuck. Not this again....

scgansen · September 2014

I'm honestly not interested in being a part of this. My bad for commenting at all.

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psychbear · September 2014

scgansen said:
Well that's what I'm calling it I didn't realize this was an area to get jumped all over about that. Google gender reveal parties that's what comes up. @wishiwaspreggo‌

Yeah, you could also call a whale a catfish but you'd still be fucking wrong and people will correct you. It's offensive and shouldn't be brushed off just because Google gives you results for the tacky party keywords you decided to search. @scgansen‌

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