Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
wrightpalomo
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Re: Weekend Randoms!
It's also a 105 heat index here today so I guess it's a good time to be stuck in a hospital bed!
That's as wild as it's getting this weekend.
After, I went to BBB and finished buying off of my registry. That was pretty fun, but I got so tired halfway through that I had to stop at the recliners and rest for a bit lol. I almost fell asleep haha.
Now, I'm at work getting some stuff done and will hopefully get home nice and early. I'm so tired and I really hope we don't have anything going on tomorrow so I can just lounge around and finish putting the baby stuff away.
If I'm really tired tomorrow we'll know I'm in labor.
I am on bed rest due to high BP, so we are catching up on movies today. Watched "Gravity" and now "Django Unchained."
Married: August 2012
DD: 9/22/2014
^^^ September Signature: TV series I plan on binge watching with my newborn I do what I want. ^^^
*O17 June Siggy Challenge - You had 1 job!*
I did finish my first DIY project for DS and I'll finish the burp cloths this evening if I'm able to sit at my sewing machine!
DD is doing better with her potty training, Mil took her to get in the pool and she got out twice to go pee! Maybe I won't have two in diapers but I makes me sad that my baby girl is getting bigger, but happy at the same time.
My anxiety is also getting worse I'm scaring myself about my RCS in two weeks. I know it's not going to be like it was the first time and I kind of know what to expect but not completely. I always do really bad with anesthesia, I'm not looking forward to the surgery part.
Dd2 tripped on a speed bump and has a big gash in her little hand so she's upset. Poor babe. But we are going to head out to my parents for a campfire and some food soon so that will be a good way to wrap up the weekend. Dh's workweek starts tomorrow so this is our Sunday.
Mom of Boys!!
Baby #1 - 3 years old
Baby #2 - Born 10/1/14
I'm envious of everyone's nesting energy! I'm trying to get stuff done around the house since it's my weekend off, but the energy is not there.
After a few blood tests and then her urine being too full of blood (!!) to run tests on, turns out she has a kidney stone. Pretty horrifying expierence when we didn't know what was going on at first! She said the pain was worse than her labors ever were.
I finally started painting the crib though!
Jan 18 December Siggy Challenge: Christmas Movies
Generally uncomfortable and yes docs are aware of all my symptoms. Just monitoring for now unless temp goes over 101
Well it's 4am and the heart burn is preventing me from sleep, that and DH's snoring.
Today went to a baby shower for a friend which was nice and then DH and I went for a nice dinner. If I can't get sleep I am not doing anything tomorrow.
I'm glad your mom and son are ok! I haven't heard anything bad from anyone in the area either but the news report I read said that that size usually causes some minor property damage. I hope that the aftershocks are mild
6 is a pretty strong one. The '89 quake was a 7. I usually don't feel earthquakes out here in the valley. I was already up and at first thought one of my dogs was shaking the couch, then looked up and saw my windows shaking.
ETA: https://blogs.kqed.org/newsfix/2014/08/24/quake-rolls-through-bay-area/
Looks like the damage is mostly in the North Bay Area.