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The Best Retorts

What's your best answer when people ask you about when or if you are going to give LO a sibling...or your reply when it's even phrased as a question. "Don't you think it's about time you gave _______ a little brother or sister."

Re: The Best Retorts

  • When I am asked if I want more children, I say "There's nothing I want more in the world"

    Also when I get asked at church I've said "I guess whenever God sees fit"  That shuts em up.  
  • norsern said:

    I'm pretty open with friends and family, so my typical response is "It hasn't been for lack of trying."

    Strangers I just say "someday" and change the subject.

    This is me too.


    DS born Oct. '11

    TTC #2 with PCOS since Nov. '13

    Dx: Low Progesterone (3.3) on 8/12/14

    Waiting for RE appointment on 10/28/14

    Surprise BFP on cycle 12 -- 10/19/14!

    EDD July 1, 2015

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  • Totally depends on my mood. Sometimes I say hopefully soon, or we'd love to and leave it at that, but sometimes I'm feeling saucy and I tell the truth. It makes them uncomfortable, but they've made me uncomfortable (even if unintentionally).
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  • I usually just say hopefully someday.

    BFP #1 7/6/2012, EDD 3/13/2013, Delivered 3/14/2013

    BFP #2 1/7/2014: EDD:9/14 MC: 1/9/2014 (confirmed via blood work)

    BFP #3 7/5/2014: EDD 3/11/2015 MC: 7/15/2014

    BFP #4 11/7/2014: EDD 7/17/2015~~Please be my RAINBOW!

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  • Most people IRL know our loss history so no one asks.  When strangers ask I have no problem telling them when my babies stop dying.  It's such a personal question and no one seems to realize that unless they've had experience with infertility or loss. 
    Me: 31     DH: 33
    Dx: Me: Recurrent Pregnancy Loss; DH: Low Morphology (2%)
    BFP#1: MC 3/1/11 at 6w1d - EDD 10/21/11
    BFP#2: 5/3/11 - EDD 1/9/12 - DD Born 1/6/12
    TTC #2 since 12/13
    BFP#3: MC 2/8/14 at 4w5d - EDD 10/13/14
    BFP#4: MC 5/6/14 at 4w4d - EDD 1/9/15
    BFP#5: MMC discovered 8/4/14 at 9w1d - D&C 8/5/14 - Baby Boy with Trisomy 16 (maternal origin) - EDD 3/8/15
    BFP#6: CP 11/6/14 at 4w2d - EDD 7/14/15
    IVF #1 with ICSI & PGS: May/June 2015, ER 6/3/15, 17R/17M/15F
    IVF #2 with ICSI & PGS: July 2015, ER 7/16/15, 16R/11M/9F
    PGS results = 6 normal embryos (4 boys, 2 girls)
    FET 9/23/15 = BFFN
    Natural FET 11/4/15 = BFP!
    Beta 9dp5dt = 92

  • I agree with you @ellebelle2384‌. I never knew how upsetting if a question it could be. I usually deflect and change the subject. Or....get pissed and cry.
  • We always get the "When are you going to try for a boy" but. My normal response is we will see, not sure if there will be a 3rd or there would be no guarantee its a boy even if we try.
    m/c April '08
    DD#1 born June '09
    DD#2 born April '11
    TTC #3 as of July '14

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  • I used to give a "hopefully soon" kind of answer but I'm guessing no one who knows me is going to be asking anytime soon since everyone knows about Layla.  I don't really get the question from strangers.  Perhaps because I'm not big on making chit chat with strangers.
    November 2010 - 10.5 week loss  o:) 
    October 2011 - DS (7)  <3 
    July 2014 - Stillborn DD (24 weeks)  o:) 
    August 2015 - DD (3)  <3 
    April 2018 - 5 week loss o:) 

  • I usually just say, "hopefully one day" or "eventually". I've never had to say more than that.

    If I were pushed i'd probably say something like "whenever God wants to give us another baby, we're ready and willing!".
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    * Me: 33, DH: 34 * Married 11.10.06 *
    DS 10.2.07 | DD 7.27.10 | 4 angel babies
    BFP #7 | EDD 5.15.15 | It's a BOY!
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  • Is "go fuck yourself" acceptable?

    No? Oh.

    Thankfully I haven't been asked this in a while. The people close enough to me to have somewhat of a right to ask know about our situation and wouldn't ask. If a stranger asked, I'd probably try to make them a little uncomfortable. I think it's such a rude question.
    **siggy warning**  **everyone welcome**

    DS- 11.07.02
    DSS- 6.26.04
    Married- 6.29.13
    TTC Again- Sept. 2013
    Test Results/Diagnosis- HSG & SA totally normal
    DX: 3/2014 Prolactinoma/Hyperprolactinemia- Started cabergoline 2/2014
    5/2014 Possible mild PCOS in addition to hyperprolactinemia??
    7/2014 Adding probable tubal factor to the diagnosis list
    9/2014 And now adding hypothyroid to the list- Started synthroid 9/2014
    Cycles 1-4 - Sept.-March- All Anovulatory 
    IUI #1 March/April-  Clomid 50mg + Clomid 100mg +Trigger + IUI #1 = BFN
     IUI #2 April/May-Clomid 100mg + Clomid 150mg + Trigger + IUI #2 + Endometrin=BFN
    IUI #3- June- Follistim 75iu + Trigger + IUI #3  Benched due to a 40 mm cyst. :-(
    IUI #3- July- Follistim 75iu + Trigger + IUI #3 + Endometrin = BFP! on 7/25/14
    Slowly rising betas - Ectopic suspected on 8/8/14 & confirmed on 8/11/14
    Methotrexate on 8/12/14 -HCG negative on 9/2/14
    IVF #1- November- Antagonist protocol: 11/1: start stims, 200iu of Follistim; 11/12 ER 17R/14M/14F; 11/17 5 day transfer of two blasts, 2 blasts and 2 expanding morulas frozen; 11/22 BFP!! (On FRER at 5dp5dt)
    Betas: 9dp5dt 205, 11dp5dt 497, 14dp5dt 1,709
    u/s at 5w0d- 1 sac; u/s at 6w0d 1 baby with heartbeat, another sac without a heartbeat

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  • I just say we are working on it and smile.  If they push I say it is not for the lack of trying.
  • My favorite is "DD isn't quite big sister material yet"
  • I tell the truth. Every time because I hope it will make them think twice before asking someone else.
    First Child born 11/27/12
    Natural Birth - Water Birth - EBF - BLW - Cloth Diapers - BF Toddler - Montessori

    Twins born into Heaven
    BFP - 4/6/14, due date 12/8/14. First twin M/C at home - 5/5/14, Second twin D&C - 6/5/14

    TTA for three normal cycles per doctor's orders, and not sure of the plan after that. 
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