Did your partner have or is he planning to have a dadchelor party or man shower?

linzho55 · July 2014

A lot of people do it where we live. It's usually at the same time of the baby shower, it's just that the guys do their own thing. I would not expect my husband's friends to participate in the activities haha!

blessings27 · July 2014

I think is a waste of money . Enough with a baby shower . Dad can joined and his friends I'm inviting ladies and gentlemen

AMomWithABlog · July 2014

My husband did kind of by chance I suppose. During my shower a couple of the men were over at our house and they ended up drinking some beers and hanging out. Does that count? I dunno haha.

jinnymb · July 2014

I'm not going to rehash why all this is tacky and rude, but just confirm what the other ladies said.

The official etiquette is this, just for the ladies on the fence:

Tasteful:

A shower hosted by a third party for a first time mother to be. This is to provide things she may need and welcome her to motherhood. (not hosted by her or inviting guys for more gifts) Acceptable to have more than one if thrown by opposing families or co-workers.

A sprinkle hosted by a third party (meaning a casual dinner out, a few friends getting together) to celebrate a second and so on baby of a mother who already has children.

Tacky:

A giant coed shower

Gender Reveal Party (exception would be a family dinner)

Second or so forth Baby Showers

Any sort of Dad Party

Any sort of Grandmother Party

Anything else that you have question just assume it's tacky

Cristin343 · July 2014

I love how judgy people are getting. Yeesh! To each his own!!

This is our first baby and DH mentioned he was going to plan a backpacking weekend next month with a few guys. It's kind of a 'last Hoorah' guys weekend in the wilderness where they can grow beards and drink beer.

I suppose you could call that a "Dadchelor party" if you wanted to.
No gifting and it's really just a farewell to life before major responsibilities.

I like the idea and it is NOT a "man shower." The two sound very different to me. DH would probably rather get peed on than have a "Man-Shower," which is good since he is likely to after our LO is born!

shellybean3788 · July 2014

No, we're having a "Baby-Q," which is where everyone (men & women) gets together with some beer, food, and corn hole boards and pretty much has a day out at the beach. Gifts will be brought unwrapped, so the guys (and girls, let's face it, I hate this too) don't have to sit around and watch me open gifts. No games, no nonsense, just friends and family hanging out.

SamiBabi006 · July 2014

wow people are getting really critical and kinda mean. i mean do whatever you want it is YOUR baby. i know my fiance does not want to necessarily want to sit around with a bunch of (lets face it) mainly women and do all the ridiculous games and what not. However, why reprimand him if he wants to gather his guys and maybe the dads and grandpas and do a diaper party. Because hey, who doesnt need diapers?? They can sit around, drink beer, and celebrate this joyous occasion. No one is forcing you to bring anything either. Even something like a card is a nice gesture.

All in all i think men having diaper parties is a great idea!

Angeldcf · July 2014

SamiBabi006 said:

Because hey, who doesnt need diapers??

We cloth diapered, and WE paid for our entire stash (gasp!).

Telling guests what to give you is rude. Stop trying to justify this.

mc0113 · July 2014

Angeldcf said:

SamiBabi006 said:

Because hey, who doesnt need diapers??

We cloth diapered, and WE paid for our entire stash (gasp!).
Telling guests what to give you is rude. Stop trying to justify this.

We will be cloth diapering as well and bought everything over the past few months on sales.

And because hey, you decided to have a baby and you, as parents, should be able to supply everything necessary for it.

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KMommytobe · August 2014

My first thought was "wtf??????" Never heard of either of those! And I have a 3 and 1 year old and many of our friends have had children over the past 5 years. Never heard of it.

robsbabygirl08 · August 2014

I had a friend suggest one for my DH and it was all I could do to not yell "oh hell no!" If the guys wanna go out for a day of golf and booze prior to baby coming, then by all means go ahead. But I can't fathom having a "shower" or "beer for diapers" party for my husband. And I think he would be embarrassed if I made him do one.

Edit: I hit submit too early.

soulcupcake · August 2014

Um, never heard of it, and don't really get the point of it. I understand sprinkles and showers for subsequent babies, sure. It varies by region and culture in many ways. But I fail to see the point in such a shower for dads. Why not just have a joint/coed shower in that case?

AR1313 · August 2014

I do hear about dad's having these "diaper parties" where a bunch of guy friends come over and bring diapers and beer and all they do is get drunk. I think it's dumb and my hubby would never have one of those. He doesnt drink anyways so it wouldnt make sense. But anyways, I am very picky about which diaper brand I use and guys do not know anything about that. I wouldn't want to be stuck with a bunch of diapers that I need to get rid of.

momof3andcounting · August 2014

Ummmm this is about mama and baby...once a man can carry a child I say have at it but until then why would I give my dh any reason to sit around drinking while I'm sitting here like a fat cow drooling over a bottle of wine that I cannot drink until this baby arrives? (4th time mom here...lol)

wintersong139 · August 2014

My sister's fiance offered to throw a "Huggies and Chuggies" party for my husband--I am assuming that this means people will bring diapers and beer? My husband was really confused by the whole idea--I had to explain it was like a man baby shower. He had never heard of anything like it in his life, and didn't particularly want one.

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Bigboneded · August 2014

My hubby says he doesnt have enough guy friends to have one (true) so he just plans to be with me for the showers thrown by family and friends....

wintersong139 · August 2014

Bliss+Berry said:

My sister's fiance offered to throw a "Huggies and Chuggies" party for my husband--I am assuming that this means people will bring diapers and beer? My husband was really confused by the whole idea--I had to explain it was like a man baby shower. He had never heard of anything like it in his life, and didn't particularly want one.
@wintersong139‌ So, your future BIL wants to invite people to a party where they have to supply their own beer and bring diapers? I hope your H declined. That is so incredibly rude. I'd be mortified.

Yes, he did decline. But not because of the BYOB--after all, my sister is younger, and all the parties they go to are like that, with guests bringing six packs. He didn't want it just because he had never thought about or wanted a man baby shower. He and my dad did say they want to crash part of mine, though, and I am way cool with that. :-)

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